Dear Nairalanders,

I wanna ask a question. In this our age bracket (24-34), there are some battles we face and it goes a long way to determine our heights in life. One issue is to stick to a promising relationship dat will lead to marriage, another issue is to get financial freedom, trying to break even, getting ur feet firm in finances. Please, which one will you place first? Can the two go side-by-side without affecting each other? Say something.

Nothing stops u 4rm getting both realising dat both of dem can n shld b independent areas of ur life. Make no mistake abt it, u'll b d world's greatest fool if u pursued marriage without some sort financial independence so dat u do not constitute urself a nuisance by having 2 wait 4 ur husband 2 do everything 4 u. U shldn't also see dis marriage thing as a do or die affair. If d guy u r presently wit is not going 2 encourage u 2 b 2 some extent financially independent may b u shld let it cool off 4 a while because, he'd b d 1st person 2 call u a lazy woman in d future when u r 100% depenedent. Some better person shld come. Besides d hard economic situation does not encourage anyone 2 sit at home. It might not b such a fancy job, but u need some kind of fancy income

Marriage without money spells MARITAL CRISIS and INSTABILITY. Regardless of what we think, money is very, very important. I am not talking of marriage ceremony, but the marriage institution itself. Most of the conflicts in marriage resulted from money matters. Therefore the two must go ahand in hand. Couples must endeavour to have a solid plan for money as they head toward marriage. The problem with most of our youths in that age bracket is that they want to have everything before proceeding on marriage. There must be minimum that would serve as foundation upon which future acquisition of money can be build. You can't have it all. People who suceeded in amasing large carche of money during the period without a trusted partner, often have to struggle to get a GOOD wife as a result of too many candidates, most of who are just after the money.

I think it is wise for couple to let the two go together. Marriage without money, or at least a WORKABLE PLAN for money is like building a house on the sand. When the storm of life become too harsh, the occupants would vacate the house before they are swept away by elements of fate.

No need to talk much. Money comes first.

if they have no money, where will they live?
what will they eat?
what money will they spend on dates?

it's tough but it's just reality that money comes first

Money, love don't pay no bills

Marriage comes first cause you can't buy love and as for money. . . You can make money anytime of the day as money comes and goes. But husband dont comes and goes (well, for some people husband dont comes and goes as often as money comes and goes). So there! yeap I've said it.

BABYYYYYYYYYY I NEED TO TALK TO YOU!!!! PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

I don't discount marriage at all it is very important, but when there is no food in your house, no lights, no gas in your car , I've been on the side of the fence where the man had no money and no job, the love quickly dwindled because I was taking care of me and him, It gets a little tiring , I'm not not a gold digger you want me to stick around you need to have some money and I don't care if you work at McDonalds or work in a big corporation , you need something in the pockets "I can do bad all by myself"

Memi:

Money, love don't pay no bills

seconded!thirded!!

Memi:

I don't discount marriage at all it is very important, but when there is no food in your house, no lights, no gas in your car , I've been on the side of the fence where the man had no money and no job, the love quickly dwindled because I was taking care of me and him, It gets a little tiring , I'm not not a gold digger you want me to stick around you need to have some money and I don't care if you work at McDonalds or work in a big corporation , you need something in the pockets "I can do bad all by myself"

agreed

yea, Money is First in my list, get that and u get all easily

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Memi:

I don't discount marriage at all it is very important, but when there is no food in your house, no lights, no gas in your car , I've been on the side of the fence where the man had no money and no job, the love quickly dwindled because I was taking care of me and him, It gets a little tiring , I'm not not a gold digger you want me to stick around you need to have some money and I don't care if you work at McDonalds or work in a big corporation , you need something in the pockets "I can do bad all by myself"

money first

Money first,before marriage,
marriage can never be stable where dr is no comfort

@Topic

I didnt know Money or Marriage was a living thing

Now i know, thanks.

To the question posed, Who comes first.

There cannot be Marriage without Money,

Marriage because back in the days it was all about Bartering

No money no Marriage

marriage before money. let's see if she can weather the storm of poverty. friend in need, friend indeed.

Money comes first. i want us both to be finiacially stable before we start our lives together.

onyinye2:

Money comes first. i want us both to be finiacially stable before we start our lives together.

Money, duh!

Why put my kids or myself through poverty?

As jenny always say "who wan suffer?"

Ruby_Pearl:

Money, duh!

Why put my kids or myself through poverty?

As jenny always say "who wan suffer?"

lol the guy does not have to be stinking rich, just be financially stable, don't want to reek of povety

Forgot to mention " " @ "Who" .

Marriage first.
We always work to earn a living,pay the bills etc.Except in a jobless society where people want quick money(by hook or crook) for them to earn a living.

Ruby_Pearl:

Money, duh!

Why put my kids or myself through poverty?

As jenny always say "who wan suffer?"

u can say dat again,my love

iice:

Neither! A well rounded individual first (can't be dealing with wishy washy people who have no bloody clue)

you speak for me too.

so what happens if there is no money again, mennnn y re pple inlove with money this much, oleeeeee ni gbogbo yin,

unigue:

so what happens if there is no money again, mennnn y re people inlove with money this much,      oleeeeee ni gbogbo yin,

that is why both parties should work,if one person falls down ,d other person will help in d lifting up,until they can both stand on their feets again