I've come across countless threads on this platform lately with heartbreaking stories about married couples always at loggerheads and it makes me wonder if people no longer do courtship before going into marriage.
I believe courtship provides you an opportunity to see some unholesome character about your partner and decide whether you're compatible or poles apart.
It seems people (mostly guys) ignore so many bad signs from ladies while dating them all in the name of love which will later haunt them in life, it becomes an entanglement once children are involved.

Seeing all these negative stories everyday is a big discouragement for me, I'm in my early 30s planning to settle down soon but I keep asking myself if I will also become a victim of such situation someday, though my girlfriend appears very good now, she calls me, sends me text messages on phone and Facebook everyday with her airtime, she prays for me as well.
She has all the good qualities in her, I see her as a wife material, if I send her ordinary #200 airtime, she will show a lot of appreciation.

So I believe we still have a handful of good ones out there, but the majority of them are screwed up with wrong mentality about life.
So guys, please don't marry a spendthrif with bad character because of beauty, her beauty will fade away soon and it will be too late then, I really can't condone a besetting wife, i won't even allow my wife to torment me because I don't want to die early, so many husbands have died while their wives are still alive. We should not allow this to continue. Happy Sunday.

Ok

We can't just tolerate each after achieving our aim(marriage, sex)

When last your fiancee support you financially, if the answer is no, then your episode is loading gradually

The issue of marriage is base on individual personalities.
There are pple who are enjoying there marriage out there

eddynaira125:
When last your fiancee support you financially, if the answer is no, then your episode is loading gradually

I met her recently and
She doesn't have such capacity now.

99% of what cause the problem is infidelity

Polynek:
The issue of marriage is base on individual personalities.
There are pple who are enjoying there marriage out there

Sure, but many are in hellish situation

Bola146:
99% of what cause the problem is infidelity

Unfaithfulness is part of it, but why should any good married partner break his or her marital vow and engage in extra marital affairs?

God1000:

Sure, but many are in hellish situation

Sure
Everybody won't enjoy there marriage and vice versa very simple

God1000:
I met her recently and
She doesn't have such capacity now.

Time bomb loading, N100 recharge card or N20 cold pure water to me is huge gift from anyone claiming he or she has nothing

eddynaira125:
Time bomb loading, N100 recharge card or N20 cold pure water to me is huge gift from anyone claiming he or she has nothing

trust me, if I ask her she will definitely give it to me, she will borrow it if she doesn't have it.
But I still appreciate her love and care

It is because people love themselves more when they are dating than married....