In continuation of 30 Days of Content for Men we asked Guys what they think on how Men ought to show up for each other. Below are their thoughts.

A man is a creature with flesh and blood and he has a soul, he has a mind, he has a heart and he feels pain, he understands pain, he cries on some days, there are some days he needs hugs. Unfortunately, most of these are what we are expected to give to the female folks. Showing up for a man that has an issue by a man is a less discussed topic. I used to have a friend, we became friends because we could relate on certain plain of intellect. Fast forward to some point, I will go visit him and he will insist that we hug, I will be like guy... I don't understand, but he would always insist. I suspended whatever funny thoughts I might have, like “common we are humans.” There are health or psychological implications of hugs like that. A man also cries and there are days when he will need comfort and he needs solace as well. We men ought to show up for our fellow men as we are in fact the ones who can relate to what other men are going through.
OLISA BASIL NNODIM – IT and Multi-Media Professional.

Men should learn to show emotional support to their fellow men. There are men who are traumatized from abuse but because of how society has labelled men as warriors, Men hardly share their feelings and pains. Men should have accountability group of men who can show up for them when they need help. Men should hold other men in their circle accountable for any bad behaviour. Men should be open to show up for eachother in times of crisis, either health, financial or marital. Men should set examples to other men to emulate, such as through mentorship systems.
JOSEPH OKHIKU – Multi-media Professional based in Lagos.

All around the world, men are projected to be Gladiators; Strong, emotionless, dominant, unbreakable, unshakeable and unaffected by adversities. Men are thought to not need emotional support and seen to be able to weather any storm without help. Men love to be appreciated and respected, encouraged and supported, listened to and understood. Care isn’t only about calling each other out when needed but also about being vulnerable with one another, talking about failing relationships and a hug from our bro afterwards. Support one another when we can, offer words of encouragement, advice, motivate and act kindly always. This will build a positive chain capable of making the world see us as emotional beings.
SULTAN KAMAL ABDULAZEEZ – A Civil Servant, Basketballer, and passionate about values and uprightness in society. He writes #minutesbeforemidnight

We can show up for each other by making ‘real friends’ as few as they can be and genuinely helping them grow as they too will help you. See their wins as your win and thus give your quota. This could be something as simple as sharing a link to an online course that you think might be helpful to that friend of yours.
GIDYON LOFTY AMPKITAN – Is a Multi-Media Specialist based in Abuja

We should concentrate on reaching out to each other not only physically but also psychologically because a lot of men are going through things but tend to smile and pretend everything is going cool. The society has created an image of us like that of a super man in the movies that can survive any circumstance, but we are also humans with flesh and blood. So let's talk to each other more to get many of us out of our various holes and troubles.
DANJUMA IDACHABA – A Media and Communications Professional based in Abuja.

Spend quality time with your fellow men, be supportive, guide with investment ideas, Share experiences, encourage living healthy and passionately.
MUSTAPHA DALHATU – A Customer Care Rep. A Husband & a Father.

There are “real friends” and then there are “acquaintances”. I generally tend to spend 35% of my time with the real friends. They are the friends that can improve me physiology-wise, safety-wise, belonging-wise, esteem-wise and self-actualisation-wise (whether directly or indirectly). At the same time, these are friends who I ensure that I can mutually improve their lives physiology-wise, safety-wise, belonging-wise, esteem-wise and self-actualisation-wise. The manner in which the men spend their time certainly varies based on activities or places they find themselves, however every engagement with each other must move them forward in growth & development from where they are to where they want to be. That’s how we ought to show up for each other.
BELLO TONGO – CEO of Tongston Holdings. Passionate about entrepreneurship.

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