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Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by bjdon: 10:31am On Dec 03, 2021 |
The problem is a lot of men are hypocrites. When you are datting her, you spend money on her, you buy her the latest phone, latest designer clothes and bags, you indulge all her demands. Why do you think she would not want the same when you get married? There are many good Nigerian ladies, but you guys don't go for them, becasue they are not the 'hot chicks'. They are well behaved, don't spend night with you in your hotel room. They have a clear sense of morality. Men find those ones borring. They want the hot chick with the big ass who will give them a wild time, when they are in town. You then expect that same loose girl to suddenly become the ideal wife when you take her abroad. To cook and clean and be obidiant. Dream on. There are MANY succesful Nigerian marriages abroad. You just need to get a good lady, who is focused, and has good morals. She may not have the biggest ass, or perform the most tricks in bed, but she'll be your rock and strength and your home will be an Oasis of love and happines. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Evercurious(f): 10:31am On Dec 03, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Really? People can be so weird indeed |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by cooooooks(m): 12:12pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
You can't have the "Nigerian type of marriage" in Nigeria sef today. adeakin: 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by cooooooks(m): 12:17pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Don't you discuss these things before tying the knot? I know many married people in Canada and this is not the case. The closest bad marriage I know is a guy brought a lady he had known for years, a lady who herself had studied abroad but went back to Nigeria. He started maltreating her after honeymoon. After a while, she got fed up and sent him out. Technically, the neighbours called the police on him when he was shouting at her; and she did not tell them to not remove him. Well after sleeping on diff couches, she told him to come back. Since then they have been living in peace and harmony. adeakin: |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by cooooooks(m): 12:19pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
The law in Nigeria does not condone this "Nigerian marriage". The society, sadly, still does and access to the law is limited a d expensive. Kobojunkie: |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Loreettaa: 12:20pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
cooooooks:They don't want a Nigerian wife who will rub shoulder with them. Periodttt. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by cooooooks(m): 12:20pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Poco, you know it's not "men". This OP sounds like a child. He thinks people are different? Everybody has wahala. pocohantas: |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by mrbenjame: 12:20pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Evercurious: You’re right though. Everything should be balanced. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by cooooooks(m): 12:21pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Madam, which abroadians you dey talk to. It is well o. This white stuff is just colonized mind and low self esteem. Loreettaa: |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Loreettaa: 12:23pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
cooooooks:I know one abroadian. His name rhymes with "books" |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Mariangeles(f): 12:30pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
greenie77: I never asked her to that extent. Although, when I suggested the divorce, the lady said it wasn't an option, then I was like toh or is it tor sef... Will that even be considered a marriage in the first place? A Hitch at best. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Mariangeles(f): 12:43pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
BigBashiru: I never believed a man can say this to his wife...until now that my mum told me about a man who did. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 12:45pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Evercurious: Wierd how? It's about being honest and truthful.... |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Evercurious(f): 1:57pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Honest and truthful inside nonsense? Well it's okay since both of you re on the same page and alike to accept and be in such 'bizarre' conditions in the name of being truthful, honest and of course open mindedness |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by cooooooks(m): 2:03pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by jaxxy(m): 2:06pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
ugodson: Women who don’t have a mind of their own can easily be influenced when in the wrong environment even if they are not bad themselves. The question is does she have a mind of he own as a respectful gal? Or she hasn’t met the right or rather wrong influence to trigger her terrible side? U can know this by asking her certain questions and engaging her certain discussions to pick her brain and know her mindset of life and marriage. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Munzy14(m): 2:27pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Ihe ahu owukwanu marriage? typical ndu ndi Ebe ahu i base ri... O wuhu culture anyi...Nwafor anyi mana nwunye ya wu nke ya...Ochohu nwoke ozo ihu pant ya.... |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 2:48pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Evercurious: How can I be stuck with one woman all my life and why should I?? Think about it! When there are asses of different sizes,so many other kissable gals etc with figure 8. Think about it! |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 2:49pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
BigBashiru: All the men where dey like my comment...I no talk say make una go begin beat woman in the name of dominance oh! Abeg 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Kobojunkie: 2:53pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
cooooooks:I am afraid the Law in Nigeria in fact does. Marriage laws still do not indicate both partners as equal partners in the Marriage and so encourages what is the "Nigerian marriage". |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Kobojunkie: 2:55pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
BigBashiru:You already gave them the go ahead, why attempt damage control now that it is pretty much too late? 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Kobojunkie: 2:57pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
BigBashiru:I hope you make the same allowance for your wife or wives too since they too ought to be free to freely cheat and not be stuck with the same man all their lives. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by ugodson(m): 3:28pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
jaxxy: I really do appreciate your suggestion. I try it.thanks |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by BigBashiru: 3:46pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: They are free to "mate" with others... it's not "cheating" it's biology...and mating. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Mariangeles(f): 4:09pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Munzy14: Lekwe ka ha n’egbu gi ilu. A nukwahu’m nga! |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Mariangeles(f): 4:14pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
BigBashiru: You’re like one of those weak men who can lend out their wives to rich men for money. No offense! |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Ghostmode2two(m): 5:27pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Not wickedness at all. My friend who has lived all his life in the UK took his wife and gave birth to his kids in the UK lost everything he worked for. He is starting life all over again. So I know what I am saying |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Kobojunkie: 5:33pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Ghostmode2two:You say this because the marriage laws in Nigeria allowed for the "Nigerian" kind of marriage which basically leaves a woman at the mercy of the man and "breadwinner" right? Cooooooks 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Kobojunkie: 5:34pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Ghostmode2two:So, in order not to loose everything, marrying a woman and leaving her in Nigeria all but guarantees it won't happen again, right? Cooooooks 1 Like |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Prince001(m): 5:46pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar: Yea u are free to call it whatever you want. Doubt me as long as u can even cos living Europe is not an achievement rather opportunity ain't nuttin special about it. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Mariangeles(f): 5:57pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Ghostmode2two: When you marry a wife, do you feel you own her more than she owns you? You have no right to keep a woman where you want her to stay, while you stay faraway for long. It is unfair and ungodly. |
Re: Marrying And Taking Her Abroad; A Regret? by Jaqenhghar: 6:06pm On Dec 03, 2021 |
Prince001:I agree on that aint nothing special there. I just dont believe your claims that's all. It's nothing personal |
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