I'll say, she shld stay in d marriage (bcoz 4 after1 pikin woman, 2 get anoda hubby 4 Naija nor easy oh!) n weneva she's hot n wanna get dwn, she shld learn 2 ra.pe her hubby. LOL.

@ james, this is a universal situation. lady isnt even naija. But issues know no tribe. Assume shes from wherever.

@upendo, ok limme cut out d crap n tell u my honest opinion. If i were in her shoes, Jeezz!! I won't wait 4 one day n tink twice, i'll be outta dat marriage as fast as i cn, i can't bear a cheatin partner n worse stil a 'HOMO'. DISGUSTING!! I'm homophobic n i hate gayz wif all d hate in my heart.

People usually advise women not to leave their husband when infidelity occurs, but if her hubby is involved in adultery with another man   she should run for her life. it's emotionally destructive, talk less of diseases and stuffs, abeg.

@ tricici ,true dat.Now that makes me wonder again.Is it worse if your hubby is in relationship with another guy than if it was a lady? what is the diffrence anyway? its still cheating! okay one from behind and another front maybe. But it still is!!!

this sounds too unreal. quite sceptical

@ snowdrops hi. If you ever come across any of my posts know they are for real. There's nothing to benefit by posting anythng fake/exagerrated u know.Really I wouldnt even bother waste my time and space here.I love the contributions coz they are things that happen in day to day life and Romance that we hate to talk about but they do.Its good to talk about the ugly stuff too so that we know how to handle them in case we find ourselves in similar situations.I bet people in the forum are mature.

@ upendo 98
you speak passionately and its hard to doubt your authenticity. apologies for my earlier comment
@ topic
she needs to live the relationship at least for the sake of the young child. her hubby can contact stds and shar it with her. stds are much common in homosexual relationships. besides, he is likely to remain unfaithful as once a cheat . . . .

op
sorry 4 saying dis

d lady should not be angry, infact she should be happy dat her husband waz cheating with a follow man.

What if he waz doing it with a lady.  

May I ask you a question snowdrops/MMM?? What would you do if you were the hubby? would you choose to keep the gay relationship or your wife? B4, you managed both.But now your busted and you love both!!Another QUAGMIRE!!!

you cannot love both equally. you have to chose whom you want to spend your life with. the hubby concealed the relationship from the wife, that means he had the intention of carrying on. it was not a one off fling. it means he seriously doubts his sexuality and no longer interested in women.

the choice here is not for the man, but for the woman to kick him out and start a new life with her child. good riddance.

@ Snow. I like that 'the choice here is not for the man' Infact you just made me realise that the offender or guilty party should not have the choice. It rests with the grieved partner.

in making that choice she might want to seek specialist counselling to help cope with the emotional effects of separation.

Calmly call for a divorce and wish them happiness

Calmly call for a divorce and wish them happiness

Calmly call for a divorce and wish them happiness

M M M:

op
sorry 4 saying dis

d lady should not be angry, infact she should be happy dat her husband waz cheating with a follow man.

What if he waz doing it with a lady.  

exactly, i am of the opinion that, cheating with a woman implies that the problem in the relationship could be with either parties sometimes with the woman but with a man that shows that no woman on this earth is going to satisfy his desires so why disturb yourself with heartaches over some one who'll not look at your side. The best thing for her is to seperate herself from such person and go to the Lord in prayers. Prayers changes things

There are a lot of downlow men who are dating women as a cover and sleeping with men undercover that why they are called downlow men. It doesn't matter if he was cheating on his wife with a man or a woman he committed adultery if he is married. It is that simple. If the woman wants to remain with the cheating dog that is her right. Unfortunately.

To James, it doesn't matter if it happens in Nigeria or Tijuana the point is IT HAPPENED.

She should stay and manage it jo.

Get a HIV test first then leave.

Mrs.Chima:

There are a lot of downlow men who are dating women as a cover and sleeping with men undercover that why they are called downlow men. It doesn't matter if he was cheating on his wife with a man or a woman he committed adultery if he is married. It is that simple. If the woman wants to remain with the cheating dog that is her right. Unfortunately.

To James, it doesn't matter if it happens in Nigeria or Tijuana the point is IT HAPPENED.

[b][/b] @mrs Chima, yeah, i was kiddin at 1st, bt wen i realised dat d op needs a serious response, i decide 2 post my 2nd reply, didn't u read it? Mayb u weren't wif ur readin-glasses ON *winks* (Oops, stil kiddin).

You need help with being funny.

Mrs.Chima:

You need help with being funny.

Oh really? Den mayb u cud help out!! (on 2nd tot, i tink it's ur sense of humour dat isn't wel developed).

Emeka 7.:

She should stay and manage it jo.

Are u trying to crack dumb jokes?

Your husband is not "gay" he is "bisexual" there is a difference. Trust me there are many men like that, now if he was gay and suppressing feelings for men that is another issue, but it seem like he loves you. I'm sure that he was affectionate with you until this relationship he had been having came up. Talk with him not the man he is cheating with because you are married to your husband not him. Try and confront the cheating issue first and then the homosexual issue next. Speak with him not in a critical way but an understanding way. Ask him if he does not love you anymore because he fell out of love or because you are a woman, you want to know this because it will determine if he is actually indeed gay or bisexual. If he wants to salvage your marriage try counseling and work on things and make sure that he does not cheat on you again with a man or woman. If he is not interested in you because you are a woman, you have to leave him to preserve your dignity and to show your child that you are a worthy role model. Good luck, i know this is a though situation but homosexuality and bisexuality has been around since the Old Testament. Most importantly before you decide to do anything, get on your knees and talk to your GOD because you will get a lot of clarity that way and you will get the strength to do whatever it is you decide to do.

God Bless you,
I'll pray for you too and goodluck

i have a friend that her husband is bi-sexual. when her hubby's 'best friend' comes to their house she sleeps in the guest room and best friend sleeps on the same bed with hubby. they have two children and she said it is her cross to carry. well, shiite happens. it is not my portion in life IJN

andyanders:

He is spiritually possessed and should seek deliverance. She should go to the SCOAN " Synagogue Church of All Nations and seek deliverance and the marriage will be safe. Good luck

SCAN nko?

M M M:

op
sorry 4 saying dis

d lady should not be angry, infact she should be happy dat her husband waz cheating with a follow man.

What if he waz doing it with a lady.  

smh.
You need a total brain transplant - You're finished.

THe more people take marriage seriously, the better they treat their lives and future.
Marriage is first a spiritual thing invented by a Spiritual Being GOD!
So using your traditional or Hollywood knowlegde will result in marrying 'dogs' until death do u part!

This is like a Nigeria movie "Men in Love" which according to the film was caused by Evil power (charm) but i think d two people involve are adult and enjoy the Act.D woman should go to market,buy d film and watch,then decide on what to do.LOBATAN