Firstly, hi - I'm a new member!

Now please be understanding and acknowledge that I
Mean no disrespect, these are just my personal views against my own persona.

Firstly, no, my mind is not under 'colomentality'; I do not find non-African women any more or less attractive. I am a very free person in thought.

My first ever relationship was with a Naija girl, For someone like myself who is a very loyal, giving, and patient lover - it was a nightmare. I had another serious relationship with another Naija lady and a Gambian and the results were the same, All women displayed "diva-ness" and always wanted and relished the attention of other men, all were insanely insecure, materialistic and used me as their emotional punchbag with uncalled for bouts of aggression. But the first two points of wanting a diva lifestyle and being very insecure is just the perfect recipe for the perfect nightmare relationship - and traits I will ALWAYS avoid in women.

, But the thing is, here in London at least, this leads me to avoiding most African/black women in general, Because most I 'pre-court' have these easily identifiable traits even if they try to hide it and then I just lose complete interest, no matter how hot she was.

I guess being a minority group in the UK it's harder to isolate very individual Black women/men.

I've been in two relationships with a white English lady and a white New Zealand lady and things were very good! Generally better understanding of my needs in commitment, were aggressively loyal and will show great distain to any other guys 'trying it' and their insecurities were low and general happiness high. I and they felt bad because I didn't want 'anything serious' and they felt it was based because they were white, and they were kind of right; the initial estrangement of being in an interracial relationship was copeable and always getting more comfortable BUT I always felt that a Black woman would be my equal, and also am sexually turned on more by the black "booty"

But my dilemma is I don't think I have the patience anymore to deal with some black female 'characteristics', and neglecting these non black women who may hold the perfect spirits I seek on the basis of their racial background is getting tedious and feels like a low thing to do.

Before I get called a bounty or something of that sort, please understand what I have presented and let's discuss this with intelligence.

OP.

Welcome to the world . . .

I personaly don't blame you ,you have chosen the right choice

Lol. What makes you say this?

I just don't know why you cannot take somone seriously when you really want someone.

That member is basically calling me 'sick and useless' for presenting my thoughts,

This is the insecurity I am talking about with black
Women: you can't handle criticism, but you are happy with praise - even where it's undeserved, Pathetic.

, Hilarious.

Why not just state your opinion in English so everyone else could understand? Just typical immature behavior. I welcome your view; I made this topic. But you speak in another language ASSuming people won't understand.

I'm not blaming you or the black race of women! I stated the women I have been with (three not one) and most of the women I know put me off a serious relationship with women - mainly, because they act like you. Enraged all the time for no reason. I'm not going to argue with you if you put up nothing worthy to comment on. You are not worthy.

For the record, I dumped them all

@poster
there is nothing wrong in how you feel about your black sistas, and you should therefore open your heart and mind to FULLY give other races a chance. why should you suffer any longer?
it is your duty to find your happiness, wherever that may be.

on a quick note, dating 3black and ending in failure while dating 2 whites and ending in success shows nothing as i am sure there are some great black ladies out there, you just havent met the right ones.

last but not least MAKE UP YOUR MIND and go with it. if you cant deal with black and wont give whites a chance then, what is left?! asians?

to each their own!

question and answer time

NinjaOlu:

, Hilarious.

Why not just state your opinion in English so everyone else could understand? Just typical immature behavior. I welcome your view; I made this topic. But you speak in another language ASSuming people won't understand.

I'm not blaming you or the black race of women! I stated the women I have been with (three not one) and most of the women I know put me off a serious relationship with women - mainly, because they act like you. Enraged all the time for no reason. I'm not going to argue with you if you put up nothing worthy to comment on. You are not worthy.

For the record, I dumped them all

Sure you dumped them all and WHY ARE YOU UPSET THEN?

I can respond in any language I want to respond in. No se puede hacer mierda al respecto.

OP,

Do understand that not all Nigerian/black women are like that. I can understand you being turned off because you've had bad experiences with some others. I won't advise you to start dating another race, ethnicity, or nationality because of your ex-girlfriends lol. I've had a few bad boyfriends but I've learned to not rule others out because of how I was treated by the few in my past. There's good and bad in everyone and everything, so I think you should be open-minded.

Anyway, I do think you should change your mentality.

NinjaOlu:
But the thing is, here in London at least, this leads me to avoiding most African/black women in general,  Because most I 'pre-court' have these easily identifiable traits even if they try to hide it and then I just lose complete interest, no matter how hot she was.

Maybe it's just me, but I look for the good in people rather than the bad. I don't go on dates with a checklist in my head, and then lose interest in a guy once a few items on the list have been checked off lol. Do you ever think to yourself that you might be identifying traits that aren't even there? It seems like you want to date these women but you're looking for flaws that may or may not be there.

ogugua88:

OP,

Do understand that not all Nigerian/black women are like that. I can understand you being turned off because you've had bad experiences with some others. I won't advise you to start dating another race, ethnicity, or nationality because of your ex-girlfriends lol. I've had a few bad boyfriends but I've learned to not rule others out because of how I was treated by the few in my past. There's good and bad in everyone and everything, so I think you should be open-minded.

Anyway, I do think you should change your mentality.

Maybe it's just me, but I look for the good in people rather than the bad. I don't go on dates with a checklist in my head, and then lose interest in a guy once a few items on the list have been checked off lol. Do you ever think to yourself that you might be identifying traits that aren't even there? It seems like you want to date these women but you're looking for flaws that may or may not be there.

Good response and gracias.  I still think he was dumped and upset at the rest of the black girls.  Plus those same dicks that just "yeah man" would be complaining and bitching if Mama Gee created a similar thread. Oh wait! She did and it surpassed five pages of BOYS crying and moaning. Hypocrites. They sure the hell didn't "ignore the thread".

Mrs Chima, once again showin her anti-men n so-called anti-bullshit self. He is jst a new member, instead of welcomin him, u're kickin is arse so hard. U knw wat, i tink u're really a pain in MEN's arse. LoL. @OP, like sum1 said in evry collection there re alwayz d bad n good eggs. It isn't easy 2 find a wife-material (sum1 u're compatible wif) so kip searchin, no matter hw many dates u go into, u'll find dat SPECIAL woman 4 u. B.S: evry1 is wif 1 flaw or d oda, there is no PERFECT WOMAN.

This matter no go end for here.

what a dunce.
maybe u can ask your father how he dealt with your mother's "black female characteristics"

my dilemma is I don't think I have the patience anymore to deal with some black female 'characteristics'

@ OP

Sheby Our Naija babes dey beg u money and gifts aby?? Na their way

@poster i know is not ur fault and there is an igbo adage that says once your little finger gets red oil it extends to other fingers and you also know that once bitten twice shy,but one thing i will like you to know is that we ladies have our own weeknesses and you cant compare my weekness with that of another girl but had it been that your r/ships with the white ladies turned sour you would have preferred to date ur black sisters instead but u know as a nigerian man it is most suitable and preferrable that u marry a black lady but i dont know how ur people sees it but it all depend on you to make ur choice but if am to advice you open up ur heart towards the black ladies but this time be more careful.

Hmmm
interestin. . . .

Poster, i hope u see not all black women are the same,
there are the Mrs Chima's of the race
there are the ogugua88's
there are the iice's
and lastly the dyt's of the race

^^ ok