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Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Odoctor(m): 10:12pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
Favfables1: Exactly my thought. Immediately I saw that comment, that's what came to my mind. People were busy insulting him without seeing reason in his questions. Different things matter for different people. He has shown us that this really matters to him, so I wonder why people are forcing him to accept a contrary narrative. Thank for this comment too. @Op, I understand your pains. Since its repetitive, just call her aside and tell her what you want. And let her understand the dept of dissatisfaction in you, so that it doesn't happen again. Grace! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Osmomoh(m): 10:27pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
Most women here will support her. But this is wrong. If she did it the very day he arrived it is ok, but if she continue doing it, that is disrespectful to the husband. The old man who she called a brother lack sense, because as a man, he should be mindful of everything in that home. I really don't know why some adult feel so comfortable in their in-laws house. Oga, it's seems you have not be able to detached your wife from her family? It's very important that men remound the mind of their wives to get more attached to them than any member of their family. Anyway, to avoid trouble in your home, ignore everything for now since he is only staying for short time and after he leaves, you can discuss it with her. Peace. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Ttjj: 10:38pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
Hmmm |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by kmaster007: 10:39pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
And did you confirm nah her real blood brother |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Ybaby: 10:44pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
SayAsSeen: It is wrong! What is bad is bad! but many things are bad that is where comm comes in - tell her in a cool voice how disrespected you feel then let it go. If her good parts outweigh the bad then draw a cheque from the goodwill she has with you but communicate and give her the opportunity to apologise and make amends. It is small stuff that causes resentment and yet in grand scheme of things it can be dealt with quickly.... Do you pay the rent ? give her allowance or is it her bro that gives her pocket money.. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Babastrong(m): 10:49pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
Some issues are not worth dragging if you are really matured. The most important thing "is to serve you food to eat whether first or last". but when your marriage is not stable, you will be seeing enemity in every action and come to nairaland for advice. |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by airexx: 10:51pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
yemi1504:Very senseless things 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by arazanbal: 10:53pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
things like this depends on how the home/family take dy in regards to tradition and all. if for example this very op so na oba or chieftain will the wife serve food to his broda first before him husband according to d story it not a one time tin, it happening over and over again. dat is to say d woman know watin him dy do. traditionally it a sign of disrespect |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Idiko1: 11:00pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
SayAsSeen: Is the brother older or younger than her? If he is older than her, there exists a remote possibility he is equally older than you. |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by vickydevoka(m): 11:05pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
bigjackass:Exactly. Ur head de dere. My mum serve visitors b4 anybody else |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by BullyBullies: 11:05pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
yemi1504: Thanks boss. Merry Xmas and happy new year to you and family bro. Stay safe out there pls 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by nezer83: 11:14pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
Bola146: I was expecting this sort of response and not disappointed. Let's assume the table turned around would you still see nothing bad about it?? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Coolgent(m): 11:25pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
SayAsSeen: In my culture a woman is expected to serve her husband first before anybody their parents exclusive. Communicate politely to your spouse tell her she should serve you first before her sibling. You can also ignore her since the said brother is only visiting temporary. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Nobody: 11:26pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
The brother is an important GUEST! The house is yours. Your wife is serving the guest good on behalf of you. Now the question is If you have an important guest will you eat first before serving them? |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by dannielight(m): 11:31pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
Most comments here are not fair to the man. He said he was hungry and the woman had to make something for him while BIL was sleeping. Why wake a sleeping man for food first, while the hungry one waits? That's not fair. But OP, speak with your wife about it like a gentleman that you are. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Ricewax(m): 11:42pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
Na hunger wey dey wire you make you reason like that.. your visitor go soon comort.. no vex bro. SayAsSeen: |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Biggcake: 11:43pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
ignis: Then why didn't she get married to the damned fvcking brother. |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by preciousmetals: 11:46pm On Dec 24, 2021 |
So this is also a problem?, my advice to you is to consult a mental health doctor because something is wrong with your brain. |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Nobody: 12:35am On Dec 25, 2021 |
adelaja70: You just hit the nail!!!! Egocentric husband. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Nobody: 12:37am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Osmomoh: Op is just an otondo in marriage... you are yet to see more. Try to be more blind and dumb in marriage. |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Alabo7978(m): 12:38am On Dec 25, 2021 |
adelaja70:What shame abeg? In his own house, his own money and his own food. Brother man go and sit down inside lava. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Awise09(m): 12:45am On Dec 25, 2021 |
SayAsSeen:Sir am sorry to say this I think your wife don't know what you mean as a husband to her can she do that to her father? If the answer is no then case close. But this thing married men telling their wife to prepare noodles for them is sounding irritating in my ear, no matter the hunger my wife know Sha I rather drink gari. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Ajimusty2: 12:46am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Shey u no get respect again abi,so for ur mind ur senior brother in-law come house.if ur wife serve u food first u go gree eat? |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by adelaja70(m): 12:48am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Alabo7978:He for marry himself naa,.. Bachelor self dey advice... Lmao! |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by sharone21(f): 12:52am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Favfables1: You and the person you quoted are both sensible in what u wrote... So, someone should not be comfortable in his own house again? After telling his wife he was very hungry....Assuming the food determined his living or dying, it means she doesn't care... In many things in life, it is good to have priority and know how to apply it( prioritization). .. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by aribisala0(m): 12:59am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Chuvin22:The subtext is that the OP does not think he is still important if he ever thought he was and feels oppressed in his home I wonder if the OP has an elder brother and whether he would feel the same way if it was his elder brother At the core of this is the psychology of personal space or territory. We still possess many of those drives which other species manifest by marking their territory with the smell of urine matched by a willingness to defend territory with violence. The social restrictions on such violence in human society is manifested in social media eruptions |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by aribisala0(m): 1:00am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Chuvin22:The subtext is that the OP does not think he is still important if he ever thought he was and feels oppressed in his home I wonder if the OP has an elder brother and whether he would feel the same way if it was his elder brother At the core of this is the psychology of personal space or territory. We still possess many of those drives which other species manifest by marking their territory with the smell of urine matched by a willingness to defend territory with violence. The social restrictions on such violence in human society is manifested in social media eruptions or in our culture dreams of wizardry and such like The human mind is funny Poverty can make it do strange things 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Okhuadams(m): 1:18am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Bola146:oga tell him the truth it is wrong if it happens once no wahala but if it's an everyday thing very bad weather he came for visit or not |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Donbayor: 1:29am On Dec 25, 2021 |
Karleb:Psychologically it's torture not just wrong |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Donbayor: 1:36am On Dec 25, 2021 |
alizma:I don't want to imagine this cuz 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by Flairoqy(m): 1:40am On Dec 25, 2021 |
You’re smoking weed not cigarette, your write up says it all, trying to compose simple narrative and all these jargons we are trying to forcefully comprehend. |
Re: Is It Right For My Wife To Serve Her Brother Food Before Me In My Own House by BRATISLAVA: 2:21am On Dec 25, 2021 |
LMAO. Another tale for our entertainment. The way men garnish lies as fact here is amusing. This one even tells us he's lying/changing events because he's trying to stay anonymous with his complaint. Because he knows the elder brother is on the forum and the guy is 6'5" with the muscles of a stallion! So he wanted to eat sardines and noodles and his wife went into the guest bedroom, shook her elder brother awake and knelt down to serve him food, while this our good brother man husband was salivating and shaking with grievous hunger? No bro code, men in hate? The story is fantastic. Pure NL fiction designed to draw reactions and abuse on the "wife". But at least this one is funny. 2 Likes |
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