ignis:


Respect other people's opinion.

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

BullyBullies:


Thanks boss. Merry Xmas and happy new year to you and family bro. Stay safe out there pls

airexx:
Very senseless things

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

Favfables1:


The most sensible comment I've seen so far...

Personally if it's just a one time thing, I won't be bothered buh it happening consistently is something that'll make me raise eyebrows...

OP talk to your wife and tell her exactly how this makes you feel...
She may be doing it without meaning to upset or disrespect you...

I know this may seem like something "not worth talking about", buh if it hurts you enough for you to open a thread on nairaland, then it's better you communicate with her rather than allow it grow into resentment...

And please leave all those folks up there insulting you for whatever reason, if you do your investigations they're probably not married and thus won't know *exactly* how it feels...

Good luck Chief...

Fa44me:
Your comment is second sensible one l have seen on the matter. What some people can't tolerate, they will tell others to do. Op said he was hungry and instructed his wife to prepare what he wanted to eat, when she is done, instead of her to dish her husband own , she went to wake up the person (her brother) who was asleep and gave him his own first. Why can't she give the food to her husband who is hungry before waking her brother up? Being a visitor is not an excuse here, It's better to read any post very well and understand the content before making any comment to prevent complicating the issue the more. Op, sit your wife down and tell her what you don't want. By the grace of God, she will change. It's well with your family, with their family and our family. Stay blessed.

cescky:


No, i wont respects nor support stupidity

mardis:
Op, forget all those saying, there is nothing wrong in it. Infact everything is wrong with it. I am very sure majority of them aren't married so they don't see it they way you are seeing it. If it was her parents i would understand. Her brother stay your house shouldn't exeed 3days, he should go stay in a hotel. Culture and tradition permit a wife to serve her husband first before others. It is respect. The brother should even be the one to correct that.
Please talk to her, just do it in a calm way, so she can understand and correct herself.

Amasimichael:
There is nothing wrong with that. Her brother is a visitor. You shud serve your visitor b4 eating urself. U sef. N stop smoking. It's not gud for u.

yemi1504:


SMH. Awon woke generation, no matter divorces dey fly left, right, center, up and down lol.

Alabo7978:

You are mad.

elantraceey:




Lmao.... So you mean going to kitchen to serve food you'll eat in your own tummy is the reason for divorce these days? Wow.... Omo.

chatinent:
The way men pick on irrelevant things these days now amuse me.

About the part you said her bro was asleep and she woke him up to serve him, it smells a bag full of lies said to solidify your points.

Chuvin22:
The brother is an important GUEST!
The house is yours. Your wife is serving the guest good on behalf of you.

Now the question is If you have an important guest will you eat first before serving them?

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

elantraceey:



E pain you ba? The thought of doing what you're comfortable doing as a single person when you get married is madness abi.... SMH.

Alabo7978:

Shake your head very well.
People like you will go to your man's house, cook, wash, do everything but come online to form woke.

It's not your fault.
Na white people fault.

Women don't fear their husband's again.

bigjackass:
Courtesy demands she serve the guest first whether her brother or not.

Nobody is dragging head of the house with you

elantraceey:


So let me get something straight. Are you looking for a woman that'll be afraid of you or you need a woman that'll love, honour, respect and be loyal to you, which one?

Xilsbridalhouse:

Op I’m highly disappointed at you!
Why should a matter as trivial as this get you all worked up? So what What even made you notice this to even find a fault? Like you strike me as someone who picks up a fight at every given chance.
Learn to overlook things and overlooking things is a common trait with men.

Naughtysex:
Tell me if you will also feel comfortable seeing your husband answering (pleasing) his sister before you

Answer it with every sincerity in you

Xilsbridalhouse:

Lol so what ?? She is his sister right ? I would even expect him to do more please!!! Why should I be competing with his sister? As in you are really funny oh!

Depsui:


You're special or unmarried.