Happy new year nairalanders.

I met this guy on the 23rd of December on my way coming back from somewhere. We exchanged contact, his body language and stares made me conclude that he is just a chop and run guy and I wouldn't give him a chance.

Since 23rd December he has taken me to places, eatery, shopping and lots more, and I know he has spent a lot.

He called me on the 2nd of January and i told him I was going to get some cosmetics, because he lives close to my place he decided to accompany me, suprisingly he paid my bills.

Later that night he asked me to come over, atleast see his apartment I told him my period started immediately and I was having terrible cramps, he felt pity and we moved it to another day.

Because I think he has an ulterior motive, or may be he is doing all those to get me in bed. I told him today that I can't date him anymore, I am done he said I hurt him and all.

The question is I am confused right now, do you think this guy loves me? Should I call him back and tell him I was just joking? Although he is so vulnerable and weak for my liking.

What should I do?

23rd of december til now thats about 2 weeks...how can you ask if he "loves you" BWAAAAAAAH!

The question is I am confused right now, do you think this guy loves me? Should I call him back and tell him I was just joking? Although he is so vulnerable and weak for my liking.

He's vulnerable and weak cos he took you to eateries, shopping and lots more?

I keep saying this, God didn't create Nigerian girls to be loved or cared for. Trying to show a Nigerian girl love and care is foolishness and should be met with utter disgrace!

Mehn this is beyond local man logistics

Op, wetin dey worry you.. U know say him wan Bleep and u dey collect him money.. Haba u go dey heartless oo ...i dey always tell people if you no say u no go allow guy Bleep u.. No dey collect Dia money...this life Nah trade by barter...

Better go Bleep the guy. Make e be equal period

Isokoson1:
Mehn this is beyond local man logistics

Op, wetin dey worry you.. U know say him wan Bleep and u dey collect him money.. Haba u go dey heartless oo ...i dey always tell people if you no say u no go allow guy Bleep u.. No dey collect Dia money...this life Nah trade by barter...

Better go Bleep the guy. Make e be equal period

Did she beg him for anything?

gift0123:
Happy new year nairalanders.

I met this guy on the 23rd of December on my way coming back from somewhere. We exchanged contact, his body language and stares made me conclude that he is just a chop and run guy and I wouldn't give him a chance.

Since 23rd December he has taken me to places, eatery, shopping and lots more, and I know he has spent a lot.

He called me on the 2nd of January and i told him I was going to get some cosmetics, because he lives close to my place he decided to accompany me, suprisingly he paid my bills.

Later that night he asked me to come over, atleast see his apartment I told him my period started immediately and I was having terrible cramps, he felt pity and we moved it to another day.

Because I think he has an ulterior motive, or may be he is doing all those to get me in bed. I told him today that I can't date him anymore, I am done he said I hurt him and all.

The question is I am confused right now, do you think this guy loves me? Should I call him back and tell him I was just joking? Although he is so vulnerable and weak for my liking.

What should I do?

Beware and pls follow your instincts so he wouldn't later come on nairaland to post about you being so vulnerable..as you can see wannabe redpillers are trooping in to bash you..
If you had sex with him they are still gonna call you a hoe..
So drop that cocksucka he might only be after your body..

Kriss216:

He's vulnerable and weak cos he took you to eateries, shopping and lots more?

I keep saying this, God didn't create Nigerian girls to be loved or cared for. Trying to show a Nigerian girl love and care is foolishness.

Some stupid Nigerian women like this one we just read.
If u can't date a man nor accept to be his friends,pls do not accept his money,outings or whatever he chooses to offer u.

You dont try to impress Nigerian ladies,when you run after them they run away,when you run away they run after you.

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Beware and pls follow your instincts so he wouldn't later come on nairaland to post about you being so vulnerable..as you can see wannabe redpillers are trooping in to bash you..
If you had sex with him they are still gonna call you a hoe..
So drop that cocksucka he might only be after your body..

Yes I sensed so that's y I dumped him fast.

ibechris:




Some stupid Nigerian women like this one we just read.
If u can't date a man nor accept to be his friends,pls do not accept his money,outings or whatever he chooses to offer u.

Hmm, so you think I am wrong for accepting his gifts and money?

gift0123:





Yes I sensed so that's y I dumped him fast.

Good one..pls don't allow these wannabe redpillers hurt you through their words in the comment section..

Be yourself..be strong and always follow your instinct..you are loved..bless up..

Why this generation have decided to kill themselves on top of irrelevant thing's still beats my imagination.... For yuh mind u want to go back n eat some more money abi? E go soon clear for yuh eye,when that son of man gets down on u....

Kriss216:

He's vulnerable and weak cos he took you to eateries, shopping and lots more?

I keep saying this, God didn't create Nigerian girls to be loved or cared for. Trying to show a Nigerian girl love and care is foolishness and should be met with utter disgrace!

Really??

Isokoson1:
Mehn this is beyond local man logistics

Op, wetin dey worry you.. U know say him wan Bleep and u dey collect him money.. Haba u go dey heartless oo ...i dey always tell people if you no say u no go allow guy Bleep u.. No dey collect Dia money...this life Nah trade by barter...

Better go Bleep the guy. Make e be equal period

I dont want to have any thing intimate to do with him, he is not my spec, and beside I never asked him for anything, yet he kept on spending, infact his attitude piss me off entirely, I do not love him too, I had to quit. I hope he finds another woman...

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Good one..pls don't allow these wannabe redpillers hurt you through their words in the comment section..

Be yourself..be strong and always follow your instinct..you are loved..bless up..

Oh thank you dear......

Headlesschicken:
Why this generation have decided to kill themselves on top of irrelevant thing's still beats my imagination.... For yuh mind u want to go back n eat some more money abi? E go soon clear for yuh eye,when that son of man gets down on u....

Did I even say I want to go back, I had to let him go, but I am wondering if my actions was wrong or right......

gift0123:





Hmm, so you think I am wrong for accepting his gifts and money?

U were very very wrong honestly.
Someone that u were not comfortable with,is the same person that u had the guts to go to places with. Women una strong seriously.

gift0123:
Happy new year nairalanders.

I met this guy on the 23rd of December on my way coming back from somewhere. We exchanged contact, his body language and stares made me conclude that he is just a chop and run guy and I wouldn't give him a chance.

Since 23rd December he has taken me to places, eatery, shopping and lots more, and I know he has spent a lot.

He called me on the 2nd of January and i told him I was going to get some cosmetics, because he lives close to my place he decided to accompany me, suprisingly he paid my bills.

Later that night he asked me to come over, atleast see his apartment I told him my period started immediately and I was having terrible cramps, he felt pity and we moved it to another day.

Because I think he has an ulterior motive, or may be he is doing all those to get me in bed. I told him today that I can't date him anymore, I am done he said I hurt him and all.

The question is I am confused right now, do you think this guy loves me? Should I call him back and tell him I was just joking? Although he is so vulnerable and weak for my liking.

What should I do?

He's prolly a simp, if he was a "smash and run" guy, he would have tried to do that the first time he took you places

ibechris:




U were very very wrong honestly.
Someone that u were not comfortable with,is the same person that u had the guts to go to places with. Women una strong seriously.

I dont even see anything wrong in accepting his act of kindness, do I have to displease myself to please him And beside u can't put sugar in my mouth and I will vomit it, the same way you can't reject any girl who decide to have sex with you at anytime.

Think4Myself:

He's prolly a simp, if he was a "smash and run" guy, he would have tried to do that the first time he took you places

He was trying hard to win me over, me shaa is very stubborn, but his looks and words is too sexual I don't trust him. Don't want to fall into shit.

gift0123:





I dont even see anything wrong in accepting his act of kindness, do I have to displease myself to please him And beside u can't put sugar in my mouth and I will vomit it, the same way you can't reject any girl who decide to have sex with you at anytime.

This is the kind of mentality that have caused many female deaths today. Well,continue I am only here to tell u that u should be careful.
Me,no dey look for woman to toast abi father of three. Our people say, wetin them commot for teeth, no dey belleful.
Good luck to u.

gift0123:





I dont want to have any thing intimate to do with him, he is not my spec, and beside I never asked him for anything, yet he kept on spending, infact his attitude piss me off entirely, I do not love him too, I had to quit. I hope he finds another woman...

Good, but why you allow am spend money on you? Will you return it? Of course you didnt asked him to spend, but you can refuse to be a beneficiary. You know damn well that his destination is a relationship with you. You don't like him bla bla bla but you like his money.

This Is how you girls bring problems to your life. Not all men will let you go after scamming them (doesn't matter if you don't consider it scamming). When I hear that some people just got missing, I always wonder if they've stepped on the wrong toes.

You're not smart, your foolish. In life learn to win the war, not the battle. You've won the battle by eating his money, but the main war, if he get black mind, I feel sorry for you.

pansophist:


Good, but why you allow am spend money on you? Will you return it? Of course you didnt asked him to spend, but you can refuse to be a beneficiary. You know damn well that his destination is a relationship with you. You don't like him bla bla bla but you like his money.

This Is how you girls bring problems to your life. Not all men will let you go after scamming them (doesn't matter if you don't consider it scamming). When I hear that some people just got missing, I always wonder if they've stepped on the wrong toes.

You're not smart, your foolish. In life learn to win the war, not the battle. You've won the battle by eating his money, but the main war, if he get black mind, I feel sorry for you.

Really,you guys want to chop me raw! But it feels good when you men hurt women? He was just being kind and I obliged, besides I see nothing wrong in what he did neither do I see anything bad in my actions oga... He was just a guy trying to get in between my legs and i had to protect my feelings too.

ibechris:



This is the kind of mentality that have caused many female deaths today. Well,continue I am only here to tell u that u should be careful.
Me,no dey look for woman to toast abi father of three. Our people say, wetin them commot for teeth, no dey belleful.
Good luck to u.

Abeg allow pesin hear word all this your cry no touch anywhere..wetin dey pepper you be say that guy no fit chop her..

She said the guy invited and took her out..tell me did she know she was gonna be invited over...if she refused the gift you are still gonna say she was rude ..now she did you are crying..
She didn't force the daft guy..for your sake can't your gender do something for a woman without thinking about sex huh?
Sex sex sex..you buy something for woman sex comes to your mind..very dirty mindset..
But if it was your fellow wannabe redpiller you were gonna say yeah he did a good job by smashing her..
Now you need to understand what is called doing something for someone without attaching unnecessary returns.. nonsense and myopic mindset coming from a guy that's supposed to be sensible..

gift0123:





Yes I sensed so that's y I dumped him fast.

I am only curious as to how you have the feeling he only wants to bed you and you all you have to do is for you to quit like the power and will to bed you is his alone without your consent.

gift0123:



Did I even say I want to go back, I had to let him go, but I am wondering if my actions was wrong or right......

gift0123:


The question is I am confused right now, do you think this guy loves me? Should I call him back and tell him I was just joking? Although he is so vulnerable and weak for my liking.

What should I do?

The concluding part of your write up states you are still confused, you only came to Nairaland to get validation to call him back which is not a bad thing, if you can listen to him and what he needs aligns with your expectation go ahead but if only the power to bed you is in your own hand, I don't see how one can bed you without your consent except he is a serial rapist you know of, so what is your fear?

gift0123:





Yes I sensed so that's y I dumped him fast.

That's not fair. You've only just met him. First impressions matter but you don't judge a person and award him a certificate after 2 weeks. Slow down! The time is even too short for anyone to be able to tell whether he loves you or not. Lastly, I won't say jump into his bed right away but if you know you won't date him, stop taking his things, you're not different from a scammer if you don't desist.

Women know that every relationship is transactional and when they see a sucker they use him, but the guy doesn't know any better. It was after you chop his money that you realized that he is vulnerable mtcheew.

This thread must be long

gift0123:
Happy new year nairalanders.

I met this guy on the 23rd of December on my way coming back from somewhere. We exchanged contact, his body language and stares made me conclude that he is just a chop and run guy and I wouldn't give him a chance.

Since 23rd December he has taken me to places, eatery, shopping and lots more, and I know he has spent a lot.

He called me on the 2nd of January and i told him I was going to get some cosmetics, because he lives close to my place he decided to accompany me, suprisingly he paid my bills.

Later that night he asked me to come over, atleast see his apartment I told him my period started immediately and I was having terrible cramps, he felt pity and we moved it to another day.

Because I think he has an ulterior motive, or may be he is doing all those to get me in bed. I told him today that I can't date him anymore, I am done he said I hurt him and all.

The question is I am confused right now, do you think this guy loves me? Should I call him back and tell him I was just joking? Although he is so vulnerable and weak for my liking.

What should I do?

U concluded he is just a chop and run guy but u didn't conclude that u are a chop and run girl when he took u to eatries and lavished his money on u. People like una, na Yahoo plus guys fit una.

Na urself you dey fool. You opened this thread to gloat over how smart you were ahead of a guy. For your mind, una get sense. Don't worry, u go soon jam.

Truvelisback:
U concluded he is just a chop and run guy but u didn't conclude that u are a chop and run girl when he took u to eatries and lavished his money on u. People like una, na Yahoo plus guys fit una.

Wahala