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pansophist:
I know lots of decent educated women, and I know lots of corrupt educated women as well. Just as money (and power) brings out the true character of a man, education does the same thing to a woman, and she can be worse than devil himself, while at the extreme end, a virtous educated woman is an asset to herself and her husband. Education is not the problem. But again, I question the motive of men going for an uneducated woman. What do you want exactly? Do you want obedience or submission? Or you are confusing obedience with submission?

Obedience can be described as the relationship between a servant and the owner, while submission can be described as the relationship between JayZ and Beyonce. The former (the servant) has no choice but to be obedient, lacks options, dependent, and effectively sacrificing prosperity for survival (food, shelter, care etc). While the latter (Beyonce) has choices but chooses to submit, she is independent, has options, not in the relationship due to her survival, and out of all her options and his shortcomings, she chooses to submit to him.

Dating an obedient woman has its downsides. You can't breathe and must take care of her for life. You'll also doubt her love because you're not sure if it's true, or coming from a hungry stomach. You'll doubt her faithfulness because you know deep down that it's only your money that keeps her. Furthermore, she will be an easy target for businessmen pastors to milk you through her, she is more likely to come from a poor background which tasks the man to lift her and her family from their financial predicament. Also there is a risk of raising dumb kids. Like mothers, like children.

Most importantly, I realise that educated women kind of mirrors out the insecurity and lack of self development in a man. Lots of men see just having money as the only tool that establishes them as a real man. But when a woman has her own money, even bigger money than him, then he feels powerless. And it's because his masculine strength is not internal. An internally secured man that thrives in his masculinity won't worry about the wealth, educational background or status of a woman, because what he will offer her is not what her money can give her.

Wealthy women are with broke men all the time. It's not news. And these men have qualities her money will never give her. For example, no amount of sophisticated sexual toys will satisify a woman sexually like the warmth of a hot blooded man that is attractive and can connect with her on a human to human level. intimacy gadgets don't talk, and won't tell her that she is beautiful and appreciated. Her kids need a good father, and she needs someone to go through the journey of life together. As a man, your value is not just money, it's far far far far more than that.

Why do you want a woman that will just follow you like a sheep even when you're going the wrong way ? She is a supporter, not a surbodinate. Why won't you want a woman that you can trust because she choosed you for something internal that can't be taken away from you (eg your character, intelligence, virtues etc)? Why don't you want a woman that chooses you because she deeply desires you and not just see you as a meal ticket to survive? That you can trust because it will be difficult for her to find your kind out there ?

Why don't you want a woman that will be an ally to proper even faster together, instead of dragging you back because she is uneducated? I honestly can't see an upside being with an uneducated woman. Please let me know if there is any. I see lots of men complaining bitterly about women, but personally I don't worry about them. Because my life is designed in such a way that corrupt women whether educated or not will never be able to penetrate in. And even though she is far richer than me, I practice contentment, and don't actually care about her money.

Lastly, why be with a woman that will not push you to be better? An uneducated obedient woman will likely just follow you even to hell, but an educated one will only follow your leadership if you're competent. She kinda balances you and acts like a feedback to when you're veering off the wrong path. A man needs the natural traits that come easily to women for him to lead well such as intuition, feelings, emotional discernment, detail oriented, and support. Something you may hardly get from an uneducated woman. Don't sacrifice the prosperity of your marriage by choosing an uneducated woman when you can face your insecurities and be with an educated one instead.

The higher a man goes in his development journey, it automatically sets the playing field to such a way that only eligible women can thrive in it, and to be specific, educated virtous women. And the standards you put yourself in sets the standards others have to meet, to fraternize with you. Boycotting educated women is not an optimal strategy to win, because you'll be boycotting the likes of Okonjo Iweala. Instead, work on yourself to the extent that only worthy women can be detected by your radar. The strategy to win in life is to play your path well, and as they say, charity begins at home. It's an inside job.

Be guided.

pansophist:
I know lots of decent educated women, and I know lots of corrupt educated women as well. Just as money (and power) brings out the true character of a man, education does the same thing to a woman, and she can be worse than devil himself, while at the extreme end, a virtous educated woman is an asset to herself and her husband. Education is not the problem. But again, I question the motive of men going for an uneducated woman. What do you want exactly? Do you want obedience or submission? Or you are confusing obedience with submission?

Obedience can be described as the relationship between a servant and the owner, while submission can be described as the relationship between JayZ and Beyonce. The former (the servant) has no choice but to be obedient, lacks options, dependent, and effectively sacrificing prosperity for survival (food, shelter, care etc). While the latter (Beyonce) has choices but chooses to submit, she is independent, has options, not in the relationship due to her survival, and out of all her options and his shortcomings, she chooses to submit to him.

Dating an obedient woman has its downsides. You can't breathe and must take care of her for life. You'll also doubt her love because you're not sure if it's true, or coming from a hungry stomach. You'll doubt her faithfulness because you know deep down that it's only your money that keeps her. Furthermore, she will be an easy target for businessmen pastors to milk you through her, she is more likely to come from a poor background which tasks the man to lift her and her family from their financial predicament. Also there is a risk of raising dumb kids. Like mothers, like children.

Most importantly, I realise that educated women kind of mirrors out the insecurity and lack of self development in a man. Lots of men see just having money as the only tool that establishes them as a real man. But when a woman has her own money, even bigger money than him, then he feels powerless. And it's because his masculine strength is not internal. An internally secured man that thrives in his masculinity won't worry about the wealth, educational background or status of a woman, because what he will offer her is not what her money can give her.

Wealthy women are with broke men all the time. It's not news. And these men have qualities her money will never give her. For example, no amount of sophisticated sexual toys will satisify a woman sexually like the warmth of a hot blooded man that is attractive and can connect with her on a human to human level. intimacy gadgets don't talk, and won't tell her that she is beautiful and appreciated. Her kids need a good father, and she needs someone to go through the journey of life together. As a man, your value is not just money, it's far far far far more than that.

Why do you want a woman that will just follow you like a sheep even when you're going the wrong way ? She is a supporter, not a surbodinate. Why won't you want a woman that you can trust because she choosed you for something internal that can't be taken away from you (eg your character, intelligence, virtues etc)? Why don't you want a woman that chooses you because she deeply desires you and not just see you as a meal ticket to survive? That you can trust because it will be difficult for her to find your kind out there ?

Why don't you want a woman that will be an ally to proper even faster together, instead of dragging you back because she is uneducated? I honestly can't see an upside being with an uneducated woman. Please let me know if there is any. I see lots of men complaining bitterly about women, but personally I don't worry about them. Because my life is designed in such a way that corrupt women whether educated or not will never be able to penetrate in. And even though she is far richer than me, I practice contentment, and don't actually care about her money.

Lastly, why be with a woman that will not push you to be better? An uneducated obedient woman will likely just follow you even to hell, but an educated one will only follow your leadership if you're competent. She kinda balances you and acts like a feedback to when you're veering off the wrong path. A man needs the natural traits that come easily to women for him to lead well such as intuition, feelings, emotional discernment, detail oriented, and support. Something you may hardly get from an uneducated woman. Don't sacrifice the prosperity of your marriage by choosing an uneducated woman when you can face your insecurities and be with an educated one instead.

The higher a man goes in his development journey, it automatically sets the playing field to such a way that only eligible women can thrive in it, and to be specific, educated virtous women. And the standards you put yourself in sets the standards others have to meet, to fraternize with you. Boycotting educated women is not an optimal strategy to win, because you'll be boycotting the likes of Okonjo Iweala. Instead, work on yourself to the extent that only worthy women can be detected by your radar. The strategy to win in life is to play your path well, and as they say, charity begins at home. It's an inside job.

Be guided.

DEMZEE:
TRASH!!!!!!!!

A WOMAN CAN NEVER BE A SUCCESSFUL MOTHER AND BE A SUCCESSFUL CAREER MINDED OR BUSINESS MINDED WOMAN AT THE SAME FUCKING TIME!

MEN DONT HAVE IT ALL SO WHY WOULD ONE THINK WOMEN CAN HAVE IT ALL


THIS MINDSET OF URS IS FUCKING EGALITARIAN MINDSET

A KING CAN MARRY A PEASANT GIRL AND TURN HER INTO A QUEEN BUT A QUEEN WON'T EVEN LOOK AT A BROKE DUDE'S WAY PERIOD!

WOMEN ARE WOMEN, THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN EDUCATED WOMAN AND A NON-EDUCATED WOMAN

ANYWAYS ONLY AVERAGE MINDED BETA MALES CARE ABOUT THEIR WIVES CAREER AND MONEY, AVERAGE BETA MALES SEEK FINANCIAL SUPPORT FROM THEIR WIVES

JONNYSPUTE:
.....I'm just confused about this topic.

Are you implying that educated women can never be humble,kind and submissive in marriage?

pansophist:
No, I'm implying that when an educated woman is humble, kind and submissive, then its true, and not fake. And the opposite is also true, which is, that if an uneducated broke woman is submissive, humble, kind in marriage, it may not be true, because she has no other option but to be that.

Now a question for you. If Ngozi Chimamanda Adichie tells you that she loves you, or iyaebe, which one will you believe to be genuine? Which one of them will say "I love you" due to hunger or because she meant it genuinely from the heart?

pansophist:
No, I'm implying that when an educated woman is humble, kind and submissive, then its true, and not fake. And the opposite is also true, which is, that if an uneducated broke woman is submissive, humble, kind in marriage, it may not be true, because she has no other option but to be that.

Now a question for you. If Ngozi Chimamanda Adichie tells you that she loves you, or iyaebe, which one will you believe to be genuine? Which one of them will say "I love you" due to hunger or because she meant it genuinely from the heart?

pansophist:
By being educated, I don't mean schooled, or being certificated. Going through the four walls of classroom doesn't makes one educated. Educated is the true acquisition of knowledge, that is reflected on how one understands life, carry themselves, the quality of their mind, and being refined.

pansophist:
No, I'm implying that when an educated woman is humble, kind and submissive, then its true, and not fake. And the opposite is also true, which is, that if an uneducated broke woman is submissive, humble, kind in marriage, it may not be true, because she has no other option but to be that.

Now a question for you. If Ngozi Chimamanda Adichie tells you that she loves you, or iyaebe, which one will you believe to be genuine? Which one of them will say "I love you" due to hunger or because she meant it genuinely from the heart?

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Kai. Wetin I wan use iyaebe love do? . I know say na hunger love be that nah. Lol

Iyaebe:
You no sabi diss sef,what makes you think chimamanda is richer, never be quick to judge who you dont know,Maduka Okoye is the new deal and the new Sheriff in town,we are already chatting in the DM,do you know shit? you and others should go eat it.Maduka Okoye is my focus and I don't want any distraction,he's the reason I want to deactivate so that i wont be traceable to this place and thank God i never revealed my beautiful face here aside GRIMMJOE who has seen my pictures showing my face and peepydel who knows me outside here,i think im safe.I will surprise you all nairalanders on my entanglement with Maduka Okoye.For your information, my great grand parents didn't even know what hunger was,just shush it and enjoy my cruiz on this forum.

Truvelisback:
Educated or not, i think it just depends on the individual mindset. Even some men who are educated seems to be too proud and arrogant, and tend to look down on those who aren't as educated as they are.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Kai. Wetin I wan use iyaebe love do? . I know say na hunger love be that nah. Lol

Truvelisback:
Educated or not, i think it just depends on the individual mindset. Even some men who are educated seems to be too proud and arrogant, and tend to look down on those who aren't as educated as they are.

Iyaebe:
Use me to catch your cruise freely,I'm glad it makes you happy, keep been happy as I'm a happy person myself. Well I'm leaving this forum very soon.Byeeee

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Madam iyabe you dey here?

Iyaebe:
I'm everywhere but will soon leave this forum,so say what you want now before its too late

Angela62:
Chances are, you're a boy in his 20's, or a man child who has never had a healthy relationship with a woman before. Because how you confidently spew this rubbish deserves pity. I know you've made up your mind, and I'm not here to correct or prove your wrong, you're probably a lost cause, but I'll tell you that the poster is correct. A career woman can also be a good wife and a mother. I'm one.

Yes men and woman can have it all, but not at the same time. I got married right after university, had kids then enter the workforce after that. I own my business and work from home, so I could be a full time mom, and still contribute financially to our home. It's either you're blind, or you refuse to see couples like this that everywhere.

Be careful with this belief you have, it will deny you of joy and true relationship with a good woman. Life is not black and white, there are thousands of shades in between. There are bad women out there, and I mean a lot of its and I'm telling you this as a woman. But there are good one as well, and that's what the posters are talking about. If your mum is a good woman why do you think there is none like her out there? Someone around the world ?

DOESN'T NEGATE THE FACT THAT AVERAGE BETA MALES ARE THE ONES WHO CARE ABOUT THEIR WIVES CAREER AND MONEY.

THE THING I SAID IS A WOMAN CAN'T BE A SUCCESSFUL MOTHER AND A SUCCESSFUL CAREER MINDED OR BUSINESS MINDED WOMAN AT THE SAME FUCKING TIME..... CANT U READ?

Iyaebe:
You just described Pansophist and I know you are stylishly referring to him.Please respond to your mention sir,I want to leave here as soon as possible

Iyaebe:
I'm everywhere but will soon leave this forum,so say what you want now before its too late

JONNYSPUTE:
.... How far? Are you still going to Germany with the floppy goal keeper Maduka Okoye? Lol

Iyaebe:
I'm not interested in his goal keeping whatever, its all pure love and not because of anything

JONNYSPUTE:
....He might also be a flopp in bed. Have you reasoned that side?

Iyaebe:
He can't, with all those toned body plus his sporting skills, he's definitely a champions.

JESHAL:
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Attention seeking HOE

Iyaebe:
He can't, with all those toned body plus his sporting skills, he's definitely a champions.

Iyaebe:
This line is too old fashioned, use clitocurrency next time.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Same thing we said about his goal keeping.Lol

Toned body plus sporting skills couldn't catch a simple ball.

Make you no come here to tell us how disappointed you were after the first night ooh.

JESHAL:
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HARLOTT

Iyaebe:
You guys don't understand how the body of ladies work,if a lady loves a guy deeply and she's emotionally connected with him,just a touch will satisfy her.Find a woman who loves you deeply and you won't have to worry about your sexual prowess,though it's a plus.