everything is going pretty well but initially he told me he was not on fb, when I brung up the subject again he said he doesn't go on there often and was deleting it soon.

I just know he is hiding something

so secretive and he has lied once already

he told me when he me he was 27 when I googled him and found out his real age he said it was because he knew I wouldn't give him a second look had I known he was younger.

To be fair he is right I would have said no way all my exes are at least 10 years my senior although he is a lot more mature then them.

And one last thing he also says that Nigerians don't introduce you to their mum until they know they want to marry you.

k2039: He is a liar.
Since you know, why stay with a secretive man.
You are absolutely correct(based on your post)
Another lie (all this early in the relationship, he still has more lies in him.
Since he is right, why did you choose to be left.
Apparently you guys aren't dating with the intent of marriage yet

my2kobo:
1)He can't be trusted, (he is secretive and lies as much as the devil).
2)You are old enough to be married, the earlier you settle for a serious man, the better for you. Even if he doesn't marry 6 years from now, nothing wrong with him.
3)The age issue may still be a big issue (family and other factors, the fact that he is not ready to introduce you to his mum says a lot about that)

My guess is as good as yours, safe yourself from a future massive heart break now that the danger can still be averted

Enegod: you are dating another Nigerian guy??!! what happened between you and the Edo guy??

lostgirl85:
But you seriously believe that after 4 weeks of dating I should meet his mum?

k2039:
No, just boils down to the tone he used and I assumed it sounded like one who didn't want you to.

alutacontinua: I could give you reasons why you might be over-reacting as there's no concrete proof to attest to the fact that he is fake in your post but there's something about feelings in my stomach that is almost always true.

And to say the truth, the feelings I got in my stomach when and after reading through your post is that you're on a reeeeaaaaaallllyyyyyy looooonnnnnnggggggg thing!

If you dunno the meaning of that, i can help you out.

sexkillz: How am I expected to know why he hasn't added you on Facebook?

lostgirl85: Let me first state that we have not had intercourse as yet I have a 3 month rule.

lostgirl85:

Help please

sexkillz: Lmao. This is funny.

alutacontinua:

It means you're been taken for a ride.
That sounds more like international english. That first one is customized for Nigerians.

lostgirl85:

Oh no sometimes I feel like that but I know since my daughters dad my judgement skill are off..... Oh we'll another one bites the dust..... Or do you have a suggestion should I demand to see his fb now?

lostgirl85:


I took y'all's advice and dumped his cheating behind NO stress for me and our daughter and btw the other baby mum he brought from Nigeria is still here!!! Kmt you all saved me from some pain. And funny thing is Everyman that hits on me has Nigerian decent lol!!

Enegod: it's a pity....is the new guy financially okey?

alutacontinua:

Since you don't have any concrete reason yet, try and lie low and ask again some other time. Not now! He'll just open another account and shut you up! Don't break up just yet but don't put too much energy into him yet. Play along! By now, you should also be developing the genes na...

lostgirl85:

but why though? It takes time to get to know a person and sex clouds your judgement.....

k2039:
Is 3 months is enough to know someone?

lostgirl85:

but why though? It takes time to get to know a person and sex clouds your judgement.....

sexkillz: Do you know that sometimes, 3 months is not enough to know a person? Having a 3 month rule doesn't even help matters cos once the 3 months is over, you'll just conclude you know all there is to know about him, and jump into bed with him.

A lot of things can also becloud your judgement. If he had added you on Facebook by now, you'd have seen him in a different light, true or false? Some guys will introduce you to their mom today, and kick you out tomorrow, so that isn't even a yardstick.

You are old enough to know what you want, but here you are complaining about him not adding you on Facebook and that kinda throws me off, cos I wonder when Facebook became a tool for measuring seriousness of a relationship.

lostgirl85:

To some fb isn't serious but to me it is like you say he could be a whole nother person on there and I wanna know that person b4 I open my legs and 3 months is a lot longer than most women can say considering I'm not a virgin.

lostgirl85:

To some fb isn't serious but to me it is like you say he could be a whole nother person on there and I wanna know that person b4 I open my legs and 3 months is a lot longer than most women can say considering I'm not a virgin.

lostgirl85:

He is so ambitious and intelligent!!! He has his own business and is in uni (checked out the business online its legit and he goes to the same uni as me mad we never met before) He is so sexy house is sooo posh!! lol i tease him and say he's a player (he hates that) with his penthouse views and his immaculate apartment.and my daughters dad still pays child support for now......

sexkillz: So Facebook will help you decide what time your legs open? No wonder then. . . So this thread is actually to help determine the most reasonable way to part the legs. . . Interesting.

k2039:

If I were him, I'll wait three months, s3x you for another 3 months and use the latter 3 months to discard you (9months of relationship).

Look, everything is wrong with this relationship and the last thread I want to see you create is 'He used and dumped me'.

Enegod: www.accofranco.hubpages.com/hub/If-You-Are-Getting-Married-To-A-Nigerian-Man-As-A-Foreign-Lady-Read-This

lostgirl85:

Why would you do that?? You would actively call a girl everyday to chat and take her out on dates weekly just for sex!! Damn.....

lostgirl85:


Great article read it ages ago and this one fits the description best he needs me for nothing as far as money/visa so idk what to do.... Guess I will just wait it out and keep my eyes open.