Mayyvin:
Sent my CV last week and I got a response last night from the MD of the company that I should come for the interview by 9AM on Tuesday.

At about 7AM this morning, I got a call from him telling me that the venue has been changed but the time remains the same.

I said no problem. After all, the new venue is closer to where I reside.

I got to the office at about 10 minutes before 9AM. I was told to wait a little.

At about 9:15AM, I called the MD just to inform him that I'm around.

He said I should wait for 10 minutes that he's in a meeting.

Well, After waiting for over an hour twenty minutes, I picked up my bag and left.

15 minutes after leaving, I got a call from the man asking me where I am. I told him that I already left.

He asked me why I'd leave even after he had obliged me to wait.

I told him that I had other commitments scheduled for today and I can't work for someone who doesn't respect time.

Was I too impatient?

Mayyvin:
Sent my CV last week and I got a response last night from the MD of the company that I should come for the interview by 9AM on Tuesday.

At about 7AM this morning, I got a call from him telling me that the venue has been changed but the time remains the same.

I said no problem. After all, the new venue is closer to where I reside.

I got to the office at about 10 minutes before 9AM. I was told to wait a little.

At about 9:15AM, I called the MD just to inform him that I'm around.

He said I should wait for 10 minutes that he's in a meeting.

Well, After waiting for over an hour twenty minutes, I picked up my bag and left.

15 minutes after leaving, I got a call from the man asking me where I am. I told him that I already left.

He asked me why I'd leave even after he had obliged me to wait.

I told him that I had other commitments scheduled for today and I can't work for someone who doesn't respect time.

Was I too impatient?

jenny005:
Yes. U wud have had a little patience. Maybe they were using that to test u and remember patience is one of the greatest virtue in the bible.

Mayyvin:
Sent my CV last week and I got a response last night from the MD of the company that I should come for the interview by 9AM on Tuesday.

At about 7AM this morning, I got a call from him telling me that the venue has been changed but the time remains the same.

I said no problem. After all, the new venue is closer to where I reside.

I got to the office at about 10 minutes before 9AM. I was told to wait a little.

At about 9:15AM, I called the MD just to inform him that I'm around.

He said I should wait for 10 minutes that he's in a meeting.

Well, After waiting for over an hour twenty minutes, I picked up my bag and left.

15 minutes after leaving, I got a call from the man asking me where I am. I told him that I already left.

He asked me why I'd leave even after he had obliged me to wait.

I told him that I had other commitments scheduled for today and I can't work for someone who doesn't respect time.

Was I too impatient?

jenny005:
Yes. U wud have had a little patience. Maybe they were using that to test u and remember patience is one of the greatest virtue in the bible.

Klass99:


Absolutely not, neither were you wrong! I have nothing but admiration and respect for you. Because, what you did shows that you place a high value on yourself and your time, you are not one to be treated anyhow because you want/need a job.

I have done something similar in the past, so I can relate and I like a kindred spirit when I see one. It's not arrogance, impatience or ITK. It is simply wanting to be treated with the same courtesy, you extend to others.

And I don't bloody care if he is the MD/CEO. I have worked closely with CEOs and I will tell you for free, most of them are jerks/jackasses. They are badly behaved but because they are the CEO, people hardly call them out. I have called out about two in the course of my work life, but it was at the point of my resignation though .

Alison Green my favourite career blogger always says this - interviews are a two way street, you should be evaluating the employer as much as they are evaluating you. They are not doing you a favour! So, if you don't like what you see or how you are being treated during the hiring process, abeg walk.

An hour and twenty minutes is more than enough time, to have waited for someone. And the answer you gave him about having other things scheduled for the day, was just perfect. Some Nigerians need to learn, how to respect other people's time and schedules. You will find an employer who is respectful and a good fit for you. I have, all the times I followed Alison's advise.

Don't beat yourself up about this and don't listen to the naysayers who will come and tell you, there are no jobs in Nigeria, you fucvked up, e be like say hunger never catch you, blah blah blah. There are good jobs in Nigeria and you don't need a godfather or connections to land them. If you know God and you do your part well, 90% of the time you will be alright.

This is not a boast or me showing off, but I change jobs every one to two years, via Hot Nigerian jobs and My Job Mag (yes, I am a job hopper ) So, you can take my word to the bank when I say, there are good jobs in Naija.

You are an independent minded woman, who doesn't do herd mentality. Independent thinking is not encouraged or liked in our climate and society (judging by the comments/responses so far and more to come) People prefer that everyone follows common practices and act like zombies. As in, don't question anything, don't think for yourself either, just do as your predecessors have done or do as others are doing.

Majority of the herd, would have sat down there and waited till eternity, accepting what is wrong as right and okay. Keep your mindset and you will go far.

Mayyvin:
Sent my CV last week and I got a response last night from the MD of the company that I should come for the interview by 9AM on Tuesday.

At about 7AM this morning, I got a call from him telling me that the venue has been changed but the time remains the same.

I said no problem. After all, the new venue is closer to where I reside.

I got to the office at about 10 minutes before 9AM. I was told to wait a little.

At about 9:15AM, I called the MD just to inform him that I'm around.

He said I should wait for 10 minutes that he's in a meeting.

Well, After waiting for over an hour twenty minutes, I picked up my bag and left.

15 minutes after leaving, I got a call from the man asking me where I am. I told him that I already left.

He asked me why I'd leave even after he had obliged me to wait.

I told him that I had other commitments scheduled for today and I can't work for someone who doesn't respect time.

Was I too impatient?

Mayyvin:
Sent my CV last week and I got a response last night from the MD of the company that I should come for the interview by 9AM on Tuesday.

At about 7AM this morning, I got a call from him telling me that the venue has been changed but the time remains the same.

I said no problem. After all, the new venue is closer to where I reside.

I got to the office at about 10 minutes before 9AM. I was told to wait a little.

At about 9:15AM, I called the MD just to inform him that I'm around.

He said I should wait for 10 minutes that he's in a meeting.

Well, After waiting for over an hour twenty minutes, I picked up my bag and left.

15 minutes after leaving, I got a call from the man asking me where I am. I told him that I already left.

He asked me why I'd leave even after he had obliged me to wait.

I told him that I had other commitments scheduled for today and I can't work for someone who doesn't respect time.

Was I too impatient?

Klass99:


Dear Viper,

My "toxic" advice as you put it, is not for everyone. It applies to and will only make sense to people with the presence of mind to understand, this is not right. I shouldn't have to take this.

Just take it or you are weak/impatient, is a very bad premise people operate from and expect others to operate from, as well. Walking away is a sign of impressive strength, showing you have the presence of mind to............refer to what I said above, in paragraph one.

In all the time she was kept waiting, did anyone approach her to apologize for the delay or even offer her refreshment? It is common sense and good practice to say I/We are terribly sorry for the delay, this is not like us, please pardon us. There's an important meeting and we are running behind schedule OR can we offer you anything? We have juice, water, tea etcetera.

In case you are thinking my preceding paragraph is just fantasy and foreign culture, I do this whenever we have interviews and the superiors are running late. Sometimes, my thoughtful and considerate bosses, leave a meeting to personally apologize to candidates. How do you think that makes them feel and what sort of impression does it create?

If any of this was done, I won't feel so strongly about what happened. Respect is a two way street and should be mutual, I saw your first comment where you said this indomie generation is very disrespectful. I don't belong to that generation but most of the disrespect I have experienced in my life, has been from an older generation of people.

They often act with this superiority complex of, I am older than you. Therefore, you should respect me first and no matter how I act, you have no right to talk back or call me out. They don't respect their old age, they hardly respect others and when they get a dose of their own medicine, they start to shout all over the place announcing to everyone, how you disrespected them. Forgetting they first disrespected you and you only responded to them, the way they treated you.

Coming back to OP's matter, is it that hard to treat people the way we want to be treated? CEO or not? As a CEO you even endear yourself to people, when you are humble enough to apologize for things like these.

I don't have a problem with jobseekers who tolerate any kind of treatment during their job search, because I understand they need a pay cheque for survival. I just admire and applaud the ones who have healthy self esteem, self worth and place a premium on themselves, deciding what is acceptable and unacceptable, what they will and will not tolerate.

I didn't understand what you meant here - The next time, please stick to what you know and steer clear of what's beyond your capabilities. But, I understand that you and I, think differently about this. Which is fine with me and I engaged back because you kept it civil, without being insulting over a difference of opinions.

Klass99:


Dear Viper,

My "toxic" advice as you put it, is not for everyone. It applies to and will only make sense to people with the presence of mind to understand, this is not right. I shouldn't have to take this.

Just take it or you are weak/impatient, is a very bad premise people operate from and expect others to operate from, as well. Walking away is a sign of impressive strength, showing you have the presence of mind to............refer to what I said above, in paragraph one.

In all the time she was kept waiting, did anyone approach her to apologize for the delay or even offer her refreshment? It is common sense and good practice to say I/We are terribly sorry for the delay, this is not like us, please pardon us. There's an important meeting and we are running behind schedule OR can we offer you anything? We have juice, water, tea etcetera.

In case you are thinking my preceding paragraph is just fantasy and foreign culture, I do this whenever we have interviews and the superiors are running late. Sometimes, my thoughtful and considerate bosses, leave a meeting to personally apologize to candidates. How do you think that makes them feel and what sort of impression does it create?

If any of this was done, I won't feel so strongly about what happened. Respect is a two way street and should be mutual, I saw your first comment where you said this indomie generation is very disrespectful. I don't belong to that generation but most of the disrespect I have experienced in my life, has been from an older generation of people.

They often act with this superiority complex of, I am older than you. Therefore, you should respect me first and no matter how I act, you have no right to talk back or call me out. They don't respect their old age, they hardly respect others and when they get a dose of their own medicine, they start to shout all over the place announcing to everyone, how you disrespected them. Forgetting they first disrespected you and you only responded to them, the way they treated you.

Coming back to OP's matter, is it that hard to treat people the way we want to be treated? CEO or not? As a CEO you even endear yourself to people, when you are humble enough to apologize for things like these.

I don't have a problem with jobseekers who tolerate any kind of treatment during their job search, because I understand they need a pay cheque for survival. I just admire and applaud the ones who have healthy self esteem, self worth and place a premium on themselves, deciding what is acceptable and unacceptable, what they will and will not tolerate.

I didn't understand what you meant here - The next time, please stick to what you know and steer clear of what's beyond your capabilities. But, I understand that you and I, think differently about this. Which is fine with me and I engaged back because you kept it civil, without being insulting over a difference of opinions.

Klass99:


Thank you baby boy, I'm flattered and glad you think so.

@ Framed, thank you too for your comment.

Klass99:


Jesus, Mary and Joseph!

I don't know whether to be shocked or amused, right now. But, I am laughing as I type.

This is not about the sisterhood or gender alliance, if OP was male my reaction/response will be the same. This is about independent mindsets and kindred spirits or personas, for me.

In fact, I have applauded a male user on a different thread for doing a somewhat similar but slightly different thing, for personal reasons I already expressed in previous posts.

@ The bolded, I didn't miss that part at all but I didn't address it because in my mind she was truthful and made a matter of fact statement, in response to the MD. The truth hurts and no matter what tone of voice she delivered that truth about his lack of time consciousness/respect, the MD and majority of you would still say she was irresponsible and disrespectful. Why? Because the man is the MD or the MD is a man?

Sorry Viper, she wasn't irresponsible or disrespectful to me in that regard or any aspect of what happened. Sensible people, know to embrace feedback and they value the critical feedback the most, because that is how we get better and better.

If the MD falls within that category of people, then, when he is done being upset or mad about her "disrespect" he will take the feedback and work to improve himself and entire organization. Your kind of mindset about job searching/interviews, is the reason why a lot of employers continue to behave badly and mistreat candidates.

If he had a potential client waiting to see him, would he have kept that client waiting for so long? If a potential client is treated respectfully and his time is not wasted, why not a job candidate as well? Are both, not human beings worthy of respect? Or you think one has lesser value than the other?

Like I said, you and I think/feel differently about this. So, make we rest abeg! I grow weary of back and forth arguments these days, it really is a time wasting venture for me. But, I figured today will be an exception, however, I am done commenting.

Modified to add; I don't know if OP is female, I assumed she was. Because, she mentioned picking up a bag and leaving. It could have been a laptop bag belonging to a male, for all I know.

As for my years of work experience I am not a fresh graduate just starting out and I don't encourage nor advise fresh graduates to take BS or ill treatment in their job search. Las las they are free to do what they want, I will not choke them.

Klass99:


Thank you baby boy, I'm flattered and glad you think so.

@ Framed, thank you too for your comment.

Klass99:
Lmao . It is okay Viper, you can off your mic now.

No need to get worked up over a stranger's comment or mindset.

Keep your mindset and I'll maintain mine. Abeg rest, It is not a battle/war.

I am free to appreciate others for their compliments.

It has nothing to do with your ethics of job searching and job candidates.