Hi,

Let me go straight to the point because I am not good at writing long messages. My fiancé and I have been dating for 8 years now. Right from school and all. I studied pharmacy and my parents insisted on finishing my studies before marriage. We eventually got married and my parents gifted us a house in Banana Island.

Last year, I got pregnant and the plan was when I got to second trimester of my pregnancy, that  I will go to the US and stay until I have my baby. When I travelled, my husband asked if his friend can come stay with him in the house. The friend was having accommodation trouble and we have rooms downstairs that no one is occupying, my husband was saying he was lonely all by himself.

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So this his friend moved in and next thing, I started seeing this guy post pictures of my house like its his own on social media. He would bring girls into our house, my kitchen and I did not like that. I told my husband to warn his friend. He said he did and the photos stopped.

Next thing, this guy's girlfriend started cooking in the house and would give my husband to eat. Note, we have a male chef who we hired just before I travelled. It was the chef that told me that this girl was cooking and giving my husband. He even said she was was being too friendly with my husband.

When I confronted my husband, he told me not to encourage gossip from domestic staff. That I should trust him. I noticed after that anytime I ask the chef questions, its like he is afraid to tell me anything. I think my husband threatened him. I was quite worried. I spoke to my mom about it and she suggested installing secret CCTV cameras in the house. Initially, I was against it cos I knew my husband would think I was suspecting him but my mum said it would be done in such a way that he would never notice.

So one day when my husband was not around, in the guise of checking the water heater electricals, my mom sent experts to install CCTV smart gadgets with pin eyes in the house. You would never suspect anything was happening. So, from my iphone in US, I can see everything happening in my house in Lagos.

And to confirm my fears, I watched on CCTV how my husband was cheating on me with his friend's girlfriend. I do not know if the friend is aware but they were f*cking in my bedroom and my baby's nursery room which I was planning to decorate when I come back to Nigeria. I cried and cried ....watching the man that I loved for the past 8 years disgrace and betray me right in the house that my own parents gave us.

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I informed my parents of what happened. They were so mad, they got law enforcement and evicted everyone from the house including my husband. Since then, my husband has been begging me to forgive him, saying he is sorry...asking everyone in this world to beg me including his old mother whom I love so much.

My husband said its because we were not together and he was s3x starved for months. Well, what about me? Have I been having s3x all these while? what happened to being faithful for better or worse. And those telling me its normal for a man to be tempted especially when the wife is away, well, he should have taken a flight to US and come f*ck his wife instead...at least we can afford flight tickets abi?

The truth is, I love my husband so much...my parents even took him as their son. We have been through so much together for 8 years. Even when his father dies 4 years ago. I wonder why he could stoop so low to do this. I do not know if I can ever trust him again. My baby is due in February. I am so scared at the thought of raising this child alone.

Please, how do I ever forgive this man, how do I know for sure that he has truly   I file for a divorce? am so sad when I think of how things have turned. I need help.

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You are not good at writing long messages indeed.

This one na real neh abi na film

Well your husband is a cheat

Now back to what bothers

So because your parents are the wealthy ones that gifted the house to you. you came to install cctv in your house

Men out there
If you are not made financially
Leave women

Always strive hard to be breadwinner

If you can't be
Den don't marry
Cuz you will definitely regret it

The husband's friend should first leave the picture ... Then, come back to the husband's matter on the way forward.

Livelystones again. You're still concocting these your fake stories.

So because your parents bought house for you at Banana Island, you should dictate solely what happens in your house? Evicting your husband is a big insult and wasn’t the solution to his cheating. There are better ways to address his cheating on you and not evicting him. He can still continue cheating on you somewhere else na. Haba!!

And the SIMP of a husband was even begging to go back to the house? That wan na SIMP personified. Very shameful

What you should be after now is to relax and ensure safe delivery first to avoid giving your self blood pressure. Then when your through you can decide on what to do. To me that guy is ungratefull and he would still repeat same if care is not taking

The house was a wedding gift, meaning it probably has the couples name on it . Better be wise, for this is the perfect time for your parents to change the house documents to your name alone, hopefully this would be possible. Better focus on the pregnancy and stop crying, your life and baby is more important than the games your husband is playing. To continue or not with the marriage is your decision to make, don't ask the public.

I stopped reading when I saw READ ALSO. Stories that never happened! NEXT!

I have tried to ask google but I wasn't making head way..I will still keep on researching ....But For those who are seriously in IT, is it possible to install CCTV camera and monitor it outside the country?
Please, I don't want to hear my neighbor said it is possible kind of answer ...Just outside the country kind of monitoring only not domestic...If yah, it is possible.. what does it entail to do that...

Not that I was doubting the storyooo.. just curious for reference purposes...

Allowing his friend stay was the first no no. The friend did not see who else to squat with, that it is banana island he wanted to squat in.

Obviously, that kind of lifestyle was a big step up for him; from the taking pictures and showing off. He even had te guts to bring his girlfriend to stay in a married couple's home.

Your husband is the main culprit here as he allowed the nonsense and eventually joined in it.

What you choose to do at this point is really your choice. If you can truly know that he has changed, then you could give him another chance.

Richy4:
I have tried to ask google but I wasn't making head way..I will still keep on researching ....But For those who are seriously in IT, is it possible to install CCTV camera and monitor it outside the country?
Please, I don't want to hear my neighbor said it is possible kind of answer ...Just outside the country kind of monitoring only not domestic...If yah, it is possible.. what does it entail to do that...

Not that I was doubting the storyooo.. just curious for reference purposes...

Splendid observation Chief...
Let the computer gurus in the house come and enlighten us o ...

But lemme assume the thread is true and comment appropriately ...

I think you should do whatever you think is right for you, if you want to divorce him, fine, if you want to give him a second chance, that's fine too...

The man sef sha ...
You have enough money to go to the U.S and Nack your wife to your satisfaction,but no, you choose to sleep around ...

Beremx:
So because your parents bought house for you at Banana Island, you should dictate solely what happens in your house? Evicting your husband is a big insult and wasn’t the solution to his cheating. There are better ways to address his cheating on you and not evicting him. He can still continue cheating on you somewhere else na. Haba!!

And the SIMP of a husband was even begging to go back to the house? That wan na SIMP personified. Very shameful

And him cheating on her in their home isn't a big insult? If the roles were reversed I bet you'll call the guy a SImp if he allowed his wife to keep staying at his house.
Knowing you did wrong and begging for forgiveness isn't a weakness irrespective of gender.
Seriously though it's all these unfair treatments from the society that gave rise to toxic feminism.

Angel196:


And him cheating on her in their home isn't a big insult? If the roles were reversed I bet you'll call the guy a SImp if he allowed his wife to keep staying at his house.
Knowing you did wrong and begging for forgiveness isn't a weakness irrespective of gender.
Seriously though it's all these unfair treatments from the society that gave rise to toxic feminism.

she should have filed for divorce and the husband will respectfully leave the house. That’s a better way of addressing the issue. Throwing him out because she owns the house is wrong. If the man owned the house, would she have thrown him out? The man cheated on her, she should get a divorce!!

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I'm yet to know who is pregnany. Whether it's u or ur wife?

Beremx:
she should have filed for divorce and the husband will respectfully leave the house. That’s a better way of addressing the issue. Throwing him out because she owns the house is wrong. If the man owned the house, would she have thrown him out? The man cheated on her, she should get a divorce!!

That's one way to file for a divorce if you ask me. Though she wasn't the one who threw him out not that he didn't deserve it by the way.
If the roles were reversed would you have blamed the man for doing the same?

Dandicker:
Please help....We dated for 5 years, now we are planning our wedding- I particularly told her I don't want a big wedding. I told her I wanna spend one million for the wedding then I we use 1million to invest in business for her.... She insisted that she want a big wedding or else we should forget about the wedding plans. Pls how do I go about it?

Why not marry Basira that sells pap? She wont need excessive wedding and huge business startup

Richy4:
I have tried to ask google but I wasn't making head way..I will still keep on researching ....But For those who are seriously in IT, is it possible to install CCTV camera and monitor it outside the country?
Please, I don't want to hear my neighbor said it is possible kind of answer ...Just outside the country kind of monitoring only not domestic...If yah, it is possible.. what does it entail to do that...

Not that I was doubting the storyooo.. just curious for reference purposes...

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