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Love alone is not enough. Feelings are not enough. Being married is not the goal, but staying happily married is.

Nice one.

On point

Make sense.

But this can hardly be the case when one is in the union with an ulterior motive. There was a thread few weeks back, where a lady dumped her fiancé after he brought out a finance arrangement for the family.

If both partners genuinely loves each other, the absence of such arrangement wont lead to the termination of the union. But if there is no love, even when an arrangement is drawn without prejudice, it would not be followed. It's about the intent thereof.

pansophist:
Make sense.

But this can hardly be the case when one is in the union with an ulterior motive. There was a thread few weeks back, where a lady dumped her fiancé after he brought out a finance arrangement for the family.

If both partners genuinely loves each other, the absence of such arrangement wont lead to the termination of the union. But if there is no love, even when an arrangement is drawn without prejudice, it would not be followed. It's about the intent thereof.

Brilliant �

Invoke Almighty God to take over the Journey and sire all for You. You will be OK.

God is the Only Good.

DonroxyII:
Invoke Almighty God to take over the Journey and sire all for You. You will be OK.

God is the Only Good.

No wonder there are many broken homes.

MufasaLion:
No wonder there are many broken homes.

Dude, You know Nothing like John Snow. If to say na by our Brain, there wouldn't be any Broken Home. Upon the Brains in Western Europe, Marriage there is a facade you know Why

The God I mean is not the God as Defined by Nigerian Street, My Own God is the God of Super Uncommon Sense which You will need to Spearhead your Home.

DonroxyII:
Invoke Almighty God to take over the Journey and sire all for You. You will be OK.

God is the Only Good.

True, but to supplement the above, not as a stand alone. The point of our ability to think is to use it, and not leave all decisions for God to handle.

StoicAdvisor:
True, but to supplement the above, not as a stand alone. The point of our ability to think is to use it, and not leave all decisions for God to handle.

God will not make Decisions for you but supply you with the best info to make an Informed Decisions.

Many people do not even know what God is and How God Operate.

Op you are right,but most of the couples now don't discuss all this, I wonder what they do with their time. I guess that's why divorce is on the increase.

Blunttruth:
Op you are right,but most of the couples now don't discuss all this, I wonder what they do with their time. I guess that's why divorce is on the increase.

Its because lots of people see marriage as a place of romance, entitlement and for social pride, not also as a place for work, obligations and duty. A change in that mindset will reduce the upsurge of dysfunctional homes out there.

Also, people don't asked these questions because its a grey area that demands personal responsibility and accountability, traits that are not an hallmark for lots of people. Basically, marriage is an institution that reveals you to yourself, it's an epiphany where you get to find out about what you're made off. It could be painful, and liberating at the same time.

DonroxyII:
God will not make Decisions for you but supply you with the best info to make an Informed Decisions.

Many people do not even know what God is and How God Operate.

You know not everyone is a Christian right ? And people all around the world have wonderful marriages regardless of their beliefs system.

So you may consider the possibility of separating religion from this.

Lemme follow up

StoicAdvisor:
You know not everyone is a Christian right ? And people all around the world have wonderful marriages regardless of their beliefs system.

So you may consider the possibility of separating religion from this.

Religion, Most of you are just Ignorant and do not go beyond what White Men told You about Earth and Universe.

What Is Religion ?

Religion is just string of codes, Principles, Doctrines, Philosophies, Cultures, Norms that guides and Guard the daily life and Livelihood of a Man in relation to his fellow men, animals and Environment.

Religion is Your daily Ritual utilised to relate with your HumanHood. Whatever Religion you choose or created by yourself has it pros and cons .... The Pros are the God(Good) therein while the cons(devils/Deviation) are the Odds therein.

Religion is beyond Christian and Muslim.

Religion is what you do on a steady that guides your life on a Daily Basis.

StoicAdvisor:
Discuss bills, parenting styles, credits, debt, religion, how to deal with family, what beliefs will be instill in your children, childhood trauma, sexual expectations, partner expectations, financial expectations, family and mental health history, bucket list, dream home, careers and education, political views and whatever else comes to mind.

Love alone is not enough. Feelings are not enough. Being married is not the goal, but staying happily married is.

Yup!