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Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by jaxxy(m): 2:54pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Not when u marry her knowing she’s a student. Why don’t u just wait for her parents to finish training her like it’s supposed to be?? 1 Like |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Kobojunkie: 3:01pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
jaxxy:Again, there are no marriage rules that stipulate a man must take on responsibility of a woman's tuition and care if he marries her as a student. So you need to provide specifics as to where this idea or tradition of yours hails from. Wait for her parent's to finish what exactly? You say that as though the woman was forced into marriage or something. 4 Likes |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by jaxxy(m): 3:06pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Exactly. Reason I said he should send her back to her dad to finish her schooling like she’s supposed to. Then come back for her. Simple. That’s if another guy hasn’t done the needful while u were waiting oo. It’s an open market and free transfer once she lives ur house. 1 Like |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by pauladonis(m): 3:07pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Justkatty: Even after marriage bro... |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by pauladonis(m): 3:09pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Skyview01: Do you mean women are a burden? 1 Like |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by thorpido(m): 3:20pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:If you say?Can't you see in this case that that promise isn't made(or won't be held) judging by her father's stance? Indeed, marriage does not strip persons of their individual responsibilities but don't act like some don't take on more responsibilities in marriage.....either the man or woman. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Kobojunkie: 3:24pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
jaxxy:Why should he "send her back"? She can leave of her own if that is what she wants to do. And she knows the way back to the man when she is ready to face marriage as an individual, and not a liability. 1 Like |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Kobojunkie: 3:26pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
thorpido:Won't be kept why exactly? Most of you assume way too much where marriage is concerned. A marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. If the man has not agreed to taking responsibility for the woman's tuition and what not, such should not be assumed by any of the involved parties - third-parties included. You only take on as many responsibilities as you agree to....that is how marriage is designed to work, legally. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by thorpido(m): 3:32pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Assumptions you say? Why is the lady's father in this case assuming he will not continue paying his daughter's school fees? I agree with you Kobojunkie if you live abroad and make certain marriage decisions abroad(the other world you talk about). Marriage in Nigeria and Africa is largely decided by culture and traditions. There are ongoing changes to some of these things but for now they are heavily influenced by our culture and traditions. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Kobojunkie: 3:37pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
thorpido:My own parents were married in the very same Nigeria, Africa, you keep referring to and their marriage didn't come with the baggage you list. So you need to start by getting more specific about where in that jungle your ideas come from or belong. 1 Like |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by thorpido(m): 3:38pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:They married in Nigeria,now I ask you,did your father pay bride price or not? Depending on what part of Nigeria you come from,do you know there are those who married and had to train a relative of the wife as part of marriage contracts? Kobojunkie,please stop living in la la land except you sincerely do not know these things. Yea, the jungle is still Africa |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Nobody: 3:47pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
thorpido:He's sounding so westernized and forgetting that this is Africa 2 Likes |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Kobojunkie: 3:53pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
thorpido:My father did not pay any bride price for my mother this since they were both enlightened individuals from even back then. They were married over 40 years ago in that very same Nigeria you speak of. I am asking you here a simple question which is to specifically state what part of that country this marriage tradition you continue to claim comes from so I can better understand your culture. I am afraid I ain't the one here living in lala land since you are instead the individual here attempting to color all marriage agreements the same color when you law of the land as far as marriage is concerned does not include any of what you claim so far. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by ednut1(m): 3:56pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Only fools marry students lol |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Kobojunkie: 3:56pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Oh, I know it is Africa but not all African marriages dance to the same drum hence the reason why I suggest you specifiy the particular culture in question, this rather than make general claims as far as marriage is concerned. 1 Like |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Nobody: 3:57pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
ednut1:Don't type ignorantly, we have students that are happily married 1 Like |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by thorpido(m): 4:08pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:@bold,I will agree with your words since I wasn't there.I want to believe they told you this and not you assuming. I won't want to mention specific cultures(because I stay away from tribalism) but you can do your own research. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Kobojunkie: 4:11pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
thorpido:My folks have no reason to lies to me about such things. Then be sure to at least point out that your claims only apply as far as your particular culture is concerned, a culture which could in fact be different from that of the man and woman mentioned by the OP here. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Justkatty(f): 4:50pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
pauladonis:Not a bro Anyways your choice. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Truvelisback(m): 7:00pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Iyaebe:She, her father(if he is capable) and her husband would assist her. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by pauladonis(m): 7:03pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Justkatty: Sorry about that, I call everybody bro but default... |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Nobody: 7:50pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Truvelisback:Truvel how would you feel if you got married to a student and her father still pay her fees while she's staying and living under your roof |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by lykwhoishe: 7:50pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
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Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by lykwhoishe: 7:51pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Maybe the man saw shege during the marriage rites |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Nobody: 7:53pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
lykwhoishe:Not a good reason to stubbornly refused to perform his responsibility |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Truvelisback(m): 8:34pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Iyaebe:What if her father is more financially bouyant than i am? |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by yuping(m): 9:46pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
thorpido:you just like trouble, see the fine advice you give. |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by franchasng: 9:56pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Why then did he married her when he knew she is not done schooling? Na wa oh, nothing I no go see for this my new Mai Guard work |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Nobody: 9:58pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
franchasng:lol, he said it was an agreement between both of them to get married and taking charge of her schooling was not part of the agreement. When Oga turn gateman? lol |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by franchasng: 10:06pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Iyaebe:He is not serious, in fact him de kolo. I just resumed work last week, my employment letter started February. I needed the job to keep me busy and to spy on ladies in that estate, their ukwu can cos a man Parkinson, and i cant stay focused without seeing diff big ukwu |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
franchasng:lol your likeness for ukwu is out of this world,I really don't understand why guys get carried away on sighting a big one.lol |
Re: Who Takes Over The Schooling Responsibilities When A Lady Student Gets Married? by franchasng: 10:13pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Only God can answer that question sincerely The beauty of a woman is in her shape not really her face like many ladies think and waste their time on makeup |
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