They both need counselling if it's true.. Reason is the wife is traumatised while the Husband would never see her the same again

This has nothing to do with religion

Trymeagain:
its really not fair. this is when she needs him the most.

This when is most needed and assurance certain

As if she voluntarily submitted herself to be kidnapped

Maybe he's doing that due to the abundance of women to marry

Na WA o

Eyaaah... The truth be told, most kidnapped women (young n old) are always raped, with exception of only a few. It is only love and understanding that will help a man in this case.
Or it will be HATRED AND DIVORCE

I DON'T know if it is foolishness or illiteracy that will make a man reason this way abi is it in their religious law?

Aloof:
If he can't cope, let him divorce.

PERIOD

Aloof:
If he can't cope, let him divorce.

I agree otherwise he will maltreat the woman and she will suffer more mental torture.

Trymeagain:
its really not fair. this is when she needs him the most.

Abokis don't think this way oo. They're one way traffic . He knows he will get another woman for free from their village head. Women are of no value to them

Is it her fault that she was raped? Seems some men are mentally deranged. Someone he is supposed to love more and show support to...after 20 years?! . The man confusing dey confuse me

Reason why many of them take the decision to be a suicide bombers, they know there world will never accept them back, they believe there entire life has ended. God's love alone in this matter, it's unfortunate if they are not Christians. Any other religion or life outside Christ supports polygamy even if she is accepted, she may not be regarded as the wife any longer. God have mercy.

Something is seriously wrong with that man walai!

I am very sure he has been looking for an opportunity to divorce her and decided to use this one......You can't just divorce someone you've been with for 20yrs like that because you're suspecting she was raped. He should show the woman love and she would open up if it really happened or not, it's not her fault.

Even if she was raped he should put it behind him and move on instead of traumatizing the poor woman.

This is one of the reasons why most victims of rape in Africa don't speak out.....The society will start seeing them as aliens.

Nawa o.
Was it the woman's fault that she got raped? I hate to hear matters like this biko.

Abeg make una drop somethng for me make i use chop. E hard.

SIX-THREE-ONE-TWO-FOUR-FIVE-FIVE-SIX-NINE-SIX

Fidelity Bank

Maybe he found out that the thing has enlarged and gotten wider than he left it before she was kidnapped.
It is when they begin to do same to our Governors and Senators wives and daughters that they will act swiftly in dealing with banditry

Terrorism and banditry will destroy the North, unless they face the truth. You can not be grooming an army of poor, untrained, uneducated youths, and expect peace. They are willing tools for religious extremist, because they see themselves as one.

This is very hard...I understand the psychological effects on the man seeing his raped wife daily...but its not the wife's fault either.

Pls dont quick to judge anyone, if the man can't cope and endures psychologically then its not his fault either (but I pray and hope he does) ..instead of turning to a beast in the house which might even worse..

cococandy:


You think it’s only a Muslim man that will do such a thing? You have too much faith if that’s the case.
Just do a small survey of men of other religious leanings and see if they won’t do the same.
Additionally they might even add blame on the wife for “allowing” herself to be raped. Because apparently it’s better for them that she dies than for someone else to have intimate knowledge of her.
Don’t be shocked

Thank you! The average male, irrespective of religion would do the same.
Unfortunate situation though...

Aufbauh:
It's going to be very traumatic for the divorced wife.
Honestly it'll be a lifetime burden of guilt for the man also to keep recalling an obnoxious scenario of such if it really happens.

My own take is that the woman needs to open up if it actually happened and seek mutual counseling. Denying it will signify complicity.

Whether it Happened or not...Are the Bandist Devils? He should carry Out Necessary MEDICALS on the Wife to ascertain her Worthiness than to ignorantly and Foolishly Take to his Imbeciled and imperiled Decisions...,Pls.

Steep:
Probably has 3 extra wives and will soon marry more to fill the vacuum.

Women are slaves in Islam.

There is no religion that says man and woman are equal. Women are even slaves to men in Christianity too. However, most Christians are pro-West, so what happens in the US somehow tends to affect the entire Christendom.

Aufbauh:
It's going to be very traumatic for the divorced wife.
Honestly it'll be a lifetime burden of guilt for the man also to keep recalling an obnoxious scenario of such if it really happens. My own take is that the woman needs to open up if it actually happened and seek mutual counseling. Denying it will signify complicity.

Absolutely correct.

Kudos to him for taking the bold step...I can't have any man sharing my woman with me the thought alone makes me boil.

dre11:
Man Divorced Wife Of 20 Years Over Suspicion She Was Raped By Kidnappers In Kaduna, Former Senator Narrates



http://saharareporters.com/2022/02/10/man-divorced-wife-20-years-over-suspicion-she-was-raped-kidnappers-kaduna-former-senator

He should have been the one they kidnapped and not the woman

SmartPolician:


There is no religion that says man and woman are equal. Women are even slaves to men in Christianity too. However, most Christians are pro-West, so what happens in the US somehow tends to affect the entire Christendom.

In which part of the Bible did God mention women being slaves to men? The same bible that created EVE as an helpmate to Adam? Who would be a companion to him so he won’t be lonely.
You better go back to your Quran that said a man can marry 10 wives and paedophiles are accepted. Be doing comparisons where there is none.

bewla:
If you man enough and you don't want this to happen

Why you don't fight them to protect her from kidnap in the first place

Have you finished protecting yourself. Typng trash from your comfortzone

Offpoint1:
Way some people reason baffles me...

Imagine divorcing your partner of over 20 years when she needed you the most.
They should get that woman a therapist else she might end her life, that's too much of a trauma to go through

Not over 20years but of 20years. Am not surprised at his actions e get the way your wife go take fine and then kidnap her no way u no go reason say them no rape her

globalresource:

What if they dont

Those Rascals would do.

phoneport:
Eyaaah... The truth be told, most kidnapped women (young n old) are always raped, with exception of only a few. It is only love and understanding that will help a man in this case.
Or it will be HATRED AND DIVORCE

The kidnapped men too are always raped in their butthole most of the time. But no one is talking about that because they get killed after the act. Insecurity/government to be blamed for all

emmykk:
If you are a woman and happened to be kidnapped,there's no way those that kidnapped you will not be enjoying you while they wait for their Ransome.

As a woman when you are finally released you must tell your husband all that happened while in the den of kidnappers.
Which most importantly if you are slept with.

However as a man if your wife didn't tell you stories of what transpire which should include rogues slept with her, you should not counting it as crime against her but rather be grateful that she came back alive.

There is no woman in idiot den that will not be slept with. Beautiful or not beautiful.

It is better not tell me,i know the reason
So i dont really blame this man,some men just dont like someone else having sex with their wife

dre11:
Man Divorced Wife Of 20 Years Over Suspicion She Was Raped By Kidnappers In Kaduna, Former Senator Narrates



http://saharareporters.com/2022/02/10/man-divorced-wife-20-years-over-suspicion-she-was-raped-kidnappers-kaduna-former-senator

A very simple solution:
Don't beg the man, just give the woman a flat in Kaduna and N20million naira to do business. See how the husband will be begging Muslim clerics to undo his divorce.

Yeye man, he found an excuse to marry a 13 year old girl. Shio!!!

Nylonbag:
It is better not tell me,i know the reason
So i dont really blame this man,some men just dont like someone else having sex with their wife

So what is your take

emmykk:


So what is your take

As i said i dont blame the man because i wont be able to process it either,i just hope thief wont ever rape my wife because i wont be able to handle it,I detest dirt.