At the beginning of every relationship, it often seems that the laughter won’t stop, the joy will always go on; nothing can ever go wrong.Then the angels of love have brought you someone who will never wrong you.

Soon, the bubble bursts, the reality takes over. Your sweet angel is suddenly the devil’s messenger of Conflicts. Conflicts become frequent and the option to resolve them as many times as you could is always available.
Resolving conflicts in relationships multiple times, is the only option for those who are committed to a long term relationship.

Though resolution attempts will not always be successful but they often offer the opportunity to clear the river of dirts and debris. A young relationship is like a river flowing towards a larger body of water, the closer it gets to a bigger water, the fewer the dirts.

Conflict resolutions in relationships strengthen the bond. So, when there is a conflict in your relationship, avoid the following mistakes;

1. Don’t be defensive. Being self-opinionated and self-righteous are habits that erect walls. They are signs of pride. The “I didn’t do anything wrong” will shut your mind to reasons and the need to embrace the chance for a quick resolution.

The first step to resolving a relationship conflict is to drop your defenses and open your heart to take the blame and apologize when you realize you’re wrong.

In most conflict situations, apologizing as against holding your grounds, soften the heart and put out the fire in a surprisingly quicker way..

What’s is there to defend stubbornly without a moment to stop and think objectively?

A relationship is not a competitive sport, it’s a never ending journey made by two to find the happiness that is difficult to have without one another. A relationship is not a union between rivals. And, happiness and incessant conflicts are strange bedfellows.

2. Try not to be evasive. These words, “Let’s talk” shouldn’t remind you of an urgent meeting, an urgent work, deadlines to meet and other reasons not to find an immediate solution to a problem.

Take the bull by the horns and face it head on. Every other thing can wait while you resolve issues in your relationship. This is very important, as your relationship is the heart of a balanced life.

Evasion of an opportunity that may resolve a conflict in a relationship is dangerous. The consequence is leaving a crisis to fester, produce awkward moments and allowing the relationship to teeter on the brink of a breakup.

3. When there is a conflict, walking away from the relationship shouldn’t be the first option.
Don’t walk away without exhausting all options available to resolve the conflict.

A relationship is not a bed of roses. It’s a beautiful garden of roses but blighted here and there by occasional ugliness. The magic in relationships comes alive when humility and understanding are given space and time to turn ugliness to beauty.

4. Don’t change your personality. When there’s a conflict, you may want to change, to shape into the image that you think is expected of you by your partner. But this will be a mistake. Don”t live a lie just to keep a relationship.

A relationship is not for chameleons , it’s for real human beings who stay faithful to themselves and to their partners at all times. So, always and always be yourself. Always have it in front of you, that you were loved in the first place for who you are and not for what you are.
If you’re convinced that faking your personality is the solution, don’t forget about the worst that would happen when truth eventually triumps.


https://ayietim.com/2021/07/19/11-conflict-resolution-mistakes-in-relationships/

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