InTheCloudySky:
The whole asking for money thing was too much. I've never in my life asked a guy for money nor will I, but then again I didn't grow up with that mentality. I won't blame her completely though, because Nigerian men do love being Nigerian women's ATMs, so they're like this because of y'all.

Haha.

You gave her your ATM and pin? What if something went wrong? As in she played you big time? Nawa oooooooo

Truvelisback:
SIMPle Interest. Pls, somebori should find the SIMPle Interest of #5000, 1500 in 2days

the rate is unknown?


I=P×R×T

Crystalsweetnes:
What she did was wrong but you also have your fault, you should have given she some cash to cook even before you got to her place. If you had sent at least that 5k to her to cook, you won't need to spend money on food again. Please talk to her and let her now how you feel. I wonder why people judge before really getting to know them. You don't really know her, so don't judge her by this action/inaction.

Omo! This double standard is on another level

@OP You can just send her somrthing since you already promised.. maybe later you can now bear your mind on the 3.5k deduction.

Godoverevery:
This not a thread to bash women......just to enlighten them why sometimes your actions knowingly or unknowingly can make a guy ghost you.

So this particular lady we met at a wedding and exchanged contact, we stay in different state....we had been chatting for more than a year now but didn't see.
This month a agricultural seminar took me to the state she residing so i pre informed her earlier about my coming and she said I can stay at her place for the two days.
The first night I had to buy food for both of us.
On the second day she requested I spare her some cash for transport to work.....I gave her 1k.
In the evening she requested I give her money to make sauce for rice......I asked what does she need to get ooo.
She said just one Titus fish and small pepper that she had every other thing at home.

I gave her my atm card to withdraw 5k for me and she should remove money for the fish and pepper inside but shockingly she came back and gave me 1500 as my change.

Me in my mind I was expecting her to spend 1500 out the 5k for one fish and pepper but she spent 3500.
When I was leaving she requested I gave her money so I told her not to worry I will transfer to her which I wasn't going to do.....ever since this lady have been disturbing me with calls and text but am not replying.

I felt it very wrong of her to have spent that much on just a fish and pepper in a place like ijebu ode.

Note ÷ I didn't have anything sexual with her in the two days

So nairalander should I keep on ghosting her or I should just pour out my mind to her.

You're just a broke Man.
As a man, you should be generous with your cash.

Well, for me. It's the lady that ends up spending on me. Not because I'm broke but because the lady loves me.

Well in my own opinion, I think giving her money to cook is not too much. I'm not in support of she asking him for Tfare and others but to cook is not too much. I'm surr if he gave her 5k to cook, she won't have the gut to ask him for Tfare.

Vanzcharles:


Hmmmmmnnn if she was coming over to his house, would you had advised she send the guy money just because she would be in need of urgent accommodation?

That's my challenge with ladies who don't try to do well for themselves, mostly depending on the guy, who's not married to her yet to fulfill marriage needs. Kai God will help us.

Crystalsweetnes:
Well in my own opinion, I think giving her money to cook is not too much. I'm not in support of she asking him for Tfare and others but to cook is not too much. I'm surr if he gave her 5k to cook, she won't have the gut to ask him for Tfare.

The issue isn't the money but the pure greed she showed.....had it been she bought something worth of the 3500 I won't be pissed off but 1 small fish and small pepper for 3500 is ridiculous.....Even if she wants to make chicken sauce she can't spend 3500.

odinson1:
You men don't listen!

You gave her an inch but she took a mile,women are not your friends my dear men.

The reality is that they take advantage of nice Guys like you who always want to prove that you are men by spending your hard earned money on them.

Any man who read this and do not learn from it, whatever you see from any woman who take advantage of you later, just take it like that becaus nobody send u message...

Godoverevery:
This not a thread to bash women......just to enlighten them why sometimes your actions knowingly or unknowingly can make a guy ghost you.

So this particular lady we met at a wedding and exchanged contact, we stay in different state....we had been chatting for more than a year now but didn't see.
This month a agricultural seminar took me to the state she residing so i pre informed her earlier about my coming and she said I can stay at her place for the two days.
The first night I had to buy food for both of us.
On the second day she requested I spare her some cash for transport to work.....I gave her 1k.
In the evening she requested I give her money to make sauce for rice......I asked what does she need to get ooo.
She said just one Titus fish and small pepper that she had every other thing at home.

I gave her my atm card to withdraw 5k for me and she should remove money for the fish and pepper inside but shockingly she came back and gave me 1500 as my change.

Me in my mind I was expecting her to spend 1500 out the 5k for one fish and pepper but she spent 3500.
When I was leaving she requested I gave her money so I told her not to worry I will transfer to her which I wasn't going to do.....ever since this lady have been disturbing me with calls and text but am not replying.

I felt it very wrong of her to have spent that much on just a fish and pepper in a place like ijebu ode.

Note ÷ I didn't have anything sexual with her in the two days

So nairalander should I keep on ghosting her or I should just pour out my mind to her.

Ghosting is childish. You should have spoken up that time. Have a long conversation with her, speak your mind. Mind you, these things are best done gave to face cos of misrepresentation

Just let her know how you feel. If she is remorseful, fine if not at least you've know this part of her and know how to deal with her next time. She might be broke and scared of opening up to you. The thing wey person dey read for here sef go make person fear to ask for help from guys.

BABYharder:

Omo! This double standard is on another level

. No bi double standard at all, infact when you are going to stay with anybody no matter how short the say maybe, courtesy demands you contribute something no matter how small.