Hi fam. Please help me look into this to know if I’m overthinking/reacting. I couldn’t use my main account in order not to reveal my identity.
There’s this guy who has been my friend on Facebook for years now although we got to know in the days of eskimi. To cut the long story short we exchanged contact on my last birthday which was December. He asked i be his girlfriend but i told him to give me time to think about it, i was feeling reluctant to accept because we’re mate although he told me he is 27 and i told him I’m 29 and told me the 27 he sent was typo because he replied through pop up message that he is also 29, i let that slide although it was a red flag to me. We started dating and i liked him then we finally met. I thought I’ve met my soulmate but i was having feelings that he was seeing someone else. He prefers to chat than call i do the calling instead. I always complain on our lack of communication but he will say it’s work he graduated as a pharmacist in year 2020 although that’s his second degree. He goes to eork by 12 noon and returns late in the night and works Monday to Saturday although he said i should give him till March when he gets a new job if there’s no change i can quit the relationship, i tried to endure it but i have this strong feeling that he has another relationship(s) but he will tell me im overthinking. During valentine day, he didn’t bother to wish me happy valentine and i too purposely didn’t wish him and we were meant to see the next day, when i mentioned it to him in the night when we spoke he said he doesn’t count valentine as anything i wanted a breakup that day even with the prophecy of a guy using my glory i was scared of going to his place but i took the risk and went to his place the next day, first thing i saw was a box of domino pizza and when i asked him, he told me someone brought it for him and he ate it with his flatmates. When he went to do something outside the room, i looked on the bedside table, i saw his comb with strands of hair which belongs to a lady and when i asked him he said his flatmate borrowed it for his girlfriend to use truth be told i wasn’t comfortable with the answer he gave he even said he will call his friend on phone to ask, i let that slide. Last two weeks Saturday i paid him an unannounced visit because i didn’t hear from his through out the previous day and i was scared if something might have happened to him. I got to his place his friend opened the door after several knocks and i asked him about my boyfriend he said he was home, so i went to his door and knocked several times but no response even his friend knocked too still no response then we concluded that he might have left home but i had this conviction that he was inside because i got there around 7:30am. We tried his number he didn’t pick up, when i decided to go i tried his number again and luckily he pick and told me he was inside i was shocked with all the knocks on the door this guy didn’t hear hmmm i told him i was in their sitting room and he came out, i was hoping to see a girl with him but i was disappointed. When i got in i tried to relax while he when to the rest room. I checked his bedside table and saw a female wrist watch when i asked him he said a girl left it in his friend’s car so he kept it gor her. The bed spread looked dirty and had a kind of smell i decided to change it and in the cause of changing it, i saw dried whitish stuff on the bedspread which i believe to be sperm, when i looked behind the side table i saw postinor2 without the tablet in it and when i looked under the bed i saw sex lubricant, when i checked his wardrobe, i saw two bottles of alcohol behind his clothes imagine someone who said he doesn’t take alcohol.after discovering all there, i felt my world has ended. When he came in and i confronted his with all what i saw. For the postinor2 he said it has expired when wanted to see what it looks like when it’s expired and this drug expired February.For the lubricant he didn’t say anything then and for the alcohols he said the previous occupant left them so he kept them as evidence to show the landlord who he said is a pastor that doesn’t like tenants that take alcohol in his compound. I was like what kind of person does this guy take me for. After i left, i told he we should breakup that i don’t think it can work between us, in the middle of our discussion, he told me he used the lubricant on me the previous time we met i was shocked and angry to be honest i was scared of having sex with him that day because of the prophecy given to me even him too told me about how someone told him that the fair lady he is dating is a witch and he shouldn’t have sex with me because i will take his destiny but he still had sex with me because he loves me lol. Sincerely speaking since he used that lubricant on me ive been feeling strange inside of me as if something is biting me. I don’t know what to think anymore. So many things to say but i don’t want to take your timeWe re still in contact but have broken up
Please kindly push to front page i will be waiting to read your opinion

This your story long but I go analyze am as much as I can. These are my observations:
1. The guy may love you sha, but he dey "likely" cheat on you.
2. The guy dey lie but we all know say whoever we love, we must lie to them atimes so as not to hurt their feelings.
3. No dey too chewingum your partner, give am small space.
4. You be very jealous lover and it's OK, but no too dey put expectation for relationship because anything can happen. Hence, relationship no get warrantee. Just pray for the best while expecting the worse
5. You dey 29yrs abi? No ever let the society put pressure on you say you go soon turn evening newspaper. In essense, don't settle for less.
6. I know say you may not like this but particular advise, but take it from me. ALWAYS HAVE A PLAN B IN EVERYTHING.
I no talk say make you dey fvck about ooooo, but a plan B is never a bad thing, ask wise men
7. No give am sex again!!! You read that right. But if you must give am, go on protection
8. Stop been too sensitive. When you dey with am, forget about little details like "searching to see another woman's wear bla bla bla"
9. My dear, it take very few mature guys to marry their age mates oooo. This na bitter truth wey nobody go tell you. As una be 29/29, the chances say una go marry dey very slim. Guys dey feel say babes wey don dey old don fight many bedroom battles, hence dem no wan marry community project
10. Focus on getting yourself better. Whatever Oluwa say E go happen must happen. No carry relationship for head like job, hence you go dey disappointed. 95% of guys out there na fvck boys and 98% of babes out there na cheerful givers/cooperate olosho.
11. Stop to dey wakabout for prophecies.
12. Treat your infection, nothing spiritual about it

I believe say this na the only time I don ever dey nice to a lady on this forum, that shows you're blessed.


I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "marriage no get expiry date ooooo. Don't be pressured to accept nonsense all in the name of marriage"

What kind of nonsense long epistle is this?
Y'all should learn how to summarize your post!

OP, so what exactly do you want us to do na? Because this thing you wrote here has no meaning at all.

Run as long as your legs can carry you whenever you perceive some insecurities and lies from a partner.He sees you as an unintelligent lady hence the childish and cheap lies.Ladies please don’t joke with your life around these ritualistic generation of men,they are heartless and will do anything for money.Avoid premarital sex if you wish to be on the safer side,the risk is too much for someone that isn’t your husband.

Next episode, pls.

Truvelisback:
Next episode, pls.

Truvel are this heartless?

Truvelisback:
Next episode, pls.

I swear. Headache sef hold me while trying to read that crap.

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I swear. Headache sef hold me while trying to read that crap.
If you have nothing to contribute keep shut.

Iyaebe:
Run as long as your legs can carry you whenever you perceive some insecurities and lies from a partner.He sees you as an unintelligent lady hence the childish and cheap lies.Ladies please don’t joke with your life around these ritualistic generation of men,they are heartless and will do anything for money.Avoid premarital sex if you wish to be on the safer side,the risk is too much for someone that isn’t your husband.

Thanks

[quote author=Cleopetra1 post=111024975][/quote]

You're indeed dull and senseless just like your post. Werey!

GooodHardDick:
What kind of nonsense long epistle is this?
Y'all should learn how to summarize your post!

OP, so what exactly do you want us to do na? Because this thing you wrote here has no meaning at all.

I had to be explicit. You don’t have to spew trash if it makes no meaning to you

Lalami3232:
This your story long but I go analyze am as much as I can. These are my observations:
1. The guy may love you sha, but he dey "likely" cheat on you.
2. The guy dey lie but we all know say whoever we love, we must lie to them atimes so as not to hurt their feelings.
3. No dey too chewingum your partner, give am small space.
4. You be very jealous lover and it's OK, but no too dey put expectation for relationship because anything can happen. Hence, relationship no get warrantee. Just pray for the best while expecting the worse
5. You dey 29yrs abi? No ever let the society put pressure on you say you go soon turn evening newspaper. In essense, don't settle for less.
6. I know say you may not like this but particular advise, but take it from me. ALWAYS HAVE A PLAN B IN EVERYTHING.
I no talk say make you dey fvck about ooooo, but a plan B is never a bad thing, ask wise men
7. No give am sex again!!! You read that right. But if you must give am, go on protection
8. Stop been too sensitive. When you dey with am, forget about little details like "searching to see another woman's wear bla bla bla"
9. My dear, it take very few mature guys to marry their age mates oooo. This na bitter truth wey nobody go tell you. As una be 29/29, the chances say una go marry dey very slim. Guys dey feel say babes wey don dey old don fight many bedroom battles, hence dem no wan marry community project
10. Focus on getting yourself better. Whatever Oluwa say E go happen must happen. No carry relationship for head like job, hence you go dey disappointed. 95% of guys out there na fvck boys and 98% of babes out there na cheerful givers/cooperate olosho.
11. Stop to dey wakabout for prophecies.
12. Treat your infection, nothing spiritual about it

I believe say this na the only time I don ever dey nice to a lady on this forum, that shows you're blessed.


I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "marriage no get expiry date ooooo. Don't be pressured to accept nonsense all in the name of marriage"

Thanks for taking your time to read through and i really appreciate your opinion.

GooodHardDick:


You're indeed dull and senseless just like your post. Werey!

You’re very stupid for quoting me. Of all names to give yourself you chose that it show’s how useless and hopeless you’re

Cleopetra1:

You’re very stupid for quoting me. Of all names to give yourself you chose that it show’s how useless and hopeless you’re

What a stupid girl you are!

A 29 years old evening newspaper without brain. Your post is highly poor, unorganized, no spacing, no paragraphs, nothing nothing at all, too much repetition of lines. Instead of editing that nonsense crap you wrote up there, you decided to attack and insult guys here.

Your must be extremely stupid, what an idiot you are! You're too dull, immature and highly senseless

Verily verily I say unto you

Baby girl Op, So many big red flags , but because age is no longer by your side, desperation kicks in

Have a plan B cos Honestly I don't see this going anywhere unless you want to force it and regret later

Dress nice , smile, look good and go out often. Let him see the positive changes in you

Don't force the relationship oo , Let him prove that he deserve you .

Have expectations and standards ( Dont set unreasonable standards oo) and if he can't meet up dump
him

I'm sure the guys pocket is loaded If not you will have dump him.


My one cent ooo but all the way do what is best for you because na you really know what sup for you

Iyaebe:
Truvel are this heartless?

I'm not heartless, i have just learnt to use my heart less.

GooodHardDick:


What a stupid girl you are!

A 29 years old evening newspaper without brain. Your post is highly poor, unorganized, no spacing, no paragraphs, nothing nothing at all, too much repetition of lines. Instead of editing that nonsense crap you wrote up there, you decided to attack and insult guys here.

Your must be extremely stupid, what an idiot you are! You're too dull, immature and highly senseless

I put it to you that when it comes to intelligence, you’re no match to me. If not that you’re a nonentity you will understand that i typed out of emotional imbalance. Only wanted people’s opinion and a buffoon like you is busy looking for errors. If you wanna show off your literacy why not go into lecturing, even wole shoyinka wouldn’t use derogatory language on people. Please show what you have acquired with you ‘English’. Once again i can beat my hand on my chest and tell you that your IQ is no match for me so get lost. Looking for errors. I already know what is going on in my relationship, i only brought it here to know if I’m overthinking as he claimed. Again, i hope all your sisters that’s if you have any got married between 18-25 if not, they fall under evening newspaper. ANIMAL

Lalami3232:
This your story long but I go analyze am as much as I can. These are my observations:
1. The guy may love you sha, but he dey "likely" cheat on you.
2. The guy dey lie but we all know say whoever we love, we must lie to them atimes so as not to hurt their feelings.
3. No dey too chewingum your partner, give am small space.
4. You be very jealous lover and it's OK, but no too dey put expectation for relationship because anything can happen. Hence, relationship no get warrantee. Just pray for the best while expecting the worse
5. You dey 29yrs abi? No ever let the society put pressure on you say you go soon turn evening newspaper. In essense, don't settle for less.
6. I know say you may not like this but particular advise, but take it from me. ALWAYS HAVE A PLAN B IN EVERYTHING.
I no talk say make you dey fvck about ooooo, but a plan B is never a bad thing, ask wise men
7. No give am sex again!!! You read that right. But if you must give am, go on protection
8. Stop been too sensitive. When you dey with am, forget about little details like "searching to see another woman's wear bla bla bla"
9. My dear, it take very few mature guys to marry their age mates oooo. This na bitter truth wey nobody go tell you. As una be 29/29, the chances say una go marry dey very slim. Guys dey feel say babes wey don dey old don fight many bedroom battles, hence dem no wan marry community project
10. Focus on getting yourself better. Whatever Oluwa say E go happen must happen. No carry relationship for head like job, hence you go dey disappointed. 95% of guys out there na fvck boys and 98% of babes out there na cheerful givers/cooperate olosho.
11. Stop to dey wakabout for prophecies.
12. Treat your infection, nothing spiritual about it

I believe say this na the only time I don ever dey nice to a lady on this forum, that shows you're blessed.


I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "marriage no get expiry date ooooo. Don't be pressured to accept nonsense all in the name of marriage"

You ma drop your own long epistle too.. You try very great analysis


Since ino fit drop long note idecided to quote you !!!!


Na mumu dey under your post!

That dude can lie for Africa and the world at large. Dear OP, is he related to any minister of information?

Ocholu:
That dude can lie for Africa and the world at large. Dear OP, is he related to any minister of information?

Lol. I’m surprised how he tells lies with ease

Cleopetra1:
I put it to you that when it comes to intelligence, you’re no match to me. If not that you’re a nonentity you will understand that i typed out of emotional imbalance. Only wanted people’s opinion and a buffoon like you is busy looking for errors. If you wanna show off your literacy why not go into lecturing, even wole shoyinka wouldn’t use derogatory language on people. Please show what you have acquired with you ‘English’. Once again i can beat my hand on my chest and tell you that your IQ is no match for me so get lost. Looking for errors. I already know what is going on in my relationship, i only brought it here to know if I’m overthinking as he claimed. Again, i hope all your sisters that’s if you have any got married between 18-25 if not, they fall under evening newspaper. ANIMAL

No one cares if you're over thinking or not because you're a fooool. People who type out of emotional imbalance type with their senses and brains and not this rubbish you wrote. Werey!

I'm sure you don't even know what paragraphs, spacing and repetition of lines means. What a an idiot newspaper you are. From the rubbish you wrote up there, it was very clear that all you could offer that young man was your over used pussy!!! And you're here ranting. Idiot.

It's a good thing that guy dumped you asap and move on with his life. You're extremely stupid and a brainless f©©l. What a dull and foolish evening newspaper you are!

GooodHardDick:


No one cares if you're over thinking or not because you're a fooool. People who type out of emotional imbalance type with their senses and brains and not this rubbish you wrote. Werey!

I'm sure you don't even know what paragraphs, spacing and repetition of lines means. What a an idiot newspaper you are. From the rubbish you wrote up there, it was very clear that all you could offer that young man was your over used pussy!!! And you're here ranting. Idiot.

It's a good thing that guy dumped you asap and move on with his life. You're a complete stupid old newspaper.

Lol. What i can offer your sisters and girlfriend can never offer in their relationships.If not that you’re a frustrated individual you would have skipped the post and act mature instead of disgracing yourself. I won’t respond to you anymore because you sound like fresh out of school who wants to display youthful exuberance. Shuu run along and get a life.

fikayormi:
Verily verily I say unto you

Baby girl Op, So many big red flags , but because age is no longer by your side, desperation kicks in

Have a plan B cos Honestly I don't see this going anywhere unless you want to force it and regret later

Dress nice , smile, look good and go out often. Let him see the positive changes in you

Don't force the relationship oo , Let him prove that he deserve you .

Have expectations and standards ( Dont set unreasonable standards oo) and if he can't meet up dump
him

I'm sure the guys pocket is loaded If not you will have dump him.


My one cent ooo but all the way do what is best for you because na you really know what sup for you

Thanks for the comment. In regards to money, ive never received a dime from him and looking good? he knows ive got A1 in that area. I will take your advice. Thanks once more.