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Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by pocohantas(f): 9:43pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
UyaiIncomparabl: They don’t want the legal wife to dig, but they would be paying rent and buying wig for undergraduate girls. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by DoctorOlasDesk: 10:10pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
RichGal: Can I have your attention ? |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by DoctorOlasDesk: 10:14pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
UyaiIncomparabl: I no say you no well before |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:21pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
pocohantas: LOL @agbalumo breast. Last paragraph is everything! It's the girls I hope will have sense, because this men absolutely know what they're doing. If he doesn't do stuff for you, sis, leave. He's not motivated enough to show you that he cares, to be the significant man in your life; or he's certified stingy. Because it's not about whether or not he has money. A man who cares would always do what he can within his capacity to be felt. He'll send you the occasional 3k, and buy you 5h airtime, and take you to the spots he can afford to. Because really, if the man who's worth 10m does 20k worth of stuff to you, there's nothing special in that. But he who's worth 200k, and does 20k worth, is significantly making allowances for you. That's another thing women need to understand. ************** And truthfully, this goes both ways. A woman who prioritises, and cares about you would spend her resources on you, too. Only that with women, the modalities are slightly different. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:24pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
kayperry: I think we're saying the same thing. |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by kayperry: 11:09pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
PrimadonnaO: I almost felt the same way, buh your last words made me realise probably we are in the same book but definitely not on the same page. "When I see a man who doesn't do that, I abort mission mentally" as far as marriage is concern, nobody can tell for sure what they are walking into ... most men change after marriage cos we are completely relaxed buh the ongoing rosy, funky expectations women carry into marriage is why most homes are broken. as a wife men expect you to manage that was qualifies a woman as a good wife |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by PrimadonnaO(f): 11:23pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
kayperry: When a person changes from what they used to be, I won't beat myself over it. As a matter of fact, change is inevitable. People will grow and evolve and certain things about them will change within marriage. Everyone should reasonably understand that and be prepared for such situations. But there's an essence to people that would not easily change. A man who has a strong sense of responsibility to his family would not wake up one day, and simply become irresponsible and stop providing for his family. No. If he has fallen on tough times, and is unable to do certain things, that's perfectly understandable. He'd most certainly not even be comfortable about the situation. He'd be doing his best to get back up on his feet, so he can step up to his responsibilities fully once again. But to see a man who from the get-go never showed a sense of responsibility, and I still went ahead to marry him, expecting that something about being married would change him, is to simply be joker. |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by kayperry: 5:56am On Mar 31, 2022 |
PrimadonnaO: its a complex topic buh the way you explain in an easy-to-understand way depict "astuteness" and the thrill for me was how you technically filter her chaffs from your seeds most gurls here would have fell for it i hope its not to late to say we are on the same page 1 Like |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by kushme: 8:56pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Sorry fine gel, but I ain't giving you my quarter. Anyway,men will still give money to the bitttchees, Fvckkkk dem with our guts out, leave a hundred bux even if they don't want it, just make them feel like ashawo before we bounce. |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by poik(m): 2:01am On Apr 07, 2022 |
eazzzy1: This guy, oil dey your head. Like you pointed out, this is an example of the picture when things go south for a man. I am willing to bet an arm that this tale is not exactly the way she is narrating it, in intensity, in pure, chronological and raw truth as it happened. I have a family that I helped run errands during my job seeking days that makes this story come so close to home:very similar scenarios.Man is a govt contractor who gets small small things once in a while. Woman even sources contracts for him from their NGO and other sources where she has influence. Man says he is more interested in business and is handling high profile partnerships with state governments which clearly will take longer than patience to materialize, but will surely do. Yes, the wife complains to me at times, but her love for him is undying. Point is, I know exactly how a virtuous woman would behave at times like this, which is not exactly an isolated case for most men in the current Nigeria. She married him a virgin and would never dream of cheating. All I can take from this is that the position of being in a providing stance for a family is never a woman's place. Where it happens and it is an anomaly, as shown in what we are reading here: I can imagine that man coming to social media to rant if roles were reversed. God, please help men. It's not easy o!! 2 Likes |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by TheCongo2: 4:12am On Apr 07, 2022 |
CountVersailles: Are you Yoruba |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by eazzzy1(m): 2:33pm On Apr 07, 2022 |
poik: Lol na so o. Women will say I stayed with him when he had nothing, when he became rich he wanted someone else. Just mere existing in close proximity isn’t ‘staying’ with someone. This is the perfect time to prove ride or die chick but I guess she doesn’t believe he can get up anymore. Is it not better if the man was alone? at least the only thing making him sad would be his joblessness not this current situation of being hit on double frontiers. I hope he rises again. 1 Like |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by Raalsalghul: 6:44pm On Apr 07, 2022 |
PrimadonnaO: The above statement, is it for a girlfriend or a wife? |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by Mryacks: 7:14pm On Apr 07, 2022 |
First, pls forgive yourself about your decision of marrying the man. You can't turn back the hand of time now. Don't feel bad about ur past choices just look towards the future. Be kind to yourself. Focus on your current reality. Calm down and try to find a reasonable solution to the issues raised ok.. |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by Eketem: 7:33am On Apr 08, 2022 |
RichGal: Good morning RichGal, one thing I notice is you if ignore all suggestions of professional marriage counseling which Kobojunkie has been stating consistently. Why do you not want to speak to a professional as a family and see if this can work? If you do not get a professional involved you will keep moving in circles believe me. Marriage counseling is not for pastor's. There are professional counselor's if you need reference you can ask for. Your relationship has issues you may need an unbiased partner to review and guide you through. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by IceColdVeins(m): 2:47pm On Apr 12, 2022 |
bukatyne:Which ever it is, she can now clearly experience what most men go through. But it’s fine, we are naturally generous to whom we love |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by NoToPile: 5:04pm On Apr 12, 2022 |
IceColdVeins: Do men do the total provision and primary caregiver? That's the questiin Men do not go through what you quoted. |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 12:52am On Apr 30, 2022 |
sisisioge: Ah you know them oh Yoruba men will show you pepper Even Yoruba women don't want Yoruba men unless he's Muslim , the Muslims are the nice ones but if you're a Christian it will hang because it can't lead to marriage Yoruba men are irresponsibly and arrogantly selfish , always hunting for an independent woman , even at 19 they expect you to be independent and they still want your love , loyalty and respect |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 1:05am On Apr 30, 2022 |
IceColdVeins: May you experience labour and period cramps , may you carry a child in your belly for 9 months while still moving around on swollen feets , may you breastfeed a child till you faint from exhaustion , may your breast swell up in pain as your child has no appetite , may you be up at night with no hope for rest during the day , may you carry a baby to work May you cook , clean , bath the babies , and still go to work and come back and proceed to repeat the same process You will experience pain in all parts of your body for 5 days a month You shall feel your manhood contract painfully every month and when you walk you'll think your intestines want to fall out When you use the toilet you'll think your intestines want to fall out When you pee you'll feel pain but you're not sick so no medicine for you You'll purge 3 days every month and you'll feel pain In the end of everything noone will console you , rather they'll prey on you and tell you that you're not the first so endure Even if it's just a nightmare , I pray you experience what it really feels like to be a WOMAN , if you knew you'd go and look for your mother but the sad and brutal truth is that YOU WILL NEVER KNOW |
Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by IceColdVeins(m): 10:30am On Apr 30, 2022 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:Too many words, yet no atom of sense made
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Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by Graxie(f): 4:40pm On Apr 30, 2022 |
Ndi virtuous, I hope you are learning. Most lazy men in abuja are church goers. Speaking in tongues thieves. Ladies shine your eyes, no excuse for laziness. Aboki men dey sell okro, tomatoes and even pepper just to make ends meet. But my portfolio "heaven candidates" are always at newspaper vendor stand for berger junction, arguing osibanjo and buhari. As for you poster, you can't win this war. Not in Nigeria, just assume that you are a widow. Your pastor will not help, in fact he will turn you to ATM machine. Better hide yourself from pulpit bandit. All the best. 1 Like |
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