ExcelDBM:


Head of house that is abused or sometimes deposed of his status? I have no pity for men who allow their wives to control their homes when they're there shouldering expenses. A man will feed, clothe, house, fund a women till eternity without making noise and will still endure abuse but the moment a wife pays a bill then even the creatures in the deepest part of the Pacific Ocean will hear her voice. Be using words like "I deserve to be taken care of" "I deserve to be pampered" "i deserve to be treated like a woman" yet with all her artificial nails and whatever will refuse to do her responsibilities with flimsy excuses, wh0re around and at the end of the day allow the innocent man father a child or children of another man or men. Look at Will Smith for example.

cococandy:
Any day nairaland men are not crying about girls and women, is that even a real day? Did the sun even rise? Always super obsessed. Eesh

ukaface:
so in the case of will smith, Jada is to be blamed for his stupidity? Jada made it obvious that she didn't love him, still he keeps going on with her, and you are blaming her?
Na you know where you dey meet this kine women o

odinson1:

The marriage rate is declining yearly,more men who gain more in marriage (according to you),are opting out for their Peace of mind and freedom.
Now i ask again,what do you gain in marriage that i won't gain being unmarried? By gain i mean something Tangible and Exclusive to only men.

Murphyenemuwe:
Bro you must be kidding me. Does marrying a virgin means she doesn't have the manipulative trait? Does it mean she won't cheat with someone else? Some things are just to private to share online

DontBullshitMe:
Enough of the wailing.

You want marriage, marry.

You don't want marriage, don't marry.

ExcelDBM:


Oh so you see how you women are funny, is it not your wish that men become stupid like will Smith so you can manipulate him and wh0re around as you wish?

BigBashiru:
Marriage where the woman does nothing to bring in money should be banned.

ukaface:
your mindset is absurd...smh
Sorry can't continue wit this conversation.
Try not to be one sided, stop acting like you are the victim, like y'all are saints.
How can you say it's the wish of women for men to become stupid, where do you get all these notion from sef? To manipulate and LovePeddler around? You feel that's what women do? So myopic of you, I must say.

ukaface:
so in the case of will smith, Jada is to be blamed for his stupidity? Jada made it obvious that she didn't love him, still he keeps going on with her, and you are blaming her?
Na you know where you dey meet this kine women o

ibechris:



U cant buy property in your baby mama's name now...but I have purchased property on two occasions with my wife's name without any need to regret it. But u dare not with your baby mama or girl friend
I have kept all my life savings in my wife's personal accounts which many of u dare not do with your baby mama's out there.

On the day of my wedding I got a jeep from my brother but u can't get it from impregnating a baby mama.

Guy,I still maintain my stand,that marriage is good. I and my wife have made 6.6million naira in three months just for working together as partners in our side hustle. But u can never achieve that with your baby mama's.

Aystarz:


You're darn right about Cococandy. Been watching her since I signed up in 2009, and I dare say, even though she's married, that lady is a man-hater.

Nyascobar1414:


Brace up man!
Anything that does not make you happy, anything that your Instinct goes against dont do it...

tonididdy:

Oga relax.
We all know it's not all Rossy. That's how the OP was deceived into it and when he turned to same people for advice, they say that's her all women are.

Many married people will smile and tell you the sweet part of marriage so that you can get into it and suffer what they do.

Marriage is NOT for everybody, don't try to sweet talk it

ukaface:
I can't relate with your write up though.
My mum did help my dad with bills, they were both working and both made use of their finances to hold up the family.
Now I don't see why a man would marry a woman to just sit at home and do nothing while he pays all the bills. It boils down to the kinda woman he is getting married to, I can't be in a marriage and allow my husband pay all of the bills even though I'm earning my pay, it's absurd. Whoever introduced y'all to that mindset did y'all an evil thing.

Men complain bitterly nowadays because y'all don't discuss this marriage thing before getting married. Why will you get married to a lady who finds it difficult to help you financially during courtship and then all of a sudden you want her to miraculously help out in marriage. Hiaaaaa.
Y'all men and women should do well to talk marriage matters, parenting matters, get to know your spouse( even though you can't possibly know all about them, but you can still try) not everytime ' when are you coming to my house?' and then all of a sudden, you get down on one kneel to propose marriage.

I laugh Una, Una go complain tire

DaddyGngeess:




I never said marriage is for everyone or I am saying the sweet part of it, there is one thing most of us men don't understand, we are always talking about ourself do we sometimes consider this women that left their families and leave with us, do you think is easy for them too? I still repeat what I said earlier if you find a good hard working woman you will understand, I am telling you this from experience after been involved with three different women b4 this my current wife.

tonididdy:

I'm not an anti-marriage person but I'll never sweet talk anyone into it because I KNOW IT'S NOT ALL ROSY.
MOSTIMES IT'S 70% thorns AND 30% rosy

DaddyGngeess:



Even me will never sweet talk anyone into it, everyone should do what makes them happy, simple

ibechris:



I have benefited immensely from Marriage like it or not.

Marriage benefits far outweighs its disadvantage. When it comes to investments,my wife is my partner and my advisor and in fact,someone I rely on to offer her cherished ideas.

I have never been depressed as a married man but many of u singles are already depressed with baby mama's.

Financially,married people like me reach their financial goals faster than singles out there...who are looking for a baby mama to impregnate.

Married people have shown commitment to appointments and responsibilities than singles.

Marriage is a driving force that helps u to take ethical responsibility and that is why u will see more unserious singles caught as yahoo plus men.

DryMouth:

@bolded.

You are either a woman or a frustrated liar. How dare you say a married man is likely to mert his financial goal faster than a single man.

You shuld better shut up if you've got nothing to say

sgtponzihater1:
There are not so good people. Like the girl that visited me once chilling and doing nothing. I noted how cruel she was with the waitress. I noticed how harshly she spoke to the taxi driver, for an issue that could be resolved without exchange of words. I knew this was fire, and gladly withdraw myself from that relationship. Looking back I am grateful to that lady for being true to herself, and showing me who she was.

The one that hurts the most is the one that acts like a Saint before you dive in. Seems kind to everyone. Calls you as early at 8am in the morning. Says she wishes she was there to cook your meals and keep your house tidy. Then when she comes in, does the direct opposite. That thing can pain!, but God keeps us all happy

PonziHater

DryMouth:

@bolded.

You are either a woman or a frustrated liar. How dare you say a married man is likely to mert his financial goal faster than a single man.

You shuld better shut up if you've got nothing to say

BuddhaPalm:


If she divorces you, you'll quickly understand why these are not benefits.

omotola90:
I reject it for her in Jesus name... different folks on nairaland ABI kinni wi?

ibechris:



U cant buy property in your baby mama's name now...but I have purchased property on two occasions with my wife's name without any need to regret it. But u dare not with your baby mama or girl friend
I have kept all my life savings in my wife's personal accounts which many of u dare not do with your baby mama's out there.

On the day of my wedding I got a jeep from my brother but u can't get it from impregnating a baby mama.

Guy,I still maintain my stand,that marriage is good. I and my wife have made 6.6million naira in three months just for working together as partners in our side hustle. But u can never achieve that with your baby mama's.

Ericnrm:



40-45% of marriages nowadays end in divorce with women initiating divorces 80-85% of the time. These are stats that can be gotten by The Family Institute and the census bureau.

LordIsaac:

It will shock you that I went through all this and more with a live-in girlfriend, till I wept to God one day, and He personally delivered me. I'm married now.

LordIsaac:

I was challenged severally by the term, " you are not romantic"

Kobojunkie:
Yet every week in Nigeria, 1000s of couples, among them some from right here on nairaland, tie in knot?

omotola90:
I reject it for her in Jesus name... different folks on nairaland ABI kinni wi?

AntiTerrorists:
.are all the above automatically applicable to married couples ?

You are just one in a million ... majority wins the vote...

Is it all married couples that gets jeep on their wedding day ?

Is it all married couples that can save money together without regret ?

Is it all married couples that can save money in their wife's account without regret ?

Is it all married couples that can buy properties in the name of the wife without regret ?

The OP spoke what is happening in many marriages