odinson1:

2. most men get married because of the Thought of Endless sex. This is really laughable because most of the time,their wives become lazy and sexually unresponsive to them after their 2nd or 3rd child. So getting married because you want an endless supply of sex is Foolish and very short sighted. And don't forget,that Sexiness you see in her today will fade away before she Hits menopause,or when/if she Gets Fat after her 1st baby.
3. Feminism! The whole purpose of marriage have been defeated by 3rd wave feminism,and it's even worse if you are a Christian or Muslim. I just watched a video today on youtube where a white woman said "breastfeeding of babies is not natural,and women shouldn't be tasked with it as a responsibility" because after all,there are milk formulas children can be given. What is being implied here is that imposing that kind of responsibilites on women is sexist and demeaning. Now tell me if you'd want a woman like that as the mother of your kids. Granted,not all women are feminists,and certainly only a small percentage of women think like that. But...DEM NOR DEY WRITE AM FOR HEAD
I know I will be called all sorts of names like "alfa male", small boy,broke and frustrated, mummy's boy etc. But it's all just shaming tactics and emotional blackmail really,a Logical thinking person wouldn't give in to all that nonsense. So my fellow men,i employ you today to GIVE ME JUST ONE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE THAT IS EXCLUSIVE TO ONLY MEN.
And before you give me "the joy of having children" as your answer,just remember that you can most certainly have kids without getting married

ukaface:
what are the benefits?

NewSoul:
There are no more marriageable women! I repeat there are no more marriageable women. Men getting married these days are putting their lives and well being on the line

ExcelDBM:


A simp spotted. It'll be a wild goose chase arguing with you.

advanceDNA:


Fallacy...

Spouses die..Children grow up and leave to live their lives...sometimes, that bearly have enough to feed themselves...dont you are old people working and even begging

Make money and get ready to take care of yourself at your old age..whethwr you have a family or not...

DontBullshitMe:
Enough of the wailing.

You want marriage, marry.

You don't want marriage, don't marry.

Yubeejakes:



Generally speaking, I think the world is not fair to men.
U can't walk in a place without the hearing the phrase ' ladies first'. When there's an emergency ladies will be evacuated first alongside children. FGS!!! what happens to Gender equality? I feel they just want to eat their cake and still have it

DKM123:
Some of you are not very okay o.

Shebi if you were enjoying the single good life and it was Eldorado, only to get married and it is hell, THE SIMPLE LOGICAL THING TO DO WILL BE TO RETURN THE BRIDE PRICE AND GO BACK TO YOUR PARADISE?

Yet, I am yet to come across a NIGERIAN MAN WHO IS ABOVE 50 WITHOUT A WIFE. Infact when their wife does, WITHIN ONE YEAR, they have ran to get another wife. Some even have 4wives at once. So why is it almost impossible to see a SINGLE MAN OF 50.

There are many single mothers and widows who have vowed never to marry again and are living thier lives but you won't find a single divorced or widowed man that is still single after a few years.

DKM123:


Imagine, 83 year old man still searching for a wife. Which 83year old woman will search for a husband? Yet, they are saying the marriage favours the women but they refused to let go.

Nyascobar1414:


never sacrifice your comfort for another human, at least not a female

Sureplug123:
I know of a lady that wants to get married because she's tired of paying bills. Women are like that.

ukaface:
I can't relate with your write up though.
My mum did help my dad with bills, they were both working and both made use of their finances to hold up the family.
Now I don't see why a man would marry a woman to just sit at home and do nothing while he pays all the bills. It boils down to the kinda woman he is getting married to, I can't be in a marriage and allow my husband pay all of the bills even though I'm earning my pay, it's absurd. Whoever introduced y'all to that mindset did y'all an evil thing.

Men complain bitterly nowadays because y'all don't discuss this marriage thing before getting married. Why will you get married to a lady who finds it difficult to help you financially during courtship and then all of a sudden you want her to miraculously help out in marriage. Hiaaaaa.
Y'all men and women should do well to talk marriage matters, parenting matters, get to know your spouse( even though you can't possibly know all about them, but you can still try) not everytime ' when are you coming to my house?' and then all of a sudden, you get down on one kneel to propose marriage.

I laugh Una, Una go complain tire

pocohantas:


Someone 83y/o father decided to remarry not too long after his mother’s death and they told him to allow his father because he needs a companion. Na who no know them dey follow their mouth.

killmods:


Bro I just saw everything clearly while reading the OP. And this babe I'm talking about isn't Nigerian tho she visits and is known by my entire family but recently we don't agree like u know how those people feel u want to dictate for them. Worse is she earns more and is even in the process of buying a house. We had a fight recently over the phone and she reminded me she works for her money and takes care of herself so she will not be dictated to. If i talk one she go talk 20. If i correct her she go say i want to control her life and dictate for her. So imagine if i go ahead with her and move over there as she wants because she doesn't agree to settle here.. no be die be that with her kind of person? She supposed come over next month but i just told her I needed a break. This thread just woke me up again because I was planning on taking the next step with everything before the fight but right now I can't even think in that direction. These past weeks I have been undecided but now this thread... no too vex i just needed to pour everything out.

phemmyfour:
Stat shows that those without family are more likely to experience such than those that with a family

Fantasticcc:
Every husband should have your type around,either as a sister or a family friend.But be careful not to eat what she or her mother prepares

cerpvad:
Never marry a lady who you can't control

ibechris:



I have benefited immensely from Marriage like it or not.

Marriage benefits far outweighs its disadvantage. When it comes to investments,my wife is my partner and my advisor and in fact,someone I rely on to offer her cherished ideas.

I have never been depressed as a married man but many of u singles are already depressed with baby mama's.

Financially,married people like me reach their financial goals faster than singles out there...who are looking for a baby mama to impregnate.

Married people have shown commitment to appointments and responsibilities than singles.

Marriage is a driving force that helps u to take ethical responsibility and that is why u will see more unserious singles caught as yahoo plus men.

Meklex:
is she short?

omotola90:
on a public forum...well it differs though...

DKM123:
Some of you are not very okay o.

Shebi if you were enjoying the single good life and it was Eldorado, only to get married and it is hell, THE SIMPLE LOGICAL THING TO DO WILL BE TO RETURN THE BRIDE PRICE AND GO BACK TO YOUR PARADISE?

Yet, I am yet to come across a NIGERIAN MAN WHO IS ABOVE 50 WITHOUT A WIFE. Infact when their wife dies, WITHIN ONE YEAR, they have ran to get another wife. Some even have 4wives at once. So why is it almost impossible to see a SINGLE NIGERIAN MAN OF 50 AND ABOVE. It is in the western world that is common but in Nigeria, lailai. Cos they know that they suffer less in the marriages where they mostly control thier wives like pingpong.

There are many single mothers and widows who have vowed never to marry again and are living thier lives but you won't find a single divorced or widowed man that is still single after a few years.

SO WHY DO NIGERIAN MEN LOVE MARRIAGE THAT THEY SAY IS HELL SO MUCH?

sgtponzihater1:
The very beginning:

This is one question I probably know the answer to. I could afford a flat, My cable subscription was on point, I hardly ran out of data, except my smile plug was temporary offline, and I could very well feed myself with all the sort of meals I wanted. I also was far above average for a cook.

I really was not thinking of a wife at all. Ladies came and went. I knew while women can be pleasurable, living with them forever could probably cause a strain. So I avoided them for nearly 30years of my life if not more. I obviously was not a Saint, yet I tried my best to do no harm.

Then the scammers came. I can remember all of them. They saw my good life and wished me suffering. They painted the wrong narrative. "PonziHater, you shouldn't be cooking all this soup yourself and doing the dishes everything. "You need a woman to soften things up", when they found me in the restaurant eating "ogufe", they blurted out loudly that I was just a wasting money when I could have a wife to easen things up. They made vague references men who were supposedly living happier lives because of the women in their life. All these men were disgruntled, but kept a fake smile to sell a false narrative

The truth it was it was all brainwash. I felt good, happy and free. I couldn't afford the best designers, but my shirt were "red tag", and my pants were decent. I could fuel my car, and "afford" any lady on the daily. I truly then did not understand the softening of life that they claimed Marriage will bring, but with their emphasis, I thought of a near heaven, where lovely meals, a lot of sex, children calling me daddy and a wife to walk to in the park. What I found going forward was just like being at the peak of orgasm in a brothel, just at the point when the police were breaking in. It was some pleasure subsequently followed by gross imprisonment. It was going to hell on a 24hours drive, and then returning only to be stopped in the middle of nowhere by robbers. It was the most distasteful experience a man could see.

To be continued

ChiefSgtPonziHater

ibechris:



I have benefited immensely from Marriage like it or not.

Marriage benefits far outweighs its disadvantage. When it comes to investments,my wife is my partner and my advisor and in fact,someone I rely on to offer her cherished ideas.

I have never been depressed as a married man but many of u singles are already depressed with baby mama's.

Financially,married people like me reach their financial goals faster than singles out there...who are looking for a baby mama to impregnate.

Married people have shown commitment to appointments and responsibilities than singles.

Marriage is a driving force that helps u to take ethical responsibility and that is why u will see more unserious singles caught as yahoo plus men.

phemmyfour:
Experience will teach you what you don't know.

I was at general hospital last week at old age section, they all came there with wife/children/brothers/sisters, as support not maid, girlfriend etc

Victerica:


Ogbeni, you no get talk!

omotola90:
give me talk now...professor lindus

Agbebakun22:
count yourself among the lucky one's or most stories posted here about marriage are most married people languishing in regrets

ibechris:



Men benefits more in marriage than women.

odinson1:


With all this long talk, you still didn't mention one EXCLUSIVE benefit men have to gain from marriage.

All you wrote is a bunch of fallacies, marriage is just a Name,a term and a contract.
It doesn't make one automatically successful as you may think. Being married does not magically make one motivated to reach any goal,it is just a Term and a Contract where you devote your entire life, energy and resources,being committed to a woman who's only Goal is to have a Slave(who sees himself as king,mental slavery if you will) and Continuously milk him dry down till the very last drop.
Ever wonder why most husbands are thinner than their wives, while the wives look like baby elephants? It is because the man has been tirelessly working day and night, to Feed a Parasite whose only value to give is sex. Yes,there are women who offer way more than sex,but the Majority wins the vote right?

Jazzman01:


Are you married? If you are not then lets have your feedback 1yr after tying the knot.