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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Depot(m): 1:45pm On May 03, 2022
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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Peace081: 1:45pm On May 03, 2022
Mumu op, so u have a good girlfriend, well behave n discipline n you still want to break up because of bad road in Nigeria, You don't really know what you want in life
#spit#

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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Nobody: 1:45pm On May 03, 2022
blazingblender:
My friend go and sit down
Your girlfriend is the one who doesn't deserve you sef
You are having phobia travelling on Nigeria road
Asif the country you live in you guys fly around..
Secondly I believe the abroad you are even talking about may be one of this closeby African countries like Cotonou
Si if you don't come back home where do u wanna retire??
Or you think we living here are asshol*$?

Omo I feel what the guy is saying, we when dey here sef dey calculate how we dey waka for inside the states sef when we reside.omo Naija no safe at all, @ the original poster just take flight visit your girl people,might be extra expensive but if you love that girl that much then it's a small sacrifice.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by JohnBullMySon: 1:45pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:

Finally someone that understands my thoughts.
I have googled Ondo State tire and the kind of reports I see are very distressing, the city is 1 hour away from Akure that has an airport and looking up Akure by air, it does seem like no airline goes to that place.

I spent hours searching for flights to Akure didn't see any.

Ofcourse I do love her and value her, but like you have said, living in Nigeria is like being in an active war zone and the risk of being on that stretch of road for 4 hours to and fro and about 3 times thats really making me feel discouraged.
Air Peace
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by luminouz(m): 1:46pm On May 03, 2022
Yeye post from OP grin

I am in the same state right now..Akure has airport. Ondo town itself is just 45 mins from Akure....what exactly is not safe then?

Why not hit me up when you want to come and I will escort you from the airport to her place, then do same when you are travelling back. For a fee of course. I'd be your bodyguard wink

Cc. oldienavie

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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Credchampion: 1:46pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.
You see virgin and you still wan leave her. For this generation?
I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by nihinlade(m): 1:46pm On May 03, 2022
OP, I understand you! However, discuss this phobia with your would-be partner first. She may be able to convince her parents to be reasonable enough to come to a compromise that can reduce your need to travel. For example, they may decide to allow only very few of you to come say like just you and your two parents (when it is just the 3 of you, the phobia is reduced and also since too much people brings too much publicity and stress). Also when it is just 3 of you, you may be able to afford flight or even train instead of road.

Another thing your inlaws may do to help if their daughter is able to convince them is to allow you to do the marriage in your city while you ship the dowries etc to them or they can have a family house or relative in or close to your city and decide to do everything there (I have seen a situation like this before).

Also note that by God's Grace the roads in the south are better. I also have phobia for traveling but only to or within northern Nigeria. South west, south south are safe to travel, even south east is good, only these unknown Gun Men issue is their problem. But I fear Northern Nigeria.

Another tip is to find somebody who resides in the city of your in law to give you traveling tips for moving around that area.

Then lastly don't travel at night even in the UK & US, travelling at late night is not good.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by johnnychuks(m): 1:47pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.
you are nothing but childidish and unserious boy! let me talk to you like that.

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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Naustine(m): 1:48pm On May 03, 2022
I understand your fears, I'm quite sure I can afford police or military excort
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Rahkman: 1:49pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.
break up with her ! why risking ur life for a useless nigerian girl ?? Better wise up if they kill u now the highest na rip for Facebook oo...next week she dey find another dick,Nigerian girls are not worth it,

just fùck and move on , don't wife any, if you want a baby fine ,make her a babymama but don't wife up a trashy ho
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by LadyTara(f): 1:49pm On May 03, 2022
Wow, just wow . lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed, like seriously? undecided undecided undecided

Oga use flight do half of journey , continue from there. If this is enough to call off your relationship with a so called " good girl" .
Or

Use police escort.


Guy you sure say you go fit even make your marriage work so? Seems you are not ready to inconvenience yourself or make compromises for anyone not even for this "good girl". undecided.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Pmoneyenterpris: 1:49pm On May 03, 2022
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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by toprealman: 1:50pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:

Reading your post, it appears the Nigerian educational system is worse than I thought it was.
Your response is not just disjointed but fails to convey any meaningful message.
The fact that something does not bother you does not mean it doesn't bother other people, learn to think outside of your own mindset and understand that people are different.

Also, learn to respond to people in a more decent and respectful way, don't just type anything because you are on the internet.
Ignore bro!
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by frozen70(f): 1:50pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

Honestly this is not the main reason for breaking up with her

You are yet to tell us exactly why you want to break up with her

You may have found another lady and because of the proximity you want to break up with her, maybe you suddenly just realized that she is not your standard

Alright, which ever lady you want to replace her with, can you determine how the trip of your family going to visit them will be, what if what you were afraid of in her own trip now happens in uoir new girl friend trip of marriage, will you question God

Haven't you heard of Marriage done on your behalf since you are abroad then your family will do the needful

What if you can afford to get free security from fully armed forces men to take your family through and flow for her marriage rights, will you still go ahead or you will get another excuse

Make una they reason some kind things very well because of posterity

You break her virginity, gave her hope if a happy marriage and now you want to drop her for another, tomorrow if the later turns out to be the worst woman in your life, will you drive her away to go back to your vomit to pick the one that have been loyal to you

Then if she has gotten married then, will you advise her to come out of the marriage

Anyway its your marriage not our, do as you wish but don't say, had I known
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by JoeEeL(m): 1:50pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

So are you supporting the disintegration of liejiriya?

If you are those who support the continuing of the zoo from abroad, then sure, you deserve a ruinous relationship.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by ridwan42: 1:52pm On May 03, 2022
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oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by iamdapsyj(m): 1:52pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:

Is it possible for me to tell her to bring her family to where I am ? grin grin grin grin
If you were the one your guy told you he loves you but he is unable to bring himself to travel to your parents because of the risk of the road (which by the way is a very valid risk) what would you do ?

To even think of bringing my family on that route and expose them to the dangers of the Nigerian roads even puts me in a difficult state....


Op, I might be wrong, but it seem to me that your parents are the ones who are not ready to take such journey and not you really.

My reason for coming to such conclusion is because you have been dating the girl for a while, so why the sudden phobia for travelling to her state. You should have cut the relationship right from the beginning so as not to waste that girl's time...
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Dothans(m): 1:52pm On May 03, 2022
I can understand your fear and it's a valid one, but it's not worth losing your supposedly good girlfriend over.

Try and communicate your fear to her, rub minds together and let her see reasons and come up together with an alternative that will pose less security threat to you and your family in the course of meeting her people.

But whatever you do, never travel to North by this perilous time with your family. The fact that you are abroad returnee alone is enough to get you abducted. Always remember that your safety is paramount.

Reading what people are saying about your previous threads, I also doubt your real intent. Probably you're really ready move on... just inform the girl honorably and don't waste her time.

Best wishes in whatever you decide.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Kingozymandias(m): 1:53pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:

Reading your post, it appears the Nigerian educational system is worse than I thought it was.
Your response is not just disjointed but fails to convey any meaningful message.
The fact that something does not bother you does not mean it doesn't bother other people, learn to think outside of your own mindset and understand that people are different.

Also, learn to respond to people in a more decent and respectful way, don't just type anything because you are on the internet.

That is a tout you responded to. You must resist the urge to speak to thugs and jobless touts you will come to realize they are 90% of the people on this forum... Just ignore them


To your post. I don't blame you at all. I returned to NIGERIA 9 YEARS ago and I can count the number of times I have traveled by road its not up to 5 times. The risk isn't worth it ... Her parents can do any ceremony in absentia, you don't need to be physically present.

Secondly the mind Is a powerful tool of you feel so strongly about traveling by road , do not do it under any circumstance. I came back with a friend like you who felt the same we , we encouraged him and pushed him... He traveled got robbed and shot this happened 8 years ago, he returned abroad and has never considered coming here again.

Follow your gut instinct

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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by baretalk: 1:53pm On May 03, 2022
No kill yourself because of woman, choose a woman around you, its not worth it.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by GreatAdvice: 1:53pm On May 03, 2022
You and many delusional Nigerians living abroad have this overexagerrrated fear that people want to kidnap ya'll or people want to poison you guys. Sorry to burst your bubble, but nobody really cares. Even kidnappers are now knowledgeable that most people living abroad just live paycheck to paycheck. If they ask for N100 million ransome, how many people living abroad can afford it?

Moreover, if you are so scared to travel to her peoeple's place, is it something you will do every day? You are in Nigeria for maybe 3wks then you fly out and maybe return in another 4yrs, so what exactly are you afraid of?

You are lucky to have someone like me give you great solid advise free of charge. If you are so afraid of being kidnapped, I will advise you to visit a police station and pay for escort. If that's too much for you, I suggest you go abroad and marry Akata or white woman so you won't even have to worry about coming down to Nigeria, much less getting kidnapped. Good luck.

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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Onyeziokwu(m): 1:53pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:

You are missing the point, I have a phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, I avoid it as much as I can. Infact I have been in Naija almost 6 months and am not planning to travel out of this city.
When going to Lagos I use the train or fly if thats an option.

Now to bring all my family on that route for an occasion like marriage, would mean I have to ply that road up to 10 times at least going back and forth with family.
That scares me.

Oga this is never a reason tbh, unless there's something you ain't telling us.

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Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by lereinter(m): 1:54pm On May 03, 2022
One of the outcome of apc led buhari-osinbajo goverment.

Damaging relationship
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by MemoriesAndMe: 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:

I know it sounds ridiculous, but the phobia is strong. I know how hard it is to come across good girls in Nigeria, at the same time the thought of being on that road, especially when it's time to bring my family on that journey kinda scares me.
You don't have to be on the road, you can fly if you find that safer.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Kingozymandias(m): 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
blazingblender:
don't bring anything on the internet and expect to be praised ..
And you are to immature for thinking of leaving a girl cus she wanna visit her home base ..

You are an uneducated street person... His post makes alot of sense.. hut you can't relate because you have never and will never cross the Atlantic Ocean out of Africa..

Pls it is better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Learn to shut up
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Astrokid911: 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.


�who tell u say na virgin
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by professore(m): 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
Ebubu:



If you consider the way good girls are scarce (unless she no really impress you as a good girl or you no trust her thus far), if you consider the way good girls are scarce you’d fear less for the unknown.


Though nothing is too important over your life shaa.


Make your decision.
reasonable contribution, yet provides no solution.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by motionarena: 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

Bro i understand you jare.
A girl has to be really worth it to make any travel plans.

Naso one babe i dey date b4 I almost got crushed on a bike when I went to visit her. Only to find out she even have another boyfriend.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by Obiworld2020: 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
I understand exactly what you mean by traveling phobia, it happens to me too... traveling from Abuja to the east is no jokes.
But Oga, if you no like road, use flight ✈️, abi you want still tell us say there village airport for her village??

If dey babe don tire you, just go straight to the point!!!

Am a kind of spiritual person!!!
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by baretalk: 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
dobnina:

Don't lose a good woman because of a trivial issue that is not her fault.
If you have a good woman, pls hold her tight because there is nothing outside anymore. Good women are scarce this days.
You might feel you will get someone better but my dear, you might get someone worse and you will end up regretting.

Let me ask you a question
Do you drive?
If yes, have you stopped driving cos cars are prone to accidents?
Have you stopped flying cos airplanes crash?
Have you stopped living in your house cos armed robbers might come to your house and attack you at night?

If the answers are No, then you shouldn't get scared of travelling.
Just try to be safe by travelling during the day.
Pray to God for protection and remove the fear from your mind.

Truth is, anything that will happen will surely happen.
Just seek protection from God when travelling.
Overcome your fear and don't lose a good woman cos of that.
If you have money you have access to lots of 'good women' he is not the one that made the road unsafe.
Re: About To Break Up With My Girlfriend Because Of Risk Of Travelling In Nigeria by iamdapsyj(m): 1:55pm On May 03, 2022
frozen70:


Honestly this is not the main reason for breaking up with her

You are yet to tell us exactly why you want to break up with her

You may have found another lady and because of the proximity you want to break up with her, maybe you suddenly just realized that she is not your standard

Alright, which ever lady you want to replace her with, can you determine how the trip of your family going to visit them will be, what if what you were afraid of in her own trip now happens in uoir new girl friend trip of marriage, will you question God

Haven't you heard of Marriage done on your behalf since you are abroad then your family will do the needful

What if you can afford to get free security from fully armed forces men to take your family through and flow for her marriage rights, will you still go ahead or you will get another excuse

Make una they reason some kind things very well because of posterity

You break her virginity, gave her hope if a happy marriage and now you want to drop her for another, tomorrow if the later turns out to be the worst woman in your life, will you drive her away to go back to your vomit to pick the one that have been loyal to you

Then if she has gotten married then, will you advise her to come out of the marriage

Anyway its your marriage not our, do as you wish but don't say, had I known

His reason is just an excuse jare....he knew all along that this girl lives in a city far away from his folks and yet continued the relationship. My conclusion is that his folks are not ready to make such trip for some reason only the Op can tell us. Chaii, I just pity the girl cry

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