Originalsly:


Bro ... times are hard... money to get by is precious and scarce to a growing number of people... many of them at the wedding. The groom knows that ... he is well off and doesn't need money to offset the wedding nor to help him in marriage. In his mind... unlike soooo many MoG... it is likely that he is not comfortable receiving money from people who he knows really need it. But at the same time ... he knows that these same people came with the intention of spraying so he gives an option to spray to the MC or DJ. If you didn't like the option then you simply keep your money or spray it on another occasion. Spraying is part of the celebration.... but the people who were allowed to spray were those who were swimming in money... can spray big bills for an hour and their bank account would remain almost the same. He is comfortable with that. Maybe he gathered all that money and dumped it at an orphanage.
You can be rich in mind and body and soul... but this was about money. He treated you and everyone with respect by announcing that you should not spray....that's not disrespectful. If you began to spray your small money and he tells you stop.... that's disrespectful and embarrassing. Seems like you are embarrassed because you believe you are rich and didn't get the opportunity to display yourself! Humble yourself.

Rawhumper:
If you look at their action from another
perspective, you see that its not really right.


But like someone said its their day and their call.

YOU NEVER SEE WHERE THEY USE MONEY SPRAY ON SOMEONE TO COLLECT SPIRITUAL THING FROM SOMEONE? IS IT BY FORCE TO SPRAY SOMEONE MONEY AFTER ALL THE MONEY OP WANT SPRAY NO REACH 2M . the way idiot dey rant show he can spray pass 20k from his rich mind

Nonsense




quote author=Persephone1 post=112800472]A rich person in mind soul and body as you claimed will definitely not pick offense in the couple's demand. Insecurity and maliciousness isn't a sign of Richness.Let it go.

Tonero5200:
yeah I walked out, no time left with a plate of rice though.

dawnomike:
Why you dey vex? They only announced what they wanted at their own wedding ooo!!!

You could simply have walked out if it didn't appeal to your moral justification.

franchasofficia:
What's oversabi there?


I didn't want to burden anybody, plus I never liked the idea of couple dance and all those various wedding brouhaha they do. I wanted a simplified yet classy wedding devoid of stress. I didn't want to stress myself on my wedding day in the name of wedding ceremony. And I also didn't want to burden some of my guest who came from remote villages to go bothering about money to spray or gift to gift us, so I completely canceled money spraying and gifting completely.



Many people cherished it and I learnt many said they would adopt that style.



All I needed was for few people to come and witness that I am officially married, not to use my wedding as a fundraising campaign or to disturb the whole town, that's never my kind of person from childhood

Though what you said makes sense. I hope to meet a girl who wouldn't want this so-called fairy tale wedding. I'm not good with crowds as well.

macho44:

Comrade, if you write a book titled "My Collection Of Insults" walahi e go sell pass pure water

irunoko:
what exactly is he really pained for because there's nothing worth being pained about.if you offer someone money and the person says no, why should that become something to be offended by? Anyway I know what is wrong with op.hes egoistical.his ego is bruised possibly the others spraying money reminds him of his financial state.

Op the Bible says the Lord resists the proud and gives grace to the humble.you cannot be broke and still be proud.na double jeopardy be that.if you want grace from God to be financially comfortable and happy in your marriage,be humble and be happy for others.they have a right to their choice and they have the right to want what they want

Tonero5200:
I meaning we that they saw we were likely coming to spray with 500# or 1k were rebuked, probably they don't need our 50naira, change.

I wished them a normal married Life and withold the happiness from it because I don't think they need it.

Mindlog:


I hardly feel insulted because I have worked in facilities where collecting insults was part of my job description....so e no dey pain again.

Persephone1:
The couple's action will qualify as embarrassment if Op was single out and prevented from spraying. But no, that wasn't the case. Op is being unnecessarily bitter because he couldn't be in the spraying group. Call it Pride, inferiority complex, insecurity, entitlement issues just in a person, that's rich!

Tonero5200:
I Just attended a wedding ceremony where the celebrants told the mc to announce to the public that people shouldn't bother spraying them. the mcee said it loud and clear, that we should eat and drink and keep our change to ourselves or we should come spray him the mcee or DJ. As a normal nigeria at first we were happy, atleast money is saved, but as time went on we realised they were certain people that were allowed and expected to sprayed while they were dancing, the celebrant peers and all, Rain of cash everywhere... meaning we that they saw we were likely coming to spray with 500# or 1k were rebuked, probably they don't need our 50naira, change.

I felt embarrassed and angry at the same time, that's ill-mannered from them, I hate it when people look down on me, because they are financially bouyant they think they can look down on people anyhow. Well I look to see them in few years time where they will be. I wished them a normal married Life and withold the happiness from it because I don't think they need it.

freddie009:


Abeg this one an oversabi jore, if this is true.

franchasofficia:
You weren't supposed to feel embarrassed at all.


I did almost the same thing during my wedding.


The only difference is that I wrote mine on the invitation card and it was also stated that its strictly by invite, and nobody is expected to spray money or give gift to the couple. There was no arrangement for couple to dance, only country music were played, and no room for high table or whatever they call it. Phones were not also allowed inside the reception hall, just come in and sit, eat and drink to your fill.



When it was time to take pictures, buses were stationed to convey people interested in
taking pictures to venue for snapping and back to the reception hotel where they boarded their private cars back to their various homes and destinations.



So these things depends on peoples choices, some people love private life, some want extra security, some don't want to burden their guests with worrying about money to spray them or what to gift them.

Tonero5200:
I Just attended a wedding ceremony where the celebrants told the mc to announce to the public that people shouldn't bother spraying them. the mcee said it loud and clear, that we should eat and drink and keep our change to ourselves or we should come spray him the mcee or DJ. As a normal nigeria at first we were happy, atleast money is saved, but as time went on we realised they were certain people that were allowed and expected to sprayed while they were dancing, the celebrant peers and all, Rain of cash everywhere... meaning we that they saw we were likely coming to spray with 500# or 1k were rebuked, probably they don't need our 50naira, change.

I felt embarrassed and angry at the same time, that's ill-mannered from them, I hate it when people look down on me, because they are financially bouyant they think they can look down on people anyhow. Well I look to see them in few years time where they will be. I wished them a normal married Life and withold the happiness from it because I don't think they need it.

iamL:



This is almost the same pattern I am going to do mine.

I have always said that I won't accept gift and cash which I will state on the IV except from very close friends and family.

U see that couple feeding is a total No for me.
Pictures and couple dance are ok for me.

Who wan vex 9 sabi.

Tonero5200:
I Just attended a wedding ceremony where the celebrants told the mc to announce to the public that people shouldn't bother spraying them. the mcee said it loud and clear, that we should eat and drink and keep our change to ourselves or we should come spray him the mcee or DJ. As a normal nigeria at first we were happy, atleast money is saved, but as time went on we realised they were certain people that were allowed and expected to sprayed while they were dancing, the celebrant peers and all, Rain of cash everywhere... meaning we that they saw we were likely coming to spray with 500# or 1k were rebuked, probably they don't need our 50naira, change.

I felt embarrassed and angry at the same time, that's ill-mannered from them, I hate it when people look down on me, because they are financially bouyant they think they can look down on people anyhow. Well I look to see them in few years time where they will be. I wished them a normal married Life and withold the happiness from it because I don't think they need it.

Tonero5200:

The embarrassment nor let me chop am there lol, you know that kind of feeling.