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Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Jesubaby: 3:44pm On May 15, 2022 |
Oga, finish your mum's building first. She is the utmost reason behind ur financial stability. And you're one the reasons why she couldn't complete her building. She never ask nairalanders before sending u to school. Therefore; I suggest you should do that for her first. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Nobody: 3:44pm On May 15, 2022 |
UncleKoboko: Just imagine the moniker 'unclekobokobo' calling a woman a liability. As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Terrence99: 3:45pm On May 15, 2022 |
churro: Buy wetin? LoL. They will kill him physically, spirituality, legally, etc. Best bet is to buy land somewhere else and build for her, knowing fully well that he owns both land and house. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Nobody: 3:46pm On May 15, 2022 |
UncleKoboko: Ikwakwakwa...I go dey press Una neck ! You think every married woman will always be tattered or old . Abeg na money I dey chop, I no kill person |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Luak(m): 3:46pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026:Guess you are a learned colleague. In my case I later found out the blessings of one's parents especially a mother's keeps you ahead of your siblings. Mine is a testimony. Just use pocket friendly building materials and build her's first, you will thank me later. Good if your siblings contribute, no problem if they don't 1 Like |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by gonkin(m): 3:47pm On May 15, 2022 |
Yours first, then your mom's. Every mother is always happy about her child's achievement...... When you finish yours mom will be happy then finish hers it will be double happiness. I know if the money is more than enough, just do both at once |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by mfm04622: 3:48pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026:Lol!!!!! You are still a child! Let me tell you my grandfather's story. Something very similar happened to him. Before the story, let me just tell you to build your own house first! Charity begings at home. Even the Bible tell you to love others as yourself, not more than yourself. Of you build your mother's house first, know that you alone will not open it when she join her ancestors. You will have to share with others . My grandfather's mother's father. That is my paternal great great grand father has a land he bought but didn't develop till he died. Her daughter wanted to develop the land but she was not capable. When her son (my grandfather) took her to the land he bought and wanted to develop, she was angry. That her father's land is there undeveloped, and he wanted to build in another place. To placate her, he abandoned his land and developed his grandfather's land. Nobody said anything when he was building, but immediately he finished, they called family meeting. They started by thanking him for developing the land and then told him he is not the only owner. At the end, he was left with 1 room while the others were shared. As the land belongs to all the children of the grandfather and not only his mother. He never built the land he bought! Is that the same thing you want to put yourself through because of emotion? Lol!!! Better listen to your wife! |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Melst: 3:49pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026:This is a dicey situation. And if you choose either, you'll not feel completely fulfilled. I'll advise you do both but prioritize one. Compulsorily, do buy your own land. Then you can start working on your mum's. These beloved parents of ours don't give notice. Mine didn't. I was barely settled when I lost both. I know all the plans I had for my mum especially. My consolation was that at every stage even while I was a still a student, I always got her something memorable. I denied myself of certain things just to make her smile because she deserved it. You know that kind of awesome sacrificial mama. The point is, do both simultaneously but prioritize hers. Once your younger siblings are able to, they will support you and make the work go faster. It's your family house, it belongs to all of you so it will still remain your property. May God fill you with wisdom to go about this in the best possible way that will be beneficial to all involved. Cheers. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Zonefree(m): 3:49pm On May 15, 2022 |
Beremx:Ebere, you have a spiritual problem... The earlier you seek help, the better for you. So, advising my fellow man not to take family advice from a girlfriend is what you call rubbish? |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Ajalekoko76(m): 3:56pm On May 15, 2022 |
Being financially stable and able to project future, I urge you to complete your mother's house, there are blessings attached. From experience, I did similar thing and today am living in MY house. Either ways the house (s) belong to you. Nothing bad in building house for your parents as it rain blessings. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by UncleKoboko: 3:56pm On May 15, 2022 |
Ninisun:Still waiting for your answer hypocrite If dem carry u go Okija shrine now say make you swear say various men were not fuckîng you when you and your so-called husband was dating or if no man as climbed on top of you in this your So-called marriage now, up go fit swear make thunder no fire you? Oh low foe |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Bassmetrics: 3:57pm On May 15, 2022 |
@Op, both are great choices but do whichever that will leave you self fulfilled. In 2019 I was in ur shoe. We were just 2 sons my mum gave birth to. My elder brother raised me up to secondary sch level, and I had to fund mysef to the university. He had a house he was building before he died in 2013. So when I had my own money, I completed his first. The decision didn't go down so well with my wife but I had to, he was there for me. Now am on my own structure and am happy for d decision I took cos it made me fulfilled. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Nobody: 3:58pm On May 15, 2022 |
UncleKoboko: Ewu, I am ofu onye ofu amu for the past 9 years and still counting. Clap for me na, e no easy |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by LandMann: 3:59pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026: Walk up to your mum or grown up sister and tell them that you sought advice on this issue from your so-called fiancee and also tell them her response. If you think you did the right thing then follow the directions above and see if your mum won't disown you and swear for that so-called fiancee. Even your fiancée, will she accept a lady giving her son the advice she's giving you now? Use your head here and stop being emotional. You shouldn't have asked your girlfriend advice on such a delicate issue that you won't be bold to openly share her advice with those the issue affects. You can love her all you want and she can love you all you want but there should be boundaries so that you don't damage the fabrics of your relationship with her and your family. Hope you won't be surprised if I told you she may have given that advice out of selfish reasons, pretending to have your best interest at heart while secretly looking to become the wife of a landlord and become a landlady and be able to raise my shoulders amongst my female friends. There's a lot to say but he who wants to learn and he who wants to be wise will learn from few lines. Shalom |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Nobody: 4:00pm On May 15, 2022 |
Zonefree: That is total rubbish! Stop dating use.less women you can't seek opinions from. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Nobody: 4:02pm On May 15, 2022 |
LandMann: Na wa to you! Is the man not also going to live there after building his first? If they quit the relationship tomorrow, won't it be still his house |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by mastermaestro(m): 4:03pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026: Why give attention to a small boy with a degree in online buffoonery? He is a certified nuisance on this forum. Unfortunately he has followers who are as goatish as he is. You were shocked by the ‘likes’ he pulled, weren’t you? It shows you the class of people who populate this forum. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by thecommunist(m): 4:03pm On May 15, 2022 |
Please don't make the mistake my father made. he build his mothers House and was unable to build his on house. in later years when his Mom pass away, my fathers sister and her husband started war with my father over the house that he built for his mother, My father passed away in 2009 and we just left the house to his sister because we don't want war. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Born2Breed(f): 4:04pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026: There is always what is referred to as family house. Also, you made mention of making your mother happy. Why not give her that joy, let her wake up every morning and say this is my house which my beloved son with whom, i am well pleased built for me. You will be shocked that after the house warming, that bigger doors will open and your personal building will commence. The prayer of mothers, opens bigger doors. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Zonefree(m): 4:04pm On May 15, 2022 |
Ninisun:A girl deflowered by another man with noodles and eggs is who I should seek opinion from as regards my mum You're sick! |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Ofadaman(m): 4:05pm On May 15, 2022 |
Build your own first |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Afonjashapmouth: 4:07pm On May 15, 2022 |
Stolen Story from @deepsecretsroom |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by zedegit: 4:11pm On May 15, 2022 |
Ninisun: The women I have met as girlfriends are all liabilities. Some of them don't want to work. They are looking for who to carry their burdens through marriage. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Abaman001(m): 4:13pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026:This is my little advice, I hope you have the time to read it...from what I understood from ur post is means ur mum's uncompleted house is in the village which equally makes it very important but not as important if it were to be in the city, reason is, city houses serve a lots of purposes, so I don't know if your family has a city house which I want to believe that you and the rest of the family members lives in city including ur mum, but be that as it may....why don't you do it this way since you are equally worried about completing ur mum's house before ur siblings looks into that direction in the future and as well removing the shame from ur mum's face concerning the old building lying abandoned....start up ur own first which is the most important, pursue it to a point where it will be remaining finishing, even though that stage takes a lots of money, then systematically start ur mum's own (not to complete it before ur own) at least doing some blocks works which is the most cheapest part in building, just to show how important ur mum and her well being is to you and also to send signals to ur younger siblings and others that you also care so much about ur mum, then come back to ur own building and complete it to ur taste then you can revisit ur mum's building once again and make the final impact with easy and peace of mind.....thank you |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by purejustice36: 4:14pm On May 15, 2022 |
If you buy a land to build your own house without letting anyone know about it and later complete your mom’s building, will you die? |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by sirsugar(m): 4:15pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026:do you have female siblings |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by zedegit: 4:16pm On May 15, 2022 |
Ninisun: Can you confide in your boyfriend before sending money to your mother? |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Qatar2022: 4:20pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026:They will drag that house with you in the future so build your own first before completing that one |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Qatar2022: 4:23pm On May 15, 2022 |
Kriss216:He should build his house first to avoid problem that will come up in near future, his siblings will drag that house with him later 1 Like |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Nobody: 4:24pm On May 15, 2022 |
zedegit: I confided in my husband even before we got married. Why should I even marry someone that I can't share my fears with or seek his opinions? Na wa..this is a public forum and so no need going into details. |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Osuman(m): 4:25pm On May 15, 2022 |
OGA, WHEN YOUR MOTHER WANTED TO SEND YOU TO HIGHER INSTITUTION SHE DID NOT ASK NAIRALAND OR CALLED FOR FAMILY MEETING JUST TO DO THAT. NOW IS TIME TO MAKE HER PROUD LOOK AT WHAT YOU ARE DOING. THANK GOD, SHE SHA OTHER CHILDREN. JUST A LITTLE SACRIFICE FROM YOU. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Kooldame: 4:28pm On May 15, 2022 |
Build yours first before you regret it later.I know of a man who used his mother's name to buy a land and built it all in d name that whenever he uses his name they collect the land.Now his immediate younger brother said it is a family house and nothing will change it.So wise up bro |
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