PrimadonnaO:



That's the problem.

When will they rest?

Well past retirement and they're still the ones trying to give their adult children a future.

An anomaly.

An anomaly indeed..

pocohantas:
Lol. I read somewhere that a girl refused to breakup with her abusive bf because he has washing machine and Midea AC.

Omo, e get as sapa go knack you, you go begin reason the devil you know.

I don’t even know if it would get better. I only hope we are all fine out there.

this your signature is the funniest thing I have read today

pocohantas:
Lol. I read somewhere that a girl refused to breakup with her abusive bf because he has washing machine and Midea AC.

Omo, e get as sapa go knack you, you go begin reason the devil you know.

I don’t even know if it would get better. I only hope we are all fine out there.

Let's talk about the what, the when, the why and the solution

Nigeria has never been good enough to keep everyone in. Before now, travelling out was not a "Plan A" for the average university grad. It was a possible plan C for majority. Now, it has become a necessary plan A for most people and in many cases, the only plan!!!

The reason it became so bad is closely tied to our government. It became this bad after the 2015 democratic coup.

Nigeria has never been good. Nigeria has always been like a kettle on a stove where the temperature increases by 5 degrees every year. Unfortunately, since 2015, the temperature has been increasing by 30 degrees every year. The rate of destruction of some things that had previously never been visibly touched by bad governance is terrible now hence the urgent need to relocate

The solution is....

Nigeria haff cast... If you haven't realised this yet you are on a long thing.

Jeremiah 10:23

pocohantas:
Lol. I read somewhere that a girl refused to breakup with her abusive bf because he has washing machine and Midea AC.

Omo, e get as sapa go knack you, you go begin reason the devil you know.

I don’t even know if it would get better. I only hope we are all fine out there.

This is very bad.

Me sef want to japa oo.. May God bring that man into my life who will lead me out of this country. I promise to be the most supportive. loving and hardworking spouse you can think of.. Just give me a chance to meet and know you

Klass99:


Wetin japa dey cause ehn!

These are wonderful parents who should be forever cherished, because I can't imagine myself taking a loan or going into debt for grown children in their 30s & 40s. I may consider it for the ones in their early 20s but........that is a serious may.

That is how one of my childhood friends (Lydia) was bamboozled by a visiting diasporan with sweet talk and promises of a new life in the United States. Only to be left high and dry with a second child out of wedlock.

We lost touch for a long time but reconnected in 2018 or 2019. In catching up with each other via calls and chats, she mentioned she was now married with a second child and had plans to relocate with her hubby and two boys. I was genuinely happy for her because she was a single mother of one when she met diasporan, so my gladness came from the fact that the guy wasn't bothered about that.

However something about her update rang false to me. There's no way Lydia will marry and I won't hear about it from our childhood circle. She is the type to announce and publicize her affairs, because she likes pepper dem tinz.

Tessy (another childhood friend) and I were chatting one day, when I asked her are you aware Lydia got married, were you in attendance? Tessy responded with - what marriage, where and when? In explaining my conversation with Lydia, Tessy began to laugh, saying, is there no limit to the tales this chic will spin?

Tessy went on to explain that diasporan never married Lydia, he basically took advantage of her. Lydia was housing and feeding him during his long visit to Naija/Abuja, while bamboozling her with marriage and life in the US where he is based. They co-habited throughout his stay until she took in and gave birth to her second child. Afterwards diasporan japa-ed back to his base and that was the end of their relationship.

Lydia on her own has always wanted to japa, she grew up in Aussie, but briefly, before her parents returned to Naija. I guess like the post/slides say, she thought diasporan would be her ticket out of Naija.

Wahala done too much o.

Mindlog:


Add a little groundnut to the mix, I had it for lunch today .

My friend, where hv u being? Happy New month dear

JejelifeNG:
Let's talk about the what, the when, the why and the solution

Nigeria has never been good enough to keep everyone in. Before now, travelling out was not a "Plan A" for the average university grad. It was a possible plan C for majority. Now, it has become a necessary plan A for most people and in many cases, the only plan!!!

The reason it became so bad is closely tied to our government. It became this bad after the 2015 democratic coup.

Nigeria has never been good. Nigeria has always been like a kettle on a stove where the temperature increases by 5 degrees every year. Unfortunately, since 2015, the temperature has been increasing by 30 degrees every year. The rate of destruction of some things that had previously never been visibly touched by bad governance is terrible now hence the urgent need to relocate

The solution is....

U just said it d way it should be. D 2015 coup is something sensible people won't forget in a hurry.

emmanuelbrown26:

My friend, where hv u being? Happy New month dear

Uncle Emma, where is this greetings coming from?

Mindlog:


Uncle Emma, where is this greetings coming from?

From d nyash of my heart na

emmanuelbrown26:

From d nyash of my heart na

If I hear! Your heart get base?

Mindlog:


If I hear! Your heart get base?

Lolssss, funny u. Why u cum dry shock say I greet u?

emmanuelbrown26:

Lolssss, funny u. Why u cum dry shock say I greet u?

Shock ké? Na the greetings out of the blues, I almost splurted the cappuccino I was taking then.

Mindlog:


Shock ké? Na the greetings out of the blues, I almost splurted the cappuccino I was taking then.

Lolsssssss, Nairaland ladies no go kill me for here.

Klass99:
Hmmm, the part about aged parents going into debt for 20, 30 and 40 year old children doesn't sit well with me. It is just all shades of wrong and no sensible child should be allowing that to happen.

If you want to japa, have a plan, be patient and work your plan. Don't look for short cuts either and most importantly don't let aged parents get into debt because of you. Are your hands broken or is your brain malfunctioning, to a point where you cannot work out your relocation plan? That's all I've got to say! Prima it's been a while, how are you?

Modified to add: Except parents are willingly taking loans and going into debt for their adult children........I cannot deal ooo.

the sad reality is parent still take loans for their children regardless of the age. its the purpose that matters

It's expected outcome that is used to justify.

A japa to Canada or Europe will cost anything from N6 my to N10 m.

An average wage in Japaland is N2 my a month gross. On top of that, the chance of citizenship sets up the nuclear family for life.

This return on investment is better than any investment vehicle in Nigeria.

Klass99:
Hmmm, the part about aged parents going into debt for 20, 30 and 40 year old children doesn't sit well with me. It is just all shades of wrong and no sensible child should be allowing that to happen.

If you want to japa, have a plan, be patient and work your plan. Don't look for short cuts either and most importantly don't let aged parents get into debt because of you. Are your hands broken or is your brain malfunctioning, to a point where you cannot work out your relocation plan? That's all I've got to say! Prima it's been a while, how are you?

Modified to add: Except parents are willingly taking loans and going into debt for their adult children........I cannot deal ooo.

This is extremely common, at various income levels.
There are people who won't breakup because "at least I go see food chop", some that can't breakup because regular Dubai trips are assured, or even japa potential.

We need to have empathy for peoplez especially with our poverty level in Nigeria.

Leave online personas, we are extremely poor.

pocohantas:
Lol. I read somewhere that a girl refused to breakup with her abusive bf because he has washing machine and Midea AC.

Omo, e get as sapa go knack you, you go begin reason the devil you know.

I don’t even know if it would get better. I only hope we are all fine out there.

cooooooks:
This is extremely common, at various income levels.
There are people who won't breakup because "at least I go see food chop", some that can't breakup because regular Dubai trips are assured, or even japa potential.

We need to have empathy for peoplez especially with our poverty level in Nigeria.

Leave online personas, we are extremely poor.

You are right.

cooooooks:
or even japa potential.

We need to have empathy for peoplez especially with our poverty level in Nigeria.

Leave online personas, we are extremely poor.

And this is why people need to be paranoid. You cannot always guarantee what SO will do when you enter obodo oyibo. We know the women's stories, plenty of chicks who are just tolerating until they get to a place where they are empowered to Fk you over. But same happens to women too. One friend of a friend, her hubby exit closet once they entered us. Another (a cousin) had her husband abandon the family within a few months of entering Canada. Same happened with another cousin and his wife. Babe just started showing craze once they entered us.

Too many marriages here are 100% managment/convenice and you cannot predict what happens when convenice is no longer convenient

cooooooks:
This is extremely common, at various income levels.
There are people who won't breakup because "at least I go see food chop", some that can't breakup because regular Dubai trips are assured, or even japa potential.

We need to have empathy for peoplez especially with our poverty level in Nigeria.

Leave online personas, we are extremely poor.

You are very right, we are extremely poor.

This is why I worry when I see Igbo Men seeking long-term partner approaching ladies with "I can take care you", "I have this & that", "I have this properties & cars, businesses etc" as a means of wooing women.

Nigeria is too poor of a country to woo people with the good life, because majority will jump at it. A lot of women end up getting married to men who claim they work in Chevron as Full-staff, until realising that they aren't even close to being a staff, they just had a short contract that is even expired years back. I know real people offline claiming they work somewhere only to be exposed after marriage.

The Japa thing too is a problem, people are ready to leave their spouse for another person who is sure of Japaing, and they don't even bother about compatibility.

That's why people should marry who they share mutual love and respect with.

GloriousGbola:


And this is why people need to be paranoid. You cannot always guarantee what SO will do when you enter obodo oyibo. We know the women's stories, plenty of chicks who are just tolerating until they get to a place where they are empowered to Fk you over. But same happens to women too. One friend of a friend, her hubby exit closet once they entered us. Another (a cousin) had her husband abandon the family within a few months of entering Canada. Same happened with another cousin and his wife. Babe just started showing craze once they entered us.

Too many marriages here are 100% managment/convenice and you cannot predict what happens when convenice is no longer convenient

Hafizah:
Me sef want to japa oo.. May God bring that man into my life who will lead me out of this country. I promise to be the most supportive. loving and hardworking spouse you can think of.. Just give me a chance to meet and know you

u go gree change to christianity?

A wonderful read....


Let us try to upskill.

cooooooks:
That's why people should marry who they share mutual love and respect with.

Love in the world's poverty capital?

I laugh in Spanish.

Finance is a major influence on heterosexual relationships in this part of the world.

In case you haven't notice, it's mostly Nigerian women that broke shames their men.

cooooooks:
That's why people should marry who they share mutual love and respect with.

Even better, people should marry who they share the same economical level with. As a rule, he/she should be able to give themselves whatever you can give them. Then its sure they are marrying for love, not for selfish motives. Women by default practice this rule, men are yet to catch up.

Raalsalghul:


Love in the world's poverty capital?

I laugh in Spanish.

Finance is a major influence on heterosexual relationships in this part of the world.

Na big man pikin that's why. Ikoyi people

True love for Nigeria, no make me laugh jare.

This is the definition of classism.

It is a flawed and discriminatory thought process that I reject out of hand.

pansophist:


Even better, people should marry who they share the same economical level with. As a rule, he/she should be able to give themselves whatever you can give them. Then its sure they are marrying for love, not for selfish motives. Women by default practice this rule, men are yet to catch up.

If men lead with money, real or imagined, they will continue to meet money minded women.

There are loads of Nigerian women who seek real love. Sometimes, these are women who have chased money before.

I laugh in sadness.

Raalsalghul:


Love in the world's poverty capital?

I laugh in Spanish.

Finance is a major influence on heterosexual relationships in this part of the world.

In case you haven't notice, it's mostly Nigerian women that broke shames their men.

When both of you japa, you two are very likely to lose your religions anyway.

Religion is another arbitrary and unnecessary dividing line.

Cutehector:
u go gree change to christianity?