New222:
I won't try to sugarcoat it. I'm 25 years old, she's 19. Still in university because of the endless ASUU strike.

I've been having unprotected sex with this particular girl for a long while now. We've been dating for close to two years. I practise the "withdrawal" and "safe" days method. I met her a Virgin too.

Just realised she's pregnant. She started showing a lot of symptoms. Darkened areolas, nausea, breast heaviness, headache, back pain e.t.c.

I asked her to get do a pregnancy strip test and it came positive. Two red lines.

Though it's not what I ever planned for myself, I won't really mind having a child at my age. People will so much insult me, including my family but I'm sure my family will take care of the child.

The issue is the girl. Her family (Deeper Life) are wahala, big wahala. Educated people that behaves as if they never went to school. Now, we detected very early, her first period is supposed to start tomorrow (which I'm sure she'll miss). She's still very young and about to start schooling. I'm sure her dad will disown her (he once sent her away from his home over a slight misunderstanding, refused to let her back in until it was shown she was innocent).

I told her we have two choices, keep the baby or remove it. I am confused too, but I didn't show it. Pls what do you think?

We're really considering ending the pregnancy. Since it's very early, I'm considered getting m...p......r..l. I need medical advice pls. Above all, I don't want to endanger the girl's life.
I've read about abortion pills. I don't know how to get them or their price. Or should we keep the baby? Her dad will surely disown her, might later accept her, but it will definitely end her Education. What do you think? Should we get the drugs pls. Or consider another option? Should we keep the baby?

P.S: I know nairaland. I've been here for years, insult are welcomed. I never imaginned I'll ever open a thread like this.

P.S: If you're using withdrawal method and it works, it WILL STILL EVENTUALLY FAIL YOU. I used it for a really long time, now I'm here.

New222:
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Though it will be tough, I wouldn't mind keeping the baby. It's the girl I'm worried about. This will end things between her and her family. Her education too. Thanks for this though.

UnknownQueen:
My friend, abeg I will speak without being biased, my opinion is that you end the fucking pregnancy, I'm a married woman with two children, and just as you did my husband was practicing the withdrawal method with me, but twice it failed, I took in twice and terminated my pregnancy twice because we were not ready for a third and fourth child....

My advice is that you find a good Dr to do DNC for the young girl, don't spoil the future of the girl because of child wey she go still born plenty plenty for u....
I know it would be easy for you to ask her to keep cos u won't be the one affected, but if she were my child , I'll get rid of the foetus almost immediately.......
Nigerians like to attach yeye sentiments to issues like this saying the child is from God, tell me what happens to children that die immediately after delivery?.
What also happens to zygotes growing outside the womb (ectopic pregnancy) and there's a need for an emergency evacuation in order to save the life of the mother...

Abeg count this situation as one of those to protect the future of the girl...Like I said before, she go still born plenty pikin for ubin the nearest future ...

Regards...

paix:
You had offended God even before the pregnancy - sex before marriage.

UnknownQueen:


Whatever that means.

DIVINEEVIDENCE:


You mean you couldn't interprete that simple illustration?

I think I can now confidently rationalise the sort of person you are.
I shouldn't have been surprised in the first place.

techgen:


Please, get the point...
1- 1, better pass 2 - 0.
As my sin find me out, should I continue to conceal it, because of what my parents or people will say and keep offending God...that decision alone, to keep the child bless my life till this moment...I won about 3 awards of recognition in school that year, and proud of my little angel till date...#na my carbon copy, I for nor fit deny ha.

Bobmarie:
Okay

UnknownQueen:
My friend, abeg I will speak without being biased, my opinion is that you end the fucking pregnancy, I'm a married woman with two children, and just as you did my husband was practicing the withdrawal method with me, but twice it failed, I took in twice and terminated my pregnancy twice because we were not ready for a third and fourth child....

My advice is that you find a good Dr to do DNC for the young girl, don't spoil the future of the girl because of child wey she go still born plenty plenty for u....
I know it would be easy for you to ask her to keep cos u won't be the one affected, but if she were my child , I'll get rid of the foetus almost immediately.......
Nigerians like to attach yeye sentiments to issues like this saying the child is from God, tell me what happens to children that die immediately after delivery?.
What also happens to zygotes growing outside the womb (ectopic pregnancy) and there's a need for an emergency evacuation in order to save the life of the mother...

Abeg count this situation as one of those to protect the future of the girl...Like I said before, she go still born plenty pikin for ubin the nearest future ...

Regards...

Preferito:
U dey mad. U started sleeping with her since she was 17 and now you've gotten her pregnant then you started talking bad about her family. Do you expect them to welcome you with drums and music because you got their little baby pregnant?

adedayourt:



I'm sure you aware that you just confessed to being a criminal.

She's 19 now and you both have been dating for 2yrs, means you been dating her since she was 17 and having sex with a minor.

Keep it up

baralatie:
Op oya start taking notes


Ante natal is #35000

pek:
This headache is more expensive than condom. Back to your epistles. She is 19 and you have dated for two years. You dated a minor. I will first send you to jail if I were the father.

pek:
This headache is more expensive than condom. Back to your epistles. She is 19 and you have dated for two years. You dated a minor. I will first send you to jail if I were the father.

Dscop:
Dumb.asss, which advice do you need exactly? Did you ask for any advice before having sex with an 19yr old girl? Rubbish, why did you have to use a newly registered account to post this nonsense? So you don't want anyone to look into your history. Hopefully the girls dad has a gun. If you haven't written your will, this be a good time to start.

So you're hoping for someone to encourage you to abort, because if you don't plan to why post you got some pregnant? If she's 19 now that means you've been havesex with her while she was 17, you belong in jail. Hopefully the girl's dad can destroy your life completely.

You're a PEDOPHILE.

BuhariCarryGo:
take the girl together with you to her parent. sit together with the father, the mother, the girl and you. Then break the Egg. tell them that you will die for their daughter and both of you decided to keep the child. I will tell you all that hardness you are thinking will become easy that day. the parent will concluded that you are not one of the Bad boys and they will seek you to tell them how to solve the problem in secret with out anyone knowing. from there you know how to proceed.
If this one is difficult for you go inform your parent and send them to the girls parent and break the Egg there this also may result in good faith.

erico2k2:

so she has not missed jher period but U found out she is pregnant right?

New222:

. We decided not to keep the preg.
She's recovering well.
Thanks