Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

Merxi:
He said “Nobody knows tomorrow”

Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

IvarTheBoneless:
Any man wey get sense... don't do Court.

That's what elders told us.... I have seen guys who did and are full of regrets now.

satandeterrible:

Only a very foolish man will opt for court wedding when he intends to travel out with his spouse.

How many stores do we read here day on day out about men that have been rendered homeless and penniless by their Nigerian wives abroad.

When in Nigeria, the act like innocent, little princesses. Once you marry her in the court's and travel out, she transforms into a devilish tigress.

Your man is an indeed very wise man.
From the look of things, your plan is to ride on his finances to travel out of the country, then after some time, rape him in the divorce courts.

You are very wicked and demonic.
Tell me, why are you insisting on court wedding if not for your devilish and evil intents.

God will punish you pig.
May God help that man not to marry a wicked and scheming devil like yourself.

SocialJustice:
Return the ring and go your way. Is it by force to marry in court?

When women started exploiting court marriage against their husbands abroad, e dey sweet. Men are gradually becoming wise and dumping it.

Person go just dey, in the name of marriage, una go carry am go sign e life away. Tufiakwa!

Kobojunkie:
I think the problem here is in the how he intends to go about protecting himself. He could easier protect himself by signing a prenuptial agreement with his wife-to-be. But you and i know that traditional marriage here in Nigeria would not keep divorce from happening even from abroad, but it can keep her from leaving Nigeria with him. So..... yes, the problem is the how he intends to protect himself.

By the way, what makes you think her loyalty means anything to him if after 6 years he still intends to take out traditional marriage insurance against her??

satandeterrible:

Only a very foolish man will opt for court wedding when he intends to travel out with his spouse.

How many stores do we read here day on day out about men that have been rendered homeless and penniless by their Nigerian wives abroad.

When in Nigeria, the act like innocent, little princesses. Once you marry her in the court's and travel out, she transforms into a devilish tigress.

Your man is an indeed very wise man.
From the look of things, your plan is to ride on his finances to travel out of the country, then after some time, rape him in the divorce courts.

You are very wicked and demonic.
Tell me, why are you insisting on court wedding if not for your devilish and evil intents.

God will punish you pig.
May God help that man not to marry a wicked and scheming devil like yourself.

emmanuelbrown26:

THAT LADY IS A MARRIAGE SCAMMER, ALL HER MIND NA COURT WEDDING SO THAT SHE FIT USE AM AGAINST BABA FOR OBODO OYIBO

emmanuelbrown26:

THAT LADY IS A MARRIAGE SCAMMER, ALL HER MIND NA COURT WEDDING SO THAT SHE FIT USE AM AGAINST BABA FOR OBODO OYIBO

Marvyx:
If you guys want to travel out, chances are that he's aware of family laws over there that favours women and not men. But that's not the main issue because many Nigerian couples are still getting marriage documented before travelling out.

I think you or someone else may have subtly given him the idea of uncertainty of what will happen when he marries you and travels out with you. We've read stories about how Nigeria ladies go abroad and turn to lions in the household because of their family laws. Guy man wants to protect himself. Forget 6 years, women will still be women. I can't think of anything else than that. The solution is to give him an assurance of loyalty.

satandeterrible:

Only a very foolish man will opt for court wedding when he intends to travel out with his spouse.

How many stores do we read here day on day out about men that have been rendered homeless and penniless by their Nigerian wives abroad.

When in Nigeria, the act like innocent, little princesses. Once you marry her in the court's and travel out, she transforms into a devilish tigress.

Your man is an indeed very wise man.
From the look of things, your plan is to ride on his finances to travel out of the country, then after some time, rape him in the divorce courts.

You are very wicked and demonic.
Tell me, why are you insisting on court wedding if not for your devilish and evil intents.

God will punish you pig.
May God help that man not to marry a wicked and scheming devil like yourself.

cococandy:
What do you think will happen if they try to travel abroad as husband and wife without a wedding certificate?

First of all do you think they can travel without that?
They have to travel with some proof of marriage even if it wasn’t issued by a court (but I’ll let y’all know now that depending on where they are going. Only a govt issued certificate is acceptable). Let say they do manage to go without a court cert but they offered some form of proof marriage, do you think she can’t use that same proof for whatever evil y’all think she’s planning to commit?

Just think about it.

Raalsalghul:


Nothing bad in that: smart move even.

It's always wise to plan for worst case scenario though I'm intrigued to know how they'll prove their union at the embassy.

Merxi:
He said “Nobody knows tomorrow”

Marvyx:
1. Women generally will turn the tables around if a man asks for a 'prenuptial agreement' - that's for sure. Heck, most women won't even sign it. So the guy man is doing what he thinks is best.

2. Like I previously hinted, she may have given him vibes that would make him feel this way. No man will see absolutely loyalty in a woman and will want to insure himself especially in a country in Nigeria where family values are strong. But who knows if she has been given him 'feminist vibes' throughout the 6 years? You think even if he loves her, he won't want to insure himself? Nahhh.. Men are getting wiser.

Moneyyman:
Hi, yes. I tried to be as fair as possible. When I said compromise, I didn't mean something bad. I was talking about a prenuptial agreement. Maybe I should have included it there. I'll modify now.

Her husband's fears (if confirmed) are quite valid. We can't pretend that the abroad laws, in most cases, are not hard on men and a bit easier on women during divorce. Women have it rough too, though.

I think it's best that they both do a prenuptial agreement as that could protect the both of them to their best interests.

BigDawsNet:
His probably not going for court...not because he doesn't love you.

But it's obvious you guys will be travelling on a visit, tourism visa... ur hubby to be his trying to appear single when he land so both of you can easily look for a partner to marry and get documents... while you guys regenerate back in the near future and marry fulltime.

If he tell u the plan.. you will not buy the idea...
But I guess that's his plan

FahBuLous:
Court marriage so that you will get tired and milk the young man dry bfr you finally leave...

Bitch...

The young man is wise...

Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

Marvyx:


A legit way to dump her then. If not, why would a man back out from a legit marriage proof to someone he loves?

Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

UptownVibes:
It shows you don't love him genuinely.. Return the ring,since court marriage is your problem.. He won't die .. The said guy is very wise.. He understands the nature of women,that they can never be trusted. Greet the wise guy for me... Because you have been dating him for 100 years,so he should fall into a pit If it was the other way round, will you agree to court marriage? Ladies selfishness never knowns no bound.. Damn!

Kobojunkie:
I am also having a hard time buying this story of yours since it is hard to given the reality of things

Thantayo:
So in summary... you value court wedding(which is just paper and signatures) over your potential husband and you are ready to be single again till you get that paper?

Mindlog:


Not all Churches, especially those mushroom ones.

mastermaestro:


Don’t sound stupid, oga. Just say unregistered ones instead of mushroom. It’s condescending to use such a degrading term in reference to a sacred assembly, irrespective of your faith or non-faith.