So, I was thinking about my future wedding lately.

You know, the traditional weddings, and how it's being run in Nigeria today. My mind considered the mammoth protocol to be observed especially on behalf of the entire village people; the omenala and all the other marital rites to be fulfilled.

So I concluded that I won't go through the traditional marriage process like most Nigerians love to do.

Also, to be sincere, I'm not a fan of decency when I'm in a relationship. I don't intend on tying down any woman with all the ye shall cleave to your wife/husband bla bla bla.

So, I'm also not going to entertain church wedding. (By the way, I'm not Catholic).

And then I arrived at the last option...

...the Court wedding.

I've always valued my freedom. And most of the time, I dream about signing a contract with my future wife (Infront of a lawyer of course). And then we are going to decide on living separately and only visit each other when we both agree on doing that. She'll give birth to two kids (anything more than two is a burden), and we won't care if they are both girls. Of course after intense DNA test.

Then finally, she can choose to sleep with another man, and I can sleep with another woman, as long as we obey all the terms written in the contract.

But in all of these, I don't really understand how Court weddings work in Nigeria. I see it's not as rampart here as it is in the western world.

Can we shed more light on this?

It's the cheapest worldwide

It's the most recognized marriage in every fuckn kontry

It's the best remedy for inter ethnic tribal dissertations


U don't need the parents permission unless the spouse is 15 to 17 yrs old and a single relative would be enough

You can't divorce her and she also can't leave you either:

unless you go back to court to be issued a decree nisisi for 3month and decree absolute there after..

I f any of u plays an away math sex or practice polygamy the court shall charge the culprit for an offense of bigamy

Hmmm...

Oesophagus99:
It's the cheapest worldwide

It's the most recognized marriage in every fuckn kontry

It's the best remedy for inter ethnic tribal dissertations


U don't need the parents permission unless the spouse is 15 to 17 yrs old and a single relative would be enough

You can't divorce her and she also can't leave you either:

unless you go back to court to be issued a decree nisisi for 3month and decree absolute there after..

I f any of u plays an away math sex or practice polygamy the court shall charge the culprit for an offense of bigamy

Could you please enlighten me more about the bolded.
I am about leaving my marriage with the kids. Do I need to go back to the registry and for what exactly? I am no longer interested in the marriage.

threegees:


..to the registery?

yes o...
It's a bit of a long process shaa..

Dem will counsell both of u several weeks postponement follow am o if resolution failes...

Then 3month decree nisisi wil b issued which is like yellow card to but of u(each of u can Bleep other partners, stay late nights do sleep
overs and do ur stuffs independently wit no obligations to each others ) but you just can't get married to new partners until 3months expire without u both jealousy reconciliating with each others


before then Nisisi absolute would be served and enabling you to marry other new spouse

Oesophagus99:
yes o...
It's a bit of a long process shaa..

Dem will counsell both of u several weeks postponement follow am o if resolution failes...

Then 3month decree nisisi wil b issued which is like yellow card to but of u(each of u can Bleep other partners, stay late nights do sleep
overs and do ur stuffs independently wit no obligations to each others ) but you just can't get married to new partners until 3months expire without u both jealousy reconciliating with each others


before then Nisisi absolute would be served and enabling you to marry other new spouse

I'm not ready for all these long process jare. I'll just move out like that.
Thanks

threegees:


I'm not ready for all these long process jare. I'll just move out like that.
Thanks

if you try it; you'd be sorry for yourself....


Talk it over with your man and tell him you don't wanna bring forth to him a pregnancy that isn't his own

YourBestWriter:
So, I was thinking about my future wedding lately.

You know, the traditional weddings, and how it's being run in Nigeria today. My mind considered the mammoth protocol to be observed especially on behalf of the entire village people; the omenala and all the other marital rites to be fulfilled.

So I concluded that I won't go through the traditional marriage process like most Nigerians love to do.

Also, to be sincere, I'm not a fan of decency when I'm in a relationship. I don't intend on tying down any woman with all the ye shall cleave to your wife/husband bla bla bla.

So, I'm also not going to entertain church wedding. (By the way, I'm not Catholic).

And then I arrived at the last option...

...the Court wedding.

I've always valued my freedom. And most of the time, I dream about signing a contract with my future wife (Infront of a lawyer of course). And then we are going to decide on living separately and only visit each other when we both agree on doing that. She'll give birth to two kids (anything more than two is a burden), and we won't care if they are both girls. Of course after intense DNA test.

Then finally, she can choose to sleep with another man, and I can sleep with another woman, as long as we obey all the terms written in the contract.

But in all of these, I don't really understand how Court weddings work in Nigeria. I see it's not as rampart here as it is in the western world.

Can we shed more light on this?

Where do you factor the wellbeing of your children in ur hedonistic act?..mom and dad going thru their sexcapades... selfish

Ogbotobo77:

Where do you factor the wellbeing of your children in ur hedonistic act?..mom and dad going thru their sexcapades... selfish

It's all in the mind bro. As long as there's money, you can give a child comfort, and identify him/her with the mother and father and sibling. Kids are humans, and they have feelings. But with the appropriate communication and psychological discipline, they will stand firm. And besides, the two parental party can decide for themselves whether to say no to any outside intercourse or not. The goal is to be absolutely free and not to pursue pleasure. Besides we are adults. We take responsibility for our actions.

O

Just look at the mentality of a man that wants to get married and bcom a father in the future. My wife is free to sleep with another man while i'm free to sleep with other women. May God 4bid this type of man 4 my future daughter(s).

Oh, you cannot divorce in peace,?

Decree nisisi

The things i hear on this Nairaland has made me fear marriage o, it's feels like hell to me.
Women has really demonize everything about marriage and made it everything God never wanted. Omo it will take special grace of God for me to consider marriage o, naija girls go just give me their ex pikin codedly

SyrusdeHansome:
Just look at the mentality of a man that wants to get married and bcom a father in the future. My wife is free to sleep with another man while i'm free to sleep with other women. May God 4bid this type of man 4 my future daughter(s).

It's all in the mind bro. As long as there's money, you can give a child comfort, and identify him/her with the mother and father and sibling. Kids are humans, and they have feelings. But with the appropriate communication and psychological discipline, they will stand firm. And besides, the two parental party can decide for themselves whether to say no to any outside intercourse or not. The goal is to be absolutely free and not to pursue pleasure. Besides we are adults. We take responsibility for our actions.

Anyways, I am now dating an Asian lady. It was my experience with naija girls that made me think like this. But come to read it again, it is peaceful.