KingClown:


do you have an advice for someone in his 30s that has a family and lost his job ? he's losing it. I'll be happy to hear from you.

The simple advice would be for him to get back to work, and at this time, should focus on self-employment, not as an employee. In underdeveloped countries where almost nothing is regulated, it makes no sense to be an employee.

As a family man, he should not make the grave mistake of resting his livelihood on the shoulder of employment, especially when his salary is fixed, his employer can just sack him, delay payment, not pay him, and nothing will happen. His salary will be stagnant but the cost of living is going high, inflation is slowly rendering his earnings worthless, in a job that will replace him if he messes up.

Look around you, most people are not white-collar workers. The Nigerian economy is closely 50% shadow economy. The people making real money are mostly traders and business people who are not in white-collar employment. Employment in Nigeria is slavery, don't do it. If you live in the west where systems are regulated, with strong workers union, your rights are protected, with severances and benefits if you lose your job then yes, you may be an employee but definitely not in Nigeria.

So my advice will be that he should start something doing, and make a killing in cash. There are lots of things he can do if he is willing to look down, and not egoistic like many graduates who think some job is below them because they have degrees. A degree only proves you passed through the school, it doesn't measure education or level of intelligence. I will end this with a quote by Carl Jung

Modern men cannot find God because they will not look low enough.

.

God'' meaning the desires of our heart. Lots of times, it is right in front of us but because many have developed ego instead of humility, arrogance instead of esteem, and starting small instead of starting big, we miss God. Like Zlatan said in one of his track, ''owo wa l'eko, awon kan wa okay''. It is true. There is money in Nigeria, and many people are okay. You can too if you can enter one industry and give it all your best.

I personally like doing experiments myself. I have done lots of jobs just to see how people doing it earn. I usually talk to everyone from the street beggars to the uber driver, to the conductor and your policeman. I ask and observe, and lots of the jobs people look down on, those doing it are achieving wonders with it. I see youths shouting no employment, but lots of people from other African countries are here doing business and making big money.

I buy bread and ewa agoyin (porridge beans) from a Togolese woman, and she has a house in Aflao. The bricklayer building houses in my street are from the Ivory coast, the man who fry and sells puff puff to those who hawk it is from Kumasi. The nylon that is given to you when you buy groceries, the company is owned by an Indian. All these people are fcking wealthy, and they are there with you in Nigeria, but somehow, because lots of people's eyes cant look low, they miss God.

pansophist:


The simple advice would be for him to get back to work, and at this time, should focus on self-employment, not as an employee. In underdeveloped countries where almost nothing is regulated, it makes no sense to be an employee.

As a family man, he should not make the grave mistake of resting his livelihood on the shoulder of employment, especially when his salary is fixed, his employer can just sack him, delay payment, not pay him, and nothing will happen. His salary will be stagnant but the cost of living is going high, inflation is slowly rendering his earnings worthless, in a job that will replace him if he messes up.

Look around you, most people are not white-collar workers. The Nigerian economy is closely 50% shadow economy. The people making real money are mostly traders and business people who are not in white-collar employment. Employment in Nigeria is slavery, don't do it. If you live in the west where systems are regulated, with strong workers union, your rights are protected, with severances and benefits if you lose your job then yes, you may be an employee but definitely not in Nigeria.

So my advice will be that he should start something doing, and make a killing in cash. There are lots of things he can do if he is willing to look down, and not egoistic like many graduates who think some job is below them because they have degrees. A degree only proves you passed through the school, it doesn't measure education or level of intelligence. I will end this with a quote by Carl Jung

.

God'' meaning the desires of our heart. Lots of times, it is right in front of us but because many have developed ego instead of humility, arrogance instead of esteem, and starting small instead of starting big, we miss God. Like Zlatan said in one of his track, ''owo wa l'eko, awon kan wa okay''. It is true. There is money in Nigeria, and many people are okay. You can too if you can enter one industry and give it all your best.

I personally like doing experiments myself. I have done lots of jobs just to see how people doing it earn. I usually talk to everyone from the street beggars to the uber driver, to the conductor and your policeman. I ask and observe, and lots of the jobs people look down on, those doing it are achieving wonders with it. I see youths shouting no employment, but lots of people from other African countries are here doing business and making big money.

I buy bread and ewa agoyin (porridge beans) from a Togolese woman, and she has a house in Aflao. The bricklayer building houses in my street are from the Ivory coast, the man who fry and sells puff puff to those who hawk it is from Kumasi. The nylon that is given to you when you buy groceries, the company is owned by an Indian. All these people are fcking wealthy, and they are there with you in Nigeria, but somehow, because lots of people's eyes cant look low, they miss God.

Pansophist…..my God go bless you …. Say Amen abeg.
I say my God go bless you.
You see, this is what have been screaming on nairaland that there are so many things to do in nigeria. So many opportunities that for me to japa, doesn’t make any sense to me because I see opportunities, I mean opportunities around me.
The Nigerian youths are totally blind and it makes me question Education and School.
If not for stealing and inflation of contracts in private sectors and corporate organizations in nigeria, you will clearly see that the richest and middle class Nigerians are illiterates and drop outs instead of the educated and graduates.
I think you and I have the same mentality and charisma.
Despite working onboard. Pansophist if you see me at home, you will question yourself if truly am working offshore.
If I am not in my factory with my manager on shorts working, piecing machines and coupling it, I am in the farm inspecting crops, sitting at the back of the bike while my manager drives.
I mean, I look literally like other farmers or villagers when on duty but when off duty, I am in my casuals and suits again.
I will always thank my mum for bringing me up in this manner.
She was a hustler. Until her death, she was never idle. She was always doing one biz or the other till her final day on earth and I took her blood.
In my short life on earth, I have seen more LEGALLY rich illiterates than educated/graduates.
Is it the water melon seller? Buying about 25% of water melon trailer every week?
Or the alhaji I bought my beans from? Atleast 2 trailers from Niger state offloads in his warehouse every week.
My former landlady deals in quarry. From there she bought her truck and now she has more than 5 quarry trucks (30 tons capacity/14 tires) with another 6 trailers loading and supplying diesel from depots.
Stinkingly rich. Has many houses in my place.
Is it the bike guys? Do you know how much bike riders make a day? Especially if you own your bike.
A vulcanizer in my place moved to his house 2 years ago.
Many many many more bro
Many more
God bless you abeg.

Nigeria is a third world country.
It is not a country designed for job seekers unfortunately graduates are trained to be job seekers hence the surge in to japa because looking for job is what they know.
They were not trained to see opportunities and grow it rather to work for those who see opportunities and have grown it while looking for ways to steal and manipulate receipts of the job makers and skim them.

emmaodet:


Pansophist…..my God go bless you …. Say Amen abeg.
I say my God go bless you.
You see, this is what have been screaming on nairaland that there are so many things to do in nigeria. So many opportunities that for me to japa, doesn’t make any sense to me because I see opportunities, I mean opportunities around me.
The Nigerian youths are totally blind and it makes me question Education and School.
If not for stealing and inflation of contracts in private sectors and corporate organizations in nigeria, you will clearly see that the richest and middle class Nigerians are illiterates and drop outs instead of the educated and graduates.
I think you and I have the same mentality and charisma.
Despite working onboard. Pansophist if you see me at home, you will question yourself if truly am working offshore.
If I am not in my factory with my manager on shorts working, piecing machines and coupling it, I am in the farm inspecting crops, sitting at the back of the bike while my manager drives.
I mean, I look literally like other farmers or villagers when on duty but when off duty, I am in my casuals and suits again.
I will always thank my mum for bringing me up in this manner.
She was a hustler. Until her death, she was never idle. She was always doing one biz or the other till her final day on earth and I took her blood.
In my short life on earth, I have seen more LEGALLY rich illiterates than educated/graduates.
Is it the water melon seller? Buying about 25% of water melon trailer every week?
Or the alhaji I bought my beans from? Atleast 2 trailers from Niger state offloads in his warehouse every week.
My former landlady deals in quarry. From there she bought her truck and now she has more than 5 quarry trucks (30 tons capacity/14 tires) with another 6 trailers loading and supplying diesel from depots.
Stinkingly rich. Has many houses in my place.
Is it the bike guys? Do you know how much bike riders make a day? Especially if you own your bike.
A vulcanizer in my place moved to his house 2 years ago.
Many many many more bro
Many more
God bless you abeg.

Nigeria is a third world country.
It is not a country designed for job seekers unfortunately graduates are trained to be job seekers hence the surge in to japa because looking for job is what they know.
They were not trained to see opportunities and grow it rather to work for those who see opportunities and have grown it while looking for ways to steal and manipulate receipts of the job makers and skim them.

Amen, and God bless you too

This obsessive need to be employed is one of the relics of colonialism. In the past, most Nigerians used to be tradesmen, and employment is actually freelancing, that guaranteed workers freedom and the right to negotiate equally. For example, calling Mr. Alabi to come to clear your farm and pay him off, or the drummer to play at your event. Especially with the Igbos, you can see it through their names. Nnaji means ''father of yam'', Nwosu means the child of a herbalist'', and so forth. From the surname, one can tell the economical pattern of the family.

The Igbos still practice this method which is shamefully dying, and in my view, it is the truest form of equipping one with skills to survive on their own with self-respect and dignity. To be a follower first, then a leader later, that's the beauty of apprenticeship. Also look around you, the fat, stronger and healthy animals are the ones roaming freely. Free-range chickens are sweeter, denser, and better than chickens spoon-fed in a cage. Even homeless rats are normally fat and fast, unlike lions in Nigerian zoos. One should not work as an employee in Nigeria, it's an economical suicide.

Sometimes I wonder what the point of schooling is if it can't really open the student's eyes, and their mind and make them think and see the realities right in front of them. School now is becoming a joke. If you pick random students in either uni or high school, you will observe that most of their parents are blue-collar workers. They didn't go to school, but they have trade and will train their kids through it and still even feed the graduate while he is busy waiting for a job. How can you explain that? An illiterate bankrolling a so-called literate

School these days are for bragging rights, beating chest, and shouting ''do you know who I am?'', to make student blind to the reality in front of them, and expect someone to save them. How about validating yourself? Build a company and call yourself a CEO. Start a business and employ others. Your relationship by default with others should be a partnership, where you guys meet and discuss how to push your affairs forward and then make money, not via a master/slave relationship known as employment.

The minimum wage in Nigeria now is about 30k, which is less than 50usd. That disgraceful amount is for the foolish people that can't think with their heads and see the world right in front of them. For those with heads, that's the amount they spend on drinks on a faithful weekend. You can't be in a country like Nigeria which is extremely lawless and screams poverty. How about using the lawlessness in your favor and making it big?

I can literally stay in my kitchen, bake bread and Nigerians will buy. I don't even have to register the business, pay tax or rent any designated areas. I can just cook jollof rice and chicken, mount a table in Cele bus stop, and people will buy. Strangers that don't know me will eat it regardless if there is NAFDAC or not. You can not do that elsewhere. If I have to start a restaurant here, the overhead cost will be so much, I will rather just be a worker. All these things are easy to do in Nigeria. No regulation, no working law, just hustle legit.

I do visit a friend in Ladipo market sometimes, this man no go to school and he is so wealthy, that it shames those that went to school. He imports trucks of containers with Toyota spare parts from Japan and sells them to retailers throughout Nigeria. I was the one that even helped him set up an internet presence for his business. And a typical Ladipo shop is so small, with the floor stained with dark oil when you visit their shop, and they all look haggard, but bro, they are fucking wealthy. All his kids and wife are in Canada, except for him staying in Nigeria hustling and if any mosquito bites him, he runs to Canada.

Anyways I have written a lot, I only hope these youths can wake up and smell the coffee.

pansophist:

Amen, and God bless you too
Anyways I have written a lot, I only hope these youths can wake up and smell the coffee.

This obsessive need to be employed is one of the relics of colonialism. In the past, most Nigerians used to be tradesmen, and employment is actually freelancing, that guaranteed workers freedom and the right to negotiate equally. For example, calling Mr. Alabi to come to clear your farm and pay him off, or the drummer to play at your event. Especially with the Igbos, you can see it through their names. Nnaji means ''father of yam'', Nwosu means the child of a herbalist'', and so forth. From the surname, one can tell the economical pattern of the family. -
You are right. Even me, my surname which i used for my moniker ''ode'' means a hunter. My grandfather was a hunter and farmer. Ogun means God of Iron, so ogunsola/ogunwande etc are from the Ogun's family. Oba is king, Ade is crown so anybody bearing Obasanjo/Adebanjo etc is from the royal family and has opportunity of becoming king.
Names were identities then not now that everyone is forming posh and foreign with Kelvins, Jessicas were you start struggling to identify the country they came from not to talk of region or tribe.

Sometimes I wonder what the point of schooling is if it can't really open the student's eyes, and their mind and make them think and see the realities right in front of them. School now is becoming a joke - It has become the breeding ground for prostitution, cultism etc instead of a place of enlightment and innovation.

If you pick random students in either uni or high school, you will observe that most of their parents are blue-collar workers. They didn't go to school, but they have trade and will train their kids through it and still even feed the graduate while he is busy waiting for a job. How can you explain that? An illiterate bankrolling a so-called literate - smiles. A woman close to me who buy and sell locust beans in bulk from north used the business to build her house, train her 3 kids through university but the children are out now working in a hotel in my place for 30k per month. When i questioned her why the kids can not follow her foot step and trade, she said they claim not to be interested. Can you imagine not interested in what trained them? We lack continuity in Africa.
Our parents and grandparents always die with their trades, knowledge and experiences. My grandfather who was a cocoa farmer with many plantations died last year and i can categorically tell you that he was richer than all his 7 graduate/employed children. What a shame for being educated.
There so many LEGALLY rich illiterates in nigeria than educated folks and that is shameful.

emmaodet:


This obsessive need to be employed is one of the relics of colonialism. In the past, most Nigerians used to be tradesmen, and employment is actually freelancing, that guaranteed workers freedom and the right to negotiate equally. For example, calling Mr. Alabi to come to clear your farm and pay him off, or the drummer to play at your event. Especially with the Igbos, you can see it through their names. Nnaji means ''father of yam'', Nwosu means the child of a herbalist'', and so forth. From the surname, one can tell the economical pattern of the family. -
You are right. Even me, my surname which i used for my moniker ''ode'' means a hunter. My grandfather was a hunter and farmer. Ogun means God of Iron, so ogunsola/ogunwande etc are from the Ogun's family. Oba is king, Ade is crown so anybody bearing Obasanjo/Adebanjo etc is from the royal family and has opportunity of becoming king.
Names were identities then not now that everyone is forming posh and foreign with Kelvins, Jessicas were you start struggling to identify the country they came from not to talk of region or tribe.

Sometimes I wonder what the point of schooling is if it can't really open the student's eyes, and their mind and make them think and see the realities right in front of them. School now is becoming a joke - It has become the breeding ground for prostitution, cultism etc instead of a place of enlightment and innovation.

If you pick random students in either uni or high school, you will observe that most of their parents are blue-collar workers. They didn't go to school, but they have trade and will train their kids through it and still even feed the graduate while he is busy waiting for a job. How can you explain that? An illiterate bankrolling a so-called literate - smiles. A woman close to me who buy and sell locust beans in bulk from north used the business to build her house, train her 3 kids through university but the children are out now working in a hotel in my place for 30k per month. When i questioned her why the kids can not follow her foot step and trade, she said they claim not to be interested. Can you imagine not interested in what trained them? We lack continuity in Africa.
Our parents and grandparents always die with their trades, knowledge and experiences. My grandfather who was a cocoa farmer with many plantations died last year and i can categorically tell you that he was richer than all his 7 graduate/employed children. What a shame for being educated.
There so many LEGALLY rich illiterates in nigeria than educated folks and that is shameful.

Emmaodet, I now understand why my mum never gave me an English name.

Regex:


Emmaodet, I now understand why my mum never gave me an English name.

smiles bro.
I never did also to my children.

i gave them native names. Anyone who is not satisfied can hug a transformer.

emmaodet:


This obsessive need to be employed is one of the relics of colonialism. In the past, most Nigerians used to be tradesmen, and employment is actually freelancing, that guaranteed workers freedom and the right to negotiate equally. For example, calling Mr. Alabi to come to clear your farm and pay him off, or the drummer to play at your event. Especially with the Igbos, you can see it through their names. Nnaji means ''father of yam'', Nwosu means the child of a herbalist'', and so forth. From the surname, one can tell the economical pattern of the family. -
You are right. Even me, my surname which i used for my moniker ''ode'' means a hunter. My grandfather was a hunter and farmer. Ogun means God of Iron, so ogunsola/ogunwande etc are from the Ogun's family. Oba is king, Ade is crown so anybody bearing Obasanjo/Adebanjo etc is from the royal family and has opportunity of becoming king.
Names were identities then not now that everyone is forming posh and foreign with Kelvins, Jessicas were you start struggling to identify the country they came from not to talk of region or tribe.

Sometimes I wonder what the point of schooling is if it can't really open the student's eyes, and their mind and make them think and see the realities right in front of them. School now is becoming a joke - It has become the breeding ground for prostitution, cultism etc instead of a place of enlightment and innovation.

If you pick random students in either uni or high school, you will observe that most of their parents are blue-collar workers. They didn't go to school, but they have trade and will train their kids through it and still even feed the graduate while he is busy waiting for a job. How can you explain that? An illiterate bankrolling a so-called literate - smiles. A woman close to me who buy and sell locust beans in bulk from north used the business to build her house, train her 3 kids through university but the children are out now working in a hotel in my place for 30k per month. When i questioned her why the kids can not follow her foot step and trade, she said they claim not to be interested. Can you imagine not interested in what trained them? We lack continuity in Africa.
Our parents and grandparents always die with their trades, knowledge and experiences. My grandfather who was a cocoa farmer with many plantations died last year and i can categorically tell you that he was richer than all his 7 graduate/employed children. What a shame for being educated.
There are so many LEGALLY rich illiterates in Nigeria than educated folks and that is shameful.

1. To be sincere, Nigerian graduates are paper tigers. We all want to earn 1million+ income but we've not asked ourselves what skills we have? What value are we bringing to a company that will make them scratch their tooth and nails just to pay that sum of money as a salary?

2. Though the academic system now operating in the world is skewing to the left, and the wrong side, not tending to make students and individuals become familiar with skills and knowledge necessary for real-world application and survival. The system just paints something that looks good but lacks vitality and can neither improve the individual nor society.

3. Why do many graduates fall head over heels for this vacuous academic system? In yesteryear the few people who pursued academics were successful, and they were successful because the system was capable of accommodating their intellectual ability and curiosity. That's why it was rewarding.

4. But the people stampeding the gates of universities and colleges around the world today lack curiosity and the intelligence necessary to illuminate the paths they seek. What they are all pursuing is the final result - high income, forgetting that high income is the resultant effect of skills, knowledge, intelligence, and deep curiosity.

5. The people that succeed in academics, not those with first-class degrees are those who had that intelligence and curiosity before alleviating it with academics. That's why it's only a few professionals of many "professionals" that can make waves in their various fields. It is these sets of professionals that give value to an academic degree and results that equal their fame and high income; and which stimulates the masses to pursue academics while they are being oblivious to the necessary work involved in achieving a good result.

6. Tunde is ashamed of his handwork because his friend, Yusuf has a university degree. He abandons his handwork he is well equipped with the right knowledge for a university that he is incapable of performing up to average. At the end of the day, he struggles with his academics till he graduates, and when he enters the labor market he becomes frustrated and hopeless.

7. Many do see academics as an escape route from the harsh reality of life, and an easy way to a good income and that's why they become more frustrated when they don't have a job or when they face the harsh reality of office politics.

8. Where do most of them land when they don't get their aspired dream job? They land on the apprenticeship they refuse to follow from the beginning which they were more built and suited for.

9. Since everyone is in rush for money, it is better to start chasing it from the beginning rather than look for an easy escape mode through academics that they are not built for, coupled with the fact that academics has been eroded with many of its values. And this is only possible by engaging in profitable skills and scalable trades.

Thanks.

emmaodet:


smiles bro.
I never did also to my children.

i gave them native names. Anyone who is not satisfied can hug a transformer.

Oyibo can not pronounce my name.


Sometimes if I want to have a laugh, I tell em to pronounce my name.

Regex:


Oyibo can not pronounce my name.


Sometimes if I want to have a laugh, I tell em to pronounce my name.

Great Thread

pansophist:


The simple advice would be for him to get back to work, and at this time, should focus on self-employment, not as an employee. In underdeveloped countries where almost nothing is regulated, it makes no sense to be an employee.

As a family man, he should not make the grave mistake of resting his livelihood on the shoulder of employment, especially when his salary is fixed, his employer can just sack him, delay payment, not pay him, and nothing will happen. His salary will be stagnant but the cost of living is going high, inflation is slowly rendering his earnings worthless, in a job that will replace him if he messes up.

Look around you, most people are not white-collar workers. The Nigerian economy is closely 50% shadow economy. The people making real money are mostly traders and business people who are not in white-collar employment. Employment in Nigeria is slavery, don't do it. If you live in the west where systems are regulated, with strong workers union, your rights are protected, with severances and benefits if you lose your job then yes, you may be an employee but definitely not in Nigeria.

So my advice will be that he should start something doing, and make a killing in cash. There are lots of things he can do if he is willing to look down, and not egoistic like many graduates who think some job is below them because they have degrees. A degree only proves you passed through the school, it doesn't measure education or level of intelligence. I will end this with a quote by Carl Jung

.

God'' meaning the desires of our heart. Lots of times, it is right in front of us but because many have developed ego instead of humility, arrogance instead of esteem, and starting small instead of starting big, we miss God. Like Zlatan said in one of his track, ''owo wa l'eko, awon kan wa okay''. It is true. There is money in Nigeria, and many people are okay. You can too if you can enter one industry and give it all your best.

I personally like doing experiments myself. I have done lots of jobs just to see how people doing it earn. I usually talk to everyone from the street beggars to the uber driver, to the conductor and your policeman. I ask and observe, and lots of the jobs people look down on, those doing it are achieving wonders with it. I see youths shouting no employment, but lots of people from other African countries are here doing business and making big money.

I buy bread and ewa agoyin (porridge beans) from a Togolese woman, and she has a house in Aflao. The bricklayer building houses in my street are from the Ivory coast, the man who fry and sells puff puff to those who hawk it is from Kumasi. The nylon that is given to you when you buy groceries, the company is owned by an Indian. All these people are fcking wealthy, and they are there with you in Nigeria, but somehow, because lots of people's eyes cant look low, they miss God.

I bow to your wisdom.

this ego thing is going to be a big issue. I dont know how I'll convince this person. this person is close to me, I care about the person but he is years ahead of me in age.

initially I hinted at going into entrepreneurship but I did not get a positive feedback from him.


omo that Indian man wey dey make nylon sopose dey drag shoulder with dangote cos nylon plenty pass house for this Nigeria

thank you

KingClown:


I bow to your wisdom.

this ego thing is going to be a big issue. I dont know how I'll convince this person. this person is close to me, I care about the person but he is years ahead of me in age.

initially I hinted at going into entrepreneurship but I did not get a positive feedback from him.


omo that Indian man wey dey make nylon sopose dey drag shoulder with dangote cos nylon plenty pass house for this Nigeria

thank you

Yes na, Indian people and business sense na five and six. Infact try locate the Indian community in Nigeria, see what they are doing and do it too, those guys are always found where there is money, same with the Chinese.

But you might not be able to handle the Chinese because these one are money bags, they enter industries that are financially intensive like mining, construction, tech and co, but money full ground, and because most of the population are either blind, lazy, and full of ego, thats your advantage.

When life's calamity happens to people, their ego go run leave them. Then begging begins lol. Sha drop your ego down and go and chase money, your future self will thank you

pansophist:


Yes na, Indian people and business sense na five and six. Infact try locate the Indian community in Nigeria, see what they are doing and do it too, those guys are always found where there is money, same with the Chinese.

But you might not be able to handle the Chinese because these one are money bags, they enter industries that are financially intensive like mining, construction, tech and co, but money full ground, and because most of the population are either blind, lazy, and full of ego, thats your advantage.

When life's calamity happens to people, their ego go run leave them. Then begging begins lol. Sha drop your ego down and go and chase money, your future self will thank you

sometimes I wish say I fit just stroll come your house make we dey gist.

thank you.


one day, I know say I go jam you and you must show me the way (insha allah)

but come to think of it, boss why you still dey this country ?

KingClown:



sometimes I wish say I fit just stroll come your house make we dey gist.

thank you.


one day, I know say I go jam you and you must show me the way (insha allah)

but come to think of it, boss why you still dey this country ?

I dont live in naija bro. Me wey don japa before I even clock 18

When many of una de sleep de do fine boy, me don de plot my freedom to leave. Its easier to leave when you are young, the embassy no go see you as threat, and them go believe you easily as a student for example. So my guy, I don japa since.

pansophist:


I dont live in naija bro. Me wey don japa before I even clock 18

When many of una de sleep de do fine boy, me don de plot my freedom to leave. Its easier to leave when you are young, the embassy no go see you as threat, and them go believe you easily as a student for example. So my guy, I don japa since.

wicked human being :

pansophist:


I dont live in naija bro. Me wey don japa before I even clock 18

When many of una de sleep de do fine boy, me don de plot my freedom to leave. Its easier to leave when you are young, the embassy no go see you as threat, and them go believe you easily as a student for example. So my guy, I don japa since.

wicked human being

funny enough I met some guys, they work in some of the best govt agencies.
those guys have no plans of the leaving the country, they even laughed at the idea of leaving the country.

they claimed living abroad is suffering and not so rosy.


two of them told me that despite the fact they have relatives abroad they're still the bread winners of their families.

what are your opion on these ?

should someone with a good income still consider japa ?

KingClown:


wicked human being

funny enough I met some guys, they work in some of the best govt agencies.
those guys have no plans of the leaving the country, they even laughed at the idea of leaving the country.

they claimed living abroad is suffering and not so rosy.


two of them told me that despite the fact they have relatives abroad they're still the bread winners of their families.

what are your opion on these ?

should someone with a good income still consider japa ?

I wrote the quoted below in another thread yesterday. It should answer your question.

[b] Yes, but more of ''one leg in, one leg out''

Secure and solidify your earnings, to be location independent if possible. Then secure residency elsewhere, for immediate japa, just in case. Nigeria is sweet to live in when you know you can just book a flight and leave tomorrow if mosquitoes bite you.

So do not put all your eggs in one basket. Money is useless if it is not utilized to make your life better. So use your money to buy options, and maybe another passport. Before the war, Ukraine used to be a place where with 1500 USD, you can register a business there and receive a residence permit, and after five years, you can become Ukrainian, with a passport to travel all around the world visa-free.

There are other countries that still do that (e.g Panama, Serbia, Hungary), so explore these options. But don't abandon your work to slave abroad. Even in Scandinavian countries, most people earn around 3000 euros. With 5000 USD monthly, Nigeria can be heaven, but only if Nigeria is not your only option. [/b]

pansophist:


I wrote the quoted below in another thread yesterday. It should answer your question.

gbam

one leg in, one leg out.


thank you my machiavelli of nairaland.

you sopose enter Twitter.
before December he sure me die say yo go don turn influencer, I go bet my money.

KingClown:


gbam

one leg in, one leg out.


thank you my machiavelli of nairaland.

you sopose enter Twitter.
before December he sure me die say yo go don turn influencer, I go bet my money.

Ma brother de always talk say na so so content full my body. But social media things and followers no be my thing. I no like make people know me. Just few organic friends in my circle, a loyal woman, and I am good to go. Lowkey life no get stress.

pansophist:


Ma brother de always talk say na so so content full my body. But social media things and followers no be my thing. I no like make people know me. Just few organic friends in my circle, a loyal woman, and I am good to go. Lowkey life no get stress.

I sent you a mail sir, kindly check.

Epositive:


I sent you a mail sir, kindly check.

Saw nothing. Just checked

pansophist:


Ma brother de always talk say na so so content full my body. But social media things and followers no be my thing. I no like make people know me. Just few organic friends in my circle, a loyal woman, and I am good to go. Lowkey life no get stress.

you can still be active on social media and nobody will know you.

there are a couple of famous guys on Twitter and nobody knows squat about them.

I understand sha........even though plenty people stand to gain alot from you, your peace mind should be no 1

pansophist:


Ma brother de always talk say na so so content full my body. But social media things and followers no be my thing. I no like make people know me. Just few organic friends in my circle, a loyal woman, and I am good to go. Lowkey life no get stress.

There is this handle in Twitter called UnkleAya. You guys are similar. Check him out.

pansophist:


Saw nothing. Just checked

I have resent it. It was a response to an ongoing conversation.

Create a telegram group that only you can post and drop your content. With this, coming generations will benefit from your knowledge.
Endeavour to tag me when this is done.
Cheers.

pansophist:


Ma brother de always talk say na so so content full my body. But social media things and followers no be my thing. I no like make people know me. Just few organic friends in my circle, a loyal woman, and I am good to go. Lowkey life no get stress.

pansophist:
I wrote this about a year ago on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6716367/how-does-young-teenager-figure#105104589 But I think more young people have to see this. Please don't joke with your youth.

Very insightful for even those over 30.

pansophist:
I wrote this about a year ago on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6716367/how-does-young-teenager-figure#105104589 But I think more young people have to see this. Please don't joke with your youth.

Hi sir,

After going through your thread I decided to create an account to get some advice from you. So uhm how do you beat procastination?

November 2021 I wanted to prepare for jamb(2022) I drafted out a study time table and went through the syllabus. I also had about 5 months of study time but alas when I decided to open my book I found out it was 7days remaining to the exam like WTF!!!!!!!
What happened to the 5months I thought I had Was I hallucinating or what Like what did I do for those five months wasted well I did have it but procastination killed me. Even when writing the exam I knew as hell that I would write jamb again in 2023.

This procastination is getting worst, I only used my academics as an example here but if I start to talk about how this procastination is affecting me in several aspect of my life making me run "Helter skelter" just to meet deadlines i doubt if you'd have the time to read all.

I have tried reading blogs and searching for a way to stop it but none is working at all . I am not even sure most of the bloggers have experienced procastination to give a solid solution and the worst part of this all is that there is some shitty persons or entity telling me in my head as I write this now that I am wasting my time!!!!!!

Pls help. Thankyou

pansophist:
I wrote this about a year ago on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6716367/how-does-young-teenager-figure#105104589 But I think more young people have to see this. Please don't joke with your youth.

Hi sir,

After going through your thread I decided to create an account to get some advice from you. So uhm how do you beat procastination?

November 2021 I wanted to prepare for jamb(2022) I drafted out a study time table and went through the syllabus. I also had about 5 months of study time but alas when I decided to open my book I found out it was 7days remaining to the exam like WTF!!!!!!!
What happened to the 5months I thought I had Was I hallucinating or what Like what did I do for those five months wasted well I did have it but procastination killed me. Even when writing the exam I knew as hell that I would write jamb again in 2023.

This procastination is getting worst, I only used my academics as an example here but if I start to talk about how this procastination is affecting me in several aspect of my life making me run "Helter skelter" just to meet deadlines i doubt if you'd have the time to read all.

I have tried reading blogs and searching for a way to stop it but none is working at all . I am not even sure most of the bloggers have experienced procastination to give a solid solution and the worst part of this all is that there is some shitty persons or entity telling me in my head as I write this now that I am wasting my time!!!!!!

Pls help. Thankyou

ChukweEbuka:




Hi sir,

After going through your thread I decided to create an account to get some advice from you. So uhm how do you beat procastination?

November 2021 I wanted to prepare for jamb(2022) I drafted out a study time table and went through the syllabus. I also had about 5 months of study time but alas when I decided to open my book I found out it was 7days remaining to the exam like WTF!!!!!!!
What happened to the 5months I thought I had Was I hallucinating or what Like what did I do for those five months wasted well I did have it but procastination killed me. Even when writing the exam I knew as hell that I would write jamb again in 2023.

This procastination is getting worst, I only used my academics as an example here but if I start to talk about how this procastination is affecting me in several aspect of my life making me run "Helter skelter" just to meet deadlines i doubt if you'd have the time to read all.

I have tried reading blogs and searching for a way to stop it but none is working at all . I am not even sure most of the bloggers have experienced procastination to give a solid solution and the worst part of this all is that there is some shitty persons or entity telling me in my head as I write this now that I am wasting my time!!!!!!

Pls help. Thankyou

Procrastination is a problem of discipline. There is a trick I use to beat procrastination. What I do is I will set my alarm to a specific time and give myself a time period that I can tolerate, and complete that task I am postponing.

So for example, if I have to do my tax, I will give myself maybe 15 mins, a time that I could bear which doesn't seem long, and when the alarm ring, I try as much to finish it at that time. The catch here is that once you are doing the task, you are hooked already, and will go past the 15 mins even if you are not done.

if you can train yourself to just start, then you will finish it. But for studies specifically, it is mostly because young people are more interested in fun than responsibilities. And it is natural. It is not justifiable, but understandable.

Humans do not only grow in age, we also grow in the will, inner strength, responsibilities, and a strong awareness of consequences. Things my father punished and forced me to do while I was young, I do them now even better without anyone forcing me to, simply because my understanding of things has increased.

I am not sure how old you are, so let yourself grow. Even up till now, I still procrastinate, I am just smarter with it. I have a journal where I write all the deadlines of things I must do, and I complete the task with little time left.

I am not sure what you wanted to hear, but my explanation is to make you see that procrastination is not that much of a problem if you complete things before their deadline. You are human, not a machine, so be easy on yourself.

pansophist:


I wrote the quoted below in another thread yesterday. It should answer your question.

Which thread did you give that "japa" answer? Abeg quote me for there

Hello sir,

I've been following your thread for quite a while now but I need your opinion on something, I'm planning on relocating to Australia next year, not for studies but for work.

My plan is to get into the country then save up money to continue my education...I don't have the funds for the travel now but I'm seriously working on it and hopefully I'll get it before the year runs out..so what advice will you give to someone like me.. please everyone's opinion is also welcomed. I'm 26 years Old.

Thank you.

pansophist:


Procrastination is a problem of discipline. There is a trick I use to beat procrastination. What I do is I will set my alarm to a specific time and give myself a time period that I can tolerate, and complete that task I am postponing.

So for example, if I have to do my tax, I will give myself maybe 15 mins, a time that I could bear which doesn't seem long, and when the alarm ring, I try as much to finish it at that time. The catch here is that once you are doing the task, you are hooked already, and will go past the 15 mins even if you are not done.

if you can train yourself to just start, then you will finish it. But for studies specifically, it is mostly because young people are more interested in fun than responsibilities. And it is natural. It is not justifiable, but understandable.

Humans do not only grow in age, we also grow in the will, inner strength, responsibilities, and a strong awareness of consequences. Things my father punished and forced me to do while I was young, I do them now even better without anyone forcing me to, simply because my understanding of things has increased.

I am not sure how old you are, so let yourself grow. Even up till now, I still procrastinate, I am just smarter with it. I have a journal where I write all the deadlines of things I must do, and I complete the task with little time left.

I am not sure what you wanted to hear, but my explanation is to make you see that procrastination is not that much of a problem if you complete things before their deadline. You are human, not a machine, so be easy on yourself.

Thank you very much sir, this "fun" things isn't something i should be getting heavily involved in. I am 19 by the way.

cayorday89:


This was worth reading, and your last paragraph preceding the concluding paragraph speaks to me directly as an individual and people who are in my shoes, from childhood, I was that child that was not allowed to mingle with others or allowed to take key decisions that involved his life and now I am struggling so hard to find my bearing with this harsh economic reality, truly the earlier the tiger is freed the better. Obstacles will come but if he is shield because of those obstacles, they will still be waiting and he will still fight them but by then it will be thrice as much and lesser fighting power.

Much thanks to you for your enlightening write ups.

Had similar issue with Dad. He was too protective and would never support you going out of his sight for long, even when one stopped being a kid.

Mad me so comfortable to the point that going away from home seem an Herculean task, even now when the need for it is more daunting.