I have got turned down by women sometimes in the past and never had a problem becoming friends with those women.

But almost all the women I have turned down or attempted to friendzone when they attempt to date me have resulted into a sort of cold war.

The latest is a very good female friend, who attempted to pair me with her younger sister.
At first I was considering the sister and was making moves and advances, but the sister was very cocky and rather "proud" so I moved on mentally and would only check up on her occasionally.

Now the sister is in full pursuit mode, literally doing everything to get my attention and wanting us to date, I have codedly let her know I am not interested in anything more than friendship.

I never toasted this lady in question I only discussed with her elder sister about the possibility of dating her and the elder sister linked us. Now that I have moved on, the elder sister who used to be my very good friend seemed to have gotten the message and she has been rather cold towards me.

So why is it so difficult for women to accept rejection from men ?

You just made me remember Uncle Joseph in portiphar house. i wonder how person go rope you because u no gree Bleep. women are just a course to study.

This is exactly what happened between me and mariahangel

She may think you bleep her sister and left. Discuss with her since you both are close she may open up.

Why do 'some' women - that should be the headline, probably same reason 'some' men too.

Pride issue

Pride. Ego.

Only happens when you're uurgly and short.... or when she doesn't like u at all.

Are you sure this happened? Because the way you lie on Nairaland...

goodamerican:
Are you sure this happened? Because the way you lie on Nairaland...

I know, right?

That is why as a man, you should not accept to be friends with a woman that rejects you.

Because when you do, you are selling yourself very cheap. Women understand this that's why they mostly go the enemy route.


When a woman rejects you, it is perfectly okay to not like her anymore, not wanting to be her friend anymore. Infact, I highly recommend that this is what you should do.

Let her be friends with her female friends and partner.

faithfull18:
Why do 'some' women - that should be the headline, probably same reason 'some' men too.

Here dey come

Women, and men, take to such disposition where the core initial intention stemmed from self-absorption/greed regardless of how subtle and passionate they might have seemed prior.

Where her core intention is selfless - in other words, has an altruistic interest on him - whether or not he accepted/reciprocated her overture, she won't become bitter towards him and won't find it difficult/abnormal relating with him civilly and fairly whether or not they remain close, and of course, provided that he didn't unjustly capitalize on the opportunity to debase her.

RightToReject:
Women, and men, take to such disposition where the core initial intention stemmed from self-absorption/greed regardless of how subtle and passionate they might have seemed prior.

Where her core intention is selfless - in other words, has an altruistic interest on him - whether or not he accepted/reciprocated her overture, she won't become bitter towards him and won't find it difficult/abnormal relating with him civilly and fairly whether or not they remain close, and of course, provided that he didn't unjustly capitalize on the opportunity to debase her.

This is not true.

Say you applied for a job at Google knowing fully well you are qualified but you get rejected, are you saying you won't feel bad because your core intentions were to work and bring value and not about the money?

Karleb:


This is not true.

Say you applied for a job at Google knowing fully well you are qualified but you get rejected, are you saying you won't feel bad because your core intentions were to work and bring value and not about the money?

I won't feel bad, knowing that life doesn't revolve around me and that the establishment has the right to its liberty. Sincerely, life is much more pleasing and fulfilling when one operates from an altruistic and libertarian disposition.

oldienavie:
I have got turned down by women sometimes in the past and never had a problem becoming friends with those women.

But almost all the women I have turned down or attempted to friendzone when they attempt to date me have resulted into a sort of cold war.

The latest is a very good female friend, who attempted to pair me with her younger sister.
At first I was considering the sister and was making moves and advances, but the sister was very cocky and rather "proud" so I moved on mentally and would only check up on her occasionally.

Now the sister is in full pursuit mode, literally doing everything to get my attention and wanting us to date, I have codedly let her know I am not interested in anything more than friendship.

I never toasted this lady in question I only discussed with her elder sister about the possibility of dating her and the elder sister linked us. Now that I have moved on, the elder sister who used to be my very good friend seemed to have gotten the message and she has been rather cold towards me.

So why is it so difficult for women to accept rejection from men ?

Wait, all these toasting toasting stories, aren't you married already? Or was it not your traditional you advertised some time ago on the forum?

Na wa!

Na girl wey get low self esteem dy make first move on a man. If you show small green light and he fumble, never look his side again. Women should learn to stop making first move on men, it’s against nature and it will backfire

oldienavie:
I have got turned down by women sometimes in the past and never had a problem becoming friends with those women.

But almost all the women I have turned down or attempted to friendzone when they attempt to date me have resulted into a sort of cold war.

The latest is a very good female friend, who attempted to pair me with her younger sister.
At first I was considering the sister and was making moves and advances, but the sister was very cocky and rather "proud" so I moved on mentally and would only check up on her occasionally.

Now the sister is in full pursuit mode, literally doing everything to get my attention and wanting us to date, I have codedly let her know I am not interested in anything more than friendship.

I never toasted this lady in question I only discussed with her elder sister about the possibility of dating her and the elder sister linked us. Now that I have moved on, the elder sister who used to be my very good friend seemed to have gotten the message and she has been rather cold towards me.

So why is it so difficult for women to accept rejection from men ?

This depends on the personality of the woman.

I'm still very good friends with at least four chics that had wanted something serious with me in the past, but I didn't want/take them serious past the FWB zone.

There are some women however who by some devil's possession think too highly of themselves (especially when there's nothing particularly exceptional about them).
These are the ones that have a hard time accepting their L and staying cordial with you...

If you ask me, it's good riddance.
You should not desire having such women in your space, not even as friends.

goodamerican:
Are you sure this happened? Because the way you lie on Nairaland...

truthsayer009:


Wait, all these toasting toasting stories, aren't you married already? Or was it not your traditional you advertised some time ago on the forum?

Na wa!

This is the internet, whatever you read, just take it with a pinch of salt ...