*This was from a proprietress of a School, pls read:*

I need suggestions please cos since yesterday my brain has been struggling.

Two classmates aged 14 and 15 are friends.

The girl, 14 and the boy 15.

They've been having sex since she was 13.

She has also been taking pills for pregnancy control.

Unfortunately on Friday we seized her phone cos phones aren't allowed into the school. Apparently she came late to school and was punished. In the process, they sighted the phone.

The matron who was with the phone, saw a text notification saying; did you enjoy the sex? She opened the text and realised all these I'm sharing now.

Please, is the school at fault or the parents?

I agree they're classmates but I think I should be responsible for what happens in the school and not outside.

We have never caught them having sex in the school. So why should the school be in the middle?

Like I said, I need your suggestions and advise before I go for the final meeting.
I know my mouth is not good hence this post seeking advise on how to handle this cos the parents are shamelessly indirectly blaming the school.

"But she met the boy here!"�.

Dear Parents, I am tired of saying; Pay attention to your kids. I'm tired.

It is not everything I see that I will write.

Please pay attention!

Children in basic 4 have started sucking each other's pen.is. This is 8yrs/9yrs Children.

Those in SS1 and even JS 3 already know and use condom, pills, they know all sex styles.

I don't want to talk about SS3.

You're hustling and your children are rottening.

Me sef I've become super close to my kids. They gist me everything and anything.

I am super protective of them so I don't want stories that touch.

Pay attention! Pay attention!!

I didn't say mothers alone. I said, PARENTS!

Cos most cases we handle are children from homes with father and mother.

I wonder what home training you people give these kids. No single fear in them. None!

And this nonsense of do not beat a child, talk to the child, blah blah blah, I'm sorry it has caused more harm than good.

Beating should be done when necessary.

Anyway let me stop here but my OWN kids kuku know me. I have all properties to discipline them.

*Credit* : Azubuike chinenye

Well, meeting was a success.

We allowed the children to talk and alot of things were said/exposed...

The parents are 100% at fault.

So, the class teacher has been noticing pranks between them and has been scolding them.

Same teacher punished them twice cos of unnecessary discussions they hold while he's teaching.

He switched their classes and the mother of the girl came the next day and told the teacher; "I didn't enroll my child for corporal punishment". What was the punishment? Both of you should ride okada.

Punishment that I did well well those days with pick pin. Is what you call corporal? It's alright.

The meeting lasted for 5hrs cos it was a ring problem.

9 students were finally exposed.

*The Conclusion;*

1. Parents please sometimes allow these teachers discipline your child(ren).

2. Stop buying them smartphones.

3. Monitor and Monitor your child(ren).

4. Watch the friends your children keep. Please. Cos this matter started since Friday with just 2 students but we ended up settling wahala down to 9 students. They're all friends.

I realised that most of these children are damaged. I mean, they're rotten. Forgive me for using these words but I want you to understand how bad they've eaten deep.

There is nothing I didn't hear today. Nothing!

I almost wept.

Hearing small children of 12, 13, 14, 15 busy saying sex, condom, pills, flushing, manliness, pus..sy, nipple, 3some, club, m.arijuana, drink sper.m, cum.
Ha..... God!!!

I was looking at their parents. I saw the pain. I saw the heart break. I saw it all.

Anyway, I ended up suspending them.

I expelled only the 15yr old boy cos he is a cancer that has no cure. Busy sleeping with 2 friends in different classes. At this age?

My aim was to protect the image of the school and also solve the issues at hand.

I encouraged and consoled the parents.

They too in turn appreciated our efforts and high discipline considering the standard we have in our location.

Weldone @OP the decadence in the society is skyrocketing. I blame parents and our elders as well.

The kids spent approximately 8-10 hours in school, the school never thought or instruct them on having sex, or bought phone,data, condoms or pills for them.

The question I am asking now is who provides this things and those enablers for them.
If we can get the answers to this, then the school have no hand in this.this is my own contribution.

Some parents feels it demeans their status if their kids are not using smartphones. Offering unlimited/unmonitored access to internet open up kids to immoralities

Wow, I'm speechless

It started from their homes.

"I expelled only the 15yr old boy cos he is a cancer that has no cure. Busy sleeping with 2 friends in different classes. At this age?"

Why was only the boy expelled?
It takes two to have sex, so why didn't the girl's face the same punishment?
Oh yeahhhhhhh, right, the girls were the "victim" ....

Anyways....
The parents are to be blamed 100%...
Who gave the child this gadgets?
Who gave them unlimited access to Internet?
Who got them a sim card and recharged it?
Where does the kids spend most of their time, in school or at home?
Who refused corporal punishment to be meted on their kids?

Taking care of a child isn't just about feeding and schooling and housing o, the sooner parents realize this and act appropriately the better for the next generation ....

This is what we get when we choose to follow every system of the western world. Many schools don't have God in their schools program. There is no special meeting for general word of God and intensive prayer and counseling in many schools. But I thank God for 'Hebron International Schools Makurdi', where I previously worked right from been an undergraduate and few months after service. It is such an awesome place to groom pupils and students in academics and Godly morals. Ma, I recommend that you make the knowledge of God, his love, commandments, and judgement flows in your school like a river. Let there be times set aside for the word and prayers. Let there be memorizing of the scriptures. Also be careful of the kind of teachers you employ. 12pm-1pm every Fridays or some Fridays can be set aside for showing Bible stories, and at the end the pupils/students should be asked of the lessons of such videos. Also, the issues of over petting pupils and students in our generation is a destroyer to their soul. As such, clealy put in place strong disciplinary measures for misbehaviours. I pray for an awakening of discipline in schools.

When we were children,we were made to know that education start from home.

And I must confess that the school tried in unravelling this abomination however, the parents of these children must be very corrupt in and out of the house and that might have been the originating factor here.

This school needs to be appreciated for this findings.

Remember in social studies...it was said that in those days, that socialisation starts from the home...what now happened or has it been changed?

Mystery9:
I pray for an awakening of discipline in schools.

no matter how, it can't be same again, those days, teachers were quite passionate about the job and children were kind of mature then before they could start school, so they had to be ready to face the consequences of their actions.

Parents hardly go to public schools to confront the staff for disciplining their ill mannered kids, it's a shameful thing to the parents to be invited based on their kids misconduct those days.

In private schools, every parent have that entitlement mentality, they feel they are the backbone of the school so u dare not treat their kids anyhow even when they misbehave, the school always need to apply some level of diplomacy.

Only few people are ready to impart knowledge this days, many are not passionate about teaching again, they do it for lack of job, so they can easily pour out their frustrations on ur child if u don't stand up to them and remind them u are contributing to their salaries.