Happily Married

Men and women are as different as black and white; what appeals to one might be total nonsense to the other, while being controlled by different emotional frequencies also determines, to a great extent, their behaviour, reaction and approach to issues.
This, I guess, is one of the things which make the process of blending in marriage a bit more challenging. Marriage isn’t always a smooth ride but when you get it right, it’s the best ride of your life. The thought of relating with the opposite sex probably has more fantasies than every other aspect of life put together. Even the young guy going to school to settle in a profession has it on his mind that the money he’ll make later in life would be spent with a lovely lady who he’ll love deeply and share intimacy with.




The girls on the other hand, constantly look for ways to stay beautiful and please ‘Prince charming,’ imagining how to combine career and home front to get a balanced equation for happiness.
Someone once said to me, “the reason for all the troubles in the world is the desire to please the opposite sex. Guys could steal to keep their babes happy; girls don’t mind walking naked to entice boys; the whole cycle of human decisions weave around pleasing the people they are in love with.
In other words, a sweet and cosy relationship is the dream/wish of everyone—people who claim they love to be single might say so because they are not sure they can find true love. Now, out of fear of being hurt, decide not to give it a chance at all but you know what? Perfect love has no fear; if you expect love, give it first and your life will sure be better for it.
Dealing with the fear of abandonment or disappointment is a positive step in the right direction if happiness is to be achieved. Marriages are not always easy and good marriages don’t just happen by accident; you work for it. Unfortunately, people are greatly influenced by what they see on the television and the pages of newspapers. Celebrities who tend to be the society’s role models can hardly help themselves as they are the people with the highest rate of divorce and remarriage, drugs, sexual abuse, etc., so many families have been destroyed by false presentation of what marriage should be; the woman then thinks if he doesn’t come home with flowers like the man in the movie, each time he offends me, he doesn’t really love me. The man expects her to always be ‘ready’ for him even before he says so. In the real world of marriage, it would not be so, there would be times things would go very far from your wish and expectation, but you need to stay and find a way round it.

True happiness is found each day through the experience of couples who consciously work out how to balance the demands of life and differences to achieve stability. This they do through the following:

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