Ok Guys...How you doing?...I hope you are good? if so, then Glory be to God Almighty..(remember ?? Letter writing days)

So, I have been on here for a while esp. on this particular section (Romance) and I have seen a lot of guys create threads on porn and masturbation addiction and how they have been feeling so pathetic about it and how they will so much love to break away from this despicable act (it becomes a despicable act when it's out of control actually ) that seems to be unbeatable...

However, I will like to say that this thread is not meant for everybody, yeah it's not cos I believe not everyone is addicted or is an addict...and I equally believe that not all guys are worried about addiction, some don't even see the wrong in it... therefore my target audience are those who are frustrated, broken, sad, embarrassed and are ever willing to break away from it...

Now back to the topic- ADDICTION...
For the few people who are addicted to one particular thing or the other especially porn and masturbation but haven't really known/checked the dictionary meaning of what they have been going through ...see below:

Addiction is a psychological disorder characterized by a persistent and intense urge to engage in certain behaviors (porn and masturbation in this context)

Now you can read that again...what do you notice in that definition...
May be a lot of people will say- what they could see actually in the definition is the fact that Addiction is a psychological disorder...yeah yeah you are right ..it's a disorder but What other thing did you notice in the definition, I'm waiting......
ok you can't find it..
Ladies and gentlemen I present to you the big man: 2 hundred and 50 pounds mass : THEEEEEE URGEEEEE ...this is the culprit.... Yeah always friendly but evil minded....it's the middleman between you and your addiction...
It begins to show up uncontrollably in a lot of people after their first taste...

....can I also tell you that there are some people who don't get addicted to things like this : porn, masturbation, alcohol, gambling, smoking...not that they don't involve themselves in it , some do but they know when to draw the line no matter the urge...
So Once you are unable to draw that line (even if you are willing to )..then you are addicted!!
At this point, You will only need to admit and accept that you are addicted... infact your freedom starts from that moment you accept your reality.

See, I will try not to bore you with too much of explanation as I'm already sailing towards the end of my discussion...

Now, read attentively....THE URGE: it has just 3 to 5 minutes to convince you to accepting it proposal to channel in, your addiction...that's it job..it links you to the domain

Something like: you are browsing the internet and suddenly a nude pops up on your phone (or you logged in on Instagram and you see a lot of nudes even when you don't plan to masturbate and then comes the urge: bro, do you want some taste? ...and then you foolishly smile like you are in heaven ....and then the next thing, your shit is already out of your boxers, logged in on real porn site and you are caught up in the act again...then oh my God will be your next word after releasing your nuts....ok that's the urge...

THE TIME: this is the breakthrough...Life itself is laid on the foundation of time....you were once a second old baby, from there you became a minute old, an hour old, a day old, a month old , a year old till your present age...

So I tell you, that's how your urge grows with time and then you are playing along till it started having an adverse effect on your psychology i.e the way you think/feel ( that's why when you are happy,sad or lonely, you go watch porn & masturbate) which then leads you to a psychological disorder ...which gave birth to the term addiction....
Know this and know peace : Your addiction won't go away in one day because they didn't build up in one day... your addiction will go away as your urge fades away...

Now I tell you, you don't have a business with your addiction...you have a business with the urge....once you kill the urge (with time) your addiction will get the message that you ain't interested anymore..

Ok, This is how to kill/fade off your urge (the Koko of this whole long talk): I have been able to come up with a simplified way of doing it..
*It's easy and practical
*Its a thing of the mind
*It's also psychological....

Now...this is it: THE TIME...what's say the Time??.....every second count in building up your addiction, so will every second count in killing off the urge (remember this statement..I will mention it later )

Immediately, you start to feel the urge to watch porn and masturbate...I sure believe you know exactly how that urge comes or how you feel when it comes.....

*Once you feel the urge... look at the time..maybe on your phone or the clock on the wall , or your wristwatch...yeah, look at the time

* Ask yourself: what says the time? If the time is 9:30am ..say it to your mind: 9:30am
(Now by doing the above you have succeeded in diverting your attention away from your urge at that point )

* Same moment, begin to reflect on how you have grown up to hate porn and masturbation, how you have always wanted to stop it and how you have always wanted to put it behind you for other meaningful things to take it place..think about it for few minutes

* Good, After that...ask yourself again: what says the time: tell yourself the time like you did earlier..
then say this like twice to yourself: every second count in killing off my urge..
(remember I told you about this....you are saying this to reaffirm the need for all of this that you are doing)

*By the time, you get back to your Normal state of mind...the urge would have faded away...

* Repeat these tips whenever you feel the urge....it will fade off with time. Trust me

Note: for serious minds only ..it won't work if you are not already willing to stop the act...but it will surely work for you ..if you believe...

If you are among my target audience and you still have sex videos on your phones, ipads, Laptops (back in the university, I know a guy who has about 3k sex videos on his Laptop) ..please you will have to delete them ..very very important for your mental/psychological health recovery...

I repeat, this thread is not for everyone..
...the above write ups might not make sense to you(it really doesn't have to) but it may be very important to somebody out there reading....so don't derail the thread..

For My target audience: You can always drop your comment from time to time...
Feel free.. it doesn't matter..this is Life..
Everybody has one or two challenges he or she is facing.... forget the make up or handsome appearance.. something is biting under that fine face ..

So fyi: I am currently running a diploma course in mental health

Good luck...May God help you...

If it makes you feel good and happy, then continue doing what you love, as long as you're not harming anyone physically

Antimarraige:
If it makes you feel good and happy, then continue doing what you love, as long as you're not harming anyone physically

Did you know? There are people who masturbate like 3-5 times a day...yeah

I don't think that sounds like something that feels good...its not healthy... And for some people..it goes on like that for years...

So this category of people now know that what felt good initially is not appealing to them anymore and it's killing, they know this within themselves and now they want out....

That's it.

Thanks.

Kill the urge

Starz825:

Did you know? There are people who masturbate like 3-5 times a day...yeah

I don't think that sounds like something that feels good...its not healthy... And for some people..it goes on like that for years...

So this category of people now know that what felt good initially is not appealing to them anymore and it's killing, they know this within themselves and now they want out....

That's it.

Thanks.

they have brains and know that cumming thrice a day is kinda on the high side and dangerous, yet they still chose to do it... Those type of people are better left alone to cause whatever they like to 'their' body since they already know the consequences

Unto matters arising

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