robinso01:
I've seen many sickle cell children cursing their parents for the pain they are going through. You should understand better what a child must have been passing through to curse her parent.

I know you won't want this kind of situation for yourself.

It's better to let go of each other now, than to later marry each other and be regretting it for the rest of your life.
If you don't even think about yourselves, think about the child that might be unfortunate with the sickle cell.

Those days we were younger, followed popsi and mum to a neighbour's house, apparently, they had just lost a 3rd child, a boy. Omo, I was shocked when I heard the woman tell my folks had she known, nothing on this earth would have made her marry this man. She said it pointing at her husband!
So sad.
That boy would have been 51 years old this year.

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lrman:
All of you shouting that he should go ahead,
that he can do PRENATAL DIAGNOSIS bla bla bla...who is deceiving you that it will work 100%?? It is a 50/50 chance...go and ask any great doctor around you...better do not mislead the op...why intentionally go into problem all in the name of relationship or love??...even if you are a billionaire...The medical procedure to prevent the sickle cell child is not even 100% guaranteed..it is a 50/50 chance situation...oh those world billionaires with sickle cell kids , you thought their doctors were not aware of the same procedures which you are recommending to the OP??lol...smh..some of you are just myopic and funny...

brr. Hunnnn! You so such it’s 50/50 chances? Or you just picked 50 as ur yardstick, cos this pure explainable biology, go and read more about IVF, it’s never a 50/50 chances bro in science you see what you assuming, IVF option is only expensive, and I don’t see reason I shouldn’t see that as an option tho.

Ologundudu2020:


Well if I have I can give it up, just that once lol and I have 45% moving prospects to achieve anything to bring us together.

When we think about making babies, we should also think about making money for the babies.

Thanks tho, learned the other option is cheaper and safer, I mean checking the fetus before growing, and who knows our first hit could be a twin with AA it’s an option too my father had three twins, and my uncles did too plus I shoot a lot.

Having Twins is not dependent on you but on her. Having a boy or a girl is your making, not hers.

Autobot05:


Dude there is an advice hidden in what I told you ... it wasn't an insult

Learn to be complete with or without anyone
You say she's all you got . What if she changes tomorrow? Then from your statement you have nothing if she leaves ... We are humans bro and humans( women especially) are fickle

I've been here before so I talking from experience
Have a wonderful day and apply my siggy to your lifestyle if possible

Stop advicing men who are in love. Them fit shoot you

Not to worry....there is a medical activity that can detect the genotype of the embrayo in her eventually u guyz get married...It doesn't cost that much.


quote author=Ologundudu2020 post=117854732]Good day! So I’m wondering if people still dump long healthy and lasting relationships for genotype sagas.


Cos I’m not about to lose a very healthy and long lasting 10yrs relationship for nothing.

Do people still dump themselves for this blood Genotype issues, or there are alternatives, this 2022 it’s been long I heard close relatives or friends having issues like that, I’m probably not exposed enough tho.

We both As in genetype, and I’m working on finding a better way to make this work, she’s all I’ve got fr and I’m already in my early 30s.


I’m not a fan of too many child, you can be a great parent even with adoption, but I still want a child with her exactly. She’s has to look like her self lol �

Pls what’s your take, can I have this girl to myself or is still the shout of quit? [/quote]

Ologundudu2020:

I knew about the IVF where the foetus get tested before growing, and that’s the only slimmer chance I’ve been holding unto, I heard it’s cost around 2-4m or so. Believe me you we’ve have to do than growing babies and we both have more to lose leaving each other.

The painful truth is that, IVF is far cheaper in monetary cost than the money to maintain a child with SS to adulthood.

I am talking strictly about monies for drugs, hospitals, etc.

If you add the emotional cost of having that child plus the pass-on trauma you will pass on to a child with AS, you will suddenly discover that N5m is a very very cheap option that will save you and your partner from the stress and the GUILT that you deliberately inflicted an avoidable disease and trauma on your kids.

I am not advising you to leave your partner, but you guys must not be selfish in your decision making, you must advocate for the unborn babies, they did not ask for this…see things from their own side as well, just as you are deeply in love with your partner, also consider them as well.

If you love your partner as deeply as you stated and she is the only one you have, transfer that same love to your unborn kids and ensure you also protect them.

My conclusion is, both of you must consider IVF or other alternatives as a necessary budgetary item in your home, if not call the relationship off.

That said, please note that IVF is not 100% defense against having kids without the sicken cell disease or trait, IVF reduces the chances of having one. Most IVF clinics will tell you this off front before or during your first consultation. Others who are money hungry, will collect your money and bury this information in their fine prints for you to sign, so you can’t sue them later.

The best method against giving birth to kids with Sickle Cell trait or disease is not to have a child with an AS or SS partner…..the next option is unethical and considered murder ie to screen the embryo from like 11 weeks for Sickle Cell traits and discard it, if found! But why murder an INNOCENT baby and carry that GUILT for the rest of your life, because you say you LOVE someone and can’t afford to loss a 10 years old relationship?

If you are rich, you can opt for IVF so they can do selective implantation via advanced NIPT screening for the sickle cell trait.

If you can't afford it, I don't know how you'll do it cause 10 years is a long time to have wasted the time of that woman.

With all the awareness going on about sickle cell and genotype compatibility, it feels like you just crawled out of the stone age where the topic is concerned.

Ologundudu2020:
Good day! So I’m wondering if people still dump long healthy and lasting relationships for genotype sagas.


Cos I’m not about to lose a very healthy and long lasting 10yrs relationship for nothing.

Do people still dump themselves for this blood Genotype issues, or there are alternatives, this 2022 it’s been long I heard close relatives or friends having issues like that, I’m probably not exposed enough tho.

We both As in genetype, and I’m working on finding a better way to make this work, she’s all I’ve got fr and I’m already in my early 30s.


I’m not a fan of too many child, you can be a great parent even with adoption, but I still want a child with her exactly. She’s has to look like her self lol �

Pls what’s your take, can I have this girl to myself or is still the shout of quit?

1.You don't have to dump your partner because genotype.

2.Assuming this is AS and AS....being AS does not mean you will have a SS child. For all you know, you could have 4 children who are AA, or 2 AS , 2 AA, or 3 AA , one AS, or all SS, or all SS with factor F.. AS genotype just means you have a higher chance of having an SS child...it does not mean YOU WILL have an SS child or children

3. Still, do what you think is best. Get some counsel from a medical doctor, especially from a gyanecologist about IVF...

Ologundudu2020:

I’m about going out to make money rn, you should also go for your classes so you don’t have another F

Hehehehe ... everyone knows going to classes this days doesnt even guarantee u a C without an added extra tutorial classes plus these agigated lecturers that hasnt been paid their salary wont even take d lectures serious...

LadyExcellency:


Having Twins is not dependent on you but on her. Having a boy or a girl is your making, not hers.

how can I have a girl, I don’t mind, I just want the mothers replica I can always adopt a son later on if I feel lonely which it’s not possible.

Ologundudu2020:
Good day! So I’m wondering if people still dump long healthy and lasting relationships for genotype sagas.


Cos I’m not about to lose a very healthy and long lasting 10yrs relationship for nothing.

Do people still dump themselves for this blood Genotype issues, or there are alternatives, this 2022 it’s been long I heard close relatives or friends having issues like that, I’m probably not exposed enough tho.

We both As in genetype, and I’m working on finding a better way to make this work, she’s all I’ve got fr and I’m already in my early 30s.


I’m not a fan of too many child, you can be a great parent even with adoption, but I still want a child with her exactly. She’s has to look like her self lol �

Pls what’s your take, can I have this girl to myself or is still the shout of quit?

I would have read your post and ignored as usual, but this one I have to say something about. Mr. Loverman, you better hold yourself and NEVER give birth to an SS child. DONT BRING ANY SOUL INTO THIS WORLD TO SUFFER!!

If you are not ready to let go of the relationship then get ready to enjoy the suffering in future

Think about the emotional toll it'll have on the woman and relationship as a whole. Imagine aborting 3 babies in a row because they're SS. The option is there doesn't mean it's advisable

kene005yahooc:
I don’t know why the awareness of this procedure is poor !!

There’s a procedure for this and all your kids will come out in good health
It’s a bit expensive
The unborn child can be checked after 3 months through the navel of your pregnant wife
If the baby is SS the pregnancy will be terminated and then you try again
If not SS you go ahead and deliver and thank the lord !

dawnomike:
It is painful but you both have to let go... Trust me, you do not want to bring your lovely kids to the world to suffer the pains of been 'AS'. Please, let go!

SS u mean? Because there's no pain to being AS.

Ologundudu2020:


No there won’t be anything sickle cell child born, so no one is dying at 17 anymore, I’m here for measures not to have the SS of a child, which is achievable with proper exposure and not the advice you people are throwing, you all forget I’m here to weight my options for the last time.


How you all quick to dump people self

Okay. Good luck

OP if both of you are AS drop her. You could get an AA child or an SS child too.

Ologundudu2020:

We have AA AS then SS options for us, so which of them is a follow come disease? Don’t forget we have people on this forum with same blood, and why narrowing it down to the last option, forgetting our first child can be AA and we done . Lol we should stop been primitive in this part of the world, so I should dump someone with prospects all because I want be having babies.

Even if there is a 0.0000000000000000000001% probability that the union will produce an SS offspring, u have no choice but to let go. U can't put your happiness above another person's well being. How will u feel about ur parents assuming they gave birth to u as an SS knowing fully well that they were AS each. Trust me u would nt forgive them.

I doubt if you came here for advice. Cos from your replies, it's obvious you just want people to tell you what you want to hear and not the bitter truth. If you love yourself, you better quit now and get someone that is AA.

According to John doe "women are loyal to their feelings and not your sacrifices" also love is a myth. That lady that you think is your all in all will dump your sorry ass, and even if you guys marry, she will blame you for every misfortune that might occur in the future

Ologundudu2020:

I knew about the IVF where the foetus get tested before growing, and that’s the only slimmer chance I’ve been holding unto, I heard it’s cost around 2-4m or so. Believe me you we’ve have to do than growing babies and we both have more to lose leaving each other.

[quote author=doggedfighter post=117855128]

There are ways around it now.


Someone suggested I VF already.

I think you can check the foetus and abort if it's SS too. That's another option too.

Meet a doctor specialised in this. He will give you options.

Don't dump each other yet.


Explore all and every available options .

There are solutions to these things now.


Remember not to reply little brats here that knows nothing about life (Quote)






The solution from the IVF is not as simple and straight forward as you might have imagined.
Success rate of IVF is slightly above 30%, talk less of spermatozoa gene selection for sickle cell trait.
My bro the simple general rule is if you're not AA, try and marry someone that's AA to avoid bad stories in future.
The crises those children goes through during their life time is better imagine

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Romanoff:
If you are rich, you can opt for IVF so they can do selective implantation via advanced NIPT screening for the sickle cell trait.

If you can't afford it, I don't know how you'll do it cause 10 years is a long time to have wasted the time of that woman.

With all the awareness going on about sickle cell and genotype compatibility, it feels like you just crawled out of the stone age where the topic is concerned.

doggedfighter:


There are ways around it now.


Someone suggested I VF already.

I think you can check the foetus and abort if it's SS too. That's another option too.

Meet a doctor specialised in this. He will give you options.

Don't dump each other yet.

Ladies and their emotional favouritism called advise dey off me sometimes... whatever happened to Prevention to avoid "had I known" is underrated...

Well, seems like OP is a very stubborn man who has already made up his mind before posting and has enough money to dash different hospitals, Anyways, Doctors and nurses needs to chop as well...

Ologundudu2020:
Good day! So I’m wondering if people still dump long healthy and lasting relationships for genotype sagas.


Cos I’m not about to lose a very healthy and long lasting 10yrs relationship for nothing.

Do people still dump themselves for this blood Genotype issues, or there are alternatives, this 2022 it’s been long I heard close relatives or friends having issues like that, I’m probably not exposed enough tho.

We both As in genetype, and I’m working on finding a better way to make this work, she’s all I’ve got fr and I’m already in my early 30s.


I’m not a fan of too many child, you can be a great parent even with adoption, but I still want a child with her exactly. She’s has to look like her self lol �

Pls what’s your take, can I have this girl to myself or is still the shout of quit?

My brother, I understand your predicament, but it's best you let things be if you must have biological kids with her. Lemme not bore you with the scientific explanations as a Biochemist that I am, but bro, when reality sets in, you'd read this thread you created again but ris time with tears and regrets. But if you're super sure that GOD is leading you to do this, then why not? HE alone defies medical science. I wish you well my brother.

Delight2014:
As + As is a no go area.
One girl was crying heavily in our lab the last time when they came to do screening test.
They were negative to all the test but their genotypes were As and it was damn hell for her because she wants to get married at all cost and to the man because according to her she loves the guy so much.
So my dear, you better separate from her now than it's too late

aside separating and someone has money, is there a way out?

Zonefree:

Remove 4 years from 10 years, that's 6 years.

Una dey try sha.. you banged someone's daughter for straight six years

what if him never bang her all this year's. They do let's wait till after marriage...

Romanoff:
If you are rich, you can opt for IVF so they can do selective implantation via advanced NIPT screening for the sickle cell trait.

If you can't afford it, I don't know how you'll do it cause 10 years is a long time to have wasted the time of that woman.

With all the awareness going on about sickle cell and genotype compatibility, it feels like you just crawled out of the stone age where the topic is concerned.

Listen to every bit of this advice or stick strictly to the adoption you talked about.
DON'T BE VERY VERY VERY UNFORTUNATE to go ahead with birthing sickle cell children because of your nonsense 10years relationship.

Maybe you should spend just one hour in a sickle cell management facility so you see the pepertual suffering those guys are going through for you to have sense.

No just vex me this morning!!!

surrogatesng:
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What's the subject of the discussion?

My dear, please opt out of the relationship in the interests of yourself, the lady, your family, hers and your future.
We were a family of 7 reduced to 5 ad we lost due to being SS and unending crisis when growing up.
As an adult I also had a good relationship like yours but when we got to the genotype we had to take that decision to quit. I even had to meet her mum and opened up also to her mum about our family experience and she agreed.
The lady is married to another now with kids. She called me one day to thank me after coming across an adult SS in her neighbourhood explaining what the man goes through during crisis. Separation is the safest, on the science part something could go wrong and both of you will become stuck with the consequence for ever.

Ologundudu2020:
Good day! So I’m wondering if people still dump long healthy and lasting relationships for genotype sagas.


Cos I’m not about to lose a very healthy and long lasting 10yrs relationship for nothing.

Do people still dump themselves for this blood Genotype issues, or there are alternatives, this 2022 it’s been long I heard close relatives or friends having issues like that, I’m probably not exposed enough tho.

We both As in genetype, and I’m working on finding a better way to make this work, she’s all I’ve got fr and I’m already in my early 30s.


I’m not a fan of too many child, you can be a great parent even with adoption, but I still want a child with her exactly. She’s has to look like her self lol �

Pls what’s your take, can I have this girl to myself or is still the shout of quit?

go ahead the Lord is ur strength. I was in that situation 3 times but I had to choose wisely because if the consequences shows up, bro love will run away.

The guy is not ready to listen. A stubborn fly always get buried with the corps

Rinoxy:

My brother, I understand your predicament, but it's best you let things be if you must have biological kids with her. Lemme not bore you with the scientific explanations as a Biochemist that I am, but bro, when reality sets in, you'd read this thread you created again but ris time with tears and regrets. But if you're super sure that GOD is leading you to do this, then why not? HE alone defies medical science. I wish you well my brother.

Ologundudu2020:



brr. Hunnnn! You so such it’s 50/50 chances? Or you just picked 50 as ur yardstick, cos this pure explainable biology, go and read more about IVF, it’s never a 50/50 chances bro in science you see what you assuming, IVF option is only expensive, and I don’t see reason I shouldn’t see that as an option tho.

You have Google on your phone na.....Oh it is your doctor that told you that it is never a 50/50 chance ?? Really?? That doctor that told you so should be fired..he is obviously a quack doctor...