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Am I Taking This Too Far? by hotwax: 3:04pm On Oct 25, 2022
This guy is like a younger brother to me. We come from the same village. So he is like my blood brother. NYSC posted him to a neighboring town. Before he could settle down, he came to stay with me while he was looking for Job placement.

I realized he was struggling to rent an apartment, so I gave him some cash to rent an apartment.
After getting his apartment fixed, he still visits us and spend most weekends with us. Suddenly, he seized coming and he hardly call or communicate. I assumed it’s due to his work schedule. After all, it’s not easy to work in Lagos. Lagos traffic itself can make someone a zombie.

Few weeks later I was discussing a matter with his mom on phone when she unconsciously told me my guy has left the house I gave him money to rent. He is now living with some yahoo guys in one Estate close to my house. He moved from a neighboring town to my next bus stop. Somewhere just 10minutes drive from my place and he did not deem it fit to call me or pop in to greet me or inform me that we are now on the same street.

It pained me. I felt so stupid. I had to cough out the money I gave him for house rent. In fact I borrowed 100k from a colleague at the office to balance this house rent. I kept mute, I didn’t talk. Next, I started seeing his pictures and videos on Instagram and whatsapp status. He was living large. He buys latest sneakers in town and post it on whatsapp status. HE started posting Gucci collections. He will look at my status, do as if he does not know me. He later dye his hair, switched to dreadlock. He always post video of him in a big glamourous mansion with cash on the bed. He even post pictures of him, cash and half naked girls on the bed. Meanwhile, he stopped going to his NYSC place of assignment.

I forgot to mention, he visit my place when I am not at home. He confided in one of my brothers and told him, he intentionally came when I was not around so he won’t meet me. For a fact, I was not jealous of him for the life he is living. He can go on displaying bling-bling, he has not achieved 10% of my life achievements. So he was non-consequential to me. He sometimes post digs on whatsapp targeting me, accusing his elders of jealousy because he is making it. I knew he was referring to me.

2 Months ago, I had a serious malaria that I thought I was gonna die. I was on sick bed when his sister called me from the village that he has been arrested by EFCC. EFCC busted all of them in their apartment at midnite and he has been transported to Ikoyi detention facility. I nearly fainted on sick bed. His sister had to come to lagos. His extended family contributed money in the village. I could not give a kobo because I was broke, the money I had was for hospital bill. He spent 1 month in detention because we could not meet his bail condition on time.

He finally came out last month. But his case is still going to court. He now need another 600k for his court sitting. When he came out, he came visiting me to explain his movement. How he was staying with yahoo boys. How he was not into yahoo scam, but was just unlucky to be among them when EFCC came. He now need my help. I actually have some cash to give out. But I resent him right now. I told him I don’t have a penny and gave him some excuses why I am broke.

Some voices within me is pushing me to help him. But the real me does not want to help him.
Whats is your advice?

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Cutehector(m): 3:08pm On Oct 25, 2022
For me...i'll forgive the part that he disregarded me.

But he'll have to do time in jail.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by hotwax: 3:11pm On Oct 25, 2022
Cutehector:
For me...i'll forgive the part that he disregarded me.

But he'll have to do time in jail.

Just thinking if we won't become eternal enemies if he goes to jail
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Cutehector(m): 3:14pm On Oct 25, 2022
hotwax:


Just thinking if we won't become eternal enemies if he goes to jail
like i give a fvck if we become enemies. Mchew. Abeg.. He should do time.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by brosom(m): 3:15pm On Oct 25, 2022
He's a prodigal brother that need restitution, forgive him and watch his closely if really he's gonna change.

If he didn't, then believe me u re free from his future worries

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Peacefulriver: 3:15pm On Oct 25, 2022
Forgive him? Yes but give him money again? Nah, he doesn't deserve it. Let him experience life so he'll learn to appreciate things and never to ever bite the finger that fed him.

Always be good to the people on your way up the ladder cause you'll meet them on your way down.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by hotwax: 3:17pm On Oct 25, 2022
Peacefulriver:
Forgive him? Yes but give him money again? Nah, he doesn't deserve it. Let him experience life so he'll learn to appreciate things and never to ever bite the finger that fed him.

Always be good to the people on your way up the ladder cause you'll meet them on your way down.

wisdom...exactly my thought...

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Zonefree(m): 3:24pm On Oct 25, 2022
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by September19: 3:31pm On Oct 25, 2022
Fool me once shame on you.

Fool me twice shame on me.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by VeryWickedMan: 3:52pm On Oct 25, 2022
If you help him I will personally use you for his own rituals.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Foodqueen(f): 3:57pm On Oct 25, 2022
U really don't own him anything

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Brunosamel(m): 3:58pm On Oct 25, 2022
Life is hard especially for men you have played your own part by helping him but his ego and small change he got staying with yahoo boys gave him the impression he has arrived.

Forgive him but never ever spend a dime on him allow him to face his punishment, everything action has its consequences so let him bare it he's a man

Don't stress yourself over it cuz natural you are a good person but sometimes being good is not worth the hassle you need to show you can do bad all by yourself, it brings not only respect to you but also you build a good reputation for yourself cuz you have the power to do both good and bad & that's what makes you a man.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Merch: 3:59pm On Oct 25, 2022
No dey give a man more than wetin him deserve..do whatever you want with this little advice of mine

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Ballzproblemm: 4:04pm On Oct 25, 2022
don't even try it ,if reverse is the case you think he will be thinking of you,your kindness is making you think stupidly,I won't even look his face

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by marlow1962(m): 4:07pm On Oct 25, 2022
First help didn’t matter, so while will the second help matter?
Leave the guy to em faith. Some ppl no actually deserve another ppl help.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by abuja007: 4:50pm On Oct 25, 2022
Help him at your own peril. He should thank God he is not being lynched. Leave him and let him learn. Best you can do is give a drop to what is needed. Let him learn. He never learn his lesson

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by goodmike7: 7:36pm On Oct 25, 2022
If you lift a finger to help him then you are doomed
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by zed7: 8:11pm On Oct 25, 2022
Beat me once, shame on you. Beat me twice, shame on me.

The best way to learn a lesson is to learn it the hard way. It sticks better.
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by hotwax: 9:18pm On Oct 25, 2022
VeryWickedMan:
If you help him I will personally use you for his own rituals.

Haahaha..take am easy oo
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Streetmovement(m): 10:20pm On Oct 25, 2022
Wotoporiously cool speaking

In BIG WIZ VOICE; I no dey give a man more than he deserve, cuz they bite the hand wey dey feed them....watch closely, when niggas start to dey make small change them don forget the ones wey help them and hang around the ones they don't know shit about, just imagine say that situation no happen to am he for comeback come follow you dey cap? Nigga's keeping you around as his rebound cuz he know you got a good heart, know that and know Peace!!

A word is enough for the wise.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Sneakytoucher: 10:24pm On Oct 25, 2022
Foodqueen:
U really don't own him anything
It is "owe" nt "own"

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by hotwax: 6:56am On Oct 26, 2022
zed7:
Beat me once, shame on you. Beat me twice, shame on me.

The best way to learn a lesson is to learn it the hard way. It sticks better.

noted
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Tsolutionjoseph: 7:10am On Oct 26, 2022
hotwax:


Just thinking if we won't become eternal enemies if he goes to jail
if you have enough to waste, you can give him
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by luizpippo(m): 7:11am On Oct 26, 2022
Let him face the music, to prove nobody is jealous of him.
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Clinghton: 7:15am On Oct 26, 2022
You borrowed to help someone that was ungrateful, what do you think would happen next.

Forgive him, don't inconvenient yourself to help him.
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Karleb(m): 7:16am On Oct 26, 2022
He doesn't deserve your help.
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by hotwax: 7:16am On Oct 26, 2022
luizpippo:
Let him face the music, to prove nobody is jealous of him.

thanks
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by stacyadams: 7:17am On Oct 26, 2022
hotwax:
This guy is like a younger brother to me. We come from the same village. So he is like my blood brother. NYSC posted him to a neighboring town. Before he could settle down, he came to stay with me while he was looking for Job placement.

I realized he was struggling to rent an apartment, so I gave him some cash to rent an apartment.
After getting his apartment fixed, he still visits us and spend most weekends with us. Suddenly, he seized coming and he hardly call or communicate. I assumed it’s due to his work schedule. After all, it’s not easy to work in Lagos. Lagos traffic itself can make someone a zombie.

Few weeks later I was discussing a matter with his mom on phone when she unconsciously told me my guy has left the house I gave him money to rent. He is now living with some yahoo guys in one Estate close to my house. He moved from a neighboring town to my next bus stop. Somewhere just 10minutes drive from my place and he did not deem it fit to call me or pop in to greet me or inform me that we are now on the same street.

It pained me. I felt so stupid. I had to cough out the money I gave him for house rent. In fact I borrowed 100k from a colleague at the office to balance this house rent. I kept mute, I didn’t talk. Next, I started seeing his pictures and videos on Instagram and whatsapp status. He was living large. He buys latest sneakers in town and post it on whatsapp status. HE started posting Gucci collections. He will look at my status, do as if he does not know me. He later dye his hair, switched to dreadlock. He always post video of him in a big glamourous mansion with cash on the bed. He even post pictures of him, cash and half naked girls on the bed. Meanwhile, he stopped going to his NYSC place of assignment.

I forgot to mention, he visit my place when I am not at home. He confided in one of my brothers and told him, he intentionally came when I was not around so he won’t meet me. For a fact, I was not jealous of him for the life he is living. He can go on displaying bling-bling, he has not achieved 10% of my life achievements. So he was non-consequential to me. He sometimes post digs on whatsapp targeting me, accusing his elders of jealousy because he is making it. I knew he was referring to me.

2 Months ago, I had a serious malaria that I thought I was gonna die. I was on sick bed when his sister called me from the village that he has been arrested by EFCC. EFCC busted all of them in their apartment at midnite and he has been transported to Ikoyi detention facility. I nearly fainted on sick bed. His sister had to come to lagos. His extended family contributed money in the village. I could not give a kobo because I was broke, the money I had was for hospital bill. He spent 1 month in detention because we could not meet his bail condition on time.

He finally came out last month. But his case is still going to court. He now need another 600k for his court sitting. When he came out, he came visiting me to explain his movement. How he was staying with yahoo boys. How he was not into yahoo scam, but was just unlucky to be among them when EFCC came. He now need my help. I actually have some cash to give out. But I resent him right now. I told him I don’t have a penny and gave him some excuses why I am broke.

Some voices within me is pushing me to help him. But the real me does not want to help him.
Whats is your advice?
. No give am shishi..Na ingrate.
Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Slynation(m): 9:33am On Oct 26, 2022
The guy obviously showed immaturity and can't handle money immediately he started flaunting his fraudulent lifestyle, funny enough, this yahoo guys has the same mindset, they will ghost you when it's all rosy and come to you when e don red...

Nobody is in position to advise you on how you spend your money, you can help him if you want to, but you owe him nothing in this life, not even the one sided friendship, we all came into this life incognito...

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by hotwax: 9:55am On Oct 26, 2022
Slynation:
The guy obviously showed immaturity and can't handle money immediately he started flaunting his fraudulent lifestyle, funny enough, this yahoo guys has the same mindset, they will ghost you when it's all rosy and come to you when e don red...

Nobody is in position to advise you on how you spend your money, you can help him if you want to, but you owe him nothing in this life, not even the one sided friendship, we all came into this life incognito...

really helpful...thanks

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Nobody: 10:06am On Oct 26, 2022
Even me as a street gee, I will advise you not to give him shishi, any gee wey forget hin root niggas go bend later.

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Re: Am I Taking This Too Far? by Nemesis0147(m): 10:15am On Oct 26, 2022
Don’t give him any penny.

He should call those guys and girls he was flexing his money with then.

The earlier people realize that family is all we have,,the better for all of us.
He should meet his friends!!

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