Let's face it!

A mother generally loves you no matter what horrors you commit. She would even take a bullet for you while your wife is more likely to put a bullet IN you.

A mother's love is generally unconditional. A wife's love has conditions - one slip up and you could find yourself on your backside.

A mother still loves you even after you fall in love with your wife.

A mom is a mom forever!!!.

But how does it feel if you have to beg your wife to bring your sick mom to your house for care


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The wife is very insensitive. Shouldn't your husband's mum be like your mum? Unless he is not the only breadwinner of the house or he is plainly a SIMP

The question is, who's gonna care for the mother when she finally comes to the house? her son, or her daughter-in-law

finishmatter:
Let's face it!

A mother generally loves you no matter what horrors you commit. She would even take a bullet for you while your wife is more likely to put a bullet IN you.

A mother's love is generally unconditional. A wife's love has conditions - one slip up and you could find yourself on your backside.

A mother still loves you even after you fall in love with your wife.

A mom is a mom forever!!!.

But how does it feel if you have to beg your wife to bring your sick mom to your house for care


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Samantha123:
The question is, who's gonna care for the mother when she finally comes to the house? her son, or her daughter-in-law

would you be asking this silly question if your sick mum wanted to come over?

If I bring my own mother over, it means I'll be the one taking care of her.

If the son will be the one taking care of his mother too, then he can bring her over.

Cutehector:
would you be asking this silly question if your sick mum wanted to come over?

I know a couple of PhD students in Nigeria who are working on papers/theses for elder care.

We have a handful of elder care homes but they lack money and can only take few people. We need massive investment in these. As health access increases, people will live longer. Not all will have children/families to go to. Some with families also can't go to them.

Samantha123:
The question is, who's gonna care for the mother when she finally comes to the house? her son, or her daughter-in-law

Marriage na 2 of una don become one.

I detest this mindset. BOTH of you should care for each other's parents, if you both decide to care for them.

I see nothing wrong in divorcing over this elderly or ill parent (or other close relative) issue.

Samantha123:
If I bring my own mother over, it means I'll be the one taking care of her.

If the son will be the one taking care of his mother too, then he can bring her over.

Samantha123:
If I bring my own mother over, it means I'll be the one taking care of her.

If the son will be the one taking care of his mother too, then he can bring her over.

wahala for this generation! No wonder yall are not marriageable.

Either I'm gonna hire a professional to look after my mother when she gets old, or I'll take her to an elderly care home nearby where I'll be staying, so I could visit her every week.

Elderly people can be very tiring and irritating, trust me when I say you wouldn't want to live with any of them.

Ever since my grandmother moved into our family house, there has not been any peace.. she managed to turn her own daughter's kids against each other and she'd insult my mother, her daughter whenever she does something she doesn't like.

Mom is even praying for her mother's demise because she's tired.

cooooooks:
I know a couple of PhD students in Nigeria who are working on papers/theses for elder care.

We have a handful of elder care homes but they lack money and can only take few people. We need massive investment in these. As health access increases, people will live longer. Not all will have children/families to go to. Some with families also can't go to them.

I'll sign those divorce papers with pleasure.

The issue is that he'll bring his mother into the house and expect me to take care of her, if her condition gets worse and she dies under my care, his family will start accusing me of killing her when they wanted nothing to do with her when she was still alive and sick.

They can even manage to convince my husband to kick me out of the house.

So, I've made a choice to never look after anyone else's mother.. If she has daughters, she should go to them.. but if she only has sons, then the sons will have to make a plan.

cooooooks:
Marriage na 2 of una don become one.

I detest this mindset. BOTH of you should care for each other's parents, if you both decide to care for them.

I see nothing wrong in divorcing over this elderly or ill parent (or other close relative) issue.

Would you take care of my sick mother if I bring her over?

Cutehector:
wahala for this generation! No wonder yall are not marriageable.

That is perfectly fine to be your red line. Hopefully, you communicate these red lines before marriage.

Samantha123:
I'll sign those divorce papers with pleasure.

The issue is that he'll bring his mother into the house and expect me to take care of her, if her condition gets worse and she dies under my care, his family will start accusing me of killing her when they wanted nothing to do with her when she was still alive and sick.

They can even manage to convince my husband to kick me out of the house.

So, I've made a choice to never look after anyone else's mother.. If she has daughters, she should go to them.. but if she only has sons, then the sons will have to make a plan.

I will.

And I'd advice you to never bring your mother into your matrimonial home to live with you guys too if you want to enjoy your marriage with your wife and have peace of mind.

We women in general have issues, whether young or old.

cooooooks:
That is perfectly fine to be your red line. Hopefully, you communicate these red lines before marriage.

Samantha123:
If I bring my own mother over, it means I'll be the one taking care of her.

If the son will be the one taking care of his mother too, then he can bring her over.

Don't bother about marriage 'cos you may run into problems.

Fortunately, where I'm from it's considered unacceptable for a daughter in law to look after her mother-in-law, if she has daughters.

When she gets old and can't properly look after herself, she's expected to go to any of her daughters' house, if she doesn't have any, it's her last born son's wife that's expected to look after her.. And I've never liked dating last borns or only sons.

Acidosis:


Don't bother about marriage then cos you might run into problems.

The funny thing is that I don't disagree. Not just on the discomfort or inconvenience front. Also, it is usually better care when there are professionals, opportunity to socialize, etc.

However, a hard rule, with the threat of divorce, needs to be stated clearly from the get go. Especially by some people who then change the rules when the shoe's on the other feet.

Samantha123:
I will.

And I'd advice you to never bring your mother into your matrimonial home to live with you guys too if you want to enjoy your marriage with your wife and have peace of mind.

We women in general have issues, whether young or old.

Well, my mother has already told us to either hire someone to look after her when she gets old or take her to an elderly home care because she could see how her own mother has been giving her a difficult time and causing division in the house.

She doesn't want to give us a difficult time too when she gets old.

Had it been our grandmother was living with her daughter in law, she'd have turned the entire family against her because that old woman can lie and cause tension in the house.

cooooooks:
The funny thing is that I don't disagree. Not just on the discomfort or inconvenience front. Also, it is usually better care when there are professionals, opportunity to socialize, etc.

However, a hard rule, with the threat of divorce, needs to be stated clearly from the get go. Especially by some people who then change the rules when the shoe's on the other feet.

That is the particular woman's issue. Are all old people terrible to family? No.

Samantha123:
Well, my mother has already told us to either hire someone to look after her when she gets old or take her to an elderly home care because she could see how her own mother has been giving her a difficult time and causing division in the house.

She doesn't want to give us a difficult time too when she gets old.

Had it been our grandmother was living with her daughter in law, she'd have turned the entire family against her because that old woman can lie and cause tension in the house.

Most of them are terrible.

The older they get, the terrible they become.

Most people living with their elderly parents are always complaining about them, especially their mothers.

cooooooks:
That is the particular woman's issue. Are all old people terrible to family? No.

Na wa o. Giving toxic dysfunctional a whole new meaning.
What people say all in the name of being woke is mind boggling but then each to his/her own.

Samantha123:
Either I'm gonna hire a professional to look after my mother when she gets old, or I'll take her to an elderly care home nearby where I'll be staying, so I could visit her every week.

Elderly people can be very tiring and irritating, trust me when I say you wouldn't want to live with any of them.

Ever since my grandmother moved into our family house, there has not been any peace.. she managed to turn her own daughter's kids against each other and she'd insult my mother, her daughter whenever she does something she doesn't like.

Mom is even praying for her mother's demise because she's tired.

Young lady remember one day u will also become a mother in-law oo. As For me, i don't need my wife consent to bring my mom to stay with us period.

Yes, I'm gonna be a mother in law, but I'll either stay in an elderly home care or with one of my daughters.

Make sure you take care of that mother of yours because it's not your wife's responsibility to do so.

ObiaboAdoka:

Young lady remember one day u will also become a mother in-law oo. As For me, i don't need my wife consent to bring my mom to stay with us period.

finishmatter:
Let's face it!

A mother generally loves you no matter what horrors you commit. She would even take a bullet for you while your wife is more likely to put a bullet IN you.

A mother's love is generally unconditional. A wife's love has conditions - one slip up and you could find yourself on your backside.

A mother still loves you even after you fall in love with your wife.

A mom is a mom forever!!!.

But how does it feel if you have to beg your wife to bring your sick mom to your house for care


https://punchng.com/winning-marriage-battle/

For a man to beg his wife for him to bring his mother
The man already failed right from day one of that false marriage

I don't want to talk about the wife because she must have been going through alot and decided not to allow her mother in law to come around just to punish her husband

Cutehector:
wahala for this generation! No wonder yall are not marriageable.

Take care of your own mother you ingrate. You think your wife is your maid?

cooooooks:
Marriage na 2 of una don become one.

I detest this mindset. BOTH of you should care for each other's parents, if you both decide to care for them.

I see nothing wrong in divorcing over this elderly or ill parent (or other close relative) issue.

If you pack your mama sh1t by yourself, your hand go bend?

Divorce na. Na you go still care for your mama las las.

ObiaboAdoka:

Young lady remember one day u will also become a mother in-law oo. As For me, i don't need my wife consent to bring my mom to stay with us period.

Marry your mama. Easier that way.

Samantha123:
Would you take care of my sick mother if I bring her over?

Good question. I am certain he went mute. The Ingrate can't take care of his own mother.

VenumX:


Good question. I am certain he went mute. A
Ingrate can't take care of his own mother.

Samantha123:
Fortunately, where I'm from it's considered unacceptable for a daughter in law to look after her mother-in-law, if she has daughters.

When she gets old and can't properly look after herself, she's expected to go to any of her daughters' house, if she doesn't have any, it's her last born son's wife that's expected to look after her.. And I've never liked dating last borns or only sons.

Your culture is bullsh*t but most importantly, make sure you marry a man from your village to avoid running into more troubles.

Samantha123:
Yes, I'm gonna be a mother in law, but I'll either stay in an elderly home care or with one of my daughters.

Make sure you take care of that mother of yours because it's not your wife's responsibility to do so.

What if, in your son-in-law's family, mother in law's like you are not allowed? Think about it.

Rather than dwell in your inhumane culture, why don't you examine the issue from a more humanistic viewpoint?

If your mother in-law cannot live in her own son's house, it's only proper to stay away from marriage. No responsible man will listen to your cultural bullcrap and date you for the right reasons.

Samantha123:
Would you take care of my sick mother if I bring her over?

This is a lazy man talk. Men who accommodate their mother, more often than not, have enough to hire a maid.

So what are you "taking care of..?" Are you a nurse?

Please, learn to respect other people's cultures.

That's why you have tribalism in Nigeria, you don't respect each other's cultures.

Fortunately, where I'm from most of our cultures are similar.. so, I can marry anywhere in the country.

But I'll still let the guy know when we're still dating.

Acidosis:


Your culture is bullsh*t but most importantly, make sure you marry a man from your village to avoid running to more troubles.