Children are gifts from God but they need training to become the responsible adults they need to be but there is one mistake parents display.
To illustrate a common scenario, some parents have two or three children and they love them trying to give them the best childhood they deserve but they are not balanced. Then they bring in a small child whether from a village or a relative. He is not given equal treatment but at least he is fed and clothed. The real children go to the best schools but the other child is admitted to a government school and must return home first, you'll never see those parent close to that school unless they are summoned. The children go out to enjoy each weekends, visiting friends, going to parties, shopping and the rest with the parents but the other child rarely visit anyone but is always in the house. Now there is nothing wrong with what the parents are doing to their children in taking them to the best schools, giving them the best meals and other things. Here is where the problem lies
They end up training the other child to become responsible but they do this unconsciously. They make sure he washes the dishes, he cleans the house before he leaves for school and make sure things are well arranged, he dare not stay away from kitchen when mum is cooking, they seem to look for ways to correct him when he sweeps, washes, cooks, iron clothes, cut grass, even go to farm, dust chairs and other furnitres but they leave the kids to live their lives watching movies, playing games and going out, trending on social media, sleeping most hours on Saturdays. The other child manages a button phone that does not have a game but the real children are teaching their mates about the features they enjoy on their iPad. The other child tend to learn a trade after school so he won't be far from home or to go to a nearby institution but they real children leave home to explore in a new academic environment. Who are they really doing a favor?

When the other child fights or get into a conflict, he is scolded and told never to do allow such happen again even if he is not at fault but when the real children start trouble, they go and fight the parents and take sides with their children. They fell like beating the children will spoil them and warn the school never to beat or punish them, as for the other child, they use every form of punishment they can on him, they are proud and never greet or apologise and they are rude. The parents ask them to greet grandpa and grandma whereas they grandparents love the other child for his warm gestures and manners as he is used to prostrating or kneeling for elders. These things mold the children as they grow up.

The real children tend to become irresponsible, womanizers, prostitutes, thieves, cultist, even having abortions and entering all forms of trouble as they extort their parents but the other child does not get 'shishi' or he receive them with insults. When the real children marry, it does not even last and they are returned to their parents the way you return fake money to a customer. The other child, the idiot boy or girl becomes responsible to everyone even those that treated him harshly, they get married and enjoy a lasting marriage.
Parents, train up your children. Discipline them, they will not die from discipline. And the end, you will go to the grave as a happy parents not the one that they give you headache down to the grave when they can even scam you on all your pensions

Nice one Op.

I hope the ladies are reading this. Some of you are monsters when other people's children are involved.

Aemmyjah:
Children are gifts from God but they need training to become the responsible adults they need to be but there is one mistake parents display.
To illustrate a common scenario, some parents have two or three children and they love them trying to give them the best childhood they deserve but they are not balanced. Then they bring in a small child whether from a village or a relative. He is not given equal treatment but at least he is fed and clothed. The real children go to the best schools but the other child is admitted to a government school and must return home first, you'll never see those parent close to that school unless they are summoned. The children go out to enjoy each weekends, visiting friends, going to parties, shopping and the rest with the parents but the other child rarely visit anyone but is always in the house. Now there is nothing wrong with what the parents are doing to their children in taking them to the best schools, giving them the best meals and other things. Here is where the problem lies
They end up training the other child to become responsible but they do this unconsciously. They make sure he washes the dishes, he cleans the house before he leaves for school and make sure things are well arranged, he dare not stay away from kitchen when mum is cooking, they seem to look for ways to correct him when he sweeps, washes, cooks, iron clothes, cut grass, even go to farm, dust chairs and other furnitres but they leave the kids to live their lives watching movies, playing games and going out, trending on social media, sleeping most hours on Saturdays. The other child manages a button phone that does not have a game but the real children are teaching their mates about the features they enjoy on their iPad. The other child tend to learn a trade after school so he won't be far from home or to go to a nearby institution but they real children leave home to explore in a new academic environment. Who are they really doing a favor?

When the other child fights or get into a conflict, he is scolded and told never to do allow such happen again even if he is not at fault but when the real children start trouble, they go and fight the parents and take sides with their children. They fell like beating the children will spoil them and warn the school never to beat or punish them, as for the other child, they use every form of punishment they can on him, they are proud and never greet or apologise and they are rude. The parents ask them to greet grandpa and grandma whereas they grandparents love the other child for his warm gestures and manners as he is used to prostrating or kneeling for elders. These things mold the children as they grow up.

The real children tend to become irresponsible, womanizers, prostitutes, thieves, cultist, even having abortions and entering all forms of trouble as they extort their parents but the other child does not get 'shishi' or he receive them with insults. When the real children marry, it does not even last and they are returned to their parents the way you return fake money to a customer. The other child, the idiot boy or girl becomes responsible to everyone even those that treated him harshly, they get married and enjoy a lasting marriage.
Parents, train up your children. Discipline them, they will not die from discipline. And the end, you will go to the grave as a happy parents not the one that they give you headache down to the grave when they can even scam you on all your pensions

There are 3 sides to look at such issues

1 in most cases as a parenrt never send your child to
be looked after by someone, especially when you think there are doing youna favour . Ask yourself a favour in exchange of what ?

2 As never treat child/ren under your gaurdianship
differently from yours, treating them
bad is actually teaching them to be tough and strong in the future, while your own kids will
be cry babies

3 Your own kids will cry babies as they struggle with basic day to day tasks that they were supposed to taught and master while young