Lovelylife24:

Hi, likewise. It made me sad when you mentioned how Davido looked at Ify. It reminded me of how my now estranged husband would look at our son and try so hard to engage him to get a picture to post on FB. The stigma is so horrible. My husband never told his friends in Nigeria about his diagnosis. He once spoke to a distant friend in another state in the US who faced the same thing. They all shared the same shame and secrecy. Most Nigerians have the need to appear perfect and better than others and having a special needs child hurts that image. As educated as the average Nigerian is , they are far behind when it comes to Autism blaming it on the devil. Same way they called Femi Otedola all kinds of names bc of his son. At the very least a pool cover should have been on that pool. It could very well be an accident but only God would ever know. It’s worse when the child is non verbal I’m sure. The best thing they could have done was to stay based in the US with Ify and his mom, put him in a private school, keep him out of the eyes of SM and intense ABA therapy. Many autistic children are highly gifted. My son knew how to read at a 2nd grade level at the age of 2. My prayers are with him.

dominique:


Male child is not a leverage in Yoruba families, all children have equal rights regardless of gender.

dominique:


Whatever makes you sleep better, Yorubas don't see sons as minigods. They have same rights as the daughters

buygala:


I am Yoruba, and also did most of my growing up in Yoruba land..so I am speaking from a vantage point of view

If male and female kids have equal rights in Yoruba land as you say, why haven't we had female Obas and Oonis?

Why are most important social and political positions in Yoruba land headed by men if women are equal to them?

It's good to console oneself..just don't console yourself with falsehood

dominique:


Already crying? Why does it hurt so bad that male children are not given more special treatment than female? Are we not all equal in the eyes of God again? Both my parents grew up in traditional Yoruba homes, their inheritance were shared equally amongst the sons and daughters. My mum had 16 younger brothers, she delegated the property sharing and all they all complied. Keep lying to yourself, nobody gives male special treatment in Yoruba families except in few cases.