Sisib15:
I asked, only for him to tell me that she left because they were not communicating well and three months before she left she was not giving him sex that whenever they fight he not on the generator for her and he won't eat her food that those were the things that he felt that was the major cause and he said he's willing to do better in that part.

Richy4:
<<If you are sharing room with him, pack out of that room...
<<Tell him that you have made a decision and you have come to a conclusion that it won't work between the two of you...
<< If he ask why, highlight all that you have said above without tears..
<<Be bold and tell him that you are staying here at the moment because it's closer to your work place... that you will leave as soon as you get a new place..That your agent is on it.... SIMPLE
<<< The way you narrated the story, it was as if he was doing you a favour dating you...

detectivejones:
Have you ever wondered why his ex wife left? The answer is in your post. I still don't understand why people see red flags and say they're inlove. That man will drain you..what you're seeing is just an intro of what is waiting for you in the marriage, but the small change he is giving you plus the fact you've had sex with him several times has left you chained to him all in the name of love.

Kobojunkie:
She doesn't need to bother why the ex-wife left as she already had 2 years or information why she should run away from this man herself. He is literally a bully to her in the relationship and nothing else.

Sisib15:
That's what he always say that do i know that out of 3 girls he has, he chose me because of something. Sometimes i do feel like i am doing the wrong thing

Sisib15:
Hello nairaland, So i met this man three years ago, we started talking and he told me that he's divorced, at first he doesn't want to disclose it to me that he has married before , i discovered through my search on Facebook and he said his wife packed out of his house and he has tried all means to beg her to come back but she insisted that she's not coming back even her pastor informed him to move on and he has moved on and they were married for 5 years without a child.
Then he asked me out and we started dating in which we have been together for two years now, my problem is what ever i do for this man he never appreciate it, he's always complaining to an extent that i feel that he's still much interested in his previous wife. I started staying in his house because his house is very close to my work place and i started seeing alot of things that i don't like especially he like measuring me up with his wife standard whatever I do to him i don't do it well like i don't know how to dress, i don't know how to eat, i don't know how to cook and he likes judging and always wanting to correct me. I love him so much but i don't know if i can continue with this. If i cook, i don't know how to cook, if people should hurt me outside and i told him he will judge me first before listening, at times he says some demeaning things to me and tell me that he's joking with me. At times, i feel that he's pretending, recently i told him that he needs to see a therapist.
My problem now is that he's asking me for marriage, i don't know if i should accept or i should stop the relationship, i am really confuse!
He's 40 years old and i'm 28 years old.

Sisib15:
That's what he always say that do i know that out of 3 girls he has, he chose me because of something. Sometimes i do feel like i am doing the wrong thing

Richy4:


Do yourself a Favour and leave that relationship....
You can never measure up to his Ex.....even if you kill yourself for him you will still not measure up....even if you are better than the ex, he will always find something... that's a mind game dear...

The thing is he has gotten you where he wanted you by telling u that you were not good enough... and individuals like me and many out there who loves challenges will always rise to the occasion just to prove a point...It is better for u to turn the table on him now...so that he can ask himself questions like why can't I keep a woman...Is it me or what?

But in case you don't want to leave him, Just ask yourself some questions as well like.. Is he worth it? Is there a reason why I should die for this man that compares me with someone that I don't know?... If you think he is worth dying for...there's something unique about him that you can't let go....OR THAT YOU WILL CHANGE HIM AS SOON AS YOU GET MARRIED, then I wish you the best of luck..

Mindlog:


She will not leave that relationship.