Fati2001 aka Jeon aka Choilila..... this sounds something like your story.

Just like you, the cousin will end up raping the girl and getting her pregnant. All her parents will do is force her to marry the cousin to cover the shame.

I am not surprised since it is a thing of culture to have sexual relations with cousins over there.

A lot can happen to some people when it come to the issues of culture Islam and Allah

Messi1, obamamessi, slayerofsatanist, VictorUSA, BigCowHorn

Comradepreneur:
So, in 2019, my dad decided to take him in.

One night, I woke up from sleep and decided to go to the kitchen and get drinking water (my room is just outside the sitting room, and you'll have to pass the sitting room before reaching the kitchen).

I observed that my cousin wasn't on the bed when I woke up. I decided to take a peek into my sister's room and there he was standing, jerking off to my sister's face! She was barely 15!

The lights was on, and his grandmother (my dad's mom) who came visiting was also on the bed together with my sisters! Such audacity!

I couldn't even believe what I saw, and tiptoed back into my room and woke up my maternal uncle who was staying with us in order to be my witness.

After witnessing the act, the only response he gave me was [b]Why is she (my sister) feigning to sleep, while he was touching her and jerking off to her face[b].

I was shocked and couldn't even believe his utterance. Like bro! You was supposed to help me bounce on the stupid slowpoke harassing my sister, (your niece).

He just said that and left. With the little energy left with me, I opened the door, dragged my cousin brother out and warned him never to try such act again (I initially wanted to teach him a lesson he ought to never forget in his lifetime, but I was hugely disappointed with what my uncle did).

Even though I still reported him to my parents, there wasn't any punishment meted out to him.

After that incident, I completely lost the respect I had for my uncle. Agreed he had some issues with my mom (her elder sister) back then, but why extend the hatred to her children?.

After that incident, I still occasionally catch my cousin brother in the night in the sitting room, claiming to iron out his clothes. But I still maintain my anger since it's not as if I caught him going into my sister's room.

What broke the camels back, was an incident which happened last 3 weeks ago.

One of my younger sisters (she's 13) reported to my dad in the middle of the night that he caught my cousin brother in her room, jerking off at her face while trying to remove her underwear.

All my dad did was to woke me up from sleep (saying that he wants me to be the witness), and he was preaching to the boy on how his mom, is his younger sister and that he should talk if marriage should be done for him since he can't hold his sexual desires (like man, you was supposed to call me and we smack the shit out of him together!!!).

I got angry and just left them there.

The next morning, I told my mom about the incident, and she told me that my baby sister (an 8 year old) do complain to her sometimes about sharp pains in her private part.

And this happens whenever, my cousin brother is sent to take her to the room whenever she's asleep on the sitting room couch. And also, how one of my sisters told her that he once caught him trying to lift up her skirt while she was fast asleep on the couch in the middle of the night.

Right now, I'm Justin mad at myself and angry at the same time! I feel like a loser, a pussy who can't even protect his sisters.

The bastard is still living with us, in my room, and every day, my hatred for him grows stronger.

Even when my mom told his mom, her only reply was that he's still a kid, and she should forgive him. Someone who's 17!!!! For goodness sake!.

She didn't even called him out to kneel down in front of my mom and rebuke him. Nothing was done!!!! She didn't even spoke to him about the incident.

And whenever my mom makes her displeasure known to my dad, he always says that she hates his family, bla bla bla.

How can I reduce my hatred for my cousin? Or is my hatred justified?

Right now, he has been restricted into coming into the sitting room, anything past 8pm.

But still, I'm still sure things might just go back to being the same!.

My fear right now is, I'll be going for my youth service in a few months time, which means this bastard will be with my sisters unsecured!!!!

Beat that motherfucker black and blue. He has already touched your 8 year old sister. If he hasn't yet, he will soon. Drive him out of the house. Raise hell in your house till he leaves. Your cousin is a serial predator and will rape one or all of your sisters very soon. Don't dare leave that house till he leaves. Your parents are toying with what may cause serious pain and damage to your sisters in the future.

My guy, if your parent has been jazzed(juju) I can understand their behavior towards all this. But u bleeped up real time. The first time u saw him jarking off, you should have loose all sanity (am surprise you even went looking for someone to bear witness). You should have dealt with him so anytime he see u, he will hide. You are right for feeling like a pussy, and also right for hating him. My advice is ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORD.

If you can't find a way to chase him out before you go for service, find a way to make all your sister share same room, am sure the eldest will be smarter than she was 2019 (unless she also wants it)

ModestGal:
Wow. This is horrible, I feel like vomiting right now. I'm more concerned about what your mum said, because her marriage would crash,so he can continue to rape my daughters, and because of my daughters,if a word goes out,they won't get married"
So its better they rape them, and during marriage,use kayanmata to close their private parts and fake virginity for their intended husbands, meanwhile having sex with guys as a result of sexual abuse. This is exactly what would happen, when girls are continuously sexually abused, they become interested in sex, and with the way Northerners are obsessed with virgins, most of them commit unheardable sex. I'm talking from what I saw while living in the North. The most annoying thing about North is the Kayanmata,that they use on their private parts just because their culture teaches them to be sexual objects for men.

I'm so angry typing this, that I can't even be coherent. Imagine an 8years old child being raped and you are still protecting the idiot,oh my God, God help women, I feel like crying right now. Maybe the girls have told their father and he shut them up, and they can't even tell anyone anymore.

I'm 100% certain your father and uncles are/were child assaulters.
I don't have any advice for your mumuness, and stupidity. You are a big fool,fool at 26, at 26,im already a grandmother not just an adult, and you still dey do like mumu, "should i continue to hate my cousin", no, continue to love him. He will marry your 5sisters, and your mama join.
Someone that is masturbating on his grandmother, subhanallah. You guys are a total disgrace to Islam, humanity,manhood. You won't follow the good Sunnah, but rubbish. The prophet said, any father whoose daughter is protected and married as a virgin would have a place in Jannah, your dad will not see that, but if its to kill an innocent girl that abused the holy prophet,he will be the first to cast the stone
Disgusting set of humans

Apt
ModestGal is back

Thank you all for your advice, I took an action and created a new thread here:

https://www.nairaland.com/7422349/update-how-reduce-hatred-cousin#118210379

TiffanyJ:
This is very heartbreaking. I am a Northerner so I understand what your mother is going through. She is torn between protecting the reputation of her daughters and fighting the devil who is out to destroy their innocence.
Op, please you have to man up. First thing, please repair the doorknob tomorrow morning. Forget about shame and give your sisters sex education. That boy must leave your house o.
If any of your sis gets pregnant for him, will your parents stand the shame? I will protect my children no matter the consequences or what society says or do. I'm sorry to say but your father has failed in his responsibility. He decided to chose his nephew over his daughters' happiness and future. Please, don't leave for nysc without solving this issue. Protect your sisters. Educate your sisters. Your cousin must leave your father's house before he destroys your family

Please can you send me message using this email instead? : comradepreneur@gmail.com.

Also, I just created a new thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/7422349/update-how-reduce-hatred-cousin#118210379

Men create non virgins then, one d$nce of a guy Jerome and his likes will be fighting ladies over it....
Innocent girls get abused by men at young age and some turn against men or become addicts in future.

Boys get spoilt minds before innocent girls.

You have tried. Don't take lawa into your hands and don't go to jail. The text messages alone is evidence that you tried your best.

Just take preventive steps.

OsuKing:
Fati2001 aka Jeon aka Choilila..... this sounds something like your story.

Just like you, the cousin will end up raping the girl and getting her pregnant. All her parents will do is force her to marry the cousin to cover the shame.

I am not surprised since it is a thing of culture to have sexual relations with cousins over there.

A lot can happen to some people when it come to the issues of culture Islam and Allah

Messi1, obamamessi, slayerofsatanist, VictorUSA, BigCowHorn

ParadiseVirgin HolyMan12 I sight you bro

Messi1:
ParadiseVirgin HolyMan12 I sight you bro

Sight recieved.

Where your guy gromila abi na gorilla?

OsuKing:


Sight recieved.

Where your guy gromila abi na gorilla?

That animal is in extinction with his wife jeon.

OsuKing:
Fati2001 aka Jeon aka Choilila..... this sounds something like your story.

Just like you, the cousin will end up raping the girl and getting her pregnant. All her parents will do is force her to marry the cousin to cover the shame.

I am not surprised since it is a thing of culture to have sexual relations with cousins over there.

A lot can happen to some people when it come to the issues of culture Islam and Allah

Messi1, obamamessi, slayerofsatanist, VictorUSA, BigCowHorn

Make una leave my lovely Fatima
Na beg I dey beg.

But how this girl day take vex una sef. I don't get it.
You guys need to try understand her.

She isn't troublesome but restilent in defending herself from all your attacks.. which are too many abeg.

e don do.

BigCowHornn:



Make una leave my lovely Fatima
National beg I dey beg.

But how this girl day take vex una sef. I don't get it.
You guys need to try understand her.

She isn't troublesome but restilent in defending herself from all your attacks.. which are too many abeg.

e don do.

I want you to know that lunatic jeon whose mother is a prostitute doesn't believe you are different from us. I remember when she was warming up for a fight with me, you chose to side her. She mocked my God but I don't really give a fuck_ but what baffles me is that you remained silent. We almost got into trouble with you and I began orchestrating how to turn her against you but flashing back, it'll reap no gain. I don't know why you keep defending that animal. My friend OsuKing reduced his vawulense because i pleaded with him. I'm starting another round of war with jeon aka fati2001, she must regret having the liver to fight me.

So this 23 year old educated man is scared of teaching a 17 year old molesting his sisters a lesson.


Yo man you saw a guy jerking on your sister's face, and you were there peeping before you went to call a witness.
I am really sorry for your sister for having such a shameless brother. Someone you should have given the beaten of his life on the first day. If you can't spend money to get it done. Are you mad?

Eagba:

I want to assume you are a woman. Your vagina muscle alone can break his penis. Maybe you were tóo scared to know your own strength.
I'm not underating rape victims. But one on one, no man easily rape a woman if she stand her ground.

Which ground do you stand when someone physically stronger is threatening you? So, I should wait until he penetrates then try and use my (virgin) vagina muscles to "break his penis" baa?? Please how old are you? 12?? Once he has penetrated, the deed is done, so why should I wait till then? You're still doubling down on your wrong claim instead of accepting that you're wrong. You ARE underrating rape victims and you're very very wrong!! O ga oooo

Comradepreneur:
Good evening everyone.

Even though I had vowed to myself never to bring family issues to this forum, I just have to vent this out.

I am 23, a male from the North. I come from a family of 6, in which I'm the eldest of my siblings (all my younger siblings are girls).

In 2019, my cousin brother, who is way younger than me (he was 14) came to start living with us just a year after his dad died.

Prior to his dad's death, we never spoke to each other whenever I visited his mom (my paternal aunt).

His dad was someone who was quite doing well for himself before death took him away from us (he was working with NNPC).

After his death, his family were divided (he had three wives in which 2 had died earlier. My aunt was the second wife).

His children from his first wife lay claims that my aunt killed Thier mom (who had died way before 2004), and even the third wife (who died in 2018).

Even though his wealth was shared according to Islamic rites, they were still not contented even though they had the lion share.

Well, just months after my uncle's death, my aunt decided to get married! (Just imagine someone being accused of killing her husband and her co-wives fa).

Even though my dad (her elder brother) was against the decision, she even went as far as went to her mom in the village and was crying when her mom rebuked her for her intending action.

At the end, she got her way, and remarried to a police officer.

The worst part is, she is still living in her former husband's house, while she visits her new husband in his house (they are very close to each other. Much like she got married to her neighbor! Since his house is just a stone throw from hers).

Well, to cut the story short, she has 3 kids (all male) for her deceased husband, the eldest being 14. The eldest son was sent to come live with us since their rooms have been given out to their elder brothers as part of their own inheritance (her kids only inherited money and the man had over 4 properties in strategic locations).

You don't deserve to be called a man. You ought to have been made the last born of your family so you sorry ass can be pampered.

Spineless nitwit!

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Thank you for opening my eyes on how serious this situation needs to be taken.

I'm honestly more disappointed in myself more than my parents

Comradepreneur:


This is a huge misconception with some people. I guess it has to do with the literacy of such people. But in our family, we don't condone family marriage.

And also, God forbid it gets to the stage of him impregnating one of my sisters

You're too weak to be a Muslim....."idiat"
I no get advise to give " kaword" like you..
Pathetic....at this age you don't know what to do...kai

Comradepreneur:


I can't be the one to lodge a complaint to the police station, since my dad is quite indifferent on the matter.

As for making life miserable for him, I've been giving him cold shoulders ever since I personally caught him the first time.

But it seems like it's not enough.

Also, to add, the door nob to my sister's room is faulty, so the door can't be locked. I have 5 sisters and they share 2 rooms. But he always goes for the younger ones

I swear you're pathetic..
This guy just spoil my mind for this early morning

Comradepreneur:


This is a huge misconception with some people. I guess it has to do with the literacy of such people. But in our family, we don't condone family marriage.

And also, God forbid it gets to the stage of him impregnating one of my sisters

Weak mf. Na una dey quick tag men simp and all kind of weak names for NL but can't do shit even for yourself in real life. See how small pikin turn yiu into a whiner.
You sure you even the first born Lmfao

Kobojunkie:
1. For a 23-year-old, you are already starting off wrong in life.

So because the woman was accused, without evidence since she doesn't seem to have been charged with any of the crimes you post against her, you and your father would rather she live miserable after her obligations to her former husband are over?

2.

You sure you not the dumbest mf alive

Messi1:
I want you to know that lunatic jeon whose mother is a prostitute doesn't believe you are different from us. I remember when she was warming up for a fight with me, you chose to side her. She mocked my God but I don't really give a fuck_ but what baffles me is that you remained silent. We almost got into trouble with you and I began orchestrating how to turn her against you but flashing back, it'll reap no gain. I don't know why you keep defending that animal. My friend OsuKing reduced his vawulense because i pleaded with him. I'm starting another round of war with jeon aka fati2001, she must regret having the liver to fight me.

My brother in this life fight doesn't fix all
Some things.. some people... they just need to be left alone

Since this year I have cut out violence and even quit using all my alternates actively. You that know me well can testify but those who chose not to believe I just leave them alone.

All these back and forth.. I am tired of it. The lies the defamation. It sickens me.
Peace is my choice and that's why I keep quiet sometimes.

You won't understand now but someday you will..

Comradepreneur:
So, in 2019, my dad decided to take him in.

One night, I woke up from sleep and decided to go to the kitchen and get drinking water (my room is just outside the sitting room, and you'll have to pass the sitting room before reaching the kitchen).

I observed that my cousin wasn't on the bed when I woke up. I decided to take a peek into my sister's room and there he was standing, jerking off to my sister's face! She was barely 15!

The lights was on, and his grandmother (my dad's mom) who came visiting was also on the bed together with my sisters! Such audacity!

I couldn't even believe what I saw, and tiptoed back into my room and woke up my maternal uncle who was staying with us in order to be my witness.

After witnessing the act, the only response he gave me was [b]Why is she (my sister) feigning to sleep, while he was touching her and jerking off to her face[b].

I was shocked and couldn't even believe his utterance. Like bro! You was supposed to help me bounce on the stupid slowpoke harassing my sister, (your niece).

He just said that and left. With the little energy left with me, I opened the door, dragged my cousin brother out and warned him never to try such act again (I initially wanted to teach him a lesson he ought to never forget in his lifetime, but I was hugely disappointed with what my uncle did).

Even though I still reported him to my parents, there wasn't any punishment meted out to him.

After that incident, I completely lost the respect I had for my uncle. Agreed he had some issues with my mom (her elder sister) back then, but why extend the hatred to her children?.

After that incident, I still occasionally catch my cousin brother in the night in the sitting room, claiming to iron out his clothes. But I still maintain my anger since it's not as if I caught him going into my sister's room.

What broke the camels back, was an incident which happened last 3 weeks ago.

One of my younger sisters (she's 13) reported to my dad in the middle of the night that he caught my cousin brother in her room, jerking off at her face while trying to remove her underwear.

All my dad did was to woke me up from sleep (saying that he wants me to be the witness), and he was preaching to the boy on how his mom, is his younger sister and that he should talk if marriage should be done for him since he can't hold his sexual desires (like man, you was supposed to call me and we smack the shit out of him together!!!).

I got angry and just left them there.

The next morning, I told my mom about the incident, and she told me that my baby sister (an 8 year old) do complain to her sometimes about sharp pains in her private part.

And this happens whenever, my cousin brother is sent to take her to the room whenever she's asleep on the sitting room couch. And also, how one of my sisters told her that he once caught him trying to lift up her skirt while she was fast asleep on the couch in the middle of the night.

Right now, I'm Justin mad at myself and angry at the same time! I feel like a loser, a pussy who can't even protect his sisters.

The bastard is still living with us, in my room, and every day, my hatred for him grows stronger.

Even when my mom told his mom, her only reply was that he's still a kid, and she should forgive him. Someone who's 17!!!! For goodness sake!.

She didn't even called him out to kneel down in front of my mom and rebuke him. Nothing was done!!!! She didn't even spoke to him about the incident.

And whenever my mom makes her displeasure known to my dad, he always says that she hates his family, bla bla bla.

How can I reduce my hatred for my cousin? Or is my hatred justified?

Right now, he has been restricted into coming into the sitting room, anything past 8pm.

But still, I'm still sure things might just go back to being the same!.

My fear right now is, I'll be going for my youth service in a few months time, which means this bastard will be with my sisters unsecured!!!!

when will the mods ban this bast.,ard story tellers. next time write sensibly.

BigCowHornn:



My brother in this life fight doesn't fix all
Some things.. some people... they just need to be left alone

Since this year I have cut out violence and even quit using all my alternates actively. You that know me well can testify but those who chose not to believe I just leave them alone.

All these back and forth.. I am tired of it. The lies the defamation. It sickens me.
Peace is my choice and that's why I keep quiet sometimes.

You won't understand now but someday you will..

I admire your choice of peace. And don't forget you fought silentgroper emidon11 princeofagoare. I was the only one u didn't fight in your quest to defend that lunatic animal called jeon and that's because we've been friends for long. Lissen, what vex me real deep is the fact that jeon thinks she can fight me, a whole troll, but she couldn't live up to task and started running away. CowHornn, we live by vawulence.

Messi1:
I admire your choice of peace. And don't forget you fought silentgroper emidon11 princeofagoare. I was the only one u didn't fight in your quest to defend that lunatic animal called jeon and that's because we've been friends for long. Lissen, what vex me real deep is the fact that jeon thinks she can fight me, a whole troll, but she couldn't live up to task and started running away. CowHornn, we live by vawulence.

Satanist, you are very stupid. Go switch to FERNADEZISBACK and ask for my contact.
NONSENSE and useless animal.
ignoring you means alot, not that I'm running or afraid of a cursed animal that it life revolves around NL.
How about ur fake US trip?
How about ur imaginary ambition for politics?
How about ur fake Scholarship?
How about ur fake Admission?

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You told the fonts that on OCTOBER YOU WILL BE NO MORE BECAUSE OF YOUR FAKE DREAMS,BUT YET WE ARE IN NOVEMBER AND YOU'RE STILL HERE

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I know why you are so pissed.
You thought the fake and useless friendship would resume after 10 days of fight?.. No not like before. I can't wait to celebrate 1 year anniversary of ENEMIES.
So can you please stop masturbating on my mentions?

Jeon:


Satanist, you are very stupid. Go switch to FERNADEZISBACK and ask for my contact.
NONSENSE and useless animal.
ignoring you means alot, not that I'm afraid of a cursed animal that it life revolves around NL.

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I know why you are so pissed.
You thought the fake and useless friendship would resume after 10 days of fight?.. No not like before. I can't wait to celebrate 1 year anniversary of ENEMIES.
So can you please stop masturbating on my mentions?

Your tears is my joy I know how to control you. You see that fight of ours? we must continue till one of us have a busy life offNL. Ignoring me is a no no. I must keep tormenting you. If you fail to keep up that fight, you are afraid, put simply.

Messi1:
Your tears is my joy I know how to control you. You see that fight of ours? we must continue till one of us have a busy life offNL. Ignoring me is a no no. I must keep tormenting you. If you fail to keep up that fight, you are afraid, put simply.

MY LACK OF ATTENTIONS IS REALLY TORMENTING YOU SINCE AUGUST.. THE REASON WHY YOU CAN'T BACK OFF.

As you wish jobless troll.

Have GOD UPGRADE YOUR GENOTYPE AND APPEARANCE?

I DON'T HAVE YOUR TIME.

JASONjnr:
I got tired of reading your excuses....


You should make the house unbearable for him untill your parents decides who leaves and who stays.....


But, your religion permits cousins getting married to each other.....

Because, if it's a taboo as it is with Christianity....I'm sure your parents would take it serious.


I hope you won't wake up one day and all your sister will be impregnated by your cousin.

I hate ignorant people. What has this got to do with religion? This is not dating, courtship or marriage, this is pure molestation and rape attempts!
Even as a Christian that you claimed to be, is this kind of behaviour even allowed towards the non family members that you can marry? As you can see, sense is very far you and you are not intelligent at all

maasoap:


I hate ignorant people. What has this got to do with religion? This is not dating, courtship or marriage, this is pure molestation and rape attempts!
Even as a Christian that you claimed to be, is this kind of behaviour even allowed towards the non family members that you can marry? As you can see, sense is very far you and you are not intelligent at all

Shut up your smelly mouth....


Islam permits cousins to marry each other.....If his father is t seeing this as a crime or molesting, It's not in your place to judge since you don't know anything behind it.

Keep your Ignorance to yourself and learn to not be extremely judgemental.....

Olodo....

Jeon:



MY LACK OF ATTENTIONS IS REALLY TORMENTING YOU SINCE AUGUST.. THE REASON WHY YOU CAN'T BACK OFF.

As you wish jobless troll.

Have GOD UPGRADE YOUR GENOTYPE AND APPEARANCE?

I DON'T HAVE YOUR TIME.

who your attention epp? what a useless animal. i never considered you a friend..you were the one masturbating in your dreams with my image. I considered you an animal that needs to be fooled and betrayed that was why i would friend you with my messi akant but go behind to stab you with my victor.

And why being so obsessed with my life story? Do you know why I wasn't able to go to school after securing admission? you love me. you love reading about me and that is why you can recount whatever i post here. useless animal don go focus on ur worthless life and keep licking my butt crack @jeon.

Jeon:



MY LACK OF ATTENTIONS IS REALLY TORMENTING YOU SINCE AUGUST.. THE REASON WHY YOU CAN'T BACK OFF.

As you wish jobless troll.

Have GOD UPGRADE YOUR GENOTYPE AND APPEARANCE?

I DON'T HAVE YOUR TIME.

I told you that you cant fight me you said you can fight me forever..what has just suddenly changed? fearing me is the beginning of your wisdom.