mariahAngel:
If I were your mum, I'd leave everything and everyone behind, and relocate to the village for my sanity and peace of mind.

Mindlog:


Memories ..... My mum got her cousin who was the breadwinner of her family way back then, to leave Lagos to go back to her maternal village, leaving behind her 5 children and some of her husband's relatives with her lazy husband in Lagos.

The husband was claiming to be a contractor but one naira, he was not bringing home while the wife worked herself to death, every time she was always looking for where to borrow money from to replenish her capital as she was selling second hand clothing. What broke the carmel's back was when she fainted where she was selling at Aswani market, the husband was called but he didn't show up and his excuse was he didn't have money to transport himself from Ikorodu where they lived, to Aswani.

It was after she was discharged, that my mum made sure she moved to the village to fully recuperate and that caused an uproar as the man came severally to our house to confront my mum for brainwashing his wife, werey was then facing the reality of paying rent and providing for their children and his relatives who lived with them....my mom was always prepared for him.

Their Parish Priest had to be involved, who through his influence got him a job in a bakery, his relatives had to move out of the house and the Priest made him to be paying the house rent and part of the feeding expenses while the wife support from her end.

mariahAngel:


I swear, one of my distant relative died from a similar situation.
She would overwork herself (she was a nurse), to provide for the family. She was the breadwinner.
She would often open up to my mum that her husband wasn't willing to do anything to support her. Always looking exhausted.
Her death happened all of a sudden. Very painful.

Munzy14:

Painful.

A partner that isn't willing to do anything to help foot the bills, is just being Wicked..whether male or female.

Most men who married hard working wives becomes lazy by default.

No food for a lazy man.

mariahAngel:


Very very painful.

Back then, she was always looking tired/sleepy. Even in the way she talked.

Up till now, her children are yet to get over her death.

mariahAngel:
If I were your mum, I'd leave everything and everyone behind, and relocate to the village for my sanity and peace of mind.

PlayMaker14:
Your dad is an irresponsible fellow and I will advise you tell your mom and your siblings to move out of that house till your dad regains his senses.

If your mom continue like this in that house, she will develop high blood pressure and die before Christmas.

Chinelo154:


She has high BP already but she will not move she rather stay and suffer

Jovialjune1:
So many useless lazy husbands these days, useless to themselves, family, and society, later these sets of fools will say their wives poison the kids against them ignoring the fact that these kids see and know everything going on. There is one stupid man in my area doing same thing, sitting down at home not doing anything, yet still arrogant and evil to his wife the bread winner,

The Bible that called them INFIDEL used the exact word fit for them, nonsense.

Chinelo154:


She has high BP already but she will not move she rather stay and suffer

Mindlog:


With your mum's present health status and the pressures around her, her life is gradually ebbing and to be straightforward with you, there is a likelihood of her slumping and not making it.

Helpout12345:
Those are irresponsible men right there.

It's never late for your uncle and his family to leave.

Tell your mother to stop feeding them, stop paying house rent. Everyone will find their ways soon after that.

Chinelo154:
Good afternoon to everyone my mum is really suffering in her marriage and I really need your advice , I am the first child in a family of 5 children I was born in 1998, my mum is a midwife in a local hospital and my dad is not working for like 10 years. My mum is the breadwinner of the house with her little salary , and I am also working my salary is 12k , out of my younger ones only one is in school the last born 14 years the burden is too much on my mum she cannot afford to train all of us to the university , we thank God we are ssce holders one of my brother is a bricklayer we are stuggling to survive sometime i cried alot when i see my mum stressing herself to put the house in order but my dad doesn't appreciate all her effort . The issue of ground is last wk Friday i returned from work only to find my uncle , his wife and their 5 children in the house , they came from the village i was shocked because we were not aware of their coming , I greeted them and went straight to my mum room, she was in a very bad mood , I asked her if she was fine she didn't say any single words to me, she was badly affected with the coming of my uncle and his family, I felt her pain because she is struggling to keep the family up and in the order side my dad is bending it how asked myself how are we going to survive in a 2 bedroom house with 14 0f us plus feeding and everythng will be in my mum head , my dad has instructed me and my 2 sisters to leave our room for my uncle and his 2 daughters , while we moved to their bedroom and my 2 brothers and my uncle 3 children will sleep in the parlour. How can a big woman like me to be sleeping in my parents room, I did not complain we went to the room we packed our belonging and moved it to my parents room. That night I didn't catch sleep seeing my mum loosing sleep she didn't say anything but she was awake all night , she was trouble a lot was going through her mind , in the morning I heard my uncle wife and mum having a discussion she told her , if she knew the condition we were living was this bad she wouldn't have come , she said my dad has told them to come because things are fine with us and she was disappointed with what she saw , so my mum asked her so my husband was the one that convinced you to moved in the city she said yes , my mum shook her head she didn't say anything else and I become very angry I confronted my dad asking him why did he do this to my mum when he knows the condition is not good, why did he tells his brother to come not just him alone but with his family, he started shouting at me I am not a wife material if I bring this my character of not liking my inlaw to my husband house he will send me packing and he will not allow me back to his house , I have told him he is very wicked he want mum to die so he can bring him another woman , he stood out he went inside the house he started shouting at my mum how dare she ask me to confront him and what's wrong with him bringing his brother to his house, my mum did not send me she is a quiet type and I am not i co fronted him by my own will , he said my mum is wicked woman he was shouting in the presence of my uncle and my uncle has started insulted me too , telling me the house belong to his brother if I am not happy seeing them in the house I should go and rent my own house because he is not leaving anytime soon , if I had somewhere else to go I would have left the same day but I had nowhere to go, I went inside my room crying and later on my aunty was telling me to not mind my uncle , she don't blame me for standing up for my mum because as a woman she is she will not tolerate it she told me she don't know if my dad and her brother are curse they are just lazy and they have left all the responsibility to the wives , she said she can't tell me everything she is also passing through the same thing with my mum , I thanked her for her understanding and for not supporting her husband and my dad. It is been few days now I don't greet nor talk to my dad and uncle , I go to work as usual and when I come home I sleep in the parlour with the boys me on the sofa them on the floor , I am not happy with my dad and I don't think I will ever be happy with him again , did I overreacted for confronting or I did the right thing I am just asking for your advise so i will know the right thing to do after please do not insult me I am wearing the shoe I know where it pinch

Chinelo154:


She has high BP already but she will not move she rather stay and suffer

PlayMaker14:
Seems you've been hurt terribly.

Jovialjune1:



Jason, is this you?

PlayMaker14:
Check my profile again.

Jovialjune1: