Princek12:

date married men or dudes who have gfs. those kind of relationships will provide you with plenty of drama to keep you engaged and involved.

[CHocolaTE]:

When I saw those silly posts that made it sound like she must get married very soon at all costs, I was filled with anger. Why do we punish ourselves like this in Nigeria?
People just foolishly succumb to societal pressures even when it holds them back and inconviniences them?
You people must have heard others saying that a girl MUST be married at ages 25 to 30 and so you stupidly go all over the place regurgitating what you heard. Dont you fxcking think? ? ?
What if the girl is not emotionally/mentally ready at that age? Or hasnt found someone that she can truly be a companion with? Marriage works best when you can understand and rapport with your spouse but because of moro.ns that go about saying things that they didnt think through, people feel a need to get married at all costs even when they clearly shouldnt be married at their ages. Later on when the marriage fails because it was done to avoid stigmatisation, you f.ools will be the ones asking why did they get married when they were not compatible with each other.
@AMYA, darling, you are simply an introvert. Introverts tend to get weighed down and fatigued by social interactions. It is completely normal to be introverted. Just find a man that is also reserved and shares your interests, trust me, they are out there, when you find him, you can do the asking out regardless of what 'society' says. Best wishes.r on when the marriage fails because it was done to avoid stigmatisation, you f.ools will be the ones asking why did they get married when they were not compatible with each other.
@AMYA, darling, you are simply an introvert. Introverts tend to get weighed down and fatigued by social interactions. It is completely normal to be introverted. Just find a man that is also reserved and shares your interests, trust me, they are out there, when you find him, you can do the asking out regardless of what 'society' says. Best wishes.

CyberG:

No need to rush, you are just 25 only! 2 and 5! What happened to enjoying your single-hood?

You are only doing all these to snag a man and after that what happens? Getting married just so that your friends also see you got "married" is the worst nightmare for the guy and he would hate you for trapping him. However, your story sounds familiar. . .it happens to everyone so yours will no be new. A girl pulled this off some years ago and I met her at a friend's wedding and guess what? When ladies were asked to come and catch the bouquet, her friend stood-up and tried to pull her up but she refused. . .LOL. Well, we chatted later and I already met her friend somewhere else, then she was asking me some very funny questions. Well, your guess is as good as mine: now she is 31+, fat (I mean FAT) with a big stomach, looking shorter and still searching. The advise to you is you need to change your attitude and hope because it is easier to get a fuckmate (since you only need guys for sex), much less a real BF and then a real husband!!! If you change only to get the guy, well he will divorce you later when he finds that he's been conned and request a refund of the wedding expenses, cost of the time spent chasing the fake you, and bride price, if he paid any.

MzDarkSkin:

@ poster
why dont u spend more time trying to figure out just WHO Amya is and what it is that she truly wants instead of subjecting yourself to such predicament? ive been there sister. i still have work to do but ive learned enough to know that until i am fully comfortable with myself i cannot be with another other wise every flaw or mistake i make i would make a big deal and id just feel awkward all of the time. luckily i have someone that is patient and is truly inlove with me for me. i feel much more confident and ready to do what ever with him than i was say 1 year ago because we were able to grow together and mostly because ive taken the time to figure out what it is that i truly want and how to love me. 

seedord247:

@least if she get to 35. . . . that will be ok

Nayah:

claremont, don't be confused, making concessions and change! people have their own experiences and temper, I think change does not exist but concessions do

Changing for someone could lead to a denaturalisation of the personality, if the guys loves you he will ove you for who you are and not what you trying to be