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Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Richy4(m): 2:50am On Dec 27, 2022 |
Take it easy buddy...I think your marriage is over crowded... From inconsiderate inlaws to your own family members "trying to find out your wellbeing" Maybe it about time you "decongest some clutter" 2yrs is almost the hardest part in every relationship... Finance could be a bigger challenge too in a relationship.. keep encouraging her to find a job.... help her too in terms of looking for openings... Contact your friends too for a look out for availabilities as well.. This too shall pass if u apply wisdom.. 2 Likes |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by descarado: 2:56am On Dec 27, 2022 |
Cock and bull story ndi nairaland. 1 Like |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Rooneyboy(m): 4:15am On Dec 27, 2022 |
The earlier you stamp ur authority on this ur marriage the better for u. 2 years is still fresh, starting now to stamp ur authority isn't late at all. Tighten all loose ends bro, I repeat, tighten. Again, we are in Africa and in Africa it is a man's world. If she chooses to deny u sex NEVER u beg her for sex, rather make her understand that u can get it from outside. Her brain will surely reset. Make her understand that u are considering marrying someone else that gives u peace of mind and sex anytime u desire. Trust me, her brain go reset, even her dad will advise her to sit up and save her marriage. We are in Africa baba, think, think my man. 1 Like |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by worriedhubby: 5:42am On Dec 27, 2022 |
Realistt: "Any apology without change of behavior/attitude is mere manipulations". A sincere apology is followed by positive changes. Watch out how she and her parents treat you going forward. Just be vigilant, she might just apologize in order to buy time, then change strategy and means of communicating with her folks. Or if you're a lucky man, she may change for good. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Sucre6: 7:56am On Dec 27, 2022 |
With such evidence of her denying you sex deliberately because of the bad influence of her parents, send her to her parents without looking back, by the time they provide for her needs for one month and she don't have a job, it would give then attitude adjustment they will beg u to come carry her, she will finally respect your stands and never listing to her parents again, demm the consequences 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by padi94(m): 8:11am On Dec 27, 2022 |
Bro threaten her with sending her back to her parents... Watch her reaction and that of the parent. It will tell you your next move 1 Like |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by dobnina(f): 10:22am On Dec 27, 2022 |
Realistt:Cc Pansophist Your great wisdom is needed. |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by pansophist(m): 10:53am On Dec 27, 2022 |
Your problem is foundational in nature, these are something you should have observed before getting married, not after. Why did you go marry from such a home? Didn't you date her? as in, not online dating o, but dating her to know more than what she wants you to know about her. Many times, people are the architect of their own problems. Besides, for her to have the guts to tell her family everything about your home only goes to show the kind of man that you are. I know one thing for sure, and it is that no one will treat you in a way that you won't accept. The fact you come online to complain only goes to show that you have lost control of your home and seem helpless. There are men that won't experience this because their wife knows the kind of man they married. So you either suck it up /endure strategy (the same way an AIDS patient who got it from an ashawo will do), or you just end everything, easier if there are no kids involved. Next time, look well, lots of idiots are adults, I mean, idiots grow old too. If you want to go the route of sucking it up, then go bumper to bumper, so if she denies you sex, boycott the honeypot permanently, stop eating her food, and see her as an inconvenient roommate. But again, your home will become a warzone, but that's the price you pay for not curing things at their infant stage. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Truvelisback(m): 1:13pm On Dec 27, 2022 |
Realistt:Bro, get a 2nd wife and Thank me later. The 2nd wife must be financial independent. I.e not a liability. U will see how humble she will be. U are a man. Act as a man. 1 Like |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Realistt: 2:43pm On Dec 27, 2022 |
pansophist: She isn't downloading everything going on in my home to her parents in my presense. My instinct simply alerted me to investigate what my wife has been saying to her siblings and her mum whenever I am not around. That was what led me to checking her phone only to see the revelation of what has been said. As I am talking to you now, I have left the house for 3 weeks and I have instructed her to pack her stuff and go back to her parents house since they are the one controlling her. She's been sending apology messages while her mum has been calling for several days but I've refused to pick her mum's call. Everyone is telling me to go back home since she's been apologizing. I am still thinking of what to tell her whenever I go back home coz this issue must NEVER repeat itself again. 5 Likes |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by frozen70(f): 5:42am On Dec 28, 2022 |
Realistt: They are putting you in a tight corner and it seems it's affecting you, your happiness and your marriage This can cause hatred towards them and make you look like the devil but they are actually then one that is the Devil's advocate I think she needs to return to them so that she will have all the times she needs to discuss her marriage When she is ready to build her marriage and her home, she will let you know then she will stop telling them the Rubbish she is has been telling them If they ask you why you brought her back, you let them know that they have influenced her negatively and it's affecting your marriage That they are teaching her how to spoil a home so you will prefer she stays with them to avoid anything that will lead to domestic violence in marriage Having done that, they will realize that you are no longer a fool and they will look for you to come and take her back That's when you will release all the nonsense you have been hearing and witnessing. At the end of that they will apologize and ask you to take her back That's when you will give them the conditions that will make her return back Which includes Her getting a job, even if it's teaching so that she can contribute her own quota to the family and that will keep her busy when she has a responsibility to perform at home Your inlaws need to give you and her a break to enable you guys rebuild your home and your marriage They should stop ill advicing her against your marriage and mention what you read that her mum told her And if she doesn't change you will bring her back again and this time around, she may not come back because there wont be vacancy for her again If they agree to that then you consider her But make sure you involve your family so that they will be aware of what is happening and go with your family members too At times we take nonsense from people because you want peace But if you look deep into that sheet, you will keep getting depressed into nonsense and yet you won't get peace Still they won't even appreciate the fact that you are tolerating nonsense from them It takes madness to correct nonsense from people 2 Likes |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Mrmakaveli200: 6:19am On Dec 28, 2022 |
Ignore them. They are very toxic and selfish lots. Don't make the mistake of begging your wife for sexx. She will continue to use that as a weapon in the marriage. Don't send them money except on very rare occasions and cut communication ties with them too. Till they change for good 1 Like |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by dobnina(f): 9:12am On Dec 28, 2022 |
frozen70:Realistt Kindly take this advice. Trust me, it will work. Its time to put your foot down and take charge of your home. Her parents will be the one begging you to take her back cos she will be a liability to them. 1 Like |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by DonroxyII: 8:00pm On Dec 28, 2022 |
peepydelano:Aswear Some Families are winch ! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by sameoldguy: 4:50am On Dec 29, 2022 |
Marriage wahala |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Realistt: 10:44am On Mar 10, 2023 |
samuelson06:Sadly, my so called wife is taking side with her family members. |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by Realistt: 9:37pm On Mar 10, 2023 |
PlsBanMe: Thank you so much for this timely advice. God bless you 🙏 1 Like |
Re: Problematic Inlaw! My Wife Parents Don't Like Me & I Don't Want Or Like Them Too by GboyegaD(m): 10:13pm On Mar 10, 2023 |
My opinion is that you should talk to your wife. Let her know that your marriage is between you both and you do not appreciate her reporting what is going on in your home with anyone. In addition, don't go visit her parents anymore and anytime they call you, cut the call so that they get to know you are not busy but you just don't want to talk to them. If they decide to come see you to discuss whatever it is, let them know you do not appreciate their interference. |
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