Nickisindigo:
Missing important events back home

djseanjohn77:



9 years ago, leaving my wife and boy, my job, my house was daunting - 6 months later, no job still, paying rent through Nigeria (receiving money from home). It was difficult, food preference, weather, communication, no family, no friends...I thought of going back - Then i got a job, it could only service my rent (shared apartments with4-5 others, food, transport, and money for family upkeep. For the next 5 years it was the same condition, no savings. Things started looking up and good9in the 6th year then was without job during the recession of 2017/18..for 1 year. Things got back to better in 2019, i could save, could start planning life. Today, i bless God for His favour, mercy and grace (I can afford to pay extra house sef - Been independently living all by myself in about 3+ years now, can buy whatever i feel like - Not where i should be, but my growth has been steady and consistent, reached Manager level at work, but pay i negotiated is far lower than what my mates get, plus you are black so). I am better than I was. The journey was not easy, many could not deal with it, many relocated, many dipped their hands in dirty shit and are in jail.
What i did was be more devoted to God, intentional about worshipping God privately, and following His commandments....And my story was turned. This is what worked for me. (besides, I am a sustainability specialist.)

fredagu:
Whether

mosaicafrique:
The government checking my Earnings

Eriokanmi:
This is one of the major challenges they face. I met a guy in Chicago in 2018. He moved in from Europe. Last year, his dad died, the man who spent his hard-earned money on his education, including his master's degree in Europe. He only cried his heart out but couldn't come home cos he had no papers yet. I advised him to return to Europe since he had their papers and work or he applied for work in USA and processed his papers from EU and emigrate legit. He didn't listen, till his US visa expired in husbands. He had already completed his programme before he left for USA from Europe. He's been visiting USA from Europe as a student all along.

Even some can't afford to visit yearly, regardless of their status over there. Once they look at that money, they change their mind. They'd prefer sending that money instead meanwhile, money can't buy relationship and family. Seeing your parents and relations around you alone is more healing than any medication.

Here despite the economic situation, people would dash those in need here money freely , despite not earning so much but ask them in the Diaspora to do same, they could block your lines forever. I understand it's not that easy over there. I pray we get leadership right this year so our economy and country can fare better and people can come home and invest. I crave family so much. I can't afford to spend a quarter without seeing my lovely parents and siblings. I like being with people around me.
Over there , everyone is afraid of neighbours. Here you can barge into your neighbour's house and ask if they have chilled water inside their fridge or anything to munch, out of love. You can't do that over there. They'd call police at the slightest suspicion. You could be living with the neighbour next door for months and yet, you're not seeing each other and that's why people commit suicide more easily there. Nobody to share thoughts with and by the time they add one plus one, they've ended it before you know it.

For me, I like putting my money down for wherever I like without anyone coming to me and be asking me to pay for one gbese. If I want to build house, I build and move on, same if I want to buy car. Mortgage and stuffs aren't my style. I be African man, original.

Stawner16:
Dying there but then in the end, everyone dies

IwasNeverGone:
Mehn, I fear failure


And being lonely, that shit scares the fuccck outta me

Originalsly:


Most people have to "pay their dues" at the beginning before getting into mainstream. You are pretty ok now ... but what about your family?... your wife and kid? Not saying this was your intention.... but has it turned out to be basically losing family because of greener pasture? ... also not saying you abandoned the family.... because this can also be the sacrifice you make to pave the way for your family/child.

Regardless of my situation ....I always believe I'm blessed because I know my sufferings are what many would love to accept as blessings.

Truly ... this life no balance.

Ok, that is no longer a concern, they come over during holidays, and i get to spend my 30 days leave with them annually. So, about 60 - 90 days of togetherness in a year.

While she manages the home front - Besides, I am using the next few years 1 - 2 to fully establish myself back home, and i return (it's boring me already here) - while the kids get a change of environment so they could have a better development. It's time to focus on their growth now.
So help me God, I am not a guy that is looking for stupendous riches, God should just help me live a moderate life where I can afford to do whatever I want and provide for my family.

Ireality15:



How about your family back home?

djseanjohn77:

ArcFresky:
don't go and school in scotland.

Bossjakande:
to talk fast like oyibo.gush. so ur a citizen.

RenaissanceGuy:
Please stop embarrassing men in this forum.

Stawner16:
Dying there but then in the end, everyone dies

lordally:


Why

Bahamas95:
Nothing.

Nothing scares me more than living in Nigeria, you ain't safe even if your house is close to the police station......Those people can just come to your house one-day and shoot you for no reason.

Litmus:


You make Nigeria seem like USA.