IamtheTruth1:


Do you guys have kids? Hope you have done DNA test on them?

Nice question

Once blasted can always be blast anytime any day.

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

Baba, with the way you are playing this game, you might end up loosing your wife to her ex.

MRAKPORS:
I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?

mind your business

MRAKPORS:
I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?

OP you know ur wife more than we do, if you feel she should be suspected, demand transparency from her and put her on red-alert Observation mode.

I think u shd have waited to confront her tho cos 'i miss you' is easy for her to word her way out of and call you 'Insecure'. Nonetheless stay on her matter and after u born pikin dem, DNA test them so ur mind can be at rest.

PEACE

Autobot05:
Tbh it's not bad if she misses an old schoolmate or old friend ... but since women are not to be trusted you have every right to suspect her

Go full detective mode

Are you really serious about this?...A married woman telling another guy that she misses him?.

onyeego:

This is the exact words a woman will use when she wants you to allow her play around with other men.
Once she starts saying that you are insecure just know that she's feeling uncomfortable with your monitoring and wants you to let her do as she pleases.

You are very correct. if you start giving me this insecure talk I won't say anything, just don't let me catch you because na the end be that.

Patrioticbreed9:

I had to login and reply to you.

You are very stupid

hahahhahahhhahahah....i had to login to laugh at your hilarious reply

nedekid:

Oga and she still has mouth to talk?
Anyway, truth of the matter is that if all men look at their wife's phones, the number of heart attack and sudden death in the country will be very very high.
I think what men, especially young men just entering marriage should do is to ensure your children are yours. Make it clear from the onset you will do DNA once you have a child. Don't hide mouth and don't let love blind you. This will frighten any woman that will go and bring a child from outside to place on your head. She will rather do a coded abortion. When a child is born also, do a DNA test. Don't assume any woman is a innocent.
See, once you guarantee your kids are yours, that is the ultimate. Any other thing is trivial, if she cheats or does what the op says, and you catch her, your kids are yours, you may forgive if you wish, because all you get from her is now companionship.
Guys that are young still have it better, is it men in their 50, 60, 70 you expect to do DNA and then find out kids are not theirs? Best to just live life and take it in good faith all are yours, than to kill yourself.
OP, if you know how married women cheat now, you will be shocked. Especially newly married ones. Those that had sugar daddies, how they still send nudes, want to still poke, disturb men heavily, infact my paddies have to block them, some still poke them steadily. You will be shocked!
That is why I focused on you having peace of mind by focusing on making sure your kids are yours.
Once novice yesterday said one must marry virgin and all problems are gone. I was just laughing.

Haha you gave me a good laugh

You are right.

onyeego:

There no reason why a woman cheats, she just wants to cheat....just like men do.
Giving you reasons why she cheats is just to manipulate the heads of shallow naive men and to make them feel inadequate.

She will cheat on a rich man and a poor man.
She will cheat on a handsome man and an ugly man
She will cheat on big dick and small dick
She will cheat on a generous man and a stingy man.
She will cheat on CEO and cheat on office Clark
She will cheat on six packs and one tank.
She will cheat on an educated man and an illiterate man.
She will cheat on a Yoruba man and equally cheat on an Igbo man.

SimeonOTC:


hahahhahahhhahahah....i had to login to laugh at your hilarious reply

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obinna58:

This guy is shameless
Baba get little sense na which kin lie be this

Very shameless

MRAKPORS:


She is still ranting that I am insecure

If she's ranting that you are insecure then there is more to it... Ask her to stop all communication with this person. If she continues then you need to act as a Man.. I had a similar experience, when I confronted my wife, she quickly apologized and explained that it was just a mere exchange of pleasantries and I asked that she cut all form of communication with the guy so as to avoid rekindled emotions. And I mentioned to her that if I see any communication between them again, I won't take it lightly. And she has blocked and deleted the person contact.

MRAKPORS:
I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?

I miss you, I miss you too.. the next thing is to fix an appointment before you know it, things don dey happen.. ask her to cut all communication with immediate effect

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

Sorry Sir, but that Ex is definitely sampling your wife behind your back... Get sense please

BRILLIANT COMMENT!

Sniper101:

...watching her every move, buddy.

Infact, you shouldn't have confronted her about her chat which you saw; that was a dick move tbh.
Cos now? She'll be more careful in her games. She won't be leaving her phone lying around carelessly anymore. And she surely would start deleting her chats.

All you needed to have done was to stealthily go full time "detective" on her by monitoring her chats with that very guy; without letting her get the hint that you're onto her.


From, "I miss you. I miss you too".
What follows after a while is always...
"When are we going to see?"
"When can I see you again?"
"Make we try see one of these days nah"
"Make we try see each other again nah"
Etcetera etcetera

Seriously dude, you fvcked up
by letting her know you've seen her chats once.

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

This is super senseless.

enonche85:


Are you really serious about this?...A married woman telling another guy that she misses him?.

If it's TRUE friendship... I find no fault there
Just that women of this days are so loose

She’s right! You are an insecure husband..

Be very vigilant soon they will be having old students reunion
Don't let her go
Na there the guy man go shine her congo

manmade:
lolz, your wife's ex boyfriend is inviting you to bring your wife to state on his bill, hmmm ,I still remember my late grandpa common saying; "he who pays the Piper dictate the tunes" , a goat is inviting you to a feast and said you should come along with your yam, I just hope you're really in charge as you're thinking.

He can even be Killed...

highchief1:
as a married man,make money have kids and leave ur wife alone .all women cheat just do ur thing and rest.don’t worry too much remember if u die she will ride on other dicks.her bf will attend ur funeral and eat rice untop ur head.me and one of my friend that was dating a married woman once attended the woman’s husband burial. u will live very long if u expect anything from a woman.my wife cannot shock me.

Your Rule is Interesting to me!.....

but what if you catch her or Your Realize that 1 or more of the kids are not yours

what will you do?

OvertheTop:


Your Rule is Interesting to me!.....

but what if you catch her or Your Realize that 1 or more of the kids are not yours

what will you do?

Nthg.I won’t even walk them out from my house.bro we go stl die leave this ppl.a man’s life is purely sacrificial.I built houses in Nigeria cars I left all of them to come abroad to be renting a house and jumping buses.Everything we make is for people.I have accepted to carry this cross brother.

Okafor's law about to hit you

ifihearam:
If your ex or old classmates tells you they miss you and you reply back with " miss you too' does that mean your wife should be worried?

If she had ulterior motives she would have deleted it.

If I tell you the kind of things I found on my “so called wife’s” phone that she didn’t delete, you’d be afraid for me

Human beings are wicked abeg

DAVE5:


If I tell you the kind of things I found on my “so called wife’s” phone that she didn’t delete, you’d be afraid for me

Human beings are wicked abeg

pray tell..
Things that were there before marriage, during or after marriage?

albanikeh001:


You are gradually eating yam that will end up choking you later on. Never have I seen a man so less of a man.

Hahahahahaha...
Not all ex is bad nau nor would like to have something in common..Kilode

Autobot05:


If it's TRUE friendship... I find no fault there
Just that women of this days are so loose

it is wrong in every sense!!!.

Don't die young, don't go near any woman's privacy especially phones /social media. Women won't stop cheating, divorce if you can't accept it or marry three more and get old like my grandpa...
Ignore SOME of my quoters and MANY of my attackers... Thank me later!

MRAKPORS:
I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?

floflo12:


Alatenuje

Just the right word to describe this situation

ifihearam:


pray tell..
Things that were there before marriage, during or after marriage?

Shame dey catch me talk things wey I see abeg or maybe my heart no fit allow me dey type everything out

But we’re currently at the verge of a divorce which my parents are begging me everyday not to go through with it when I know it’s the best thing that can happen to me currently


Imagine a wife that can’t cook, can’t do the dishes, can’t wash clothes, we don’t enjoy sex, lazy, doesn’t have a job, crashed businesses I started for her, refused to help manage my business while I was over stressed from work+business till I quit my job to face business, connived with my workers to spoil my business, is always flaunting flirtatious ways to me, connived with my friends


Would I say I saw red flags?
Maybe but they were ignorable and I was hustling really hard to make my ends meet so I really didn’t want to scatter my relationship cos of a tiny red flag, I assumed people learn or they grow, some just don’t want to progress in their lives and the idiot I married is one of such
I hope and pray I’m able to get a divorce, it would break my son cos he’ll be made to grow with an intellectually lazy piece of thrash I call his mother + I’m not 100% certain he’s my child to make it worse

99% of Nigerian girl are useless and dumb

DAVE5:


Shame dey catch me talk things wey I see abeg or maybe my heart no fit allow me dey type everything out

But we’re currently at the verge of a divorce which my parents are begging me everyday not to go through with it when I know it’s the best thing that can happen to me currently


Imagine a wife that can’t cook, can’t do the dishes, can’t wash clothes, we don’t enjoy sex, lazy, doesn’t have a job, crashed businesses I started for her, refused to help manage my business while I was over stressed from work+business till I quit my job to face business, connived with my workers to spoil my business, is always flaunting flirtatious ways to me, connived with my friends


Would I say I saw red flags?
Maybe but they were ignorable and I was hustling really hard to make my ends meet so I really didn’t want to scatter my relationship cos of a tiny red flag, I assumed people learn or they grow, some just don’t want to progress in their lives and the idiot I married is one of such
I hope and pray I’m able to get a divorce, it would break my son cos he’ll be made to grow with an intellectually lazy piece of thrash I call his mother + I’m not 100% certain he’s my child to make it worse

99% of Nigerian girl are useless and dumb

These are not tiny red flags na or ignorable...you were either desperate or thought she was too beautiful to let go at that point in time which indeed she took advantage of your s=desperation and zeal to be the better man by providing virtually everything for her...she never loved you bro, a woman who loves and respect will humble herself enough to make it work.

I do not need a prophet to tell me you know deep down you did the chasing and showed too much love, attention and desperation for her...Your son will cope..you are not happy, you need peace before anger and the hatred you have developed makes you do things you will regret. leave the marriage and ignore your parents advise..its not worth it and its a loveless union.

She connived with your friends? are you sure she is not sleeping with them?

Oga first run DNA to know your stand, its obvious you dont trust her one bit.

ifihearam:


These are not tiny red flags na or ignorable...you were either desperate or thought she was too beautiful to let go at that point in time which indeed she took advantage of your s=desperation and zeal to be the better man by providing virtually everything for her...she never loved you bro, a woman who loves and respect will humble herself enough to make it work.

I do not need a prophet to tell me you know deep down you did the chasing and showed too much love, attention and desperation for her...Your son will cope..you are not happy, you need peace before anger and the hatred you have developed makes you do things you will regret. leave the marriage and ignore your parents advise..its not worth it and its a loveless union.

She connived with your friends? are you sure she is not sleeping with them?

Oga first run DNA to know your stand, its obvious you dont trust her one bit.

Was never a desperate person, normally I was the type of guy that once a girl makes one off statement, it would be the end of our situation so I chose to say ok, nobody is perfect, let me give this new person patience and time, go and learn these little things is what I said to her cos for me those things were easy, she's fine, just ok, not beautiful, seriously don't know what happened cos I left beautiful girls with good manners for even the slightest off stuff only to end up with the biggest idiot in my generation maybe because I chose to want to see things differently but here I am, seeing different things

We move though, I learnt a really horrible lesson