ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

ColdHunter:


One sided story how? Did I say the man is a devil or that my cousin is a saint. The question is basically how to get a peaceful seperation without fear of being bullied

imagrg:
Hear her:
The man is verbally abusing her, not physically though.

The man is not mad. It takes two to tango.

I believe your sister is already enjoying big young preek she bought outside the home.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

Dougyclan:
Well, if she's still in love with her husband and want to keep him, let her go "Senyi Kai" is a harmless combination that will bring the man's head back home, and creates a peaceful home.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

okeke6969:
This is one sided story, but anyway search for the justice court on YouTube. Precidinding judge funmi Asaolu.
You will see their e mail address, then
tell your cousin to file her case. Both of them will be invited..
The justice court is in Lagos.

www.thejusticecourt.com

chris51:
Do people file for separation?
If you want to separate, you separate, you separate then file for divorce.

Don't you have relations to discuss with? This is really a family matter. In a decent set up, when a lady moves out of her husband's house, she goes to her parents.

Both families usually intervene first, before filling for anything.

Socratiz:
She doesn't need a lawyer especially because this is happening in Lagos state.

There is a Lagos State Agency she can contact. The government will intervene and the man will not be able to harass her unless he wants he wants to taste prison beans.

I am not sure whether the information should be shared on a public forum like this.

You can send me a mail so that I give you the necessary information

akpunda86:


Successful business from his money ,if I check well must be from an average family then having successfully established herself well she wants a divorce.
She had already paid for a �,wow well planned and soon she will join club of single mums looking for same dick.
Well for 12 years you said she endured and at the eleventh hour her eyes opened,I tell you the story is not complete,u or she said it to favour her.
Stories like this don't end well wish her good [b]but if she wants to go let her leave the kids [/b]and go dragging it with him with her successful business money she stole from him will dwindle her.
Bros she insists,it never ends well.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

akpunda86:


Successful business from his money ,if I check well must be from an average family then having successfully established herself well she wants a divorce.
She had already paid for a �,wow well planned and soon she will join club of single mums looking for same dick.
Well for 12 years you said she endured and at the eleventh hour her eyes opened,I tell you the story is not complete,u or she said it to favour her.
Stories like this don't end well wish her good but if she wants to go let her leave the kids and go dragging it with him with her successful business money she stole from him will dwindle her.
Bros she insists,it never ends well.

Mindlog:


Why should she leave the kids when she is also their biological mother just as the man is their father unless it is proven otherwise.

Separation does not only mean the woman having sole custody but can mean sharing custody with the father as agreed by both parties and documented by their lawyers.

Thermodynamics:


Na them, I hate broke men, I can't date and build with a broke man, I want an already made man so I can leach on his wealth. How do you expect the rich man to love and trust you when he know you came for the money. She should carry her cross.

nedekid:

How are you sure he did not become rich through her or her family imput? You cannot be sure.
I know a lady with currently stinkingly rich hubby. When they married, he moved in with her. Drove her cars for years until he was promoted at work to server under one current oga in charge of naira. Now niggar is misbehaving big time.
Hmm, and who told you stories don't end well? It might be rough at first but some of the stabilize and do quite well. I know one that thought he was ontop then, left the lady with 3 kids and moved on flaunting the new wife.
Omo, 10 years or so now, wife extablished abroad, peak of her career, leaves in white gated community, PhD, kids went to private schools, now uni, doing well.
Things are now rough for the oga here in naija. He has being begging to come make up the marriage again. But how woman weh don stay independent for donkey years go wan stay under man again? She will rather have a partner.

akpunda86:

Avoid stories that touch the heart and u think the man have time 4 court cases hahaha,have u seen where kids were all sent out and not even the country d woman will know ,some times silence is best answer ,a woman that opens her mouth and say I want to divorce or separate can still kill.Have u heard of sudden ,when love dies craziness starts,either she take the kids and run away or sudden comes and kids stay with dad I heard oga is VIOLENT.let it not to to VAWLUENCE.

ColdHunter:


Yes he is rich. But she isnt exactly struggling too as she can afford a good lawyer. Secondly, she isnt really looking for full custody as she wants him to be a full part of their lives. I'm basically wondering if there are precautionary measures she needs to take before officially serving him

Mindlog:


Which cross? She say she no wan do again and not begging for financial assistance.

Let us not give the impression that "broke men" make the "perfect husband" . A "broke man" can also be irresponsible, some "broke men" when they finally hit it big, tend to discard their wives who were there for them when they were at their lowest and upgrade to women who would dare not even look at them when they were broke.