But I'm kinda not surprised... It seems like sex is way overrated in your country.

Jeon:

Maybe because you're in South Africa.
Here in Nigeria, must of them says it even here on NL you can see it. And everything must involved sex.

E dy pain me say I dy see niggas dy stress themselves cus of woman, God4bid.

Samantha123:
Still, you're not platonic friends, but you're friends with benefits because you guys benefit something from each other.

I'm sure you agreed to give them financial assistance every now and then under a condition that they sleep with you... That's not real friendship.

There was a guy here on nairaland who was bragging of how he asked his female friend to sleep with him if she wanted financial assistance from him, that's not real friendship.

Lemme make this as clear as possible, most of my female friends are mostly from my school, my university course mates and they are all currently doing really well for themselves , they don't need my money, we are just friends that got each others back, understand each others boundaries and have sex every now and then, I ain't giving them money, get this one right

As I type this now, I have a friend coming over so we go hang out and she will be sleeping over , so u see we are good friends ones again, no such thing as girl having male bestie, you just locked him down in a friendzone, in his mind thats not wat he wants

Still, you guys are friends with benefits, not platonic friends... How do you understand each other's boundaries when you're sleeping together?

Immediately friends sleep together, all boundaries are broken.

Or maybe you guys don't understand the meaning of the word platonic friendship.

Sucre6:


Lemme make this as clear as possible, most of my female friends are mostly from my school, my university course mates and they are all currently doing really well for themselves , they don't need my money, we are just friends that got each others back, understand each others boundaries and have sex every now and then, I ain't giving them money, get this one right

As I type this now, I have a friend coming over so we go hang out and she will be sleeping over , so u see we are good friends ones again, no such thing as girl having male bestie, you just locked him down in a friendzone, in his mind thats not wat he wants

Samantha123:
Still, you guys are friends with benefits, not platonic friends... How do you understand each other's boundaries when you're sleeping together?

Immediately friends sleep together, all boundaries are broken.

Or maybe you guys don't understand the meaning of the word platonic friendship.

You can't be platonic with an opposite sex, just day you placed the simp in a friendzone prison and he is comfortable in it

Speak for yourself, just because you've turned your sex partners into friends with benefits, it doesn't mean that some of us can't keep platonic friendships.

Sucre6:


You can't be platonic with an opposite sex, just day you placed the simp in a friendzone prison and he is comfortable in it

Samantha123:
Speak for yourself, just because you've turned your sex partners into friends with benefits, it doesn't mean that some of us can't keep platonic friendships.

Lols platonic indeed 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Anyway, enjoy..

Sucre6:


Lols platonic indeed 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Samantha123:
Speak for yourself, just because you've turned your sex partners into friends with benefits, it doesn't mean that some of us can't keep platonic friendships.

@Samantha ... you seem passionate. I totally understand where you're coming from. Platonic friendships exist. But 99% of the time feelings will most deffs come into play. Even older married women crush on single younger guys. The feeling may be there. What keeps it "platonic" is self restrain IMO.

There is an invisible force that pulls the male and female sexes together. You may not fancy him cause his not your type. The minute he starts treating you like a queen ... the way u look at him will change.

peanutbutterr:


in nigeria, we don’t put yam and goat’s in the same barn.

ordinary interstate r/ship they cheat talk more of intercontinental. op don’t break up sha. allow the communication die naturally. if she calls fine, but don’t waste your time calling.

Omorrr ... Thanks you guys for your opinions ooo ... no be small tin... I just dey feel like one bug mumu since... dey polish shoe wey one manchi wey I no know go wear.

I think I'll just allow it die a natural death.

Samantha123:
What if the guy is just a friend? Or you don't believe in the opposite sex being friends?

See as you're asking stupid question you know the answer

What's so stupid about my question

Qatar2022:

See as you're asking stupid question you know the answer

Maybe my guy friends might've felt that way without informing me, I don't know, but I've never felt anything like that about them.

Shrunkwriter:


@Samantha ... you seem passionate. I totally understand where you're coming from. Platonic friendships exist. But 99% of the time feelings will most deffs come into play. Even older married women crush on single younger guys. The feeling may be there. What keeps it "platonic" is self restrain IMO.

There is an invisible force that pulls the male and female sexes together. You may not fancy him cause his not your type. The minute he starts treating you like a queen ... the way u look at him will change.

Make some money... And be free... Women we respect u

Samantha123:
But I also have a Nigerian guy friend that I've been friends with for years now... What do you have to say about that?

did he ever say he’s not interested in stra.ffing you or
you just assumed?

the reason you brag about having a guy friend with no strings attached is probably because you have strict boundaries to your friendship. why not drop your boundaries and see him make move to drop your panties off your leg with the speed of light, except he’s a simp anyways.

sadly, most women have (no pun intended) failed to set boundaries while in a relationship.
what would a male friend possibly be discussing with a female friend that is not his partner excluding business proposal? or a woman having dinner dates with her guy friend under the disguise of “ he’s just a friend”

women are easily swayed by their emotions so it’s imperative women set boundaries to their friendship, so they don’t have to always blame the devil after an unforeseen str.affing session.

it’s not just a nigerian thing, i’m pretty sure every guy out there would feel uncomfortable when their partner has a close male friend.

There are a lot of things to talk about with friends of the opposite sex.

We could talk about life in general, current affairs, politics, science, sports, education, or even things happening within the entertainment industry and etc.

peanutbutterr:


did he ever say he’s not interested in stra.ffing you or
you just assumed?

the reason you brag about having a guy friend with no strings attached is probably because you have strict boundaries to your friendship. why not drop your boundaries and see him make move to drop your panties off your leg with the speed of light, except he’s a simp anyways.

sadly, most women have (no pun intended) failed to set boundaries while in a relationship.
what would a male friend possibly be discussing with a female friend that is not his partner excluding business proposal? or a woman having dinner dates with her guy friend under the disguise of “ he’s just a friend”

women are easily swayed by their emotions, so it’s imperative women set boundaries to their friendship, so they don’t have to blame the devil after an unforeseen str.affing session.

it’s not just a nigerian thing, i’m pretty sure every guy out there would feel uncomfortable when their partner has a close male friend.

Samantha123:
There are a lot of things to talk about with friends of the opposite sex.

We could talk about life in general, current affairs, politics, science, sports, education, or even things happening within the entertainment industry and etc.

politics indeed! you are very funny.

I've got an alter ego and I know how to connect with people from different backgrounds with different interests because I'm always up to date with what's happening locally and internationally.

If you want to talk about president Muhammad Buhari, then let's talk about him..

peanutbutterr:


politics indeed! you are very funny.

Samantha123:
But I'm kinda not surprised... It seems like sex is way overrated in your country.

Way overrated and I don't know why.

Shrunkwriter:
I've been dating this Girl for over a year now and there have been some red flags. Like, she always hides her phone when she's chatting and I once caught her talking to this dude in Manitoba, Canada. She said he was just an old friend who didn't mean anything to her. I asked to meet her friends or family a few times, but she never let me. I still don't even know her parents or anyone else in her family. In hindsight, I should've dealt with this better back then. She was to Japa to Canada for School and so of course we decided to run long distance, I took leave from my office and escorted her all the way to Lagos to see her off. she said she was staying with her best friend in Ontario where her school was. Before she left, I noticed that she would always be on a call whenever I wasn't with her and if I were to approach, she would immediately end the call. looked a bit sus to me but I say make I cool down.

So I saw her off at the airport and we said our sad goodbyes before she took off to Canada for school. We promised to stay in touch. But after a couple days, she called me using a new Sim card and when I checked, it showed the call was coming from Manitoba. I asked her about it and she gave me some BS excuse. As time went by, I started to feel like a fool and confronted her. I threatened to end it, but she finally opened up and Said she was staying in an AirBnb in Manitoba and this same guy only just came around once to pick something up from her. Na when I know say Omorrrr!!! this girl dey lie skarra. I already had my answers. Its safe to say that the Minute aunty left Nigeria for Canada, she entered new relationship. The average time for flight to Canada is 18hrs. Use 18hrs to fear woman. Still in the relationship though. Dunno what I plan to get out of it tbvh. I'm just coasting lol. What are you guy's opinion ? should I break up ?

lol, do u want me to confirm for you? Give me her location make we confirm the Airbnb. I Dey off work on Tuesday, I go use am help a brother for free. Just use style get the location make u tell am say ur cousin Dey come visit am

Iamuk:
SIMPle question SIMPle answer.

😂😂😂😂

Goldmynemaniac:

SIMPle arithmetic

Since 1 day = 24 hour(s)
If women-fearing hour(s)= 18 hours
Then,
Available men-fearing hour(s) = 24 - 18
= 6 hours
Final men-fearing hour(s) = 6 - x
Where x represents time spent eating, shitting, sleeping...nairalanding and etc-ing.

Therefore,

Men-fearing hour(s) is/are insignificant

Walahi…….Ori e fokasibe

Goldmynemaniac:

Magician!

18 hours to fear women yet you still have 24 hours left

When people say they hate mathematics, they actually mean they hate using their brains.

😁😁😁😁

akube34:
lol, do u want me to confirm for you? Give me her location make we confirm the Airbnb. I Dey off work on Tuesday, I go use am help a brother for free. Just use style get the location make u tell am say ur cousin Dey come visit am

werey! You wan go chop Wetin remain.😆

Samantha123:
Still, you guys are friends with benefits, not platonic friends... How do you understand each other's boundaries when you're sleeping together?

Immediately friends sleep together, all boundaries are broken.

Or maybe you guys don't understand the meaning of the word platonic friendship.

Stop replying that guy. He's an eediot

See how he's purposefully misunderstanding you so he can continue with the stupid narrative that men and women can't be friends.

Is there any adult here who doesn't know the meaning of "platonic"?

Sucre6:


Lols platonic indeed 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I expected this reaction from the minute the both of you started this back and forth.

You don't know the meaning of platonic relationships. You can't even do it, where your life to be dependent on it cause you place too much value on sex. So, the minute you saw someone who could successfully build one, it became like a thing of wonder to you. And in response to that wonder, your reaction above.

You would rather believe she's lying or things aren't as she said they are so you can continue to wallow in your belief that men and women cannot be friends.


It's sad, really that Nigerian men have this disgusting behaviour of being too predictable

Sixfeetbelle:


I expected this reaction from the minute the both of you started this back and forth.

You don't know the meaning of platonic relationships. You can't even do it, where your life to be dependent on it cause you place too much value on sex. So, the minute you saw someone who could successfully build one, it became like a thing of wonder to you. And in response to that wonder, your reaction above.

You would rather believe she's lying or things aren't as she said they are so you can continue to wallow in your belief that men and women cannot be friends.


It's sad, really that Nigerian men have this disgusting behaviour of being too predictable

All these ain't necessary, I have got female friends too,i aint saying there is no platonic friendship but if you see those girl having a platonic relationships, there was once a time he asked her for a relationship but she would becline and say we rather remain friends,


I have got childhood friends who are females too, but i know where I draw the line with them all, don't come telling me about platonic relationship, I know all that sh!t