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Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by coogar: 4:44pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
r231: but the single fact that she has told her husband before that she's not comfortable with her brother in law examining her shows nigerian men can be insensitive. this is not the first time this is happening. but the husband still went ahead to take her to his brother's hospital. nigerian men can be forgetful when it comes to issues like this. the match between arsenal and enyimba is all they think about. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by r231(m): 4:47pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
coogar: hahaha well in this case maybe she didn't tell him why like you said Nigerian men we want to knw why cus you not going to make me to pay elsewhere when i can get the service for free |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by coogar: 4:48pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
r231: in her company's hospital, the service is free and i know it will be better. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by r231(m): 4:50pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
coogar: well the husband feels more comfortable with his brother than the other doctor from her office he wants to keep it in the family |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by ronkebp(f): 4:55pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
All she has to do is explain to her husband her genuine reasons for avoiding her BIL's hospital, before the guy start to think that she does not like his brother, and wahala will start!!! |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by r231(m): 4:56pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
ronkebp: true |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by coogar: 5:01pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
ronkebp: perfecto! now this is what you should have typed in the previous page. . . . . .saying she has something to hide seems kind of harsh! r231: another classic example of a naija man's insensitivity. 1 Like |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by r231(m): 5:04pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
coogar: yes ke |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by coogar: 5:06pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
r231: i wasn't referring to you. . . . .i was referring to her husband. if keeping it in the family is what's on his mind and ignoring his wifey's comfort zone, then the husband is insensitive. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by r231(m): 5:09pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
coogar: kinda fig dat out but in this case you can see that the husband trying to save some money and keep it in the family |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by coogar: 5:11pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
r231: there's no money to be saved. the chic gets free medical service from her company. there's nothing to keep in the family too. the chic does not want the bro-in-law to examine her - she's not comfortable with it! |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by itiswell1(m): 5:14pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Maybe there is more to this. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by r231(m): 5:21pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
coogar: there must be a reason why her husband keep taking her there after she had alrdy told him she is not comfortable with it |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by dayokanu(m): 5:55pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Hmm I think she should choose who she wants to check her Kongo |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by Outstrip(f): 6:27pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Ridiculous. I know someone whose brother in law was her OBGYN. It was not her choice either. I can vomit just thinking about it. Ewwwwwww |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by ifyalways(f): 6:28pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
I do understand the poster's position.Its just plain awkward letting your BIL touch you all in the name of feeling your pulse,not to mention real body examination. @OP,You need to talk with your husband.It won't help seeing a doctor you are uncomfortable with as you might be forced to hide some facts from him. . .which would turn out bad for you,your husband and everyone ultimately. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by izinbizi(m): 6:30pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
Dont go there unless its the only hospital that can treat your known condition. Its better for a stranger to be aware of your medical condition than for it to be spread within the family, you may not be able to handle it and this can affect you, your marriage and your family adversely. 1 Like |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by tpia5: 9:58pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
treating malaria is fine. more personal stuff- ok to go to someone else. but dont hold it against your hubby if he doesnt see it that way. men are like that sometimes. 1 Like |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by ayodot(m): 11:47pm On Sep 16, 2011 |
As I have learnt, medical practitioners are advised not to do some certain examination for family member. So going to your BIN hospital doesn't really mean he'll be the one to conduct the test. The thing is just that you will be closely monitored, which is good, except you have something to hide |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by fireprunej(m): 2:23am On Sep 17, 2011 |
It is neither here or there but i think for extreme privacy sake, it is safer to seek an alternative doc; i may be wrong! |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by Raikishi(m): 9:01am On Sep 18, 2011 |
@ OP: 1. It should be easier for you to discuss this with your husband not Nairalanders but maybe you are looking for a more diversified view. 2. Marriage? Honesty is the lock, the key and the door, Be totally upfront with him and discuss all your reservations and reasons why you feel otherwise about this particular decision. 3. Any other time you have a different point of view, tell him alongside your reasons and smooth it out, YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO TRUST HIS JUDGEMENT JUST AS HE HAS TO LEARN TO TRUST YOURS. Remember! there are lots of people who are more comfortable with In-law/family related doctors and similarly lots of people that are not. My Two Cents |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by Thirst4Lif: 12:14am On Sep 19, 2011 |
It depends on the type of examination we're talking about. If it's a breast exam or a vaginal exam, definitely not. Your brother in law should not become so familiar with his sister in laws private areas. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by fireprunej(m): 1:23am On Sep 20, 2011 |
It depends on the type of examination we're talking about. If it's a bosom exam or a womanly exam, definitely not. Your brother in law should not become so familiar with his sister in laws private areas. Gbam: you are absolutely right. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by Sissy3(f): 2:40am On Sep 20, 2011 |
ifyalways: very important. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by chillbabe(f): 12:00pm On Sep 20, 2011 |
If this woman has to strip or to be touch down there hmmmm how awkward during family party's ie christmas,bd party's and so on. I won't be comfortable walking around that bil anymore. Married or not everybody has there right to privacy in that area. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by femmy2010(m): 12:56pm On Sep 20, 2011 |
If you are not comfortable then you sure free to use your company's hospital. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 8:24am On Mar 31, 2012 |
i dnt thnk its ryt.excpt 4 emergency.its 2 private.prevntn is beta dan cure |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by IjeomaOkeke100(f): 5:22pm On Feb 26, 2013 |
have you ever heard of the saying that don't mix private life with bzns? well it's there for a reason. Imagine your brother inlaw seeing you naked when he has to do the checkup and perfom some necessary medical tasks then next thing you see him at a family gathering. Honey nooooooooooooooo its better to go to a doctor which you have no connection with. 1 Like |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by andyanders: 8:27am On Mar 05, 2015 |
Iranoladun: If it is just normal paracetamol, ok.For medical examination whereby you have to open your body , hell NO because their will never be any respect from him. Do not try it.Very wrong.At any point he sees you, the memory will be there.He can prescribe and not for antenatal or anything of such. |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by Agrika: 8:52am On Mar 05, 2015 |
r231:Siddon there |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by Agrika: 9:11am On Mar 05, 2015 |
ronkebp:U speak like a kid, a really senseless one, why being so judgemental, so because she is not comfortable being treated in a BIL hospital, she got something to hide...coming from a fellow lady that's pathetic |
Re: Medical Examination By Your Brother-In-Law: Right Or Wrong? by shitshappen(m): 10:50am On Mar 05, 2015 |
No problem, except he is a gyno. I won't have brother anywhere around 'my temple'. Even the bible is against it. |
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