Meet the couple who opened their 11-year marriage to a divorced father so they could grow emotionally and sexually
Julia Naftulin
Mon, March 27, 2023, 4:00 AM GMT+1
Vinson (left) joined Kim and Dustin's relationship after they opened up their 11-year marriage last year.
Vinson (left) joined Kim and Dustin's relationship after they opened up their 11-year marriage last year.Courtesy of TLC
Kim, 37, and Dustin, 42, have been married for 11 years and opened up their marriage last year.

On TLC's upcoming series "Seeking Brother Husband," they show their relationship with Vinson, who dates Kim but not Dustin.

They said opening their relationship has been challenging, mainly due to others judging their decision.

Kim loves Dustin, her husband, and Vinson, her boyfriend, and that's exactly why she wants to find another partner.

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A year ago, Kim and Dustin decided to open their marriage, specifically in search of another man. When Kim fell in love with Vinson, who she met through a mutual friend, they, along with her husband, decided to become a family unit. Their grade school-aged children play together, and Dustin and Vinson have become friends. Kim has a sexual relationship with both men.

Their story is featured on TLC's series "Seeking Brother Husband," where married women seek to date and marry men in addition t0 their first husbands. On the show, partners grapple with jealousy, confused and unsupportive family members, and lots of uncomfortable conversations about polyamory.[b][/b]https://www.yahoo.com/news/meet-couple-opened-11-marriage-030000417.html

Women Just want more power in relationships

Mavanda:
Women Just want more power in relationships

Are women not allowed to have more power in their relationships?

Kobojunkie:
Are women not allowed to have more power in their relationships?

women always have power in relationships they just want more, more and more

Mavanda:
women always have power in relationships they just want more, more and more

Are women only allowed to have a certain measure of power then in their relationships, and no more than that?

Kobojunkie:
Are women only allowed to have a certain measure of power then in their relationships, and no more than that?

Are women supposed to have all the power in their relationships?

Mordecai:
■ Are women supposed to have all the power in their relationships?

1. Are women asking to have all power in their relationships or rather wanting more power in their relationships?

Kobojunkie:
1. Are women asking to have all power in their relationships or rather wanting more power in their relationships?

So when does the quest for more power in the relationship end?

Mordecai:
■ So when does the quest for more power in the relationship end?

1. Why must the quest for more power have an end? Does one stop breathing because one has finally come to realize that one is alive?

Polyandry

Kobojunkie:
1. Why must the quest for more power have an end? Does one stop breathing because one has finally come to realize that one is alive?

In other words you ask and I paraphrase, why must men's quest for more power in their relationships have an end? Does a man stop breathing when he finally realizes he is alive?

Mordecai:
■In other words you ask and I paraphrase, why must men's quest for more power in their relationships have an end? Does a man stop breathing when he finally realizes he is alive?

1. I am unsure why you ask me these questions since the topic isn't about men but women and their supposed right to power in relationship. Let's not derail!

some yeye men are learning from goldigging women out there who dont mind being taken care of by wealthy people.
TO EACH THEIR OWN MISERY!

Kobojunkie:
1. I am sure why you ask me these questions since the topic isn't about men but women and their supposed right to power in relationship. Let's not derail!

Are you scared or worried about where you'll find yourself if you answer the questions truthfully and honestly to yourself?

Mordecai:
■ Are you scared or worried about where you'll find yourself if you answer the questions truthfully and honestly to yourself?

1. You are free to create your own thread with your own special topic. No need to derail this one or turn it into another garbage us vs them thread.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are free to create your own thread with your own special topic. No need to derail this one or turn it into another garbage us vs them thread.

Is a discussion of the man/woman power dynamic in relationships an attempt to derail a thread on polyamory?

Mordecai:
■ Is a discussion of the man/woman power dynamic in relationships an attempt to derail a thread on polyamory?

1. Yes, it is!

Kobojunkie:
1. Yes, it is!

Why then did you attempt to derail the thread, and why are you still derailing it?

Mordecai:
■Why then did you attempt to derail the thread, and why are you still derailing it?

The focus here is on women and their relationships, hence there was no attempt made by my person to derail. If you have nothing to add as far as women's right to power in their relationship, it's OK to move along.

Kobojunkie:
The focus here is on women and their relationships, hence there was no attempt made by my person to derail. If you have nothing to add as far as women's right to power in their relationship, it's OK to move along.

So when does a discussion about a polyamorous relationship involving one woman and two men become a discussion about just the woman's right to power in their relationship? Is the woman in the relationship alone?

Mordecai:
■ So when does a discussion about a polyamorous relationship involving one woman and two men become a discussion about just the woman's right to power in their relationship? Is the woman in the relationship alone?

1. Direct your questions at the Op as I didn't create the thread. I am simply trying to engage is all.

Kobojunkie:
1. Direct your questions at the Op as I didn't create the thread. I am simply trying to engage is all.

The op posted about a woman and a man in a polyamorous relationship. The woman made it very clear that "We've always been an equal-partner relationship. Everything is 50/50. What I can do, he can do, so as I date, Dustin dates as well...", so where and how does your question about women's right to power in a relationship arise from, to the exclusion of men's?

Mordecai:
■The op posted about a woman and a man in a polyamorous relationship. The woman made it very clear that "We've always been an equal-partner relationship. Everything is 50/50. What I can do, he can do, so as I date, Dustin dates as well...", so where and how does your question about women's right to power in a relationship arise from, to the exclusion of men's?

1. Then it seems you missed his follow up statement.

Mavanda:
Women Just want more power in relationships

Kobojunkie:
1. Then it seems you missed his follow up statement.

Thank you for pointing that out.

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Men, just like women, want more power in relationships too.

Mavanda:
Meet the couple who opened their 11-year marriage to a divorced father so they could grow emotionally and sexually
Julia Naftulin
Mon, March 27, 2023, 4:00 AM GMT+1
Vinson (left) joined Kim and Dustin's relationship after they opened up their 11-year marriage last year.
Vinson (left) joined Kim and Dustin's relationship after they opened up their 11-year marriage last year.Courtesy of TLC
Kim, 37, and Dustin, 42, have been married for 11 years and opened up their marriage last year.

On TLC's upcoming series "Seeking Brother Husband," they show their relationship with Vinson, who dates Kim but not Dustin.

They said opening their relationship has been challenging, mainly due to others judging their decision.

Kim loves Dustin, her husband, and Vinson, her boyfriend, and that's exactly why she wants to find another partner.

ADVERTISEMENT

A year ago, Kim and Dustin decided to open their marriage, specifically in search of another man. When Kim fell in love with Vinson, who she met through a mutual friend, they, along with her husband, decided to become a family unit. Their grade school-aged children play together, and Dustin and Vinson have become friends. Kim has a sexual relationship with both men.

Their story is featured on TLC's series "Seeking Brother Husband," where married women seek to date and marry men in addition t0 their first husbands. On the show, partners grapple with jealousy, confused and unsupportive family members, and lots of uncomfortable conversations about polyamory.[b][/b]https://www.yahoo.com/news/meet-couple-opened-11-marriage-030000417.html

polyandry

When you have nothing to worry about, na stupid thoughts go dey enter your head. Na so that one go draw tattoo for eyeball.

They are welcome to the club...
The only thing is that most aren't good in taking responsibilities for their actions.. I just hope they woman up to the responsibilities of having two husbands...


And don't bother arguing about who should have more power... You are what you worth at every single moment...
Power goes to who is worth it at each moment.. No be to dey brag about or drag for power.. Just be consistent in taking responsibilities and respecting yourself.

Them think say power na to dey march the other person under feet like a slave.. They will learn!

Truthsbitter:
■They are welcome to the club... The only thing is that most aren't good in taking responsibilities for their actions.. I just hope they woman up to the responsibilities of having two husbands...
■ And don't bother arguing about who should have more power... You are what you worth at every single moment... Power goes to who is worth it at each moment.. No be to dey brag about or drag for power.. Just be consistent in taking responsibilities and respecting yourself.
■ Them think say power na to dey march the other person under feet like a slave.. They will learn!

1. How did you come about this deduction of yours?

2. Who is worth it, or to the one with the biggest ego and who throws the most tantrums for it?

3. Are you certain because subjugation of females --- matching the other person under feet like slave-- has been the major way at achieving power for most in power but in homes and at society levels in your very Nigeria?

Kobojunkie:
1. How did you come about this deduction of yours?

2. Who is worth it, or to the one with the biggest ego and who throws the most tantrums for it?

3. Are you certain because subjugation of females --- matching the other person under feet like slave-- has been the major way at achieving power for most in power but in homes and at society levels in your very Nigeria?

Your number is very obvious... Female gender generally preffered to be defended by someone else, it's almost a natural thing.
Just check your naira land and see.. "yesterday I saw a thread were some women were saying it is good to force a man to marry a woman that got pregnant for her." As if he found an isolated vigina on the floor and fvcked it". When it is both of them who are responsible for the fvcking. And you won't see these women support to force a girl into marriage just because she got pregnant for a man she doesn't like.

This how it goes when women shy away from the consequences of their actions. The woman and society at large chants "you know she is a woman"
If a woman slaps.. (leave her she is a woman)
If she is slapped(don't you know she a woman)
If she steals (don't strip her she is a woman)
If he steals (he deserve what he got)

What I am trying to say is that you don't see men supporting thier wrong actions.. Men chastise themselves for doing wrong infact both men, women and the society at large doesn't spare men when they go wrong (WHICH IS ACTUALLY THE CORRECT THING TO DO)
But women they want to be wrong and say we are women we don't deserve to be treated that way, funny enough many men and the society supports (but thank goodness they are coming aware of the havoc they are creating in the society)


Who told you men have got the biggest ego? It is those that feel entitled every time when there's a battle between the two sexes and every time the battle ensues the ones who mostly are supported by law and society has the biggest ego and uses it manipulatively.

Well you could say men are seen more to commit physical crime against women but that is not the only thing "slavery" and "trampling" entails in this context. The trampling here is the weakening of the rights of one sex by one sided society laws. Women play the law better (act and hide). Men were just being foolish, ignorant and so termed beasts.

Maybe that's why trans are becoming more pronounced, to match the consequences of the law on both sex.